I was July 14 so this was all around the same time. My concern isn't so much that'll I'll lose my common sense and start giving away money to Internet strangers. My concern is someone stealing my pictures, my story and whatever else they're looking to get out of being a catfish on a baby board. Who knows why these people do the things they do or who they really are. I watch lifetime movies people! Lol I don't want some crazy tracking me down and stealing my baby. That's probably a little out there but it could happen.
@kelliott09, that scares me! what you just said.... because I have no built-in stranger danger...and with all the catfish stories, it makes me scared now to have all my info out there. It's hard for me to believe/understand that people out there do shit like this.
@annabenanna I would've never thought it either until witnessing it. Not the kidnapping part though, lol. And I watch Catfish. It is ridiculously easy to find someone online with limited information. It is scary, for sure.
I actually went back to my old bmb and looked up posts from the catfish there. I was wrong, it was months after our babies were born when she was caught because I remember seeing pictures of her "newborn." She had pictures of him with his cousins. Who knows who these kids actually belonged to. And I noticed she started a lot of "just for fun" type threads which were basically gathering tiny bits of info about people, a little at a time. Way creepy. Definitely glad I was mostly a lurker then and probably why I'm so reserved here.
The donation thing seems obvious, but when you've been in an fb group with others for a year, and something bad happens to a member, it's natural to want to donate. We all learned that complete transparency is needed for whoever is collecting and I would hope that after over three years in the group we are good now. Although you never really know.
We established a "care fund" and it's still in effect years later. I think our only drama was the BMB that had the girl steal the donations for a donation in care of a loss mom and she used them to buy a glider her MIL wouldn't buy her. A former member of our BMB apparently located her husband and told him about it? I'm not entirely sure of the details, but she was BSC.
@ignoscemihi just a friendly reminder that TB is actually a little more public than FB in that anyone online can google search it and see posts...just in case your hubs might go searching for some reason and be unhappy with what's said on here
Agreed! I am more hesitant to share details here because the world can see. I was in a FB group before and felt more comfortable because it was a level playing field - they could see my information, but I could also see the information of everyone who was in the group. With TB, you never know who's lurking.
BUT I'm not going to make an ordeal to get in. I'll just try to be more active here because I like when I can offer advice as a STM - gives me a refresher in pregnancy/labor/newborn days, and gives me a little more confidence that I won't totally screw up this kid.
@UponAStar16 My husband does tend to snoop a little, but I would never post anything terrible about him here because he's pretty great (aren't you, Honey?). It's more that I don't think he'd want me sharing details about our life (or venting about him) on a forum where I'm using our real names. I'm not as worried about TB because my username isn't one I use that often, so there isn't a strong connection between this username and my actual name. You would have to know a lot about me to know to search for me in the first place. I do try to be careful, though. I'm not going to post my social security number or address or anything. If you want my credit card number, though...
I'm with @kelliott09 --I'm not worried about falling for a scam myself, I'm more worried about catfish/crazies knowing who I am and taking my pictures.
It's funny that hubby's wanna know what we're saying. Half the time mine walks by me and see's his name on a text message, or "hubby" on a post, and he's all "What are you bitching about now??" and then I bitch at him lol Funny thing is, he doesn't care, unless I'm calling him useless - that seems to be the line.
We had some weird stuff and fakes on my June '14 BMB and just over 100 people made the jump to FB. We still have 90-some and have a care fund that we donate to and send sunshine gifts to people who need some and new baby gifts etc. But, because we knew each other so long before all that was set up, it wasn't weird. Plus we have meet ups locally and aside from a few out of the US mommas, almost everyone has met someone in person.
I haven't been super active the last few months, so right now I'm not going to send in a request because I'm pretty sure I won't fit the reg status (no bitterness, just the facts). I'm hoping that once move/school/work insanity FINALLY finishes up in the next month or so I can start being much more active on TB and then hopefully work up the courage to see if I quality That said - is there going to be a hard and fast cut off date for sending in requests like suggested earlier in the thread?
Facebook mobile is also way more user friendly than TB mobile, so it'll be so much easier to participate and keep up on that platform. TB also started sneaking in ads again on my phone, so its even more annoying than it was before (thanks Bump)
@SuperNerd42 What I've been telling people that have requested, but haven't been quite active enough for the masses to feel comfortable taking their relationship to the next level with them, give us the opportunity to get to know you better, build the trust and relationship here where people have a bit more privacy, and then in the future we can revisit joining the group. It does seem that most people are still posting on Bump as well so it's definitely not a closed door situation
Just FYI for anyone PMing me this weekend - tomorrow is my shower, so I am probably going to be sporadic in responding, especially if I'm just on my phone (like now), so please be patient.
Hi! I know I've been quiet, but I posted on fb and in the symptoms forum about my ordeal. I just haven't wanted to come onto my computer to think and I've been watching and liking a lot on fb. Just know I am reading and watching what is going on there so we get off to a good start. @krzyriver and @LauraPCOS have done an excellent job in my absence and I appreciate all their hard work. I'm on bedrest for yet another week, so I'll probably be a bit more active. In also a late FFFC, I am/was much more active when I was at work because I kept the bump tab open on my computer all day long.
I'm definitely not a daily poster as the bump gives me hard time trying to post on my ipad but I have been reading since I got my bfp in February and I do post when I am on my desktop.
Not or a troll or anything just second time Canadian mom looking for (and to offer) support as we raise these October babies. Facebook is a lot easier for me to access so I was excited when I saw there was a group.
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BUT I'm not going to make an ordeal to get in. I'll just try to be more active here because I like when I can offer advice as a STM - gives me a refresher in pregnancy/labor/newborn days, and gives me a little more confidence that I won't totally screw up this kid.
We had some weird stuff and fakes on my June '14 BMB and just over 100 people made the jump to FB. We still have 90-some and have a care fund that we donate to and send sunshine gifts to people who need some and new baby gifts etc. But, because we knew each other so long before all that was set up, it wasn't weird. Plus we have meet ups locally and aside from a few out of the US mommas, almost everyone has met someone in person.
BFP: February 2016 EDD: October 17, 2016
Facebook mobile is also way more user friendly than TB mobile, so it'll be so much easier to participate and keep up on that platform. TB also started sneaking in ads again on my phone, so its even more annoying than it was before (thanks Bump)
@LauraPCOS
Can you please add me? I sent you a both a PM.
Not or a troll or anything just second time Canadian mom looking for (and to offer) support as we raise these October babies. Facebook is a lot easier for me to access so I was excited when I saw there was a group.