I was just reviewing my EOB's from my insurance and it looks like getting the Diclegis filled put me substantially closer to hitting my deductible than I realized it would. I got credit towards my deductible for paying the full $700 cost because the coupon is treated like secondary coverage. So my insurance only cares that my part was $700 not that I only had to pay $300 out of pocket. That put a little pocket of happiness into my day.
@Jab3 I PMed you some info that might help And no, I didn't resent my parents. It actually made me a lot stronger and very resourceful. My husband grew up with absolutely no money issues, so he panics every time we have even a little hiccup in our finances. Whereas I feel prepared because I know things could always be worse. If they grow up anything like I did, your kids will grow up knowing how much you love them because they will see the sacrifices you made. And it will also make it easier for them to come to you later in life with their own problems. I talk to my mom constantly about money issues and my worries/anxieties. My husband doesn't go to his parents because he's embarrassed. Definitely just my opinion, but I think your kids will be okay
edit because of a PM I just got: things got better later in my life and I still knew my parents loved me. Even when i didn't see the sacrifices they made. So in no way am I saying that those well off don't have sacrifices. And of course their children still love them
MrsLittleMac, since it was a judgement made through the court it is now officially on our housing record. Landlords can look it up and get immediate access to it as soon as we give them our social security numbers on the applications, same as they can run criminal background checks on us to see if anything pops up. The worst part is, even if we could get them to accept the money after all was said and done, all that would change is that on our record it would state something like "paid in full" but the eviction will remain on there despite that. I really don't understand why they couldn't work something out with us that wouldn't have completely screwed us, we never gave them any problems as tenants. You should have seen the way the lawyer for that property treated me through the whole process. She was so nasty. I won't even get into the details (so long like everything else) lets just say after I finally broke down and told my sis (also an attorney) what was going on she had her reported to the Board of Bar Overseers of the state of MA.
@Jab3 I am sorry you are in such a tough spot. Its terrible they would go through with that not caring who it would affect. I hope things look up soon.
@Jab3 your situation sounds incredibly stressful and I truely hope that things turn around and work out somehow. I personally get so easily stressed when things aren't in order financially but somehow, someway things tend to work themselves out and I hope for you that happens much sooner than later.
Tentacular, thank you for telling me that. It actually helps me a lot to hear stuff like that from adults who went through this as children as mine are now. So it means a lot and I appreciate it. It gives me a more positive outlook on things. Especially when I have a friend of the family telling us we should put this baby up for adoption and they know of a couple who are much more deserving of the baby, could give it a much better life than we ever could, blah blah blah. I don't want to do that and neither does DH, this is our baby that we already love and want very much. Sometimes it makes me second guess myself though; is it selfish not to do what this individual is suggesting?
Yes, the dog is a huge concern. People have been cruel about that too. It's just a dog, get rid of it if it means a roof over the kids heads. It's like, yes we're aware of that, but they also have no idea how attached the kids are to our dog. We've had this dog for almost 10 years. I haven't even been able to find a place that would temporarily take him if we were able to get into a shelter. If we hand him over it will be for good.
I had had a counselor who I saw once a week while still in Worcester and was also on medication to help cope with stress, but since we're not living there anymore I can no longer see her and I also had to wean off the medication I was on (due to the pregnancy) so you're very right, to say I'm stressed right now is an understatement! I really do appreciate all the kind words of support from everyone, people might not think it makes a difference but it actually does. So thank you for that everyone. And I really hope I'm not coming across as some sympathy seeker, that was NOT my intention at all. I try to keep my poor me, pity party moments to myself in private haha
I went looking around and saw this book on NPR's list of recommendations for summer reads:
"Eligible" by Curtis Sittenfeld
Description: What if "Pride and Prejudice" were set in Cincinnati? Sittenfeld provides a modern twist on the Jane Austen classic in this summer beach read. In her version, Elizabeth writes for a women's magazine and is tangled up with a married man, while her sister Jane is near 40 and seriously considering having a baby with a sperm donor. Throw in a dose of reality television, and the romance begins.
