I mentioned this in ticker change, but: I'm feeling a little jealous of the moms having BH and other signs that their bodies know how to do this. I had no contractions except with pitocin last time and ended up with a c-section. I know I should be thankful, but some sign that my body might actually know how to do this would be great.
I am ready not to be pregnant, I know I should be grateful that the kiddo is still in the oven but man I'm over not having control of my body and sharing... plus it's hard to complain when several folks I know are going thru IVF / IUI. OH oh and BH suck monkey toe, never had any of this with the last pregnancy at all and this is non stop random BH so I know I'm not in labor
I mentioned this in ticker change, but: I'm feeling a little jealous of the moms having BH and other signs that their bodies know how to do this. I had no contractions except with pitocin last time and ended up with a c-section. I know I should be thankful, but some sign that my body might actually know how to do this would be great.
I'm getting BH all the time randomly and it doesn't make me feel like my body knows what to do. Just the opposite really, why are you contracting but not pushing the kid out?! All this practice and nothing to show is wearing me out :P
I find "I'm so ready to get this baby out" comments annoying, albeit usually followed by "but I want baby to stay in as long as he/she needs." As someone whose baby came much sooner than anticipated I would have given anything to go full term to avoid the struggles we had to deal with as a result of preemie status (and pray on a daily basis I don't have to relive this with 2.0). I get that the end is uncomfortable - but there is an end in sight. It always feels like a slap in the face when people make those kind of comments and are all squee! baby! There's nothing fun about a preemie.
I think "I'm ready to not be pregnant anymore" is actually more popular here right now.
I think my UO is that I'm not ready to get baby out. I haven't particularly enjoyed my pregnancy other than the ultrasounds, kicks and the fact that I'm having a baby, everything else has been ugh but, thankfully, not horribly bad. I'll be 35w tomorrow and just feel that, although I'm really uncomfortable, can't sleep, my body is not my own anymore, things hurt and I have to push this baby out of me somehow, I really feel like 40 is ready and I'm not there yet. I do secretly hope she'll come at like 38w just so I can meet her sooner and, sure, it is pretty nice thinking about not being pregnant anymore, but I'm happy I'm not at the point of "I'm so ready to get baby out" yet, we'll see how I feel after 37...
@AlwaysAuntNeverMom Same same same, I am SO not ready to not be pregnant. I am desperate to keep him in as long as possible. My goal is September 5th, 39+3.
I am hoping at my growth scan next week that he is still right on track and not huge, my GD has been really in control so I'm hoping that they will let me go into labor on my own. I also hope that its true about FTMs being late and not early
anytime I think "I'm done with being pregnant" I think about why I'm really done, and I realize I'm just impatient. Physically, I'm doing alright (probably because I'm not working so I have lots of time to relax). My motivation for wanting to be done are not so I don't have to FEEL pregnant anymore, cause I don't find it that terrible (yet) even though I do complain a lot lol. I am just eager to meet my baby, so I can suck it up and wait.
This is probably not unpopular but I am so done with work!! I have very little energy, am tired all the time, my body hurts and sitting in a chair for 10 hours a day sucks!
I find "I'm so ready to get this baby out" comments annoying, albeit usually followed by "but I want baby to stay in as long as he/she needs." As someone whose baby came much sooner than anticipated I would have given anything to go full term to avoid the struggles we had to deal with as a result of preemie status (and pray on a daily basis I don't have to relive this with 2.0). I get that the end is uncomfortable - but there is an end in sight. It always feels like a slap in the face when people make those kind of comments and are all squee! baby! There's nothing fun about a preemie.
My opinion: I hate it when people tell me how I should feel or that what I'm feeling is not okay. Of course I'm super grateful baby is doing great in there, and I don't want him or her to come a single second before he or she is good and ready, but I've seriously hated nearly everything about pregnancy. I had maybe 6 solid weeks of "I'm cool with this pregnancy thing" but the other 27 or so? Completely miserable. And my pregnancy hasn't even been that bad - no crazy sickness or bed rest, etc. I just am not a fan of being pregnant! I'm sick of dealing with it, and I hate that I'm only going to get even more uncomfortable and I think that's okay to feel that way and occasionally vent about it.
Not enjoying pregnancy does not equal wanting a preemie baby. Not enjoying pregnancy does not mean I am ungrateful about being pregnant. I'll be miserable for the next few weeks, and of course I'd rather suck up and deal with that misery over the fears and experience of having a preemie baby, but that doesn't change the fact that I'm still currently miserable. I guess I just wish I was already at 40 weeks. Or that human babies didn't need 9 months to fully gestate. Or that my husband and I could trade this belly back and forth - that last one would actually be a bit amazing.
anytime I think "I'm done with being pregnant" I think about why I'm really done, and I realize I'm just impatient. Physically, I'm doing alright (probably because I'm not working so I have lots of time to relax). My motivation for wanting to be done are not so I don't have to FEEL pregnant anymore, cause I don't find it that terrible (yet) even though I do complain a lot lol. I am just eager to meet my baby, so I can suck it up and wait.
