@rg1 yes, time them and be paying attention for if they get any stronger. Would not rush off to the hospital
Last pregnancy I was cramping with no tightening during a NST and it registered as contractions. I'd had no idea that they could be so mild. Really more annoying than painful.
@RG1 I always thought that it was the space between? So from the end of one to the beginning of the next. Are you still having the cramps this morning?
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@RG1 I always thought that it was the space between? So from the end of one to the beginning of the next. Are you still having the cramps this morning?
@KimmySchmidt Ok thanks... Also surprised it could be that mild
im not having them this morning. I think there's 2 things - the duration is from the start of one to the start of the next and the frequency is the time between? Something like that. I should probably ask my doctor again or does anyone here know?
@RG1 - I measure for the 5-1-1 or 4-1-1 rule. Contractions that are 5 minutes apart, measured from the start of one contraction to the start of the next; that last 1 minute, measured as the length of each contraction; for the duration of 1 hour or more.
@RG1 I always thought that it was the space between? So from the end of one to the beginning of the next. Are you still having the cramps this morning?
@KimmySchmidt Ok thanks... Also surprised it could be that mild
im not having them this morning. I think there's 2 things - the duration is from the start of one to the start of the next and the frequency is the time between? Something like that. I should probably ask my doctor again or does anyone here know?
Download a contraction timer app and let it do the work for you. Basically, you hit the timer at the start and end of a contraction and the app will time the contraction as well as the time between. Good luck!
I agree with @PSUBecky23 about using an app. It worked great when I had DS. There were definitely times when I had a hard time determining when a contraction was ending, so the data wasn't fully accurate. But it was good enough to notice a pattern and that is what is most important. I also recommend turning off the password lock if you have one. It got obnoxious having to type in my password so often.
Does anyone have any nursing bras that they're liking? I sized up and bough some regular bras during my pregnancy, but now they don't fit either.
Probably not the most helpful advice, but I gave up on nursing bras and just used nursing tanks with the built in shelf bra. It is one of the perks to not being well endowed - I was barely a C cup when I was nursing.
I picked up a couple at motherhood maternity. I sized up from a 34-dd to 36-dd, which seems like a lot, but there is surprisingly little extra room. I'm not using them yet, but they are well made and have enough support and softness that I think they'll work great during breastfeeding.
I love my Freya nursing bra. I wear a 32G while nursing (or did last time) and this bra is awesome. It's the Freya Pure. It's pretty too has a little sexy lace inside.
So I know we're supposed to dress baby in one layer more than we dress ourselves. Since LO will likely be coming home to highs in the mid-upper 80s and lows mid-upper 60s, I'm thinking a long sleeve bodysuit should be okay. I don't want LO to overheat, but then I know we'll have the AC on in the hospital, car, and at home...Am I overdressing or overthinking? Also, sorry if this is a recent repeat! I'm positive we talked about this at some point, but I can't seem to word the search right to find it.
@Jabreen - I think you'll get a feel for your baby. I had a December baby in Maine and dressed him in similar outfits.. granted we had heat on versus AC, and the house was maybe mid to upper 60s? Also a lot of us realized that our kids were super overheating in carseats and were miserable because of it. I found that dressing baby in same amount of clothes as me was what was comfortable for him. Make sure you check baby's torso/body for level of warmth, their hands/feet may be cold due to circulation but that's not a great tell of baby's actual temp.
@abberson@annas930 Thanks for the input! I think I'll plan on the long-sleeve, but pack something lighter in case LO runs hot in the hospital or the temp is higher that day. Can you tell I'm full of FTM jitters?
You'll do great! I agree with @AnnaS930 that you'll figure out what's best for baby. Plus you can always throw a light blanket over if you go with something lighter weight (though not under the car seat straps!)
You'll do great! I agree with @AnnaS930 that you'll figure out what's best for baby. Plus you can always throw a light blanket over if you go with something lighter weight (though not under the car seat straps!)
This was us.. I was more comfortable dressing him lightly and always having an A&A swaddle blanket, so super lightweight, and maybe a small fleecy blanket with us to throw over his lap if it seemed cooler than anticipated.
@RG1 I just got them in a package from MIL today! She was worried they'd be too boyish since we're team green, but blue is my favorite color and DH and I love camping, so I think it works!
