Hello, let me introduce myself first..
For the first 30 years of my life, everything was smooth and worry-free. I was my parents’ most beloved child, found my true love in college, and happily married him after graduation.
At work, I was my boss’s most valued employee. Whenever I was in charge of a project, colleagues would inevitably say, “Oh, then I’m totally at ease.” I was constantly named “Employee of the Year,” with generous bonuses every year.
Later, I started my own business. Within just three months, I had broken into the market and started making money. By the fifth month, I was earning twice my previous salary. Growth was steady month after month. Right when the business needed more hands, I serendipitously met an amazing partner, and the company reached a whole new level.
Really, it seemed like at every step, whatever I needed, a pair of hands would always place it right in front of me, just in time.
My Two Girls: Ellie & Mia
Meet Ellie, My Firstborn
In 2020, my husband and I decided to have a child. After trying for over a year, we finally got the news in 2021 that a little one was on the way. In 2022, we welcomed our first child, Ellie. She made me a mother.
She is utterly adorable—big eyes, rosy skin, chubby little hands. Every time I look at her, I can’t help but give her a kiss. She is pure joy, and I love her more each day.
But as a first-time mom, I faced unprecedented difficulties. The postpartum tearing wouldn’t heal, and the pain was excruciating. Clogged milk ducts made my breasts hard as rocks. The severe sleep deprivation… And what was even more crushing was that, with zero parenting experience, I was clueless when faced with her unexplained wailing, night terrors, refusal to nurse, constipation, diarrhea, fevers… I desperately searched online, longing for one accurate, truly useful answer!
It was during this time that I thought, once I make it through this “dark” path, I must leave a light on for other new moms.
And Then Came Mia
Ellie had just turned one when I got pregnant again. In 2024, we welcomed our second daughter, Mia.
Completely different from Ellie, Mia is a great eater and sleeper. Although she had her fussy moments in the first two months, starting almost from month three, she became super easygoing. She feeds on schedule, gradually sleeps through the night, loves her solid foods, and adapted quickly when I had to stop breastfeeding due to mastitis.
This made me realize just how vastly different babies can be! It made me even more determined to write about my experiences.
Why I Had to Start This Blog
The Catalyst: A Life Pivoted
After Mia was born, my business also began to decline sharply. I had no choice but to close it and become a full-time mom. My work no longer involves Excel and Word, but instead revolves around changing diapers, washing bottles, making baby food, and managing household chores…
This has been a monumental challenge for me. All my past achievements seem irrelevant now. Managing two young children has brought me a sense of frustration I’ve never known before.
The Daily Reality
They are always fighting over things. When one is in my arms, the other immediately demands to be held too. When I try to cook, Ellie wants me to read her a book. When I attempt to load the washing machine, Mia has a diaper blowout, and I must drop everything to change her…
By the time I finish all that, I see the cup of hot coffee on the table has gone cold again. And it’s not until evening that I remember, “Oh my goodness, the clothes are still in the hamper, unwashed!”
Of course, being a mom is filled with happiness, but that doesn’t negate how hard it is.
My Promise to You
Because I’ve walked this path myself, I won’t just tell you how joyful motherhood is, like many websites do. I want to share my real, unfiltered experiences so every new mom can find a “companion” here.
I want to tell you: you are not alone. What you’re going through, I’ve been there too. Your breakdowns, your helplessness, your moments of losing control—I’ve had them all. You don’t need to feel guilty. This is just a small, necessary stretch of the journey for every mom.
My Hope for This Space
I really want to share my parenting experiences—not just the warm, glowing moments, but to honestly document the pitfalls I’ve stumbled into, the tears I’ve shed, and the “survival wisdom” I’ve scraped together in utter exhaustion.
The Goal: A Mom’s Toolkit
I hope this blog becomes a “mom’s toolkit,” filled not with vague theories, but with:
- Practical Tips: Like how to quickly figure out why a baby is crying, tried-and-true methods for dealing with clogged ducts, or how to efficiently manage the daily grind with twins (or two under two) solo.
- Pitfall Avoidance Guides: Sharing the baby products I regret buying the most, and those “game-changer” parenting hacks. Letting you know which parenting anxieties you can let go of, and which principles are worth holding onto.
- A Community for Moms: I hope my stories connect me with more moms like you. We can cheer each other on in the comments, share our own tricks, turning the storms we face alone into a journey we walk together.
The Bigger Vision
My previous career taught me to analyze data, solve problems, and optimize processes. Now, I’m applying all those skills to this new “position” of Mom. I want to prove that a mom’s value is absolutely not confined to the home. The mindset, resilience, and creativity we built in our careers can shine just as brightly—perhaps even brighter—in this more complex, long-term “project” of raising humans, and can even be transformed into a force that helps others.
