Also, why does my baby turn into a monster (I say this with love) at night? She cries at like a level 15 (out of 10 being the loudest). During the day, she's such an "easy" baby -- sleeps a lot and only wakes to feed. Pretty uneventful but come 9 or 10 PM, wow it's the complete opposite.
Same. She won't settle for anything at night. Nothing soothes her. We tried keeping her awake somewhat today and got the same outcome. From 9-1am she is so unhappy
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DD: Aug '16
10/2017: Twins confirmed with TTTS at 22 weeks. 10/10/17 Twin B passed after in utero placenta surgery 11/2/17 Twin A & B born 11/26/17: Twin A passed after 24 days fighting in the NICU Benched 6 months BFP: 6/28/18 MC:7/16/18 BO BFP: 10/2/18 EDD 6/15/18
@AliKay20 Yes! C is usually a demon between 11:30pm-3am but good as gold during the day. Tonight, it took an hour and a half to get him down and quiet. I'm praying it lasts a couple of hours. Thank God for pacifiers.
My LO only likes to sleep while being held. We can get him in the bassinet for 2-3 hours maybe once a day. Otherwise, we put him down and he wakes within 10 minutes.
My LO only likes to sleep while being held. We can get him in the bassinet for 2-3 hours maybe once a day. Otherwise, we put him down and he wakes within 10 minutes.
That's been my LO lately too. But thankfully that's usually just during the day. When he does sleep, it's in the swing or rnp. Hoping I can get him to sleep in his bassinet and crib again soon!
My LO only likes to sleep while being held. We can get him in the bassinet for 2-3 hours maybe once a day. Otherwise, we put him down and he wakes within 10 minutes.
Ugh! Yes our DD has been on a hold me while I sleep kick. I'm hoping she'll go back to being able to sleep by herself in her crib. Then again they only stay this small for so long
Our DD for sure takes after her daddy with her farting skills and pooping skills. I literally change her diaper and she'll always poo as soon as the new one goes on. There have been times when DH and I asked was that you when she farts
Those that have done a paci. Does your lo hold it in? I refuse to play the pick up game with a paci at night so I don't want to do it u less she can hold it in her own.
Ugh DD has been up every hour to nurse or just fuss. I'm so tired, I'd love to just sleep for 2 hours straight. DH is sleeping in the nursery on a mattress on the floor because he has work tomorrow. Part of me keeps telling myself this is how it's going to be for a while, he can't breast feed so what's the point of him not sleeping as well. But the other part of me is like, you need to suffer with me! He slept in our room this weekend and helped to change diapers. I'm sitting here brewing in jealousy that he is getting a solid, uninterrupted nights sleep.
Adelaide has been feeding pretty much every hour or less since 7 last night. But she's started doing this thing where she freaks out getting latched, head banging and panting and such, but then when she gets on she starts to squirm and arch and pulls off - then back to rooting like a maniac. This also means she keeps letting mouthfulls of milk spill down her face. What the heck kid? And also won't sleep longer than 30 minutes unless she's being held. It's gonna be a long day.
Aria just slept for 4 hours in the dock a tot next to us! Wahoo! It's 330 am and I'm nursing her, hoping she goes back down for a few hours. #wishfulthinking. Also this whole wake up in a pile of dripping sweat thing is getting old. Anyone else sweat like crazy when sleeping? I'm guessing it's the PP hormones, plus I have hypothyroidism.
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DD: Aug '16
10/2017: Twins confirmed with TTTS at 22 weeks. 10/10/17 Twin B passed after in utero placenta surgery 11/2/17 Twin A & B born 11/26/17: Twin A passed after 24 days fighting in the NICU Benched 6 months BFP: 6/28/18 MC:7/16/18 BO BFP: 10/2/18 EDD 6/15/18
A is giving us longer stretches tonight (about 3 hours) but I went to bed so late that in still exhausted. I need to remember I can't go to bed at midnight anymore!
