Hello, let me introduce myself first..
For the first 30 years of my life, everything was smooth and worry-free. I was my parents’ most beloved child, found my true love in college, and happily married him after graduation.
At work, I was my boss’s most valued employee. Whenever I was in charge of a project, colleagues would inevitably say, “Oh, then I’m totally at ease.” I was constantly named “Employee of the Year,” with generous bonuses every year.
Later, I started my own business. Within just three months, I had broken into the market and started making money. By the fifth month, I was earning twice my previous salary. Growth was steady month after month. Right when the business needed more hands, I serendipitously met an amazing partner, and the company reached a whole new level.
Really, it seemed like at every step, whatever I needed, a pair of hands would always place it right in front of me, just in time.
My Two Girls: Ellie & Mia
Meet Ellie, My Firstborn
In 2020, my husband and I decided to have a child. After trying for over a year, we finally got the news in 2021 that a little one was on the way. In 2022, we welcomed our first child, Ellie. She made me a mother.
She is utterly adorable—big eyes, rosy skin, chubby little hands. Every time I look at her, I can’t help but give her a kiss. She is pure joy, and I love her more each day.
But as a first-time mom, I faced unprecedented difficulties. The postpartum tearing wouldn’t heal, and the pain was excruciating. Clogged milk ducts made my breasts hard as rocks. The severe sleep deprivation… And what was even more crushing was that, with zero parenting experience, I was clueless when faced with her unexplained wailing, night terrors, refusal to nurse, constipation, diarrhea, fevers… I desperately searched online, longing for one accurate, truly useful answer!
It was during this time that I thought, once I make it through this “dark” path, I must leave a light on for other new moms.
And Then Came Mia
Ellie had just turned one when I got pregnant again. In 2024, we welcomed our second daughter, Mia.
Completely different from Ellie, Mia is a great eater and sleeper. Although she had her fussy moments in the first two months, starting almost from month three, she became super easygoing. She feeds on schedule, gradually sleeps through the night, loves her solid foods, and adapted quickly when I had to stop breastfeeding due to mastitis.
This made me realize just how vastly different babies can be! It made me even more determined to write about my experiences.
Why I Had to Start This Blog
The Catalyst: A Life Pivoted
After Mia was born, my business also began to decline sharply. I had no choice but to close it and become a full-time mom. My work no longer involves Excel and Word, but instead revolves around changing diapers, washing bottles, making baby food, and managing household chores…
This has been a monumental challenge for me. All my past achievements seem irrelevant now. Managing two young children has brought me a sense of frustration I’ve never known before.
The Daily Reality
They are always fighting over things. When one is in my arms, the other immediately demands to be held too. When I try to cook, Ellie wants me to read her a book. When I attempt to load the washing machine, Mia has a diaper blowout, and I must drop everything to change her…
By the time I finish all that, I see the cup of hot coffee on the table has gone cold again. And it’s not until evening that I remember, “Oh my goodness, the clothes are still in the hamper, unwashed!”
Of course, being a mom is filled with happiness, but that doesn’t negate how hard it is.
My Promise to You
Because I’ve walked this path myself, I won’t just tell you how joyful motherhood is, like many websites do. I want to share my real, unfiltered experiences so every new mom can find a “companion” here.
I want to tell you: you are not alone. What you’re going through, I’ve been there too. Your breakdowns, your helplessness, your moments of losing control—I’ve had them all. You don’t need to feel guilty. This is just a small, necessary stretch of the journey for every mom.
My Hope for This Space
I really want to share my parenting experiences—not just the warm, glowing moments, but to honestly document the pitfalls I’ve stumbled into, the tears I’ve shed, and the “survival wisdom” I’ve scraped together in utter exhaustion.
The Goal: A Mom’s Toolkit
I hope this blog becomes a “mom’s toolkit,” filled not with vague theories, but with:
- Practical Tips: Like how to quickly figure out why a baby is crying, tried-and-true methods for dealing with clogged ducts, or how to efficiently manage the daily grind with twins (or two under two) solo.
- Pitfall Avoidance Guides: Sharing the baby products I regret buying the most, and those “game-changer” parenting hacks. Letting you know which parenting anxieties you can let go of, and which principles are worth holding onto.
- A Community for Moms: I hope my stories connect me with more moms like you. We can cheer each other on in the comments, share our own tricks, turning the storms we face alone into a journey we walk together.
The Bigger Vision
My previous career taught me to analyze data, solve problems, and optimize processes. Now, I’m applying all those skills to this new “position” of Mom. I want to prove that a mom’s value is absolutely not confined to the home. The mindset, resilience, and creativity we built in our careers can shine just as brightly—perhaps even brighter—in this more complex, long-term “project” of raising humans, and can even be transformed into a force that helps others.
My hope is simple: that every mom who opens this blog can let out a sigh of relief and say, “So it’s not just me.” Then, she can find a bit of practical info, a dose of comforting solidarity, and return to her sweet, chaotic mom-life with a little more confidence and a little less weight on her shoulders.
This road? Let’s walk it together.
Re: ***INTRO & EDD THREAD***
I've been lurking a little bit out of nervousness. This is my first pregnancy and it was a bit of a surprise. My husband and I are pretty cautiously excited at this point. BFP was 7/18 and EDD is 3/23/17. My sister is a August 2016 mom and talks about her board all the time which is how I stumbled into here.
I'm very excited, but also very scared. Labor and delivery TERRIFIES me and always has. Looking forward to getting to know fellow mommies!
I am expecting baby number 3. EDD is 3/7/17. No Dr appointments until 8/12 which sucks but is getting closer.
My husband and I were high school sweethearts and ended up having our first child just out of high school. Another child 4 years later and then this big gap of 9 years.
I am nervous about the age difference since my sister and I are 8 years apart and don't have much of a relationship.
