Does anyone know what birth control they're choosing after LO is born? At my last appt my doctor reminded me that it's time to start thinking about that so I can get something going at my 6 week pp appt. I hadn't even thought of it.
My OB will probably bring this up at my next appointment as well. I don't want to do anything permanent as I'm not 100% sure this is our last. I'd like to go back on BCP, but need to discuss with my OB whether she thinks that could impede my milk supply. If she says it could then it's likely condoms for us until I'm done breastfeeding.
Did anyone who was expected to deliver early have their gbs swab early? I won't go past 37 weeks (mono di twins) and last time I think it was done at 36 weeks. I'll be 34 on Tuesday.
@Jabreen I love stores like Marshalls for those, I find beautiful ones for about $2-$4!
@mamadomino I think your case being so different would make me ask for the GBS swab at my next appointment if I were you. They might do it or just explain if they have any sort of procedure in place for moms expected to deliver earlier.
Does anyone know what birth control they're choosing after LO is born? At my last appt my doctor reminded me that it's time to start thinking about that so I can get something going at my 6 week pp appt. I hadn't even thought of it.
Husband is getting snipped. But after my last pregnancy, I had the nexplanon (implant in arm) for two years and it was great. No side effects, BFing friendly, and no issues with getting pregnant.
@AlwaysAuntNeverMom thanks, I have another NST Monday so I'll ask then. I'd rather not have to get the antibiotics by default if I go earlier than that.
@PSUBecky23 - I think I'm going to give something like nexplanon a try this time around. With PCOS I actually function better as a human while on birth control (my body needs some extra hormones basically), for clearer skin, mood, and weight reasons... But at the same time, without birth control I don't have a menstrual cycle.. I need the withdrawal of hormones to kick in my cycle, so not sure if a continuous would work for me or not.. hmmm.
Last time I used the mini pill at first but found it incredibly annoying to take at the exact same time each day. I switched to nuvaring when I was no longer breastfeeding and that was ok.. so we'll see where I stand on BFing and what else is going on and decide at 6 week appointment.
@JLmama118 I had Mirena for 4 years. I got it taken out at the end of September and had my BFP by December (I was instructed to wait a month before TTC). It was PAINFUL to get it put in originally. I was crying. DH said he could feel the string sometimes during sex. Aside from that, no issues for the 4 years...I dk that I'll go that route again tho.
@Jabreen got mine at target. Like 40 for $10 maybe? I don't remember but they were reasonable for quite a few. Target site won't load up a search so I can't confirm. Sorry
With my endometriosis-- I was on so many different kinds of BC trying to control it that I really don't want any. So I guess it's condoms for us. or just pull and pray which did work for us lol
@ahackett1990 I drive a Honda CVR and when I had my son the infant seat wouldn't fit behind the driver's side without me having to move my seat way up. Also, something to think about is if you are in the car by yourself with the baby its a lot easy to hand a pacifier, a toy, or check to see what's going on when the car seat is on the passenger side.
BCPs really messed with my sex drive which I'd like to avoid if possible. For anyone who's had Mirena, did you notice any differences in your drive? I know the hormone levels are supposed to be pretty low in comparison to other hormonal BC methods.
My doctor advised the IUD after this baby. I was on BCP in the past and while it helped deal with my very stubborn acne, it killed my sex drive and made me gain like 20 pounds (although maybe I was eating more since I wasn't having sex... who knows). We don't have the injectable thing where I live, although that sounds wicked. Other options were the ring, which made me break out in hives for some strange reason, or Depo, which I am not a fan of based on anecdotal stories.
Being a FTM I know when out little guy gets here the dynamic of the relationship between DH and I is going to change. For you moms who have been through it how did you still make time just for you and your SO. Did you try and have at least 1 date night a month or every few months? Or did date nights just get put on the back burner for a while?
Being a FTM I know when out little guy gets here the dynamic of the relationship between DH and I is going to change. For you moms who have been through it how did you still make time just for you and your SO. Did you try and have at least 1 date night a month or every few months? Or did date nights just get put on the back burner for a while?
DH and I usually make it a priority to do date night once a month, sometimes once every two months if life gets hectic. It was so crucial for me to still make time for us after having kids. I will say though, that we are lucky to have both of our Moms close by and pretty willing to babysit. Not sure what we'd do if that wasn't the case.
Being a FTM I know when out little guy gets here the dynamic of the relationship between DH and I is going to change. For you moms who have been through it how did you still make time just for you and your SO. Did you try and have at least 1 date night a month or every few months? Or did date nights just get put on the back burner for a while?
We made plans with my MIL to come visit once per month when she was in town (she is a snow bird). So we started that right away. Now we miss some months now and again.
It was hard balancing couple time and alone time day to day. Everyone needs some solitude, but you also want to still be bonding. And the time you regularly have to do that is only a couple hours per day in the evenings after baby goes to bed but before you do. We had to make a conscious effort. No more than 2-3 days of alone time/week.
I I think the other thing we had to do is both make the conscious effort to be patient with one another. You really have to feel like a team. You two vs. The responsibility of having a baby. It's harder than it sounds when no one in the house is sleeping.