@Car0liiine Ella does the danger thing and it can be so frustrating! Esp. When you're over tired and she keeps bouncing her face off of your nipple and rooting hard, then huffing and puffing out of frustration! Or they keep arching trying to latch onto your arm! I'm sitting there like "it's right here in front of your face!" Haha. And yeah I have to nurse with a burp cloth under my boob to collect all the wasted milk and/or the milk that over flows out of her mouth.
I've been trying to catch up on basically a week of bumping but keep somehow falling further and further behind.
I'm up pumping one boob to maintain supply since Baby E has destroyed the nipple to the point where it looks like a war zone down there with all the blood. Apparently this nipple is slightly flatter than the other and is a little harder to latch to, and my little eager beaver baby just chomps down on whatever, not even attempting to latch (she had been semi successful for several days).
I lost my shit earlier when I tried feeding her on it and breathe through the pain only to see her pop off in less than 2 seconds completely covered in blood on her mouth and chin. DH had to take her off my lap while I composed myself because I was crying so hard. Sooo we are pumping until it resembles a nipple again.
On a positive note, she's a champ on the right. *focus on the positives*
Oh no @justaudrey that sounds so painful! I am so sorry! Don't let baby latch on that side again until that heals! It will only get worse. Keep expressing breastmilk on it, it sounds crazy but it really will help it heal. I hope you feel better soon, I am so sorry for you!
@justaudrey ouch! Hoping for a fast healing for u!
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DD: Aug '16
10/2017: Twins confirmed with TTTS at 22 weeks. 10/10/17 Twin B passed after in utero placenta surgery 11/2/17 Twin A & B born 11/26/17: Twin A passed after 24 days fighting in the NICU Benched 6 months BFP: 6/28/18 MC:7/16/18 BO BFP: 10/2/18 EDD 6/15/18
@justaudrey Ow! I definitely had a couple times when I was in pain and crying and getting so frustrated DH just took the baby and said "she can suck on my finger for an hour if she needs to and eat later, you need a break." And it sounds like your poor nip is way worse! Do what you need to let it heal before you try her again on it and you'll both be much happier!
@skelly1990 I have considered using the shield for the left until it heals or if this issue continues. DD refused to latch (I think this nipple is to blame) and I had to use one for a full year in order to continue to BF her. I guess I've been afraid to do it because I don't want her to get used to it. I was so excited that BFing was so much more successful this time around that I'm being stubborn about using all the tools available.
@entropicallyfavored Yes! That's one of my favorite tips. A LC taught me to do that when I struggled with DD. It really is liquid gold! Cures all!
I know I should get some sleep and I should enjoy that LO has no problem laying awake in the pnp for now, but he's awake so little I just want to hold him when he's up. And so here I am at 1 in the morning just holding him while he makes the cutest faces.
DH goes back to work today. It's 4 am and I'm crying while nursing DD. I really am going to miss all his help and support. My mom is here the next few days which is great, but it's just not the same ya know? Next week it will all be on me and I'm nervous I won't be able to do it all on my own.
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DD: Aug '16
10/2017: Twins confirmed with TTTS at 22 weeks. 10/10/17 Twin B passed after in utero placenta surgery 11/2/17 Twin A & B born 11/26/17: Twin A passed after 24 days fighting in the NICU Benched 6 months BFP: 6/28/18 MC:7/16/18 BO BFP: 10/2/18 EDD 6/15/18
I know I should get some sleep and I should enjoy that LO has no problem laying awake in the pnp for now, but he's awake so little I just want to hold him when he's up. And so here I am at 1 in the morning just holding him while he makes the cutest faces.
A somehow senses the exact moment I want to go to bed and that's when he's awake. It's getting better now but for the first few weeks I felt bad that is basically beg for him to wake up during the day then as soon as he was awake at night I'd want him to sleep.
@midwestbaby Hang in there. I completely empathize, as DH will be returning as well after next week. We've been so lucky, he was able to take a month off. Granted his help has been limited at nights, but at least he is physically here. Tonight has been rough, up every 45min since 9pm. And DS has school, so I have to try and pump around 630. Its gonna be a long day.