Same for me. My reasons for wanting to be done with pregnancy are my impatience to meet my baby and wanting to be be done with GD. Both of which I can suck it up and wait for. After first tri, I enjoy pregnancy. Not everything is great about it, but it's such a fleeting time, and I'll never get back the experience of feeling this child grow and move in me after it's over.
Plus I need the time to finish getting things ready!
I guess my UO is that not only am I not ready to not be pregnant anymore, I would prefer my baby stay in until 40+ weeks at this point (I'm sure I'll be singing a different tune once we get closer).
I am not ready to give birth/ be in labor. It HURT last time lol. I'm not ready to have a newborn AND a 2 year old. I'm not ready for the sleep deprivation. We still have a ton of stuff we haven't bought. Of course I'll be so excited once she is here, but this pregnancy has gone so fast and I am freaking out that baby will be here in a few weeks.
I mentioned this in ticker change, but: I'm feeling a little jealous of the moms having BH and other signs that their bodies know how to do this. I had no contractions except with pitocin last time and ended up with a c-section. I know I should be thankful, but some sign that my body might actually know how to do this would be great.
BH have nothing to do with your body being ready, so don't worry! I had a bunch during my last pregnancy and was induced 2 days after my due date, was only 1 cm dilated and baby hadn't even dropped until I was fully dilated. My body was closer to going into labor naturally when I was induced with baby #1 and I had pretty much no BH contractions during my pregnancy with him. This time around with #3 I have so many contractions and insane pressure that it feels like my baby might fall out of my vagina tomorrow. I'm fully prepared to go to 40 weeks.
I'm also ready to be done with being pregnant. I'll miss it when it's gone, but right now I can barely walk with the intense pelvic pain. It makes doing simple things like walking through the grocery store very hard. Does this mean im hoping for a premature baby or that I'd go and induce labor at 35 weeks? No. I tnink that's a ridiculous assumption. I have the same thoughts on people who get crazy when they hear someone complain about pregnancy in the first tri and try to say these feelings aren't valid because THEY have had a loss and the pregnant person shouldn't be complaining. That's not how it works. People are allowed to have their own opinions and feelings and you cannot dictate them or expect every person to tip toe around the fact that you may have experienced a different outcome and should feel a certain way because of that. It may sound harsh, but it's unrealistic to expect otherwise IMO.
I find "I'm so ready to get this baby out" comments annoying, albeit usually followed by "but I want baby to stay in as long as he/she needs." As someone whose baby came much sooner than anticipated I would have given anything to go full term to avoid the struggles we had to deal with as a result of preemie status (and pray on a daily basis I don't have to relive this with 2.0). I get that the end is uncomfortable - but there is an end in sight. It always feels like a slap in the face when people make those kind of comments and are all squee! baby! There's nothing fun about a preemie.
My opinion: I hate it when people tell me how I should feel or that what I'm feeling is not okay. Of course I'm super grateful baby is doing great in there, and I don't want him or her to come a single second before he or she is good and ready, but I've seriously hated nearly everything about pregnancy. I had maybe 6 solid weeks of "I'm cool with this pregnancy thing" but the other 27 or so? Completely miserable. And my pregnancy hasn't even been that bad - no crazy sickness or bed rest, etc. I just am not a fan of being pregnant! I'm sick of dealing with it, and I hate that I'm only going to get even more uncomfortable and I think that's okay to feel that way and occasionally vent about it.
Not enjoying pregnancy does not equal wanting a preemie baby. Not enjoying pregnancy does not mean I am ungrateful about being pregnant. I'll be miserable for the next few weeks, and of course I'd rather suck up and deal with that misery over the fears and experience of having a preemie baby, but that doesn't change the fact that I'm still currently miserable. I guess I just wish I was already at 40 weeks. Or that human babies didn't need 9 months to fully gestate. Or that my husband and I could trade this belly back and forth - that last one would actually be a bit amazing.
I agree with you. I do not want a preemie, either. I want nothing but the best, healthiest start for my little dude. But that doesn't make my discomfort any less valid. My emotions have been completely insane this whole pregnancy, I'm swollen, I'm hot, I'm tired, I'm uncomfortable. You can feel done with pregnancy while still being okay going the whole 40 weeks at the same time. Part of me wishes I could speed up time and get to my due date, and part of me is conflicted with that because this is almost definitely our last baby so I'm TRYING to enjoy him while he's in there.
