@AnnaS930 I would rather get the implants! haha they totally re-arrange your breast and move your nipple and do all sorts of crazy things that could go wrong vs popping an implant through your armpit.
But yes to the push up bras! I wear one to give my ta-tas a better shape and loveeeee it.
Speaking of never nude, FI is borderline never nude. After our sexy time he like jumps back into his undies and I would rather be naked always, not like walking around but for lounging, cuddles, sleeping.
@AnnaS930 I'm trying to picture how you survived as a never-nude and 10 weeks of breastfeeding! ((crickets)) ok, just re-read that sentence...kinda awkward, but we're all friends here, right?! HAHA anyway! How was public breastfeeding for you?!
@AnnaS930 I would rather get the implants! haha they totally re-arrange your breast and move your nipple and do all sorts of crazy things that could go wrong vs popping an implant through your armpit.
But yes to the push up bras! I wear one to give my ta-tas a better shape and loveeeee it.
Speaking of never nude, FI is borderline never nude. After our sexy time he like jumps back into his undies and I would rather be naked always, not like walking around but for lounging, cuddles, sleeping.
I think my heartrate went up just reading that. Nope.. no no no no. No nudie lounging/cuddling/sleeping over here.. I'd be staring at the ceiling all night incredibly uncomfortable. Underwear, boxer shorts, and a tank top with a built in shelf-bra AT LEAST! These ta-tas never fly free. I get nudie at the last second for sexy time, and re-clothe before climbing out of bed to use the bathroom.
This makes me sound like a real prude.. I'm really not. I enjoy sporting some cleavage and wearing semi-revealing clothing when appropriate (out for date nights, etc) just not a naked-time kinda girl
@AnnaS930 I'm trying to picture how you survived as a never-nude and 10 weeks of breastfeeding! ((crickets)) ok, just re-read that sentence...kinda awkward, but we're all friends here, right?! HAHA anyway! How was public breastfeeding for you?!
Public breastfeeding did not occur for me. My baby was a December baby so we weren't out and about a ton in those first couple of months. If we were going to be out all day (family Christmas, etc), I'd pump in privacy and bottlefeed during those times. If we were scooting off to Target, we'd go right after nursing and I'd have a 3 hour window before getting home for the next feed.
I have nothing against other women publicly breastfeeding, but breastfeeding was never much of a positive experience for me so I chose not to do it out of the house. With visitors over, I'd go up to the nursery and feed him in privacy as well. With my husband home I'd breastfeed openly and it made me feel extremely negative to have my boobs hanging out all exposed and super unattractive. It was a real struggle for me, still not sure if I'll breastfeed this time or not, but will try and see how I feel mentally.
@AnnaS930 Noo you don't sound prude- some people just feel sexier/more comfortable with clothes on! My one friend REFUSES to take her bra off, like ever, because she just loves the way her body looks in her bra.
@AnnaS930 Noo you don't sound prude- some people just feel sexier/more comfortable with clothes on! My one friend REFUSES to take her bra off, like ever, because she just loves the way her body looks in her bra.
That's a really good point, and that's me. I feel really sexy in small amounts of clothing hahaha
@nativetexan512 I really liked nursing tank tops (I got mine from Target). Built in bra for support for sore boobs (plus would hold up nursing pads), looked 'dressed' enough that I could go out in them, but comfy enough that I could sleep in them too. For bottoms, while I was still bleeding, I preferred yoga-style shorts because they were comfy but supportive to hold in the whole pad mess you've got going on down there. It does not look pretty though and I'd put on regular shorts if we had company.
As for regular clothes, I actually found that I didn't like nursing bras and pulling aside the cup on my regular bra worked just fine for me. I like tops that stretched enough that I could pull down or buttoned up instead of dealing with layering or specific "nursing" shirts.
I second the Wonder Weeks app. Just when you think your kid is settling into a routine, they have a growth spurt, or hit a new development stage and you start all over again. My DD was pretty in line with the milestones on the wonder weeks, so I was at least prepared for when a change was coming and had somewhat of an explanation of why things suddenly changed.
And cluster feeding. There were days where she was attached to my boob for HOURS at a time. It didn't happen often, but I was so used to hearing the "babies eat every 2-3 hours" phrase that I was unprepared for the days where there were no breaks.
