WTF. My boss has so much going on she can't keep things straight sometimes. She just freaked out over an issue she was well aware of over 2 years ago and we had figured out a way to deal with it. It doesn't even really affect us. Gahhh sometimes I want to give her a chill pill.
Me:33 DH: 34 Married: May 2011 TTC #1: May 2015 DS: 10/20/2016 TTC #2: June 2019 #2 EDD: 2/20/2020
@bnsmith85 - I'm late on this, but your husband's freckle comment made me giggle. Even though I'm a ginger, I only have one really noticeable freckle on my face. It's right above my top lip and people are always telling me I have a bit of chocolate or something above my lip.
@Julia70286 I feel like the daughter-in-law tends to get the blame for these kinds of things. Maybe because women are supposed to be more aware of etiquette. It's dumb. I tell my husband "your family, your responsibility," but I still end up writing all the thank you notes because he won't and I'll get blamed if they don't get sent.
@AllyTheKid Can you imagine how angry she would have been if you didn't throw the shower without telling her? How annoying.
My WTF is to Lowes. We got paint samples for the nursery and finally decided on two colors - a medium gray with an accent of a bluish purple. We got the paint this weekend and I started painting this morning and realized the purple was not the same color as the sample (I pained it over the swatch I had painted with the sample - it's much more blue). Seems like it would be an easy fix - just take it back and get the right color, right? The problem is that the paint is the right color. The sample was the mistake color. And they aren't sure what they did wrong. Oh well. I like the blue, so I'm just going to use it.
Wtf to the people who constantly downplay my importance in my stepson's life. No, I didn't give birth to him, but I am still his parent. Yes, I know that things will be different with this new baby and I'll experience things with him that I don't with my stepson. But I still lie awake every night worrying about him, I fight with him and cry with him and laugh with him. And you don't understand why I have to leave work because he's sick? I shouldn't have to explain that my husband has custody so I'm his main guardian. Or that all 3 of his other parents are at work so no one else can take him. If I'm telling you that he's sick and I need to take him to the doctor, then I need to go. He's old enough to stay home by himself, not drive himself to the doctor when he has a fever!
My MIL is so possessive, a mean she's kind to me, buuuut please.... God forbids id DH forgets to call or text her one day. I am an only daughter and still my parents give me my space, they call every once in a while to see how am I doing with the baby, but that's it. We all live in the same town, it really annoys me, maybe is hormones or maybe its just because yesterday after work I was feeling fine (compared to other days) and was feeling in the mood, but then she call DH and it was a 20 minutes call, at some point I fell asleep, soooo goodbye sexy me... and... today we will have dinner at her place
@bnsmith85 Sorry, friend, but I totally laughed at that one. Lol. Husbands say the dumbest things.
Wtf. Just wtf. I showed up on time (early, even!) for my 3 hour diabetes test this morning at 8:30. It is at a separate lab, not the OB's office. When I called to make the appt, they said to call the day before to make sure they had the doctors order. They didn't, so I called the OB's office, who said they would fax it. Well....they didn't. And of course, their office didn't open til 9, and then had phone issues. So I didn't get to start this darn test until 9:30, which means an extra hour of not eating. I'm already nauseous from hunger, so this should be fun (I'm only a half hour in). I'm so frustrated by my doctor's office- this is not their first mistake, but they literally have a monopoly on prenatal care in my city, so I'm stuck dealing with their stupidity. Wow, that got long- sorry.
Edit: also, wtf brain. I saved the second half of my book to read at this appointment today. It was due today, so it auto-deleted at midnight off of my iPad, and the wait to get it back is 17 people deep
I know this doesn't help now. But if I borrow e-books from the library and I know that I'm not going to finish them on time, I'll turn off my wireless and the library can't snatch it back right on the due date. But taking a return at midnight is just cruel and unusual punishment.
