Getting a drink in the break room and coworker looks at my belly, "so any day right??" um no mf, 3 more months. My boss walked by and laughed and shook her head. Men, he didn't mean harm but seriously???
Got out of my car at DS's daycare and a mom looked at me and asked when I was due. I said Sept. 1st and she replied "I thought so, I could hear you huffing and puffing while getting out of your car and walking up here." Uhhh thanks... I wish I was as quick at comebacks as DH. He said he would've said "did you see the bird that flew out of my car too?" (While flipping them off)
Y'all-I am so irked!!! my DH and I drove an hour to spend time with family today. We get there and my grandma says "hey-I see you're getting fatter." I failed to laugh it off this time and responded with "did you really just say that? How offensive!" Later she told me she didn't realize I was so "sensitive" to comments like that. Seriously?!
ugh-I had so much more typed about another jewel of a person, but it got deleted when I hit post!
The only rude comment I've gotten from a stranger was when I was about 5 months. She looked at me and asked when I was due, when I told her, she just replied "but you're so biiiiig. She's going to be a huge baby, get ready, just you wait" and winced. Thanks for putting that on me. I replayed that moment a lot in my head when I was diagnosed with GD and proceeded to feel guilty. Super over it now, don't care. But people really need to watch what they say!
I got my first, "you sure there is only one baby in there???" comment/question the other day. Yes, random lady in the grocery checkout line that I have never met, I'm pretty confident in my OB's ability to read 2 ultrasounds. I thought that was the worst, but then she looked down at my ace-bandaged wrapped feet (the only way I can keep the swelling down these days) and goes, "Why are both of your feet wrapped?" I was stunned out of a smart comeback, so said, "To help with the swelling." THEN SHE GOES "Is that an every day thing or just a pregnancy thing?" What the hell lady, are you writing a book about my life? At this point the cashier dropped the can she was scanning and stared at her open-mouthed. She still had no shame though.
I keep getting "you are so skinny" "you are tiny, you need to eat more" I have wheat and dairy allergies. I lost 100 pounds pre-pregnancy. Now I am to the point where I tell them I am healthy.
Working from home has sheltered me from a lot of comments this go around but the one that made me take a step back my last pregnancy was a regular who told me "just you wait, it's a lot more fun making that baby go in that it is to get it out". Uhm, yeah, I'm pretty sure I wasn't expecting child birth to be similar to sex in any way, shape or form.
Best part about being a STM so far is that people keep all those dumb labor comments to themselves since they know I've already done it.
Working from home has sheltered me from a lot of comments this go around but the one that made me take a step back my last pregnancy was a regular who told me "just you wait, it's a lot more fun making that baby go in that it is to get it out". Uhm, yeah, I'm pretty sure I wasn't expecting child birth to be similar to sex in any way, shape or form.
Best part about being a STM so far is that people keep all those dumb labor comments to themselves since they know I've already done it.
I hate those types of comments... People can be so ignorant. In my case making that baby go in was anything but fun. Three daily injections, about ten different medications to take everyday, invasive vaginal ultrasounds everyday... Then egg retrieval and transfer. Vaginal suppositories that make me leak white goo all day long,
Ya... nothing about that was fun.
35 years old, TTC #1 Dec 28, 2011 PCOS, Hypothyroidism.
First IVF cycle June 5th 2015 --- BFP Miscarriage at 8 weeks
FET December 15th 2015--- BFP! First saw at 6w4d It's a boy!
Luciano Alessandro Maximiliano was born on September 3rd 2016
Working from home has sheltered me from a lot of comments this go around but the one that made me take a step back my last pregnancy was a regular who told me "just you wait, it's a lot more fun making that baby go in that it is to get it out". Uhm, yeah, I'm pretty sure I wasn't expecting child birth to be similar to sex in any way, shape or form.
Best part about being a STM so far is that people keep all those dumb labor comments to themselves since they know I've already done it.
I hate those types of comments... People can be so ignorant. In my case making that baby go in was anything but fun. Three daily injections, about ten different medications to take everyday, invasive vaginal ultrasounds everyday... Then egg retrieval and transfer. Vaginal suppositories that make me leak white goo all day long,
Ya... nothing about that was fun.
SO true!!! Yet another reason why people should keep their mouths shut, you never know what other people may have had to go through. I am so happy you are so close to holding your little squish finally!
I have gotten from people, "you are so much bigger than you were when you this far along in your last pregnancy." Well no shit I am pregnant with twins this time around.
At my last shower, about two weeks ago: FIL: You sure you're not having twins? Friend of FIL, 10 minutes later: You sure you're not having twins?
I ignored them both, pretended I didn't hear, but still. No, I am not having twins. I have gained a healthy amount of weight, according to my MEDICAL PROFESSIONAL.
At the same shower, my MIL proceeds to tell everyone that she gained 75lb with each of her two children. She is barely 5ft tall. So at least now I know that FIL just doesn't understand what a healthy pregnant woman is supposed to look like.