@Tippy05 we had the opposite experience with diapers. Started with huggies and luvs and ended up finding that the target brand fit best. I think it really depends on your baby's body type
On the topic of diapers, anyone have any experience with Babyganics diapers. I used and loved the rest of their products with my now 3yr old and plan on doing the same with this LO. The only thing I haven't tried are the diapers. Anyone with experience?
@Tippy05 we had the opposite experience with diapers. Started with huggies and luvs and ended up finding that the target brand fit best. I think it really depends on your baby's body type
Yep, body type. DD has a big ole ass. So big and so cute. But it made finding a good fitting diaper really hard!
@nativetexan512 I lived in camis and nursing bras. Mainly loose fitting gym shorts or yoga pants. If we went out of the house, I had to make sure whatever I was wearing had easy boob access!
@Megan324 I also like being naked all the time, even walking around. When it was just DH and I, I walked around naked constantly. Now we live with my inlaws so I obviously can't do that, but I still sleep naked every night. TMI?? Lol
@nativetexan512 I lived in tank tops and yoga pants/leggings. I had a c-section, so I had to get high rise underwear and continue wearing maternity leggings/pants for 3ish weeks.
Definitely yoga pants and tank tops with built in bras, sometimes nursing bras, sometimes not.. and usually a zip up sweatshirt or something easy to remove on top (was a December baby).
I second whoever said (in this thread or another) that she showered every day. I am a person who doesn't feel comfortable leaving the house without showering, even to go for a run/workout. So I made a point to shower every day and it really helped me feel like a put together human. Sometimes it was at 6am, sometimes not until 10 or 11am depending on when I could get little man to nap... but never missed a day. Interested to see how I'll orchestrate 2 children content enough for me to shower.
Definitely yoga pants and tank tops with built in bras, sometimes nursing bras, sometimes not.. and usually a zip up sweatshirt or something easy to remove on top (was a December baby).
I second whoever said (in this thread or another) that she showered every day. I am a person who doesn't feel comfortable leaving the house without showering, even to go for a run/workout. So I made a point to shower every day and it really helped me feel like a put together human. Sometimes it was at 6am, sometimes not until 10 or 11am depending on when I could get little man to nap... but never missed a day. Interested to see how I'll orchestrate 2 children content enough for me to shower.
Yes to yoga pants and tank tops with built in bras. As a c-section mama, I wore maternity yoga pants for a few weeks to avoid rubbing or irritating my incision and it was great!
I also need to shower daily to feel normal. What I will be cutting out, however, is the post shower routine. Right now, I blow dry my hair, straighten it and wear makeup everyday. After baby #3 gets here, I'll be clean and possibly lotioned up and that's about it. I'll wear my hair curly/wavy and will go sans makeup.
@Tippy05 - Definitely going to be going with natural hair (with this heat/humidity/acid reflux I can hardly blow dry as it is), but most days will take 30 seconds to swipe the mascara brush through my lashes.. like showering, it makes me feel alive. Oh! And DEFINITELY will take the few seconds to swipe on some deodorant.. MAN did I stink last time post-partum.
@AnnaS930 I was just thinking about that, how do you shower with 2 kids!? I may have to switch to baths.
I plan to shower every day as well because it did help me feel better postpartum. And the only way I can see getting it done with two kids is to do it at night when DH is home. Unless by some miracle they nap at the same time...
Or I could do it while McKenna is napping and put baby in the bouncer in the bathroom with me. But I feel like I could take a longer, more luxurious shower if DH is home, so that's the plan.
@camichael84 I'm hoping of doing the same thing. I cannot stand not showering every day, sometimes several times a day, so I'll try to do it either while DH is home before work or when he gets home at night. I'm thinking he'll also get some cuddles and daddy and me time while I try to relax and wash the day off.
@camichael84 - My thoughts are possibly showering before husband leaves for work if he is working a normal day, E usually is content in his crib until 7 or so. Otherwise I'd be waiting for Emmett's nap which is at noon, and baby will be in the bouncer/vibrating seat on the bathroom floor anyway, so shouldn't matter too much if asleep or not.