@ignoscemihi That would be an ordeal of cataclysmic proportions in her eyes... I don't expect her to see it through mine though. I'm just chalking it up to her only being 19 and simply not possessing sufficient knowledge of proper etiquette. I'm too pregnant to be dealing with her pregnant ass anyway, so ultimately, this has worked out in my favor.
@ignoscemihi I had a Lowes paint issue too - we bought paint and I left so hubby could paint only to get a call saying the paint was bad (rock solid half way through so all the pigment was sitting on top and no matter his strength he couldn't stir it in). I was expecting a fight when we returned it but they went to replace it, only to find out the next can had the same issue, and they opened a 3rd and same thing, so eventually after 3 attempts they upgraded our can and no issues. Then came painting which hubby did a shit job and I had to redo lol
wtf MIL my husband has been doing work at her house for months on and off on his few days off well in return she gives him $50 a day and the pull ups she gets free for my nephew who barely uses them so she gives us all the extras when and only when my husband helps her. Well my husband over slept and didnt get to her house on time so he calls her when he wakes and she flips about how wrong he has done her and she will get someone from temple to help her for a tax deduction ( her husband is the rabbi) and she thought he needed money and she was helping him and to find another to get pull ups for the boys. He's not doing little works at her house. He's landscaping, pulling up trees, electrical work (he's trained though the military to do) watching out two nephews one of which is autistic and has eating problems, he does any heavy lifting, cleaning, everything. She brags to everyone about her grandkids but she only sees my kids maybe three times a year.
WTF MILs everywhere???!!! I feel for all of you ladies: @mayisch@Julia70286@fallbabyround3- I feel your pain!! I've got maaadd MIL/FIL issues of my own - in a nutshell - they have never heard of a little word called "boundaries"!! I am 100% with the "let their son handle them" philosophy, though, in my case their son "handles" them by ignoring them and, as you lovely ladies know, that reflects poorly on me...
Also - WTF BH!!!??? Is anyone else having oodles of BH? All evening at work, my bump is turning into a rock-hard knot and (I know they're normal) I am a bit concerned - chugging water!
Thank you baby brain for making me forget my serious WTF (legit thanks because I don't want to remember this lol).
My description is not going to do justice and I was too horrified to take a picture, but I was visiting my mom this weekend and she goes "OH!! I bought an outfit for my grandson" I'm thinking "okay cool, a cute onesie, maybe a outfit mocking my hubby" but no....no no no. She comes out with this cardigan that is crochet (which would have been fine) except there are bows and ribbons all over it. It looks like an adorable sweater you'd put on a girl over a cute dress. I looked at it and then at her and said "but it's for a girl." She's like "but it's blue" (cause ya know only boys wear blue). Then she pulls out the little bonnet to go with it, again covered in bows and ribbons, and let's not forget the booties. She admits the bows might need to be cut off, but ya no.
But this is the best part - she told her friend that she was with that I wouldn't like it, but bought it anyways, and then said she'll keep it and put my son in it when I'm not around. O.O WHEN AM I NOT AROUND?! My mom is trying to steal my baby!!! Lol
Today was the kind of day you want to just be drunk for.... Or loaded up on Xanax... Or both Seriously. DH and I were at breakfast when I get a call from animal control letting me know I can come pick up our dog and that he can do his quarantine at home. Ummm... What?! Our dog, who is staying with my in laws, bit someone. He has never had issues like this before. Kids, he can't be trusted around. Adults, he's always been fine. Apparently, someone knocked on my in laws door, my FIL swung the door open, and our dog ran out and bit the guy at the door. This is horrible on its own. We knew we were going to have to rehome him with a family who doesn't have and can keep him separate from kids, but now that he has bitten, we are very unlikely to find anyone to take him. I have contacted our training company and am waiting to hear back to see if they can help us. They loved him when they had him for training so I'm praying they'll know someone who can help him and keep him. That said, the chances are still slim to none so now we're lookin at having to put down our dog in the next couple of months. Were devastated. I don't know how I'm supposed to make it through this. I'm not sure I have it in me. On top of it, my in laws didn't feel that this situation warranted a call to us. He was quarantined at the pound overnight, I'm sure he was scared. And the only reason they came and took him and held him overnight was because they couldn't prove he was up to date on his vaccinations, which we have record of at home.... 5 mins up the road from them. I'm so angry with them over this! I realize my anger is likely displaced, but this isn't the first time they failed to reach out over an issue with our dog when they were watching. Our little dog tore her ACL while with them and they didn't take her to the vet to treat the pain and didn't call us to let us know. I found out when I went to get her and she couldn't walk. I can't trust them anymore. They clearly don't understand what constitutes an emergency. They cannot be trusted with our child. How can I trust that they're going to call me if something serious happens with her?! I realize this feeling will likely pass. But l, right now, I don't know when I'll be able to speak to them again without having a complete meltdown and I'm not sure I'll ever be able to forget.