@StaceyJeanAckerman I get comments like this too, and honestly, I think I would prefer the "you're getting SO BIG!" comments. When they say things like "You don't look pregnant at all!" I kind of want to snap "What do I look like, then?" and slap them because my stomach DEFINITELY protrudes and I do not look tiny at all. To me it always feels like they're saying "I was playing the Fat-or-Pregnant Game with you and couldn't decide." I've been overweight the majority of my life, it would be nice for people to say I look pregnant while I'm actually, you know, pregnant.
@jln27 I feel that same way! My husband tries to make me feel better about my bump. I also have been overweight my whole life. I hope our little ones come out 8 pound babies and these people can eat their words. My doctor has not had any issues with my weight and my babies heartbeat is strong and measuring well.
I kept getting asked yesterday at my shower how much I've gained. Also I had to measure myself with a measuring tape for a game. Wish they had done it by having people cut ribbon or something that doesn't have to do with any numbers.
There is nothing better than "oh is this your first?" "No actually this is # 5 for us" "oh wow. Boys? Girls?" "We have 4 girls and this is our first boy" " oh congrats!" "So are you done now???" Uhhhhh what? You assume I tried unsuccessful 4 times and just kept going? I'm sorry but ur an idiot if you have 5 children based solely on sexual preference. No heffer maybe I'm not done! But until you're the one paying for my children don't ask me that crap!
I have gotten from people, "you are so much bigger than you were when you this far along in your last pregnancy." Well no shit I am pregnant with twins this time around.
I get the same thing, and I am not pregnant with twins. Thanks, people, I get it- I'm bigger this time. This baby measures bigger and my body has been through all this before now- it's totally normal for me to be bigger.
This is double frustrating because last pregnancy it was all "you're barely showing" and "you don't even look pregnant". I'm also overweight so that felt insulting as well. I can't win either way. People can keep it shut about "how big" I am or am not.
I've been asked if I'm having twins and commented on how big I am by SO MANY people. I'm not. The same guy at church has said it every single time I've seen him since around week 20. I want to kick them all in the shins (and him a little higher), but have instead opted for smiling and laying the emotional weight of what they just said back on them.
So now the conversation goes: butthead: "wow, you're so big! Are you sure you're not having twins?" me: "no, I'm just big. Everyone keeps telling me how big I am every time I leave the house and it makes me feel like a whale :'(" bh: "..."
The least they can do is feel as bad as I do because of their comments
editer because the bump ate the end of my post (twice!)
@cassloumy I have done the same thing, usually just a simple "that hurts my feelings" when people say rude things, which they do ALL THE TIME!!! I work with all men and they are just clueless.
I kept getting asked yesterday at my shower how much I've gained. Also I had to measure myself with a measuring tape for a game. Wish they had done it by having people cut ribbon or something that doesn't have to do with any numbers.
I warned my mom (host) for the shower that if they tried that game I'd be leaving... :P
@jennlynn777 LOL to the heffer line. #5 here too and am constantly getting asked "is this your last?" How/why does this concern you, stranger, mil, mailman?! Seriously, 1 boy and 3 girls here and I always get "oh I bet you hope it's a boy". Ummmm, no I HOPE it's a healthy baby!! I also always get "you should get a hobby" "don't you have a tv?" OR "you know how that happens, right?"
Does anyone ever get annoyed knowing that if you say something back to these comments, everyone will assume you are just an emotional/overly sensitive pregnant lady? This annoys me.
It's like, oh it's not possible that you are rude, it must be ME that's sensitive. Even though you are the one making a fat joke to someone you know has a lot going on. Right.
I'm tired of people telling me, "surely you're almost done?" End of September. Still. And I'm fine. But thanks, Crinkle Cut, for being sure to let everyone know that, "actually, it's the beginning of October, she won't be born in September." Because she can't stand the thought of her being born close to her sister's birthday. There's a reason I say the end of September, so that people won't give me that shocked look when they hear how long I have left. So thank you for clearing that up.
Got one of these at the gas station today from the cashiers... Cashier "WOW - how many are in there?" Me (trying on my best death stare while smiling) "oh just one" Cashier "oh honey, that is going to be one HUGE baby!!" Me "Well let's hope not. Can I get the change on pump 3?" Cashier "ooohhhhh no it will be, I mean you are so big! Well I mean, your belly is" Me "....." Cashier "OK so the rest on size 3? Oh hahaha it's just that you're so big, of course I meant PUMP" Me (not even trying to smile) "yes, pump 3"
Both cashiers were cracking up the whole time. I didn't even tell them I still had a whole month left to go. Ugh.
Got one of these at the gas station today from the cashiers... Cashier "WOW - how many are in there?" Me (trying on my best death stare while smiling) "oh just one" Cashier "oh honey, that is going to be one HUGE baby!!" Me "Well let's hope not. Can I get the change on pump 3?" Cashier "ooohhhhh no it will be, I mean you are so big! Well I mean, your belly is" Me "....." Cashier "OK so the rest on size 3? Oh hahaha it's just that you're so big, of course I meant PUMP" Me (not even trying to smile) "yes, pump 3"
Both cashiers were cracking up the whole time. I didn't even tell them I still had a whole month left to go. Ugh.