Also, I will say this - for the FTMs. If you really need to have a moment to yourself, and baby is crying and you're at the point where you think you might snap (might sound unlikely now.. but never say never), I highly suggest putting baby in a safe place (crib/bouncy seat/etc) and taking a quick 5 minute shower. Of course, you want to make sure baby isn't crying for a specific reason before doing this (hungry, pooped, in pain, etc) but sometimes it's really best for baby and yourself to give yourself a minute. A hot shower that drowns out some of the crying can be really magical and give you the reset you need to address crying baby with a level head.
@camichael84 - My thoughts are possibly showering before husband leaves for work if he is working a normal day, E usually is content in his crib until 7 or so. Otherwise I'd be waiting for Emmett's nap which is at noon, and baby will be in the bouncer/vibrating seat on the bathroom floor anyway, so shouldn't matter too much if asleep or not.
Also, I will say this - for the FTMs. If you really need to have a moment to yourself, and baby is crying and you're at the point where you think you might snap (might sound unlikely now.. but never say never), I highly suggest putting baby in a safe place (crib/bouncy seat/etc) and taking a quick 5 minute shower. Of course, you want to make sure baby isn't crying for a specific reason before doing this (hungry, pooped, in pain, etc) but sometimes it's really best for baby and yourself to give yourself a minute. A hot shower that drowns out some of the crying can be really magical and give you the reset you need to address crying baby with a level head.
THIS. I'm a FTM, but I've kept this in mind because sometimes you just need to walk away.
Also, in general: when baby is crying hysterically & cannot be comforted, be sure to give her a head-to-toe exam. I've heard this from other BTDT moms, and you can read the reasoning via Scary Mommy. Doesn't hurt to double check!
@ElcaB - any time Emmett's cry sounded different than his usual I would (and still would if he was to have a fit) strip him immediately and look for anything wrong... especially what that article points out. I've never seen a hair wrapped around a baby body part but it's in the back of my mind all the time. First check is his penis, then his toes.. every. single. time.
@camichael84 beautiful, perfect Camichael, why did I think I had to shower in the morning? I will be on maternity leave, I can shower when I want! Perfect idea when DD naps.
(I hope you get the parks and rec reference and don't think I'm just being creepy. I *am* just being creepy, but also, parks and rec)
I know that as a FTM I just have to kind of "figure things out" but I must say, I really love this thread to just get some ideas flowing!
It also makes me laugh because DH is a very, very research and "strategy" oriented person. When we were setting up our registry, he literally had to research every single item (yes, down to the baby nail clippers) to see what was the BEST option for each one. So he's adamant that we use this certain brand of diapers...and while I admire his commitment to wanting the best, it just makes me giggle on the inside knowing that especially in that realm, all of his research could very well be a moot point! Hopefully he'll be a bit more flexible if we end up dealing with blowouts and poosplosions on the reg.
So if anyone feels like answering these for me that would be helpful. They are for my birthing class on Sunday and I don't have any friends who have kids to ask. We're covering the early weeks and newborn care and I think we are surveying to get a sense of how long we'll spend doing baby care each day in the newborn stage. Thank you to anyone who answers!
How many times in 24 hours did your baby need to eat? How many minutes was the average feeding? How many diaper changes in 24 hours? How many minutes was the average diaper change? How many times a day did you change the baby's clothes? How many minutes did each clothing change take?
@pdxmamatobe I can't remember all of these but I'm trying my best. I'm assuming you were referring to in the first couple weeks, because these vary as the child grows and changes.
How many times in 24 hours did your baby need to eat? I'd say 8-10 How many minutes was the average feeding? If we are talking strictly about the first 2 weeks of life, it took 20-40 minutes then How many diaper changes in 24 hours? 8-12 How many minutes was the average diaper change? 1 How many times a day did you change the baby's clothes? 3-4 How many minutes did each clothing change take? 2
So if anyone feels like answering these for me that would be helpful. They are for my birthing class on Sunday and I don't have any friends who have kids to ask. We're covering the early weeks and newborn care and I think we are surveying to get a sense of how long we'll spend doing baby care each day in the newborn stage. Thank you to anyone who answers!
How many times in 24 hours did your baby need to eat? gosh...I would say 10-12 in the first couple of weeks.