Has anyone had itchy bottoms of their feet? I'm trying to think of whether or not I've experienced this before, but I'm thinking no. It's right at the arch of my feet and super itchy!
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Has anyone had itchy bottoms of their feet? I'm trying to think of whether or not I've experienced this before, but I'm thinking no. It's right at the arch of my feet and super itchy
stuck in box!!! Sometimes this is a sign of cholestasis, no idea how to spell it!!' I would let your doctor know you're experiencing it.
Has anyone had itchy bottoms of their feet? I'm trying to think of whether or not I've experienced this before, but I'm thinking no. It's right at the arch of my feet and super itchy!
@themaritimemama Yes, but it's been going on since before I got my pregnancy test results. Itchy feet (soles) and hands (palms) are my biggest and earliest pregnancy symptom for some reason.
I'm also super itchy all over my legs these days. I want to say that started in the second trimester.
Yes but it's definitely not always the case!! Just something to bring up to your OB to be tested. I'm itchy all over, so it can definitely be normal. But being the soles of your feet is why I would mention it.
@ahackett1990 I drive a Honda CVR and when I had my son the infant seat wouldn't fit behind the driver's side without me having to move my seat way up. Also, something to think about is if you are in the car by yourself with the baby its a lot easy to hand a pacifier, a toy, or check to see what's going on when the car seat is on the passenger side.
Oh I hadn't even thought about being able to pass her toys and whatnot. That would be easier if she's on the passenger side. Thanks for the advice!
@JLmama118, my practice asks me EVERY SINGLE visit!!! And every single time I say "Well, my husband will be gone till month seven. So, abstinence." And they look at me like I'm crazy. Abstinence is real yo.
When he returns though it'll either be Uncaring (used it 10 yrs, love it) or condoms if I don't want hormones. I came off Nuva for a year before TTC and feel that has something to do with getting preggo quickly. All the women in my family had to try a year before being successful.
I have a quick question and I don't want to start an entire thread just in case I come off crazy. I am having the worst anxiety. Not sleeping and constantly bugging my husband about this.... I don't want people touching my baby... Its weird. I don't want my nieces and nephews holding her. I sent out a text to my sisters saying they could bring them to the hospital but they cant hold her for a few weeks. To be fair my niece is constantly sick with cold... my nephew ate cat poop from the cat littler 2 days ago. I just don't want germs around her. Here, it gets worse... My mother in law is staying with us for 2 weeks starting August 26. Im having my LO on August 17.. I am so anxious and upset that she is going to be here during the most important bonding weeks. I don't want her feeding my baby, changing my baby etc. I feel she needs to ask me if she wants to hold her. I know its probably irrational and I don't know where its coming from. Maybe it will go away after I have her its just consuming me now. My MIL cant be so over bearing and just does things with out asking. She is Dr so she thinks her ways are best sometimes. Im not breast feeding (I have some health issues) so everyone thinks they will get to feed my baby... I feel like I still want that bonding time and whenever she needs to be fed I still think it should be me or my husband doing it. My husband said we could come up with a list of rules for house guests and maybe that will help. Maybe Im more upset that MIL will be here for 2 full weeks invading my privacy and interrupting any routine hope? I feel like they will be here taking time and bonding moments away from me. I swear this must be hormones. I was just wondering if anyone else is feeling this protective/neurotic about their new babies?
@AshleyB09042015 I also felt this way awhile ago. My mom was trying to encourage a baby shower for after the baby's arrival so everyone could come meet the baby. I told her I didn't want people holding him and she kept saying "trust me, you'll want anyone to take him off your hands" (she had pretty bad undiagnosed post partum depression and hated the newborn stage and constantly tells me I will too). I just couldn't see myself handing my baby off to random people. My mom is also going to be in town after the birth for a few weeks, but I told her H is taking two weeks off work and we want to figure things out just the two of us. THANK GOODNESS she was okay with this and understood or else I'd be having severe anxiety over that as well. I don't think what you're feeling is uncommon!
I have a quick question and I don't want to start an entire thread just in case I come off crazy. I am having the worst anxiety. Not sleeping and constantly bugging my husband about this.... I don't want people touching my baby... Its weird. I don't want my nieces and nephews holding her. I sent out a text to my sisters saying they could bring them to the hospital but they cant hold her for a few weeks. To be fair my niece is constantly sick with cold... my nephew ate cat poop from the cat littler 2 days ago. I just don't want germs around her. Here, it gets worse... My mother in law is staying with us for 2 weeks starting August 26. Im having my LO on August 17.. I am so anxious and upset that she is going to be here during the most important bonding weeks. I don't want her feeding my baby, changing my baby etc. I feel she needs to ask me if she wants to hold her. I know its probably irrational and I don't know where its coming from. Maybe it will go away after I have her its just consuming me now. My MIL cant be so over bearing and just does things with out asking. She is Dr so she thinks her ways are best sometimes. Im not breast feeding (I have some health issues) so everyone thinks they will get to feed my baby... I feel like I still want that bonding time and whenever she needs to be fed I still think it should be me or my husband doing it. My husband said we could come up with a list of rules for house guests and maybe that will help. Maybe Im more upset that MIL will be here for 2 full weeks invading my privacy and interrupting any routine hope? I feel like they will be here taking time and bonding moments away from me. I swear this must be hormones. I was just wondering if anyone else is feeling this protective/neurotic about their new babies?