@bnsmith85 Oh, I'm so sorry that happened. You are not wrong to be upset with them. I would feel exactly the same way! FX the trainers have a solution for you and your pup.
Me: 32 & DH: 37
Married: November 2014
TTC #1 Since: October 2015
BFP #1: 11/18/15 - CP BFP #2: 2/8/16 - EDD 10/20/16 IT'S A BOY!!!! DS Born 10/16/16
@bnsmith85 so sorry to hear. My dog is gentle but has issues with strangers coming near our house (barking and growling), so Im always afraid of a similar situation happening with him. Hoping you can find a family to rehome him.
@bnsmith85 I am so sorry you are dealing with this. Finding a new home for a beloved pet is hard enough, I don't blame you for your anger with your in-laws. I hope you can find him a good home. *Hugs*
Married 11-11-11 TTC only since Dec 2015. I had some weight to get off. Been working hard in the gym for over a year. BFP 02-15-16 with our first IT'S A BOY!!!
@bnsmith85 I am so sorry! It's a shame that some people just don't look at pet emergencies as equally as urgent as human emergencies =( That more than warranted a heads up at the very LEAST...
@bnsmith85 I'm also in the "I'm sorry" boat. Our pups are our children and they will remain so even after our two legged ones get here. I can't imagine. I hope the training place can find a good home for the babe if you have to rehome.
@bnsmith85 Echoing all the other posts to say I'm so sorry for all that you're going through with your dog. Hoping for a good outcome for your family and your pooch!
Countdown to Baby H! Mommy to Elizabeth (6/18/09), preemie at 34 weeks
Thanks y'all... And sorry. I wasn't going to bring that here. I was just so sad and needed to get it out eta- also sorry if I suck at being supportive/encouraging over the next few days. Definitely busy licking wounds over here
@bnsmith85 I'm sure you'll find a home for furry baby as for you in laws... I would be sooo mad, everybody knows how much I love my baby. Stay strong, I'm sure you won't be needing to put her down
@bnsmith85 I am mostly a lurker but I thought I might be able to help. We got out dog on Petfinder and some shelters by us will do courtesy listings on Petfinder for people trying to rehome. That way, you could keep your dog with you while you look for a new home but a Petfinder listing could help reach a larger audience of possible new dog parents who would be right for your pup. I am really sorry you're going through this.
Aw, @bnsmith85 - I'm so sorry you're dealing with all that, especially while on vacation! My dogs are my babies - I'd want to be informed about ANYTHING that happened to them while I was away! I know you've been battling with what to do with your pup once baby arrives, now this on top of it. I hope something works out with the trainer, I don't think I could bring myself to put them down. If the trainer can't help, maybe ask for any referrals/recommendations for rescues or re-homing options?
@bnsmith85 If it makes you feel any better, we adopted one of the dogs we had growing up because he bit his previous owners toddler. It was very "out of character" for him but something set him off once and they felt like they were in the same position you are in now. We took him in and he was the absolute best dog I've ever had in my life. He never hurt a fly after that and was the biggest teddy bear and I miss him every day. I hope your pup has a similar future, I'm sorry you're in this position.