@midwestbaby I can totally relate. DH went back last Thursday and I was a mess the night before. You will will do great! My mom has been coming over since he went back, today is her last day home with me and she has to go back to work. So tomorrow is my first actual day home just me and DD. While your mom is over take advantage of naps when you can and let her help with other household things when she offers! You will surprise yourself with how awesome you'll do! And of course enjoy time when DH comes home from work. My DH tends to jump into projects around the house but we always take time to snuggle DD together.
@midwestbaby Agree with PP's! Just when you don't think you can do it on your own, you will be surprised at how you got through it and more.
When DH went back to work, I had him sleep in our room separately while I slept in baby's nursery (we have a murphy bed). I was terrified to do this night duty without any of his help but I managed to get through it. What helped was giving myself a mental high five if I changed her nappy, fed & burped her, and put her to sleep in her crib. These moments gave a sense of self encouragement like, "yeah, I got this!"
And when DH comes home, there's that sense of relief but also a sense of accomplishment (even in my most tired state) that we (baby & I) got through the day (& our bond grows stronger day by day).
There were days I'd just cry while holding baby A but looking back, it was a good outlet to just acknowledge all that I was feeling. You are going to be more than just fine, mama.
@justaudrey I'm so sorry. Agree with pp and just doing what you need to do to get better. Rub some breast milk on it to help it heal. Hoping it starts to resemble a nipple again soon!
DH works from home so is on an adjusted schedule right now. I know I should let him sleep through but I'm just not quite ready to handle both the kiddos at night. Our two year old is also a bad sleeper so that is making things extra complicated. Baby is cluster feeding now so I'm hoping we can avoid that tonight and get some sleep. Good job to those of you who have taken on night duty.
10/2017: Twins confirmed with TTTS at 22 weeks. 10/10/17 Twin B passed after in utero placenta surgery 11/2/17 Twin A & B born 11/26/17: Twin A passed after 24 days fighting in the NICU Benched 6 months BFP: 6/28/18 MC:7/16/18 BO BFP: 10/2/18 EDD 6/15/18
I've been trying to take care of the last feeding each night on my own (DH gets up for the rest and gets her changed for me). Why is it that he's able to get her changed with no issue, but when I do it she always pees on all of the things in the process? Then I have to try to change her clothes and clean up, and she's already angry cause she wants to eat...
conclusion - DH is better at changing diapers and therefore should just do them all
Aw man. Aria had a great night the night before and I was so excited. Tonight, sucked the big one. Screaming from 830pm-1am. After a ton of cluster feeding and diaper changes. My mom was finally able to get her to settle down. Thank goodness my mom is here until Thursday. Now it's 4am and Aria is back up. We have a pediatrician appointment early this morning. It's gonna be a long long day.
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DD: Aug '16
10/2017: Twins confirmed with TTTS at 22 weeks. 10/10/17 Twin B passed after in utero placenta surgery 11/2/17 Twin A & B born 11/26/17: Twin A passed after 24 days fighting in the NICU Benched 6 months BFP: 6/28/18 MC:7/16/18 BO BFP: 10/2/18 EDD 6/15/18
@midwestbaby I'm in the same boat! Baby finally had a good night last night where he woke up every 3 hours and slept in between with no crying from gas. I was so excited! Now tonight I've been up every hour with him either because of cluster feeding of him crying/grunting trying to pass gas. Hopefully we can both take naps today!
My mom is also here until Thursday. She covered night duty and told me to get a full night's sleep for once. Well, I set my alarm at 3 AM so I can pump. DH turned it off. I never woke up to pump until now. Mom said after one feeding session, Avery didn't want to take another bottle at the next one & that it seemed she wanted my boobs. Well mom......sigh. I had so much to say but I held it in and told her nicely, next time she seems to want my boobs, to wake me up. Thankful she gave me some time to rest but I'm also cautious about how much formula she gives baby A. I told her all day today, baby A is on me for feeding!