Others that interested me were:
Modern Lovers By Emma Straub Rich and Pretty By Rumaan Alam It's Okay to Laugh (Crying Is Cool, Too) By Nora McInerny Purmort All The Missing Girls By Megan Miranda
Just some ideas! I have been itching for the past 2 weeks to start a new book...a F17 book club would be perfect!
Sjackson408, thank you! I'll check my messages. And thank you again for being willing to share something personal about your life (as others here have done as well) to reassure me my kids will most likely be fine and possibly even be better off in some ways because of this. I didn't expect anyone to put stuff out there like that to me at all, but I can tell you it really helps me in not feeling so isolated in this to hear others parents/families have been through this. I am so sorry if anyone ends up getting any backlash over anything that's been said in an attempt to make me feel better. I apologize to everyone on here too that might be sick of having to read about this now. I so did not mean to take over the weekly randoms thread with my crazy life!
Sjackson408, thank you! I'll check my messages. And thank you again for being willing to share something personal about your life (as others here have done as well) to reassure me my kids will most likely be fine and possibly even be better off in some ways because of this. I didn't expect anyone to put stuff out there like that to me at all, but I can tell you it really helps me in not feeling so isolated in this to hear others parents/families have been through this. I am so sorry if anyone ends up getting any backlash over anything that's been said in an attempt to make me feel better. I apologize to everyone on here too that might be sick of having to read about this now. I so did not mean to take over the weekly randoms thread with my crazy life!
Please don't apologize. This isn't a topic that comes up a lot in our threads and I commend you for opening up with us as well. You are going through a very real and very stressful situation. And your BMB is here for you
@Jab3 I am so angry that someone would suggest you give your baby up. I would not call that person a friend. That is such a personal decision and we are all quite aware of our options, suggesting there is someone "more deserving" is disgusting. Your situation does not make you less deserving and someone having money or whatever else isn't more deserving. More money, bigger or nicer home, more stuff does not equal better life. At all.
I am so happy I will not have to come back to this clinic. I have been here since earlier this morning and no end in sight. The woman at reception said don't leave for more than 10 minutes but you probably won't be seen for 2 more hours. The doctor has a huge number of procedures to do before he will see me although my appointment was this morning. (Blood work done, NT scan done a long time ago)
I truly dislike this doctor. Very much. He will call you in after you have waited 5 hours and have a huge fake smile and talk like you are 4 years old. And never an apology for the wait, ever.
Today, TB tells me that my 11w baby is the size of a lime at 1.61 inches long. What kind of lime is only 1.6 inches?? Ovia says a poker chip or a Brussels sprout - much more accurate
Today, TB tells me that my 11w baby is the size of a lime at 1.61 inches long. What kind of lime is only 1.6 inches?? Ovia says a poker chip or a Brussels sprout - much more accurate
Tentacular, thank you for telling me that. It actually helps me a lot to hear stuff like that from adults who went through this as children as mine are now. So it means a lot and I appreciate it. It gives me a more positive outlook on things. Especially when I have a friend of the family telling us we should put this baby up for adoption and they know of a couple who are much more deserving of the baby, could give it a much better life than we ever could, blah blah blah. I don't want to do that and neither does DH, this is our baby that we already love and want very much. Sometimes it makes me second guess myself though; is it selfish not to do what this individual is suggesting?
Everything about that makes me so angry on your behalf. @blush64 already stated very eloquently all the things that are wrong with that idea, so I won't repeat it all, but... Ugh. I'm just seething. I think being raised by a loving family with some struggles is actually sort of a gift. I really feel that. Going through what your children are going through made me a stronger, more resilient, more empathetic person than I would be otherwise. And it sounds like you are solidly, 100% there for them. As long as they have their parents as a rock, they will turn out better than fine. That lady can suck it. You're not selfish for not wanting to give your baby up just because things are hard at the moment. This moment is not forever. Adoption, on the other hand, is.