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Ladies I never said the feelings weren't valid, but that as someone who has had an early baby what it feels like to read those comments (and I don't even mean all of them...pretty just the ones that are like squee I want my baby so bad like right now! Baby baby baby! I love babies!!!). I'm certainly not telling anyone how to feel. I just know from my perspective every day counts. And quite frankly, unless you've been in similar shoes it's hard to really understand that perspective
@diagonalley I could see how someone would feel that way after your experience. I think when people say they're ready to get the baby out, it's more like, "I'm ready for Sept 30th to be here already!" Rather than wanting their baby to come prematurely.
Count me in with the can't wait for baby to come out camp. Pregnancy is my least favorite thing in the entire world. Of course any time I think "God, why can't I be done yet??" I always mentally follow up with the obligatory "No, wait, don't be done yet because you're not ready to come out!" And I also recognize that I am so so lucky to have been able to carry my two sons, especially after fertility issues and multiple miscarriages. But still, pregnancy is 100% the worst and I'm so excited to never have to do it again.
Ladies I never said the feelings weren't valid, but that as someone who has had an early baby what it feels like to read those comments (and I don't even mean all of them...pretty just the ones that are like squee I want my baby so bad like right now! Baby baby baby! I love babies!!!). I'm certainly not telling anyone how to feel. I just know from my perspective every day counts. And quite frankly, unless you've been in similar shoes it's hard to really understand that perspective
Both sides of this topic are making assumptions without knowing current or past history which only leads to hurt feelings, no bueno.
Hoping we can stay the same path of allowing everyone their opinions. We've come so far! Hugs to everyone - remember folks its THURSDAY!!!! Another day closer to the weekend :P
I think the current "love your spouse 'challenge'" (ETA: on Facebook) is really stupid.
1. I'm going to assume that if you are married, that you love your spouse. You don't need to tell me. Every day. Seven times. Instead, I'll just go on assuming you love your spouse unless one of you moves out or something.
2. It feels like boasting for the sake of boasting. And let's stop calling it a challenge. There's nothing challenging about it, you're just bragging about your great relationship for a week straight.
3. Especially considering how prolific it is on Facebook right now, it seems like it would really be salt in the wound for anyone single not by choice.
Sorry in advance for all the people did this on Facebook whom I surely offended.
Ladies I never said the feelings weren't valid, but that as someone who has had an early baby what it feels like to read those comments (and I don't even mean all of them...pretty just the ones that are like squee I want my baby so bad like right now! Baby baby baby! I love babies!!!). I'm certainly not telling anyone how to feel. I just know from my perspective every day counts. And quite frankly, unless you've been in similar shoes it's hard to really understand that perspective
Both sides of this topic are making assumptions without knowing current or past history which only leads to hurt feelings, no bueno.
Hoping we can stay the same path of allowing everyone their opinions. We've come so far! Hugs to everyone - remember folks its THURSDAY!!!! Another day closer to the weekend :P
Oh yes, for sure. No disrespect to @diagonalley or anyone else - I 100% thinks she's awesome and her perspective is valid and definitely worth sharing. I just see this general complaint come up kinda frequently - that people who want to be DONE with pregnancy -- are so insensitive.
ETA: The bump ate like 90% of my carefully worded post and is being poopy in general now and I lost my trail of thought. Either way, I don't mean to offend anyone. I understand both sides of the coin, and just wanted to explain mine. Grrr....
I love owl baby stuff & bachelor/bachelorette shows!
@KimmySchmidt I totally agree....it makes me roll my eyes out of my head...honestly, I know a few couples that have done it on Facebook, and they're not as squeaky perfect as they portray themselves...
My UO is I HATE cheese...except for the cheese in Kraft Mac N Cheese...I know it's not real but I wish they would bottle it up so I could pour it on everything....I do love pizza so Mozzarella doesn't bug me, but most cheese makes me gag
I don't care for bachelor/-ette type shows, personally. But I watch enough hoarders, HGTV, and teen mom to leave no room for judgement.
Re: owls. I bought myself one owl thing one time, and all of a sudden a million people bought be owl stuff "because they know I like owls." Then the more stuff you have, the more people thing you like them! It turns out owls beget owls. Ugh. So much owl shit.
@KimmySchmidt Same thing happened to me with whale items for the bath. The FisherPrice tub we asked for is whale shaped, since it was the one we like the size of best, and the tub spout cover is a whale, becuase that's the one they had at target. Our friends jumped on the theme and now every towel, bath toy, bar of soap, etc. is whale or ocean themed. In this case, I'm not complaining because it's all super cute, but it's funny how people will jump on certain ideas!