How many minutes was the average feeding? 5-10, I have very forceful letdown
How many diaper changes in 24 hours? probably the same as feedings, 10-12
How many minutes was the average diaper change? 1-2
How many times a day did you change the baby's clothes? maybe 1 if she blew out her diaper. I didn't change her or myself for spit up because it happens too often.
How many minutes did each clothing change take? 1-2
How many times in 24 hours did your baby need to eat? Around 9 How many minutes was the average feeding? 30 How many diaper changes in 24 hours? 10 How many minutes was the average diaper change? 3 How many times a day did you change the baby's clothes? 3 How many minutes did each clothing change take? 5
So if anyone feels like answering these for me that would be helpful. They are for my birthing class on Sunday and I don't have any friends who have kids to ask. We're covering the early weeks and newborn care and I think we are surveying to get a sense of how long we'll spend doing baby care each day in the newborn stage. Thank you to anyone who answers!
How many times in 24 hours did your baby need to eat? How many minutes was the average feeding? How many diaper changes in 24 hours? How many minutes was the average diaper change? How many times a day did you change the baby's clothes? How many minutes did each clothing change take?
Cant remember exactly, so I'll guesstimate. eating- 10-12 times, but each time took about an hour because I struggled to breastfeed. It took 95% of my waking time.
diaper changes: about 10/day. Average diaper change 3 minutes
change of clothes: 3-4. Usually akes 3-5 minutes depending on how long it takes you to pick out an outfit and potentially also change a diaper.
How many times in 24 hours did your baby need to eat? 8-10 times How many minutes was the average feeding? 30 minutes How many diaper changes in 24 hours? 8-10? How many minutes was the average diaper change? 2 minutes How many times a day did you change the baby's clothes? A lot. Probably 4-6, but she was a spitter to the max. At the beginning I had a load a day of laundry that was only hers. How many minutes did each clothing change take? 4-5 minutes? Idk, but I knew I felt like I didn't have a clue as to how to change her!
How many times in 24 hours did your baby need to eat? 8-10 times
How many minutes was the average feeding? 20-30 minutes
How many diaper changes in 24 hours? 8-10. We did then before feedings unless there was a poop.
How many minutes was the average diaper change? 1-2 unless it was a poop diaper. Those typically took longer because we'd think she was done then we'd open the diaper and she'd start shooting poop across the room.
How many times a day did you change the baby's clothes? 2-3 times
How many minutes did each clothing change take? 1-3 minutes.
We received a Boppy Luxe pillow off our registry - and while both the cover and pillow are machine washable, neither are waterproof. I found a separate Boppy water resistant cover - necessary to buy, yes?? And if so, would this go in between the pillow and the luxe cover?? Also, did you lug this thing to the hospital when delivering?
@frogdog06 I didn't personally take my boppy. I didn't want to deal with something so bulky. I found that it was easier for me to just hold DD where I wanted her for nursing, but we had a somewhat difficult time getting the hang of it. I didn't use it until she was a little older and had the latch/process down.
Re: Ask a BTDT: Newborn 101
But yes to the push up bras! I wear one to give my ta-tas a better shape and loveeeee it.
Speaking of never nude, FI is borderline never nude. After our sexy time he like jumps back into his undies and I would rather be naked always, not like walking around but for lounging, cuddles, sleeping.
This makes me sound like a real prude.. I'm really not. I enjoy sporting some cleavage and wearing semi-revealing clothing when appropriate (out for date nights, etc) just not a naked-time kinda girl
I have nothing against other women publicly breastfeeding, but breastfeeding was never much of a positive experience for me so I chose not to do it out of the house. With visitors over, I'd go up to the nursery and feed him in privacy as well. With my husband home I'd breastfeed openly and it made me feel extremely negative to have my boobs hanging out all exposed and super unattractive. It was a real struggle for me, still not sure if I'll breastfeed this time or not, but will try and see how I feel mentally.
My one friend REFUSES to take her bra off, like ever, because she just loves the way her body looks in her bra.
I am slowly reading through the thread, apologies if this has been asked -
What did you wear for the first few weeks at home? Any tips on clothes that are comfortable during recovery and easy to nurse in?
As for regular clothes, I actually found that I didn't like nursing bras and pulling aside the cup on my regular bra worked just fine for me. I like tops that stretched enough that I could pull down or buttoned up instead of dealing with layering or specific "nursing" shirts.
