@bamacoop and @LMNOBaby I'm procrastinating heavily too. If it's not urgent, I have no desire to work on it. I just want to be on maternity leave. According to my spreadsheet, I only have 42 work days left!!! That knowledge is all that's getting me through
Just got the call @LMNOBaby --- I PASSED!!! Thank Goodness!!!
Married 11-11-11 TTC only since Dec 2015. I had some weight to get off. Been working hard in the gym for over a year. BFP 02-15-16 with our first IT'S A BOY!!!
This week has also dragged on for me work wise. I'm finally hitting that first trimester fatigue all over again. I'm exhausted and I haven't made it to work before 10-11 all week. Usually I'm here at 7:30-8. Thankfully we all kinda work on our own thing and no one is checking time or whatever but I feel guilty.
@chriscasey33 I've been bumping for almost 2 years and still don't know all the acronyms haha Is there a master list I am missing somewhere because I'm mobile?
I found it by randomly clicking around during my 3 day waiting period. But of course, now for the life of me, I can't remember where.
MIL is going to Ireland for half of september and won't be back until after this baby's due date. She didn't come to our last shower (AND cancelled plans with us) because she didn't get a formal written invite (it was a word of mouth and facebook invite casual BBQ). She has a very "me against the world" mentality, especially with family, which comes off as incredibly selfish. She's a pistol and most of the time I poopoo the silly things she says and does and I like her, but I'm at my witt's end. When she told us she was going to Ireland during that time, my jaw dropped. She's going to miss her grandson's birth, after we had a devastating loss last year. Her support really would have been appreciated. She just rubbed my belly and told me, "Well he's going to just have to wait until I get back."
NO. He will come out when he is good and ready. The world does not revolve around you. So my FFFC is - I hope he comes while she's in Ireland. And she feels really bad about it. The ONLY reason I want her there for the birth now is because I know my husband's heart will be broken if she misses it. Which she probably will.
I feel awful for saying that, because I know DH will be heartbroken. That's why I'm only confessing here - and of course to my mom. She knows all.
UGH I feel you @kamroberts and @ibabyloveb87 !!! DH is also 6'5 (and a big teddy bear guy in general), so I get so many of those comments. I'm 5'2, and was only 4 lbs at birth... maybe the baby will be smaller! MILs... I swear.
@chriscasey33 I've been bumping for almost 2 years and still don't know all the acronyms haha Is there a master list I am missing somewhere because I'm mobile?
I found it by randomly clicking around during my 3 day waiting period. But of course, now for the life of me, I can't remember where.
My FFFC: My boss/bestie is off today for her and her DH's babymoon and I'm watching their son over the weekend. Using her son as the full excuse, I'm going to leave work 30 mins early today. Partially so that I can get her LO on time and partly so that I can make a run to this delicious cupcake shop to get myself a couple of gourmet cupcakes to munch on over the weekend. No shame
I have been having days lately I just want this baby out NOW. I feel bad cause I know there is lots of preemie moms out there that tried everything to keep their baby in but I'm just done completely done being pregnant. Nothing doesn't hurt on my body, my mental well being is therefore suffering. I have not ever had easy pregnancies or births so I am at the point of wanting to get it over with today.
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@Julia70286 - I understand your frustration. I thought my dad would be coming in from OOT with my mom for baby's birth, but he just informed me last night that he will be in Thailand for a golf tournament the last two weeks of October and maybe he and my mom will both come out for Christmas. Um, okay?????? For various reasons I won't get into it's probably actually better that he won't be out here immediately after the birth, but it's the fact that he's so cavalierly missing it that stings. I hope you and DH can find plenty of support from the family and friends that you do have around, and I hope LO cooperates with your plan. :-)
DH and I: Early/mid 30s Married 7/15
TTC #1 as of 8/15
BFP 11/21/15 -- MC confirmed 12/1/15 BFP #2 2/18/16
@simcal18 My DH does the same thing and it really bothers me, too. Especially when he feels like I force him to help around the apartment because if he weren't married to me he'd still live in his parents' basement and wouldn't have to do any chores. I'm like you WANT that?!?
My confession : I just spent 7€ on a pint of Ben and Jerry's and I ate it ALL (minus a few bites DH stole). My soul is sooo happy.