I think, while not totally uncommon, it might be in excess. I would agree with the kids not touching baby if they are that gross. I would suggest a therapy session or two to explore the anxiety. Also, not saying you will get the depression after do watch out for it as you are at increased risk for it.
So, I went to the pharmacy today and picked up some items for my hospital bag with witch hazel being one of the items. Once I got home and looked closer, the bottle of witch hazel says "Do not use if you are pregnant or breast feeding."
Um, isn't it recommended for post partum vag / perineal care? I'm confused...are there different types of witch hazel? Did I buy the wrong thing?
@AshleyB09042015 I don't think you're crazy. There is no way in hell I would allow someone to come stay with us for 2 weeks while we're trying to adjust. I already told my mom and mil that they can stay at the house while we're in the hospital, but need to be gone by the time we come home. My situation is different because we live with FIL, step-mil, and sil (16 yo). We can be totally open with them though so I'm not too worried. In my opinion, the first few weeks are all about figuring out your new normal, and you can't do that with extra people. Could you talk you her about a shorter stay or coming at a later date?
@AshleyB09042015 I totally get that anxiety, I find myself feeling that way sometimes as well, but it's not constant. I think that's completely normal as a first time parent to be honest. My mom also wanted to do like a sip and see style baby shower, but the idea of passing my baby around to a bunch of people, especially when that baby hasn't even had their first round of vac's yet, scared the crap out of me. I also don't blame you for being overwhelmed and uncomfortable with your MIL staying with you during that initial bonding time. I wouldn't want anyone staying with me either; I feel like that time is stressful enough without having to entertain guests. I think it's important (and awesome) that your H is on board with establishing some ground rules, and I would make sure you explain to him while you feel the way you do about not wanting anyone else feeding the baby other than the two of you; yes people might want to help out, but if it's about the bonding then stick to your guns. I also think he should be the one to broach that topic with his mom since it's his mom. We had to decide the same kind of thing with DH's mom, but it was a little easier to figure out because we live in such a small place it's not really practical to have anyone staying with us. I hope this helps a bit, and while it absolutely could be hormones, I think you are totally within reason and your feelings and concerns are legitimate.
@MrsVoorhees e is 20 months and still wants to eat shampoo, lotion etc. During diaper changes I let him hold a tube of cream/ointment... sometimes he rubs it on his belly, otherwise he puts his mouth on the opening and tries to squeeze it. Wtf kid?!
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@mamadomino I think your case being so different would make me ask for the GBS swab at my next appointment if I were you. They might do it or just explain if they have any sort of procedure in place for moms expected to deliver earlier.
Last time I used the mini pill at first but found it incredibly annoying to take at the exact same time each day. I switched to nuvaring when I was no longer breastfeeding and that was ok.. so we'll see where I stand on BFing and what else is going on and decide at 6 week appointment.
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or just pull and pray which did work for us lol
It was hard balancing couple time and alone time day to day. Everyone needs some solitude, but you also want to still be bonding. And the time you regularly have to do that is only a couple hours per day in the evenings after baby goes to bed but before you do. We had to make a conscious effort. No more than 2-3 days of alone time/week.
I I think the other thing we had to do is both make the conscious effort to be patient with one another. You really have to feel like a team. You two vs. The responsibility of having a baby. It's harder than it sounds when no one in the house is sleeping.
I'm also super itchy all over my legs these days. I want to say that started in the second trimester.
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your OB to be tested. I'm itchy all
over, so it can definitely be normal. But being the soles of your feet is why I would mention it.
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When he returns though it'll either be Uncaring (used it 10 yrs, love it) or condoms if I don't want hormones. I came off Nuva for a year before TTC and feel that has something to do with getting preggo quickly. All the women in my family had to try a year before being successful.
Um, isn't it recommended for post partum vag / perineal care? I'm confused...are there different types of witch hazel? Did I buy the wrong thing?
My situation is different because we live with FIL, step-mil, and sil (16 yo). We can be totally open with them though so I'm not too worried. In my opinion, the first few weeks are all about figuring out your new normal, and you can't do that with extra people.
Could you talk you her about a shorter stay or coming at a later date?
I also don't blame you for being overwhelmed and uncomfortable with your MIL staying with you during that initial bonding time. I wouldn't want anyone staying with me either; I feel like that time is stressful enough without having to entertain guests. I think it's important (and awesome) that your H is on board with establishing some ground rules, and I would make sure you explain to him while you feel the way you do about not wanting anyone else feeding the baby other than the two of you; yes people might want to help out, but if it's about the bonding then stick to your guns. I also think he should be the one to broach that topic with his mom since it's his mom. We had to decide the same kind of thing with DH's mom, but it was a little easier to figure out because we live in such a small place it's not really practical to have anyone staying with us. I hope this helps a bit, and while it absolutely could be hormones, I think you are totally within reason and your feelings and concerns are legitimate.