@KimmySchmidt - yup! My SIL threw a rubber ducky themed shower since she thought it was cute. Guess who got a ton a rubber ducky outfits, decorations, towels, etc.
Our nursery theme is actually whales. I think the ducks are butt ugly and obnoxious.
My UO is I HATE cheese...except for the cheese in Kraft Mac N Cheese...I know it's not real but I wish they would bottle it up so I could pour it on everything....I do love pizza so Mozzarella doesn't bug me, but most cheese makes me gag
Surely not!! How can this even be?! Cheese is a thing of wonder and beauty! Everything must have cheese on it!
Ok....I'm done now. I just really really like cheese.
Re: UO Thursday
looking back, it may be because of the scary movie "Fourth Kind" with that creepy ass owl showing up in the window
I think my UO is that I'm not ready to get baby out. I haven't particularly enjoyed my pregnancy other than the ultrasounds, kicks and the fact that I'm having a baby, everything else has been ugh but, thankfully, not horribly bad. I'll be 35w tomorrow and just feel that, although I'm really uncomfortable, can't sleep, my body is not my own anymore, things hurt and I have to push this baby out of me somehow, I really feel like 40 is ready and I'm not there yet. I do secretly hope she'll come at like 38w just so I can meet her sooner and, sure, it is pretty nice thinking about not being pregnant anymore, but I'm happy I'm not at the point of "I'm so ready to get baby out" yet, we'll see how I feel after 37...
I am hoping at my growth scan next week that he is still right on track and not huge, my GD has been really in control so I'm hoping that they will let me go into labor on my own.
I also hope that its true about FTMs being late and not early
I do hope this doesn't last past this pregnancy though...
ETA: Add me to the "not ready to not being pregnant" group. I need the remaining 5.5 or so weeks to
get my shit together (mentally and house-wise).
DS1 -- 9/30/2016
Not enjoying pregnancy does not equal wanting a preemie baby. Not enjoying pregnancy does not mean I am ungrateful about being pregnant. I'll be miserable for the next few weeks, and of course I'd rather suck up and deal with that misery over the fears and experience of having a preemie baby, but that doesn't change the fact that I'm still currently miserable. I guess I just wish I was already at 40 weeks. Or that human babies didn't need 9 months to fully gestate. Or that my husband and I could trade this belly back and forth - that last one would actually be a bit amazing.
Plus I need the time to finish getting things ready!
I am not ready to give birth/ be in labor. It HURT last time lol. I'm not ready to have a newborn AND a 2 year old. I'm not ready for the sleep deprivation. We still have a ton of stuff we haven't bought. Of course I'll be so excited once she is here, but this pregnancy has gone so fast and I am freaking out that baby will be here in a few weeks.
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someone would feel that way after your experience. I think when people say they're ready to get the baby out, it's more like, "I'm ready for Sept 30th to
be here already!" Rather than wanting their baby to come prematurely.
Hoping we can stay the same path of allowing everyone their opinions. We've come so far! Hugs to everyone - remember folks its THURSDAY!!!! Another day closer to the weekend :P
I think the current "love your spouse 'challenge'" (ETA: on Facebook) is really stupid.
1. I'm going to assume that if you are married, that you love your spouse. You don't need to tell me. Every day. Seven times. Instead, I'll just go on assuming you love your spouse unless one of you moves out or something.
2. It feels like boasting for the sake of boasting. And let's stop calling it a challenge. There's nothing challenging about it, you're just bragging about your great relationship for a week straight.
3. Especially considering how prolific it is on Facebook right now, it seems like it would really be salt in the wound for anyone single not by choice.
Sorry in advance for all the people did this on Facebook whom I surely offended.
It's totally bragging
ETA: The bump ate like 90% of my carefully worded post and is being poopy in general now and I lost my trail of thought. Either way, I don't mean to offend anyone. I understand both sides of the coin, and just wanted to explain mine. Grrr....
@KimmySchmidt I totally agree....it makes me roll my eyes out of my head...honestly, I know a few couples that have done it on Facebook, and they're not as squeaky perfect as they portray themselves...
Re: owls. I bought myself one owl thing one time, and all of a sudden a million people bought be owl stuff "because they know I like owls." Then the more stuff you have, the more people thing you like them! It turns out owls beget owls. Ugh. So much owl shit.
Our nursery theme is actually whales. I think the ducks are butt ugly and obnoxious.
Ok....I'm done now. I just really really like cheese.