Hoping the ped. appt goes well today! Perhaps baby Aria will sleep a lot throughout the day after her doc appt & you get to rest a bit!
@midwestbaby and @squishy0511 we had major cluster feeding from 6 pm until about midnight. Then he gave me two 3-hr stretches so that helped. My boobs feel like they might die though.
On an exciting note, I used my milkies for the first time today. Love that it worked!
Well I survived the night. She finally went to sleep an hour before we had to be up for the pediatrician appointment good thing I can nap today. Her appointment went really well, so that's a positive. I kinda hate going to these appointments and having visitors. It skews my whole day. Then I find I'm behind on water intake, eating, my medications. Ugh. Newborns are a marathon.
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DD: Aug '16
10/2017: Twins confirmed with TTTS at 22 weeks. 10/10/17 Twin B passed after in utero placenta surgery 11/2/17 Twin A & B born 11/26/17: Twin A passed after 24 days fighting in the NICU Benched 6 months BFP: 6/28/18 MC:7/16/18 BO BFP: 10/2/18 EDD 6/15/18
I ordered Milkies 2 nights ago during 2am cluster wars. I can't wait for them to get here!!! Tried holding a bottle under me one handing while bf 2x yesterdsy. 1 spill all over the carpet, ....then a 2nd spill later all over the bed. Breastmilk everywhere is an understatement. Apparently the girls leak up yo 1.5 ounces at a time!
I somehow contracted freaking head lice. I have never had it before and I haven't been around kids other than my newborn... the only thing I can think of is when I got a massage. It's quite possibly the most disgusting thing I've ever experienced. I'd rather have 25 blowouts than this. It's super embarassng too! I washed all clothes, sheets, blankets, etc. Showered three times and used the lice shampoo/comb. Now watching my babe sleep because he should be getting up in the next 30 min to eat...
Re: Moms who bump in the night
DD: Aug '16
10/2017: Twins confirmed with TTTS at 22 weeks.
10/10/17 Twin B passed after in utero placenta surgery
11/2/17 Twin A & B born
11/26/17: Twin A passed after 24 days fighting in the NICU
Benched 6 months
BFP: 6/28/18 MC:7/16/18 BO
BFP: 10/2/18 EDD 6/15/18
We've tried every combination of things with no luck.
And also won't sleep longer than 30 minutes unless she's being held. It's gonna be a long day.
DD: Aug '16
10/2017: Twins confirmed with TTTS at 22 weeks.
10/10/17 Twin B passed after in utero placenta surgery
11/2/17 Twin A & B born
11/26/17: Twin A passed after 24 days fighting in the NICU
Benched 6 months
BFP: 6/28/18 MC:7/16/18 BO
BFP: 10/2/18 EDD 6/15/18
TTC 9/2013
BFP#1: 9/28/2013, EDD 5/28/13, MC confirmed 10/15/13, D&C 10/17/13
BFP#2: 1/10/2014, EDD 9/19/2014
I've been trying to catch up on basically a week of bumping but keep somehow falling further and further behind.
I'm up pumping one boob to maintain supply since Baby E has destroyed the nipple to the point where it looks like a war zone down there with all the blood. Apparently this nipple is slightly flatter than the other and is a little harder to latch to, and my little eager beaver baby just chomps down on whatever, not even attempting to latch (she had been semi successful for several days).
I lost my shit earlier when I tried feeding her on it and breathe through the pain only to see her pop off in less than 2 seconds completely covered in blood on her mouth and chin. DH had to take her off my lap while I composed myself because I was crying so hard. Sooo we are pumping until it resembles a nipple again.
On a positive note, she's a champ on the right. *focus on the positives*
Baby #2: Emmeline Grey - August 2016
Baby #3: BFP 9/7/18 | EDD 05/24/19
DD: Aug '16
10/2017: Twins confirmed with TTTS at 22 weeks.