You don't come across as sympathy seeking at all. You mentioned a problem and were drawn out to tell us more because this bmb is awesome and everybody cares.
Feel free to take this as a very creepy statement (because it is! Bahahaha!) but I feel asleep last night thinking of you and your family and wishing there was something I could do to help. I truly believe your family will put this experience behind you and be stronger for it. Loves, mama. .
@peachesnbean it would have to be a key lime, but who pictures that when you hear "lime"?! Lol
When my daughter and I went to the grocery store it got confusing for her looking at the lime/key lime. It says lime, but I told daughter the key lime was probably the closer size.
Me: H, will you bake me an apple pie? You and DS can make it together and slice all the apples and make a pretty lattice on top and we'll have it with ice cream... H: Can I just buy you an apple pie? Me:
@Xstatic3333 Actually Logan was always my favorite. I thought with his intelligence, ambition, and wit he was Rory's best match of the series. TV Guide actually did a 120 point analysis (12 categories each worth ten points) to determine scientifically Rory's best match and Logan came out on top (Jess was a close second).
@Xstatic3333 Actually Logan was always my favorite. I thought with his intelligence, ambition, and wit he was Rory's best match of the series. TV Guide actually did a 120 point analysis (12 categories each worth ten points) to determine scientifically Rory's best match and Logan came out on top (Jess was a close second).
I can see that, I suppose. I know he improved with time but I had a hard time getting over early Logan who really seemed to change Rory. I'm bad at change!
@Xstatic3333 I think any healthy relationship pushes you to grow, especially when you've barely cracked your twenties. I actually think that's the thing that made me like Logan the best, he supported Rory through her needing to find herself on her Yale break (which even her own mother couldn't support) and then when she came through the other side stood behind her so she could continue to pursue her dreams.
HeatSparks, yeah I was pretty nervous about doing that, but for all I know (doubt it but you never know) there might be someone else lurking going through something similar. I'm blown way by the non judgemental responses and support. This is clearly an extremely compassionate board of people, but people still keep it real here.
Blush64 and tentacular simply put, what you both said was awesome. I'm glad that seems to be the general consensus. I really really needed to hear that and tentacular I don't think it's creepy at all! Feels good to know there are people out there who care especially when the support just isn't there IRL.
Re: Weekly Randoms (7/25)
First BFP: 12/16/13
EDD: 08/23/14
Baby BOY born: 08/29/14
And no, I didn't resent my parents. It actually made me a lot stronger and very resourceful. My husband grew up with absolutely no money issues, so he panics every time we have even a little hiccup in our finances. Whereas I feel prepared because I know things could always be worse. If they grow up anything like I did, your kids will grow up knowing how much you love them because they will see the sacrifices you made. And it will also make it easier for them to come to you later in life with their own problems. I talk to my mom constantly about money issues and my worries/anxieties. My husband doesn't go to his parents because he's embarrassed. Definitely just my opinion, but I think your kids will be okay
edit because of a PM I just got: things got better later in my life and I still knew my parents loved me. Even when i didn't see the sacrifices they made. So in no way am I saying that those well off don't have sacrifices. And of course their children still love them
Yes, the dog is a huge concern. People have been cruel about that too. It's just a dog, get rid of it if it means a roof over the kids heads. It's like, yes we're aware of that, but they also have no idea how attached the kids are to our dog. We've had this dog for almost 10 years. I haven't even been able to find a place that would temporarily take him if we were able to get into a shelter. If we hand him over it will be for good.