Me: 32 & DH: 37
Married: November 2014
TTC #1 Since: October 2015
BFP #1: 11/18/15 - CP BFP #2: 2/8/16 - EDD 10/20/16 IT'S A BOY!!!! DS Born 10/16/16
@bnsmith85 I am so sorry! My dog is my fur baby, and if something like that happened, I would be so so upset. Luckily, my parents consider the same things (if not more) as emergencies and call me if something is off. I also get pictures texted to me once a day when she is with them so I can still have my puppy fill.
I wouldn't give up on this easily...if it's not important that your dog was impounded, what will they consider an emergency with a child? Baby care is a lot different these days.
WTF Kinzley. Yesterday I Didn't feel Kinzley move at all, so around 10pm my OB says to come into the hospital and get checked out. We get there and still no kicks. As our nurse is hooking up the NST Kinzley started to going crazy and kicking all over the nurse and I both immediately started laughing (and I started crying a little lol) because of how strong and how many kicks there were. My SO of course, is freaking out because he doesn't known why were laughing when she still hasn't found a HB yet. The nurse said it was probably a combination of the weather being extremely hot and that I wasn't getting enough fluid for the day is why she wasn't kicking. So shes ok, but seriously could she have shown a little sign of life so I didn't feel like I was wasting my incredible nurses time.
SO and I have been together: 5 Years+ BFP: 03/10 First Baby: 10/20/2016
@Ashleymn Same thing happened to me too weeks ago. I hadn't felt him move all day so they sent me to L&D. As soon as she strapped the monitor on, he went nuts. You could see the monitors moving under the sheets. Lol
@Ashleymn@krzyriver That's so scary! Glad they decided to perk up, even if it was right when you were getting checked!
I was doing kick counts this morning and Baby B was rather sluggish compared to some days and then as soon as we (slowly) hit 10, he went nuts. Geeze.
As a note, I asked my OB at my appointment Tuesday if it's ok that some days he takes longer to hit 10 than others and she said as long as it's within the 2 hours, it's fine. Some days he's done in under 2 minutes, today it took 15 minutes.
Me:33 DH: 34 Married: May 2011 TTC #1: May 2015 DS: 10/20/2016 TTC #2: June 2019 #2 EDD: 2/20/2020
Re: WTF Wednesday (July 27)
DH: 34
Married: May 2011
TTC #1: May 2015
DS: 10/20/2016
TTC #2: June 2019
#2 EDD: 2/20/2020
@AllyTheKid Can you imagine how angry she would have been if you didn't throw the shower without telling her? How annoying.
My WTF is to Lowes. We got paint samples for the nursery and finally decided on two colors - a medium gray with an accent of a bluish purple. We got the paint this weekend and I started painting this morning and realized the purple was not the same color as the sample (I pained it over the swatch I had painted with the sample - it's much more blue). Seems like it would be an easy fix - just take it back and get the right color, right? The problem is that the paint is the right color. The sample was the mistake color. And they aren't sure what they did wrong. Oh well. I like the blue, so I'm just going to use it.
BFP: 8/20/2018 - EDD 5/4/2019
WTF MILs everywhere???!!! I feel for all of you ladies: @mayisch @Julia70286 @fallbabyround3- I feel your pain!! I've got maaadd MIL/FIL issues of my own - in a nutshell - they have never heard of a little word called "boundaries"!! I am 100% with the "let their son handle them" philosophy, though, in my case their son "handles" them by ignoring them and, as you lovely ladies know, that reflects poorly on me...
Also - WTF BH!!!??? Is anyone else having oodles of BH? All evening at work, my bump is turning into a rock-hard knot and (I know they're normal) I am a bit concerned - chugging water!