Bitches. I still don't understand how people think something like this is okay to say... to a stranger, no less, let alone laugh heartily at.
Today a woman at the pharmacy asked me how I was feeling and how much time I had left. I (feeling like crap today from a cold and a long work week) said I had a month left. She said Oh my God! You're so low! Looks like that baby is about to fall out! I said yeah well it feels like I'm splitting in half so I guess he dropped already. Keep it to yourself, lady! I don't need a reminder that I don't just feel like crap, but I also look like it.
@NashBelle I totally get it. One of my coworkers (who is otherwise sweet) has always told me this entire pregnancy how tired or sick or big I look. Even when I felt great, she'd be like "oooh, are you ok today? You don't look very good."
Her last day was this last Wednesday. Hallelujah!
I really did like her except for her tact or lack of it with pregnant women. She's maybe 25 and I can't wait until she experiences her own pregnancy and barrage of thoughtless comments from people.
Re: "How much do you weigh?" & Other Rude Comments...
Got out of my car at DS's daycare and a mom looked at me and asked when I was due. I said Sept. 1st and she replied "I thought so, I could hear you huffing and puffing while getting out of your car and walking up here." Uhhh thanks... I wish I was as quick at comebacks as DH. He said he would've said "did you see the bird that flew out of my car too?" (While flipping them off)
ugh-I had so much more typed about another jewel of a person, but it got deleted when I hit post!
Best part about being a STM so far is that people keep all those dumb labor comments to themselves since they know I've already done it.
First time I got it so far, so close to being done... I tought I was safe.
Like why? Why would you say something like that, I am measuring right on track too, so it's not like I am actually huge.
PCOS, Hypothyroidism.
Miscarriage at 8 weeks
First saw
It's a boy!
Ya... nothing about that was fun.
PCOS, Hypothyroidism.
Miscarriage at 8 weeks
First saw
It's a boy!
FIL: You sure you're not having twins?
Friend of FIL, 10 minutes later: You sure you're not having twins?
I ignored them both, pretended I didn't hear, but still. No, I am not having twins. I have gained a healthy amount of weight, according to my MEDICAL PROFESSIONAL.
At the same shower, my MIL proceeds to tell everyone that she gained 75lb with each of her two children. She is barely 5ft tall. So at least now I know that FIL just doesn't understand what a healthy pregnant woman is supposed to look like.
My husband called me "turnip-shaped" lol.
This is double frustrating because last pregnancy it was all "you're barely showing" and "you don't even look pregnant". I'm also overweight so that felt insulting as well. I can't win either way. People can keep it shut about "how big" I am or am not.
I've been asked if I'm having twins and commented on how big I am by SO MANY people. I'm not. The same guy at church has said it every single time I've seen him since around week 20. I want to kick them all in the shins (and him a little higher), but have instead opted for smiling and laying the emotional weight of what they just said back on them.
So now the conversation goes:
butthead: "wow, you're so big! Are you sure you're not having twins?"
me: "no, I'm just big. Everyone keeps telling me how big I am every time I leave the house and it makes me feel like a whale :'("
bh: "..."
The least they can do is feel as bad as I do because of their comments
editer because the bump ate the end of my post (twice!)
I warned my mom (host) for the shower that if they tried that game I'd be leaving... :P
#5 here too and am constantly getting asked "is this your last?" How/why does this concern you, stranger, mil, mailman?! Seriously, 1 boy and 3 girls here and I always get "oh I bet you hope it's a boy". Ummmm, no I HOPE it's a healthy baby!!
I also always get "you should get a hobby" "don't you have a tv?" OR "you know how that happens, right?"
It's like, oh it's not possible that you are rude, it must be ME that's sensitive. Even though you are the one making a fat joke to someone you know has a lot going on. Right.
*steps off soap box*
Cashier "WOW - how many are in there?"
Me (trying on my best death stare while smiling) "oh just one"
Cashier "oh honey, that is going to be one HUGE baby!!"
Me "Well let's hope not. Can I get the change on pump 3?"
Cashier "ooohhhhh no it will be, I mean you are so big! Well I mean, your belly is"
Me "....."
Cashier "OK so the rest on size 3? Oh hahaha it's just that you're so big, of course I meant PUMP"
Me (not even trying to smile) "yes, pump 3"
Both cashiers were cracking up the whole time. I didn't even tell them I still had a whole month left to go. Ugh.
Keep it to yourself, lady! I don't need a reminder that I don't just feel like crap, but I also look like it.
Her last day was this last Wednesday. Hallelujah!
I really did like her except for her tact or lack of it with pregnant women. She's maybe 25 and I can't wait until she experiences her own pregnancy and barrage of thoughtless comments from people.