FaceBook Group Created

LauraPCOS · August 2016

Hey Ladies!

@krzyriver and I have a Facebook group started, we're working out the kinks but I think this might work but if it doesn't, let me know and we'll try plan B of adding friends.

https://www.facebook.com/groups/1652258158425518/

krzyriver · August 2016

@LauraPCOS I was just about to post in the Labor Buddy thread when I saw this. Lol. Didn't realize we could share the link. Thanks girl!

krzyriver · August 2016

Looks like the link might not work for everyone. Feel free to PM us your email so we can add you

Piperella · August 2016

Sent you a pm, @krzyriver

nsquaredlife13 · August 2016

Link didn't work for me but I sent you a PM @krzyriver

nsquaredlife13 · August 2016

Thanks for starting it! ❤️❤️❤️

TurtleMomma · August 2016

Link doesn't work.

@LauraPCOS PM sent

kmtz89 · August 2016

pm sent @krzyriver

afry613 · August 2016

@LauraPCOS sent pm

blaf322 · August 2016

Sooo... Not to be a negative nancy here, but how do bump groups typically handle random folks who's screen names we've never seen before asking to join the FB group? I'm not super worried about my info since my profile is set to private but I'm sure that's on others' minds so I figured I'd ask

BTDT moms... What's your experience... @nsquaredlife13

kmtz89 · August 2016

@bnsmith85 I kinda hope we'd just ignore those type of request... like if they didnt participate at all here what purpose would they have there? (but I'm a FTM and maybe kinda a bitch)

blaf322 · August 2016

Meh... I was kind of thinking the same

but I know there are people nicer than me here.
@krzyriver @LauraPCOS- FYI to the question above since it affects how you handle the requests coming in

krzyriver · August 2016

I haven't gotten any requests from screen names I didn't recognize yet... unless you guys have noticed someone that I added that I shouldn't have. If I do get a request from people I don't know, I can check with @LauraPCOS and @Piperella (who is also admin) to see if they recognize it. If they don't, I'll gladly ignore it.

krzyriver · August 2016

I should add that I was sending invites to everyone very quickly last night while trying to feed my family and get my goddaughter to bed. So if I let someone in that you guys don't recognize, feel free to PM me. I got A LOT of messages last night and wouldn't be surprised if I made a mistake.

blaf322 · August 2016

Sounds good! Thanks @krzyriver, @LauraPCOS, and @Piperella!

mrszoess · August 2016

honestly I have no qualms shouting someone out in this thread if they ask to be added and they're a never post never comment. I have no problems w lurking but I feel like Fb and labor buddies are next level relationships.

nsquaredlife13 · August 2016

In the past, if a rando/lurker came out, and we (or the person handling invites) weren't familiar with their name we would ask the group first before inviting and/or do a search on the board to see if they've actually ever posted. Obviously we don't want the crazies.

nlane0723 · August 2016

We made our group for my M14 BMB, very, very regular specific. We also had participation requirements for the first 6 months to ensure that your were regular enough. In the 2 years we've had our FB group, we've only had to remove two people (both regs). One for inappropriate posts and one for inappropriate reporting of photos. We have regular threads almost every day of the week and that helps determine who is participating.

annabenanna · August 2016

Sent you a pm too @krzyriver!

TurtleMomma · August 2016

Until we really figure out who is who, I suggest each person end their posts with "-Screen name" [example: -TurtleMomma]

krzyriver · August 2016

@nsquaredlife13 Yeah, I thought of that too. I will do that if I come across someone I don't recognize.

@TurtleMomma Good idea. I do have a pinned post at the top for people to comment with their screenname. It's nice to have a reference list, but it'll definitely be obnoxious to have to scroll through it every time we're unsure. Lol

I will definitely do my best ladies. Like I said, if you notice anyone who doesn't belong, or feel like someone is behaving inappropriately like @nlane0723 said, PM us or leave a comment in this thread. I have no problem bumping people out who have no business having access to your legal names.

booksandicecream · August 2016

Awwww @TurtleMomma I was totally going to post something completely out of character, like "omgz u guys, their's a new Zika outbreak and im totally freekin out!" and then see how long it takes you guys to figure out who is

SpaceBurger · August 2016

I got unnecessarily freaked out/mad by that drive by post the other day. It reminded me that there are like 300 lurkers out there that may or may not have anything to do with being pregnant. I seriously debated deleting all my picture posts, so I don't know about fbook.

SpaceBurger · August 2016

I'm probably being dramatic

blaf322 · August 2016

SpaceBurger said:

I'm probably being dramatic

Do whatever you feel most comfortable with.

Given the above consensus (re: not adding lurkers/randos), my feeling is we're probably okay.

nsquaredlife13 · August 2016

bnsmith85 said:

SpaceBurger said:

I'm probably being dramatic

Do whatever you feel most comfortable with. Given the above consensus (re: not adding lurkers/randos), my feeling is we're probably okay.

This. In my ultra dramatic D14 BMB we managed to not invite lurkers and creeps. A few people left shortly after joining and that's totally fine. The real juicy stuff didn't get started until a couple months into the groups creation and by then we were all pretty familiar with one another. We maintained a relatively low drama page until a few weeks ago and then it imploded and broke off into two smaller groups. But I wouldn't have changed a thing. Quite honestly my D14 group is probably one of my favorite groups of people to talk to. It really helps knowing we can talk about something we are going through and have a group of women (aka a village) to commiserate.

LauraPCOS · August 2016

I've officially caught up on all the PM's sent my way - sorry for the delay, hubby had a double header softball game this morning.

Edit - Sorry if a couple of you that PM'ed me got a double invite - @krzyriver beat me to it and I didn't realize until I started checking out the new intros on the page. Oops

@SpaceBurger it crossed my mind too, the lurkers, and the group is secret, but there is no way to 100% guarantee they won't get in (but if they do, we can always remove them...I think). But like @bnsmith85 said, do whatever you're most comfortable with

LauraPCOS · August 2016

kmolleltz said:

@bnsmith85 I kinda hope we'd just ignore those type of request... like if they didnt participate at all here what purpose would they have there? (but I'm a FTM and maybe kinda a bitch)

I'm good with this too.

LauraPCOS · August 2016

krzyriver said:

I haven't gotten any requests from screen names I didn't recognize yet... unless you guys have noticed someone that I added that I shouldn't have. If I do get a request from people I don't know, I can check with @LauraPCOS and @Piperella (who is also admin) to see if they recognize it. If they don't, I'll gladly ignore it.

*stuck in box*

One nice thing about Bump online versus app is that you can click on a user's name in the PM to see where they've posted, just to ensure that they've participated. So far, everyone that has messaged me with their email addresses are regulars. I did get one message from someone I didn't recognize asking what the group was about, but no request to join (and upon looking at her posts, she only posted in the due date thread).