I am definitely feeling the morning sickness this go around and sore tatas. All I want to do is sleep!!
Congrats to you all!!!
I have had two pg's that were due in March and I think its the best month to have a babe for many reasons (not too big for holidays, aren't ku through the hot months, new LO is born at the end of flu season, etc.) A little shocked but excited for another LO and anticipating the excitement to see what we are having. (A boy would be great even though we would love a girl too, and of course really just pray the LO is healthy).
DS (9) DD (6) DD (4) DD (19 months)
I was also a gestational carrier for a dear friend in between DD #3 and DD #4.
I love being pregnant but am shocked that we easily and surprisingly got pg (had IUD removed to do health issues and were using condoms) as the first 3 took nine plus months and for DD #2 clomid for us to conceive.
Can't wait to get to know you all!
I got my BFP on June 30th and my BF and I couldn't be happier! We have been together for 4 years.
We are going the non-traditional route and have decided to do baby before marriage. We are both 35 and my biological clock was ticking! This will be our first baby.
My EDD is March 4th, 2017. I've been feeling great (fingers crossed). Still running 4 miles every morning, but can't get enough support for my bosom!
Excited to be here and to chat with you all about our experiences. Congratulations ladies!!
My hubby and I have been friends since 2008, a couple since August 2013, married since December 2014. I'm a pharmacy student (next year is my last...), and he is an engineer-become-beekeeper.
So far, I can't complain as my symptoms have been mild. I've had cramping for some weeks now. I hoped nausea was not going to happen. However, I've had a bit of morning sickness over the last few days and I feel my stomach as being rather vulnerable to sudden motions. Can't wait for the ultrasound a week from today!
Also, thank you for all the things that you've shared. This forum is my new favourite place online!
Married: December 14th, 2014
BFP: July 25th, 2016
EDD: March 30th, 2017 (FTM)
My husband and I have been together since March 13, 2010 (so baby could be welcomed on our dating anniversary!), and have been married since April 19, 2014.
Only symptoms so far have been fatigue, and sore breasts. Otherwise doing pretty well!
DH: 37
DD: 03/17/17
DS: 12/06/19
Edited because of wording
I've been anxiously waiting to join the club and today was my first appointment so it's official. I am 24 and my partner is 33. We met while working together. He's amazing although he never pictured our life together with a kid, a baby is coming. I tested positive on July 8, 3 days after my birthday. What an unexpected pleasant surprise. I am 8 weeks and baby is due March 15, 2017. Whew Hoo looking forward to a long journey with everyone. Btw...this is our first baby!
Hi ladies! According to my LMP my EDD is March 18th. I go for my first US on August 8th! Super excited
My DH and I already have a 3.5 DS.
We found out 2 weeks ago that I was pregnant with our very first child! I am 6 weeks, 3 days and my EDD is 3/26/17.
My first appointment is Tuesday, 8/9 and we are counting down the minutes! I am super excited but at the same time so so nervous about the next few months and making sure we can see a little heart beat on Tuesday.
Looking forward to embarking on this beautiful and strange journey with you all
Me: 28 I DH: 28
Married: 5-1-15
EDD: 3-26-17 (GIRL!) I FTM
EDD: March 22!
First baby due March 12th. Been with my hubs for 10 years, married for a little over a year. Hoping being a part of this community helps with anxiety and curiosities!
oh I'm so so happy to finally post on here! I was waiting till we had our first appointment which was yesterday! We had an early loss in April and I was beginning to think we couldn't get a sticky one again. We have twin girls who are coming up on 2 1/2 and are now almost 10 weeks with a singleton! EDD is 3/2.
Major symptoms so far have been nausea, frequent urination, insomnia, exhaustion, and insatiable hunger. What a journey. Hope to make friends with you soon. And if any of you live in the Riverside, CA area, let me know. Would love to meet up in person.
***TW*** I am considered high risk due to losing our last baby boy at 18wks due to preterm labor I will be seeing the high risk OB in addition to my regular OB starting in about a week and a half. I had an early SCH but things are going great now! I didn't know that I was pregnant initially, I thought it was my period, which lasted way longer than normal! Made a GYN appt but I was having pregnancy symptoms (sore breasts, nausea and bad reflux) so I decided to take a test! My cycles were off, very light and lasted only 3 days since my loss and due to having to have 2 procedures back to back in order to clear out retained tissues I figured I was unable to conceive since we had been trying for 2 years after the loss. Looks as if I was totally wrong and I am very excited to be here!!
DH: 39 Me: 38
DD 6.14.14
I wanted to wait a bit before introducing myself since I wanted to make sure everything looked good with the baby!
TW: we had a MC last year. So this time around I wanted to be more private about baby
this Thursday we got to see and hear our baby's heartbeat at 183bpm!!! Our baby measured at 9w6d on Thursday! We are so in love and extremely happy! I'm blessed to be joining this beautiful journey! - Melissa
yorkie mama to Oscar
FTM EDD 3.12.17
I'm a newbie here, so please forgive me if it takes awhile to catch up on the lingo. Been lurking for the past couple weeks, and I really like the vibe here.
I just turned 32 and DH is 35. Our DS will be two in October. I work full-time (for now) as a hospice social worker, and I love my job. Honestly, though, I am NOT a fan of being pregnant! I was miserable for almost all of my pregnancy with DS and am hoping this time around isn't so bad. I LOVED giving birth so I am looking forward to that part. And of course to having a new squish afterward!
EDD is 3/3.
TW
I had a miscarriage in February at almost 12 weeks, so I'm pretty nervous this time. But I'm MUCH more miserable with this pregnancy than I was then, so I'm trying to stay optimistic!
So nice to 'meet' you all!
*Edited to add that I changed my username and shall henceforth be known as MahiMama*