@julia70286- I understand. My H was heartbroken because his dad lives 2.5 hours away and has now missed our reveal party and my baby shower for work. This is work that he does on the side, not his regularly scheduled job, so H feels very hurt by the choice. To add to it, my step SIL is also pregnant and we are sure that he is going to hers (since dad's gf is hosting and it's a couples shower). She is due a week before me, and I know my H will be heartbroken if his dad chooses to visit her baby before ours if they come in the same week. (He has already said they will come down the weekend following his birth, no matter when it is, since he can't call out of work last minute without penalty. Which is fine. It's the choices that bother him, not things he can't control.)
UGH I feel you @kamroberts and @ibabyloveb87 !!! DH is also 6'5 (and a big teddy bear guy in general), so I get so many of those comments. I'm 5'2, and was only 4 lbs at birth... maybe the baby will be smaller! MILs... I swear.
This is us too. He's 6'5" and I'm 5'2". My ex, which is my oldest's dad is 6'3". If it helps anyone, my first was 6lbs12oz 19.75" (this one measured big the whole time.) My second was 7lbs7oz and 19". Although my second is big for his age now, he's in the 75-90 percentile for height, they were both perfectly normal birth weights and kinda small on the length. Go figure.
I guess I have to admit now...I say I'm calling "home" when I call my parents. My husband thinks it's weird but, I never thought much of it bc he also thinks it's incredibly strange that I don't have his mother's number saved as "mom"...
@simcal18 my husband used to call his parents' house "home," too, and even had it in his phone as "Home". It bothered me for the same reason it bothers you - because it seemed like he was saying our place wasn't his home. He explained that he lived there for 18 years, so it still felt like home to him (whereas we moved around a lot when I was a kid, so I didn't really think of one place as "home"). He has stopped calling it "home" for the most part. I think he changed it in his phone when he got a new one. I don't remember when he stopped saying, "I'm going to call home," but it was definitely a gradual process. Maybe your husband will do the same.
@ignoscemihi I do think it's a vestige of the fact that his parents house has been "home" for 25 or so years -- I mean, he lived in dorms in college and apartments after that, but I understand in those situations "home" feels like where your family is whereas the place you're living in is transitory. Even now we own our townhouse, but we've only been there for three years, and it's not our "forever" home. So I get it, and I do think it will gradually fade. It just irks me for some reason.
DH and I: Early/mid 30s Married 7/15
TTC #1 as of 8/15
BFP 11/21/15 -- MC confirmed 12/1/15 BFP #2 2/18/16
I'm going to confess - I didn't sign up as a labor buddy because it seems like way too much pressure! I can barely keep up with my own life (or, can't, depending on how you look at it).
Also my mom is here helping clean and I'm just writing thank-you cards and trying desperately to get updated on these forums which I'm always way behind on.
@Schell2013 I'm with you girl. I spend half my days staring at my belly and yelling "Get out of me!" I'm so over being pregnant. And then I feel guilty because I would NEVER want my baby to come too early just because I'm uncomfortable. But I'm in so much pain that I feel like I'm losing it.
@simcal18 my DH used to say "call home" or "visit home" while his mom still lived in his childhood house. As soon as she downsized and moved out I noticed that he started saying "I'm going to call mom" instead. I never mentioned it to him, the only reason I really noticed is because "calling home" reminded me of E.T. lol
I confess that I hate E.T.
I also confess that I'm bored of the Olympics and am ready to watch something else. I like watching gymnastics, but I can only deal with so many commercial breaks
@simcal18 and @ashleyp625 I'm sorry you're dealing with the same issue with your 'rents! In all honesty, I personally don't want a bunch of people there. It's just exactly what you pointed out, Simcal18, it's just that she was so cavalier about it. Ugh... parents. lol.
Forgive me TB, for I have sinned: I haven't pooped since Monday, yet I continue eating cheese. I LOVE cheese!!! My bowels, however, hate me and are planning a mutiny... I can tell by the excruciating pain and 3lb weight gain over the past 4 days... (sorry if I'm disgusting, but its the way I roll)
@RainMira9e-I too am a labor-buddy phobic. I'm not so good with keeping up with anyone - even Kim K, yo!!
@Schell2013-I can't say I blame you for being ready to give birth!! Your ticker shows that you're 207 weeks and 3 days pregnant!! Hot damn girl!! (for the record-took me a while to figure out how to work my own ticker)
@mizzkbrat@UFJen - I'm 5'10" my hubs is 6'3" and my girl was 6lbs 10oz but very long! (I think 22 inches)... Also, did anyone really feel a tear? I was so far beyond pain I don't think the tearing even registered... I'm crossing my digits that we all have beautiful, healthy babies that are "normal" sized and that our vaginas stretch like silly putty!!!