@Jabreen that's a big temperature range. Upper 80's is too warm for long sleeve footies IMO, but totally acceptable for mid 60's. I mean, if your house is mid 60's and the only time the child would be in the heat is on the way to the car, NBD. But If you expect to be experiencing that kind of temperature swing in one day in any kind of sustained way throughout the day, better to dress lighter and throw a blanket on when it's cooler.
This is the kind of thing that seems overwhelming and is easy to overthink, but ends up coming pretty naturally once the baby is actually under your care.
This may be a dumb question, but everyone has heard of you pooping during delivery...wouldn't it also be possible to pee during delivery?
I wonder if the pressure of the baby's head closes off the pee flow? If you have an Epi, you get a catheter.
Not always! My hospital only leaves the catheter in if they have to cath you more than twice (maybe three times). They only used it on me once during labor and then once after birth due to the fullness of my bladder causing extra bleeding.
I've never heard of peeing during delivery. I also wonder if everything is closed off from baby's head.
Looking for in-law advice. I told DH I don't want his mom (who doesn't work) or his sister (is off 2 days a week) to come by during the day we he is not there. People in general make me a little uncomfortable. The dogs get all excited when people come over and I just don't think I would feel comfortable letting people help me in the kitchen or cleaning (plus they are both vegan and I am not sure what they would even cook me)
DH assumes I just don't like his family but I just uncomfortable with them being their without him. In the 2 years DH and I have lived in this house I think his mom and sister have been here 3 times total so it not like I am used to them being here anyway. I just don't know how I (I mean DH) will explain it to them.
Me: 32 DH: 31
TTC #2 since January 2018
Baby #1 DD Born 8/25/2016 BFP: 8/11/18 Due: 4/26/18
Well, one easy way out right now is to explain that you're having hormonal highs and lows, that you're feeling especially emotional and would benefit more from alone time right now. Tell your husband that if they really want to help out while he is not there you would live a take out delivery from a local restaurant or something like that. Someone else mentioned saying g that you have an appointment scheduled in order to get out of a visit. Another easy way out is to ask them to come over for the 1.5 hrs before you have to leave for an appointment so they can "watch the baby" while you take a shower and get ready, but at the end you get to leave, and so do they! All families are different but I personally would have husband talk to them, not you unless they ask you specifically about it after.
@kosmo86 You might want to wait and see how things are going before you close that door...before having my daughter, I felt the same way about my MIL, but once she was born I welcomed her with open arms, if nothing more than to just hold the baby so i could shower or nap....
This may be a dumb question, but everyone has heard of you pooping during delivery...wouldn't it also be possible to pee during delivery?
I wonder if the pressure of the baby's head closes off the pee flow? If you have an Epi, you get a catheter.
Not always! My hospital only leaves the catheter in if they have to cath you more than twice (maybe three times). They only used it on me once during labor and then once after birth due to the fullness of my bladder causing extra bleeding.
I've never heard of peeing during delivery. I also wonder if everything is closed off from baby's head.
Really? I did not know this! So do you just pee without knowing you are? Or do you not new at all?
Question about lightening crotch - does it happen all the way to birth? Does it get worse when you bend over? Lately I've been getting it really frequently and I've noticed it happens more when I'm bent over. Is this normal? I have an OB appt Tuesday so I'm going to mention it then as well.
@kosmo86 If you have people related to this baby who want to come to your house to clean and cook and help, and you don't have any real personal problem with them, I wouldn't turn them away.
Having a new baby in the house for the first time puts you in a really vulnerable spot, and it's one of the times I generally advise you to accept help that is being offered. Yes, it's weird for someone else to fold your laundry and dig around your cleaning supplies, but if it's one less thing you have to do, then who really cares?
If you really couldn't stand them personally then that's another thing, but if it just feels weird because you don't see them often, then I would interpret it as a chance for them to maybe get a little closer to you. You'll want your kid to have a close relationship with grandparents and aunts and uncles anyway.
Thanks Ladies! I have told DH that at first I only want them there when he is there and then we will get a feel for how it is and go from their. We will just tell them to come by later in the day while I am getting used to the new normal.
@KimmySchmidt I actually really like them BUT they both live very different lives from us. MIL is an all organic vegan who lives a sort of free spirit lifestyle. She can be a sometimes be a little confrontational about how we should be living our lives and how we should be eating. I would rather DH be there as a buffer at first to feel out how she will treat things that she doesn't agree with, like me sitting down eating some oreos. She also is not a big dog lover, and doesn't really like our dogs too much and likes to give advice on how we should do things with them (not sure if thats a precursor to being a grandparent) and it drives me crazy.