I had had a counselor who I saw once a week while still in Worcester and was also on medication to help cope with stress, but since we're not living there anymore I can no longer see her and I also had to wean off the medication I was on (due to the pregnancy) so you're very right, to say I'm stressed right now is an understatement! I really do appreciate all the kind words of support from everyone, people might not think it makes a difference but it actually does. So thank you for that everyone. And I really hope I'm not coming across as some sympathy seeker, that was NOT my intention at all. I try to keep my poor me, pity party moments to myself in private haha
"Eligible" by Curtis Sittenfeld
Description: What if "Pride and Prejudice" were set in Cincinnati? Sittenfeld provides a modern twist on the Jane Austen classic in this summer beach read. In her version, Elizabeth writes for a women's magazine and is tangled up with a married man, while her sister Jane is near 40 and seriously considering having a baby with a sperm donor. Throw in a dose of reality television, and the romance begins.
Others that interested me were:
Modern Lovers By Emma Straub
Rich and Pretty By Rumaan Alam
It's Okay to Laugh (Crying Is Cool, Too) By Nora McInerny Purmort
All The Missing Girls By Megan Miranda
Just some ideas! I have been itching for the past 2 weeks to start a new book...a F17 book club would be perfect!
I truly dislike this doctor. Very much. He will call you in after you have waited 5 hours and have a huge fake smile and talk like you are 4 years old. And never an apology for the wait, ever.
You don't come across as sympathy seeking at all. You mentioned a problem and were drawn out to tell us more because this bmb is awesome and everybody cares.
Feel free to take this as a very creepy statement (because it is! Bahahaha!) but I feel asleep last night thinking of you and your family and wishing there was something I could do to help. I truly believe your family will put this experience behind you and be stronger for it. Loves, mama.
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Big Bro 7/14/13
Little Bro 2/6/17
TTC since January 2016
BFP - 3/12/16 - MC 4/5/16
BFP - 6/11/16
Me: H, will you bake me an apple pie? You and DS can make it together and slice all the apples and make a pretty lattice on top and we'll have it with ice cream...
H: Can I just buy you an apple pie?
Me:
For anyone who cares...which is me...in case you couldn't guess.
TTC since January 2016
BFP - 3/12/16 - MC 4/5/16
BFP - 6/11/16
ME: 25, DH: 27
TTC #1 since 09/2015
Miscarriage @ 10 wks 02/28/2016
BFP 05/28/2016!
TTC since January 2016
BFP - 3/12/16 - MC 4/5/16
BFP - 6/11/16
ME: 25, DH: 27
TTC #1 since 09/2015
Miscarriage @ 10 wks 02/28/2016
BFP 05/28/2016!
TTC since January 2016
BFP - 3/12/16 - MC 4/5/16
BFP - 6/11/16
** December BMB Siggy Challenge - Animals in Pools **
Me: 31+ H: 32
TTC Since 11/2015
#1 - MMC 6.5 weeks (2/16); #2 - MC due to cystic hygroma at 20 weeks (10/16); #3 CP (2/17); #4 - Due 12.16.17
@Xstatic3333 I think any healthy relationship pushes you to grow, especially when you've barely cracked your twenties. I actually think that's the thing that made me like Logan the best, he supported Rory through her needing to find herself on her Yale break (which even her own mother couldn't support) and then when she came through the other side stood behind her so she could continue to pursue her dreams.
TTC since January 2016
BFP - 3/12/16 - MC 4/5/16
BFP - 6/11/16
Jack gained his wings on 09/02/2016.
Kali gained her wings on 07/28/2015.
They will be forever missed.
ME: 25, DH: 27
TTC #1 since 09/2015
Miscarriage @ 10 wks 02/28/2016
BFP 05/28/2016!
Blush64 and tentacular simply put, what you both said was awesome. I'm glad that seems to be the general consensus. I really really needed to hear that and tentacular I don't think it's creepy at all! Feels good to know there are people out there who care especially when the support just isn't there IRL.
I am 100% Team Logan. I can't stand Jess or the actor who plays him. I've literally Googled to see if he got any worst actor of the year awards.