Also, just a side note, one of my besties is a tiny 00 sized human, she home-birthed her 8lb 10oz daughter on her potty like a champ! She and her vagina have recovered wonderfully (I'm told). It will be okay for us too = ) I'd worry more about things like continuous IV vs. Hep-locks (no way I'm having freezing liquid flowing continuously through MY veins during labor - Hep-lock for me y'all!!!)
@krzyriver you are my other half! @TurtleMomma don't feel guilty! I tell hubby I'm going for a nap then watch porn on my phone and get off. 9 times out of 10 he catches me and just shakes his head but hey a girl gotta do what a girl gotta do! I just have to try to remember to clear my history afterwards since my phone is often used for communication at work (I hand over my phone so they can look up a picture to show the deaf kid so he can participate in games). Can you imagine they search mammoth and history pops up "man's huge cock up for the taking?" Lol
FFFC - as much as I'm aware of complications that could still come in the remainder of the pregnancy/delivery - I'm holding onto my ignorant bliss and refusing to learn more than the basics. As dangerous as this can be, I'm putting blind trust in my doctors that they will do whatever needs to be done to make sure my baby and me survives.
I love porn, but most of the time it's for it's entertainment value. I swear I could be a porn critic. I'll watch it with dh and he'll be getting into it and I'm like 'that transition was total unbelievable'. And missed matched pairs drive me crazy. I'm sorry but that beautiful girl would not be with that troll of a guy... I also love really bad soft core porn parody movies (Spiderbabe had me laughing out loud).
@LauraPCOS Lmao! Yup, definitely soul mates! My DH has never got me in the act, but he knows I do it and doesn't care. I did fall asleep immediately after once. I woke up to him holding the toy that was still in the bed and shaking his head. Lol
@maf9866 I'm the same way when I watch usually. I'm so critical of it. Lol
I watch it as often as I do just because DH is always so tired and these days it's just easier for me to get off by myself if I worked myself up beforehand. Otherwise I don't have the energy. Before I was pregnant, I rarely watched porn.
Having a squat toilet is the only thing keeping me sane. @noraaurora
*American in Tanzania, East Africa, since 2013
DH - Tanzanian
BFP #1 - MC Dec 2, 2015 (@ 9weeks) BFP #2 - Feb 2, 2016 --EDD 10/10/16 --Abigail- October 6, 2016. Heart warrior- OHS at 7 months old October 2017- Began fostering to adopt T, (DOB: November 19, 2013) March 2021 - Bonus daughter, N, moved in with us (DOB: June 6, 2014) BFP #3 - April 25, 2024 -- EDD January 2, 2025
@NoraAurora Once you go squat, no other way will do. Seriously. Pull up a stool, a box, anything... just get those knees up and go for the gold. Your bowels will thank you.
@Schell2013 I'm totally with you. I haaaaaate pregnancy. Hate it. I can't wait to have my body back, sleep comfortably, walk upstairs without being winded, eat fucking ANYTHING without getting heartburn....I could go on. Pregnancy sucks, and 8 more weeks feels like a damn eternity. If it weren't for this misery I'd want 5 kids, but it's gonna take a long time to forget about how much being pregnant blows.
Re: FFFC 08.12.2016
Dating: 10/3/08 | Married: 12/27/14
TTC #1: August 2015 | BFP: 2/3/16 | EDD: 10/7/16
DD: 10/5/16
TTC #2: September 2017 | BFP: 4/28/18 | EDD: 1/7/19
DS: 1/9/19
TTC only since Dec 2015. I had some weight to get off. Been working hard in the gym for over a year.
BFP 02-15-16 with our first
IT'S A BOY!!!
BFP: 8/20/2018 - EDD 5/4/2019
NO. He will come out when he is good and ready. The world does not revolve around you. So my FFFC is - I hope he comes while she's in Ireland. And she feels really bad about it. The ONLY reason I want her there for the birth now is because I know my husband's heart will be broken if she misses it. Which she probably will.
I feel awful for saying that, because I know DH will be heartbroken. That's why I'm only confessing here - and of course to my mom. She knows all.
BFP #1: 7/15/15, SB: 11/14/15
Rainbow baby DS born 9/29/16!!
BFP #3 3/26/18 | Due 12/3/18
BFP #1: 7/15/15, SB: 11/14/15
Rainbow baby DS born 9/29/16!!