My hope is simple: that every mom who opens this blog can let out a sigh of relief and say, “So it’s not just me.” Then, she can find a bit of practical info, a dose of comforting solidarity, and return to her sweet, chaotic mom-life with a little more confidence and a little less weight on her shoulders.
This road? Let’s walk it together.
Re: ***INTRO & EDD THREAD***
Based on LMP, due date will be 4/20 - which is also my mom's birthday! I am so so so excited for getting to know you ladies and sharing this journey!
**TW - loss mentioned **
Got my BFP on Friday and EDD is 4/21. Excited, but also nervous after a MC IN April. Hopefully this baby sticks! DH and I also have a 2 year old DS.
**TW - loss mentioned***
I'm 31 and My husband is 28. We have been trying to have a little one for 2 years know. We had a chemical last August. Since then I had surgery for endometriosis and we started clomid 2 cycles ago. Went to dr Wednesday for dizziness and my HCG came back as 7. I got a BFP on Thursday with a HPT. My HCG on Saturday was 52. I should be 4w2d today. Due date of April 23 according to my calculations. Hoping this little one will stick. Hope my HCG continues to rise and looks ok.
Im not very good at this kind of community boards as I was on the Trouble TTC board and didn't participate much. I'm hoping this will be different. I look forward to getting to know everyone!!
Eta: @salsera2.0 I was on the J'14 board as well!
I got my BFP this morning , I am 3w 6 days EDD 04/26. I have a DD that is 3 and was previously very active on S13, and still have some of the best friends a girl could ask for from there. I am the most AMA I think at 41. We did femara and a trigger shot to get pregnant since I have PCOS. Did a blood draw this morning, so hoping the betas go up!
I'm Jess, 29, from Oregon, love long walks on the beach, and all that.
I am feeling so blessed right now! My husband and I have been trying for a while and a couple months ago I was diagnosed with pcos.. Needless to say, I didn't know what this journey would look like. I'm so thankful Femara worked for us and we have a baby on the way:):)
congratulations to everyone on here and I look forward to hearing about everyone's journey!!
My DH and I are both 32 and from the Seattle area. We are expecting Baby #2 April 18, 2017. I got my BFP August 11th. I'm a SAHM and DS just turned one. We are beyond thrilled as it took us a while to conceive with our first. Congrats to all the other mamas out there!
So excited to officially be joining the group. DH and I are both 29 and expecting our second, EDD 4/19! I was feeling more tired than usual and randomly took a test Friday..... It was definitely a wonderful surprise for us! We had talked about waiting until after our big vacation in October to try for #2 but God has other plans
ETA: To keep consistent with my life, I will refer to all the boys as DS (and not DSS). But the above (and my siggy) are just for more of a backstory.
Married: 5/30/2013
DSS #1: 5/25/2007
DSS #2: 1/22/2011
DS #3: 7/8/2012
BFP: 3/14/2016 ~ MC: 3/19/2016
DS #4: 4/21/17
Hello! Got my BFP on Friday (8/12) and have an EDD (according to Ovia) of April 23! Will be a FTM. Feeling a little nervous since I'm a professor and will be due before the end of the spring semester, but I'm hoping the school will be willing to work with me!
EDD is April 20, 2017
hey guys! I'm 23 years old and have been married for almost 3 years we we're pregnant this spring and had a missed miscarriage and its the worst feeling ever! I'm pregnant again and very nervous the same thing will happen. my EDD is April 10th and i hope i make it that long
Loss mentioned
Hello! EDD April 22 for me. I am ecstatic! I have an 8 month old DD, who will be 16 months when #2 gets here. I am 27, husband 30.
I had a surprise pregnancy and lost the baby at 8 weeks in June. That would have made my two 13 months apart. I am ashamed that I let fear of telling my boss and fear of not being able to handle 2 babies cloud my joy during that short pregnancy. I was just getting excited when it ended.
SOOOO.......... Because we were so excited at the end and then devastated we decided to start trying right away, and now I'm here:)
Anyone else who may be in my old shoes: don't let fear grip you!! This is a great blessing in every way:)
I am 24 and my DH is 27. I'm from Athens, GA. We are expecting our first, EDD April 17th. We just found out Sunday and have our first appointment set for September 6th. I feel like I'm going to be a nervous wreck until that first appointment.
Congratulations to all. I'm excited to be a part of the group and get to know each of you more!
also, welcome!!!
DH: 44 years old
Engaged: June 2016
DD #1: Gadolyah February 1st, 2007
DD #2: Deniyah March 4th, 2014
BFP: August 6th, 2016
My eldest daughter is almost 10yrs and my 2nd is almost 3yrs. I have been trying eversince for my 3rd so I was happy when I got my BFP....mixed emotions but nevertheless happy!!! I am happy to be in such a group.