10/10/17 Twin B passed after in utero placenta surgery
11/2/17 Twin A & B born
11/26/17: Twin A passed after 24 days fighting in the NICU
Benched 6 months
BFP: 6/28/18 MC:7/16/18 BO
BFP: 10/2/18 EDD 6/15/18
@entropicallyfavored Yes! That's one of my favorite tips. A LC taught me to do that when I struggled with DD. It really is liquid gold! Cures all!
Baby #2: Emmeline Grey - August 2016
Baby #3: BFP 9/7/18 | EDD 05/24/19
Baby #2: Emmeline Grey - August 2016
Baby #3: BFP 9/7/18 | EDD 05/24/19
DD: Aug '16
10/2017: Twins confirmed with TTTS at 22 weeks.
10/10/17 Twin B passed after in utero placenta surgery
11/2/17 Twin A & B born
11/26/17: Twin A passed after 24 days fighting in the NICU
Benched 6 months
BFP: 6/28/18 MC:7/16/18 BO
BFP: 10/2/18 EDD 6/15/18
When DH went back to work, I had him sleep in our room separately while I slept in baby's nursery (we have a murphy bed). I was terrified to do this night duty without any of his help but I managed to get through it. What helped was giving myself a mental high five if I changed her nappy, fed & burped her, and put her to sleep in her crib. These moments gave a sense of self encouragement like, "yeah, I got this!"
And when DH comes home, there's that sense of relief but also a sense of accomplishment (even in my most tired state) that we (baby & I) got through the day (& our bond grows stronger day by day).
There were days I'd just cry while holding baby A but looking back, it was a good outlet to just acknowledge all that I was feeling. You are going to be more than just fine, mama.
You. Got. This.
DH works from home so is on an adjusted schedule right now. I know I should let him sleep through but I'm just not quite ready to handle both the kiddos at night. Our two year old is also a bad sleeper so that is making things extra complicated. Baby is cluster feeding now so I'm hoping we can avoid that tonight and get some sleep. Good job to those of you who have taken on night duty.
DD: Aug '16
10/2017: Twins confirmed with TTTS at 22 weeks.
10/10/17 Twin B passed after in utero placenta surgery
11/2/17 Twin A & B born
11/26/17: Twin A passed after 24 days fighting in the NICU
Benched 6 months
BFP: 6/28/18 MC:7/16/18 BO
BFP: 10/2/18 EDD 6/15/18
DD: Aug '16
10/2017: Twins confirmed with TTTS at 22 weeks.
10/10/17 Twin B passed after in utero placenta surgery
11/2/17 Twin A & B born
11/26/17: Twin A passed after 24 days fighting in the NICU
Benched 6 months
BFP: 6/28/18 MC:7/16/18 BO
BFP: 10/2/18 EDD 6/15/18
My mom is also here until Thursday. She covered night duty and told me to get a full night's sleep for once. Well, I set my alarm at 3 AM so I can pump. DH turned it off. I never woke up to pump until now. Mom said after one feeding session, Avery didn't want to take another bottle at the next one & that it seemed she wanted my boobs. Well mom......sigh. I had so much to say but I held it in and told her nicely, next time she seems to want my boobs, to wake me up. Thankful she gave me some time to rest but I'm also cautious about how much formula she gives baby A. I told her all day today, baby A is on me for feeding!
Hoping the ped. appt goes well today! Perhaps baby Aria will sleep a lot throughout the day after her doc appt & you get to rest a bit!
On an exciting note, I used my milkies for the first time today. Love that it worked!
DD: Aug '16
10/2017: Twins confirmed with TTTS at 22 weeks.
10/10/17 Twin B passed after in utero placenta surgery
11/2/17 Twin A & B born
11/26/17: Twin A passed after 24 days fighting in the NICU
Benched 6 months
BFP: 6/28/18 MC:7/16/18 BO
BFP: 10/2/18 EDD 6/15/18