BFP #3 3/26/18 | Due 12/3/18
Dating: 10/3/08 | Married: 12/27/14
TTC #1: August 2015 | BFP: 2/3/16 | EDD: 10/7/16
DD: 10/5/16
TTC #2: September 2017 | BFP: 4/28/18 | EDD: 1/7/19
DS: 1/9/19
Dating: 10/3/08 | Married: 12/27/14
TTC #1: August 2015 | BFP: 2/3/16 | EDD: 10/7/16
DD: 10/5/16
TTC #2: September 2017 | BFP: 4/28/18 | EDD: 1/7/19
DS: 1/9/19
Using her son as the full excuse, I'm going to leave work 30 mins early today. Partially so that I can get her LO on time and partly so that I can make a run to this delicious cupcake shop to get myself a couple of gourmet cupcakes to munch on over the weekend. No shame
Yes- I will share with her son
Married 7/15
BFP #2 2/18/16
My confession : I just spent 7€ on a pint of Ben and Jerry's and I ate it ALL (minus a few bites DH stole). My soul is sooo happy.
DS#2 due 25 April 2019
My H was heartbroken because his dad lives 2.5 hours away and has now missed our reveal party and my baby shower for work. This is work that he does on the side, not his regularly scheduled job, so H feels very hurt by the choice. To add to it, my step SIL is also pregnant and we are sure that he is going to hers (since dad's gf is hosting and it's a couples shower). She is due a week before me, and I know my H will be heartbroken if his dad chooses to visit her baby before ours if they come in the same week. (He has already said they will come down the weekend following his birth, no matter when it is, since he can't call out of work last minute without penalty. Which is fine. It's the choices that bother him, not things he can't control.)
Married 7/15
BFP #2 2/18/16
Also my mom is here helping clean and I'm just writing thank-you cards and trying desperately to get updated on these forums which I'm always way behind on.
I confess that I hate E.T.
I also confess that I'm bored of the Olympics and am ready to watch something else. I like watching gymnastics, but I can only deal with so many commercial breaks
BFP #1: 7/15/15, SB: 11/14/15
Rainbow baby DS born 9/29/16!!
BFP #3 3/26/18 | Due 12/3/18
Forgive me TB, for I have sinned: I haven't pooped since Monday, yet I continue eating cheese. I LOVE cheese!!! My bowels, however, hate me and are planning a mutiny... I can tell by the excruciating pain and 3lb weight gain over the past 4 days... (sorry if I'm disgusting, but its the way I roll)
@RainMira9e-I too am a labor-buddy phobic. I'm not so good with keeping up with anyone - even Kim K, yo!!
@Schell2013-I can't say I blame you for being ready to give birth!! Your ticker shows that you're 207 weeks and 3 days pregnant!! Hot damn girl!! (for the record-took me a while to figure out how to work my own ticker)
@mizzkbrat @UFJen - I'm 5'10" my hubs is 6'3" and my girl was 6lbs 10oz but very long! (I think 22 inches)... Also, did anyone really feel a tear? I was so far beyond pain I don't think the tearing even registered... I'm crossing my digits that we all have beautiful, healthy babies that are "normal" sized and that our vaginas stretch like silly putty!!!
Also, just a side note, one of my besties is a tiny 00 sized human, she home-birthed her 8lb 10oz daughter on her potty like a champ! She and her vagina have recovered wonderfully (I'm told). It will be okay for us too = ) I'd worry more about things like continuous IV vs. Hep-locks (no way I'm having freezing liquid flowing continuously through MY veins during labor - Hep-lock for me y'all!!!)
FFFC - as much as I'm aware of complications that could still come in the remainder of the pregnancy/delivery - I'm holding onto my ignorant bliss and refusing to learn more than the basics. As dangerous as this can be, I'm putting blind trust in my doctors that they will do whatever needs to be done to make sure my baby and me survives.
@maf9866 I'm the same way when I watch usually. I'm so critical of it. Lol
I watch it as often as I do just because DH is always so tired and these days it's just easier for me to get off by myself if I worked myself up beforehand. Otherwise I don't have the energy. Before I was pregnant, I rarely watched porn.
DH: 34
Married: May 2011
TTC #1: May 2015
DS: 10/20/2016
TTC #2: June 2019
#2 EDD: 2/20/2020
BFP #2 - Feb 2, 2016 --EDD 10/10/16 --Abigail- October 6, 2016. Heart warrior- OHS at 7 months old
October 2017- Began fostering to adopt T, (DOB: November 19, 2013)
March 2021 - Bonus daughter, N, moved in with us (DOB: June 6, 2014)
BFP #3 - April 25, 2024 -- EDD January 2, 2025