Overall I am sure it will be fine and I am overthinking it being around people that I don't know very well gives me panic attacks and I am just not ready for that plus a new baby.
Me: 32 DH: 31
TTC #2 since January 2018
Baby #1 DD Born 8/25/2016 BFP: 8/11/18 Due: 4/26/18
@Kosmo86 - also something to consider, are MIL and SIL the type to just "drop by" without warning? If not, then you probably don't need any preemptive "you aren't welcome here unless DH is home" kind of message. If she calls ahead you can just say, "now is not a great time, but I'll call you back when I figure out when it might be a good time."
I don't want MIL to drop by either. Not because I'm uncomfortable with her being there, but because she out stays her welcome every time and I have to be incredibly blunt (and imo, downright rude) to get her to leave, which I struggle with. I love MIL, but I generally find her annoying, so our relationship is able to remain loving as long as there's some distance.
@PoodleDoodleOoo so far they are not the type to just drop by but they both always try to get us to do stuff in the middle of the day on a weekday. We always have to explain that we are working since we both work normal 9-5 jobs. Now that I will be home I have a feeling this is when they will want to stop by. and actually right now neither of them have my phone number and I don't have theirs lol. DH has ALWAYS been the one to communicate with them. Maybe we can just keep it that way (wishful thinking). I am afraid like your situation that they will overstay their welcome and I will have to be assertive. I am actually extremely assertive type A but they don't usually see that side of me!
Me: 32 DH: 31
TTC #2 since January 2018
Baby #1 DD Born 8/25/2016 BFP: 8/11/18 Due: 4/26/18
Re: Quick questions August
Last pregnancy I was cramping with no tightening during a NST and it registered as contractions. I'd had no idea that they could be so mild. Really more annoying than painful.
Charlotte born at 28w3d due to severe IUGR on 12.24.2012 Merry Christmas!
Missed M/C discovered 12.22.2014 at 8w1d measuring 6w3d
2015 was a year to test strength of both body and character, but it led us to this... BFP 01.26.2016 EDD 9.30.2016
im not having them this morning. I think there's 2 things - the duration is from the start of one to the start of the next and the frequency is the time between? Something like that. I should probably ask my doctor again or does anyone here know?
Download a contraction timer app and let it do the work for you. Basically, you hit the timer at the start and end of a contraction and the app will time the contraction as well as the time between. Good luck!
Bravado all the way. A little pricey but so worth it.
Also, sorry if this is a recent repeat! I'm positive we talked about this at some point, but I can't seem to word the search right to find it.
This is the kind of thing that seems overwhelming and is easy to overthink, but ends up coming pretty naturally once the baby is actually under your care.
I've never heard of peeing during delivery. I also wonder if everything is closed off from baby's head.
DH assumes I just don't like his family but I just uncomfortable with them being their without him. In the 2 years DH and I have lived in this house I think his mom and sister have been here 3 times total so it not like I am used to them being here anyway. I just don't know how I (I mean DH) will explain it to them.
BFP: 8/11/18 Due: 4/26/18
Having a new baby in the house for the first time puts you in a really vulnerable spot, and it's one of the times I generally advise you to accept help that is being offered. Yes, it's weird for someone else to fold your laundry and dig around your cleaning supplies, but if it's one less thing you have to do, then who really cares?
If you really couldn't stand them personally then that's another thing, but if it just feels weird because you don't see them often, then I would interpret it as a chance for them to maybe get a little closer to you. You'll want your kid to have a close relationship with grandparents and aunts and uncles anyway.
@KimmySchmidt I actually really like them BUT they both live very different lives from us. MIL is an all organic vegan who lives a sort of free spirit lifestyle. She can be a sometimes be a little confrontational about how we should be living our lives and how we should be eating. I would rather DH be there as a buffer at first to feel out how she will treat things that she doesn't agree with, like me sitting down eating some oreos. She also is not a big dog lover, and doesn't really like our dogs too much and likes to give advice on how we should do things with them (not sure if thats a precursor to being a grandparent) and it drives me crazy.
Overall I am sure it will be fine and I am overthinking it being around people that I don't know very well gives me panic attacks and I am just not ready for that plus a new baby.
BFP: 8/11/18 Due: 4/26/18
BFP: 8/11/18 Due: 4/26/18
BFP: 8/11/18 Due: 4/26/18