My description is not going to do justice and I was too horrified to take a picture, but I was visiting my mom this weekend and she goes "OH!! I bought an outfit for my grandson" I'm thinking "okay cool, a cute onesie, maybe a outfit mocking my hubby" but no....no no no. She comes out with this cardigan that is crochet (which would have been fine) except there are bows and ribbons all over it. It looks like an adorable sweater you'd put on a girl over a cute dress. I looked at it and then at her and said "but it's for a girl." She's like "but it's blue" (cause ya know only boys wear blue). Then she pulls out the little bonnet to go with it, again covered in bows and ribbons, and let's not forget the booties. She admits the bows might need to be cut off, but ya no.
But this is the best part - she told her friend that she was with that I wouldn't like it, but bought it anyways, and then said she'll keep it and put my son in it when I'm not around. O.O WHEN AM I NOT AROUND?! My mom is trying to steal my baby!!! Lol
DH and I were at breakfast when I get a call from animal control letting me know I can come pick up our dog and that he can do his quarantine at home. Ummm... What?!
Our dog, who is staying with my in laws, bit someone. He has never had issues like this before. Kids, he can't be trusted around. Adults, he's always been fine. Apparently, someone knocked on my in laws door, my FIL swung the door open, and our dog ran out and bit the guy at the door. This is horrible on its own. We knew we were going to have to rehome him with a family who doesn't have and can keep him separate from kids, but now that he has bitten, we are very unlikely to find anyone to take him. I have contacted our training company and am waiting to hear back to see if they can help us. They loved him when they had him for training so I'm praying they'll know someone who can help him and keep him. That said, the chances are still slim to none so now we're lookin at having to put down our dog in the next couple of months. Were devastated. I don't know how I'm supposed to make it through this. I'm not sure I have it in me.
On top of it, my in laws didn't feel that this situation warranted a call to us. He was quarantined at the pound overnight, I'm sure he was scared. And the only reason they came and took him and held him overnight was because they couldn't prove he was up to date on his vaccinations, which we have record of at home.... 5 mins up the road from them.
I'm so angry with them over this! I realize my anger is likely displaced, but this isn't the first time they failed to reach out over an issue with our dog when they were watching. Our little dog tore her ACL while with them and they didn't take her to the vet to treat the pain and didn't call us to let us know. I found out when I went to get her and she couldn't walk.
I can't trust them anymore. They clearly don't understand what constitutes an emergency. They cannot be trusted with our child. How can I trust that they're going to call me if something serious happens with her?! I realize this feeling will likely pass. But l, right now, I don't know when I'll be able to speak to them again without having a complete meltdown and I'm not sure I'll ever be able to forget.
Me: 32 & DH: 37
BFP #2: 2/8/16 - EDD 10/20/16
IT'S A BOY!!!!
DS Born 10/16/16
I hope the trainers can help your sweet pup!
DH: 34
Married: May 2011
TTC #1: May 2015
DS: 10/20/2016
TTC #2: June 2019
#2 EDD: 2/20/2020
TTC only since Dec 2015. I had some weight to get off. Been working hard in the gym for over a year.
BFP 02-15-16 with our first
IT'S A BOY!!!
DS#2 due 25 April 2019
Mommy to Elizabeth (6/18/09), preemie at 34 weeks
Team Blue!
eta- also sorry if I suck at being supportive/encouraging over the next few days. Definitely busy licking wounds over here
Me: 32 & DH: 37
BFP #2: 2/8/16 - EDD 10/20/16
IT'S A BOY!!!!
DS Born 10/16/16
I wouldn't give up on this easily...if it's not important that your dog was impounded, what will they consider an emergency with a child? Baby care is a lot different these days.
SO and I have been together: 5 Years+
BFP: 03/10
First Baby: 10/20/2016
I was doing kick counts this morning and Baby B was rather sluggish compared to some days and then as soon as we (slowly) hit 10, he went nuts. Geeze.
As a note, I asked my OB at my appointment Tuesday if it's ok that some days he takes longer to hit 10 than others and she said as long as it's within the 2 hours, it's fine. Some days he's done in under 2 minutes, today it took 15 minutes.
DH: 34
Married: May 2011
TTC #1: May 2015
DS: 10/20/2016
TTC #2: June 2019
#2 EDD: 2/20/2020