And cluster feeding. There were days where she was attached to my boob for HOURS at a time. It didn't happen often, but I was so used to hearing the "babies eat every 2-3 hours" phrase that I was unprepared for the days where there were no breaks.
@nativetexan512 I lived in tank tops and yoga pants/leggings. I had a c-section, so I had to get high rise underwear and continue wearing maternity leggings/pants for 3ish weeks.
I second whoever said (in this thread or another) that she showered every day. I am a person who doesn't feel comfortable leaving the house without showering, even to go for a run/workout. So I made a point to shower every day and it really helped me feel like a put together human. Sometimes it was at 6am, sometimes not until 10 or 11am depending on when I could get little man to nap... but never missed a day. Interested to see how I'll orchestrate 2 children content enough for me to shower.
I also need to shower daily to feel normal. What I will be cutting out, however, is the post shower routine. Right now, I blow dry my hair, straighten it and wear makeup everyday. After baby #3 gets here, I'll be clean and possibly lotioned up and that's about it. I'll wear my hair curly/wavy and will go sans makeup.
Or I could do it while McKenna is napping and put baby in the bouncer in the bathroom with me. But I feel like I could take a longer, more luxurious shower if DH is home, so that's the plan.
Also, I will say this - for the FTMs. If you really need to have a moment to yourself, and baby is crying and you're at the point where you think you might snap (might sound unlikely now.. but never say never), I highly suggest putting baby in a safe place (crib/bouncy seat/etc) and taking a quick 5 minute shower. Of course, you want to make sure baby isn't crying for a specific reason before doing this (hungry, pooped, in pain, etc) but sometimes it's really best for baby and yourself to give yourself a minute. A hot shower that drowns out some of the crying can be really magical and give you the reset you need to address crying baby with a level head.
Also, in general: when baby is crying hysterically & cannot be comforted, be sure to give her a head-to-toe exam. I've heard this from other BTDT moms, and you can read the reasoning via Scary Mommy. Doesn't hurt to double check!
(I hope you get the parks and rec reference and don't think I'm just being creepy. I *am* just being creepy, but also, parks and rec)
It also makes me laugh because DH is a very, very research and "strategy" oriented person. When we were setting up our registry, he literally had to research every single item (yes, down to the baby nail clippers) to see what was the BEST option for each one. So he's adamant that we use this certain brand of diapers...and while I admire his commitment to wanting the best, it just makes me giggle on the inside knowing that especially in that realm, all of his research could very well be a moot point! Hopefully he'll be a bit more flexible if we end up dealing with blowouts and poosplosions on the reg.
How many times in 24 hours did your baby need to eat?
How many minutes was the average feeding?
How many diaper changes in 24 hours?
How many minutes was the average diaper change?
How many times a day did you change the baby's clothes?
How many minutes did each clothing change take?
How many times in 24 hours did your baby need to eat? I'd say 8-10
How many minutes was the average feeding? If we are talking strictly about the first 2 weeks of life, it took 20-40 minutes then
How many diaper changes in 24 hours? 8-12
How many minutes was the average diaper change? 1
How many times a day did you change the baby's clothes? 3-4
How many minutes did each clothing change take? 2
How many times in 24 hours did your baby need to eat? Around 9
How many minutes was the average feeding? 30
How many diaper changes in 24 hours? 10
How many minutes was the average diaper change? 3
How many times a day did you change the baby's clothes? 3
How many minutes did each clothing change take? 5
eating- 10-12 times, but each time took about an hour because I struggled to breastfeed. It took 95% of my waking time.
diaper changes: about 10/day. Average diaper change 3 minutes
change of clothes: 3-4. Usually akes 3-5 minutes depending on how long it takes you to pick out an outfit and potentially also change a diaper.
How many minutes was the average feeding? 30 minutes
How many diaper changes in 24 hours? 8-10?
How many minutes was the average diaper change? 2 minutes
How many times a day did you change the baby's clothes? A lot. Probably 4-6, but she was a spitter to the max. At the beginning I had a load a day of laundry that was only hers.
How many minutes did each clothing change take? 4-5 minutes? Idk, but I knew I felt like I didn't have a clue as to how to change her!
How many minutes was the average feeding? 30-45 minutes
How many diaper changes in 24 hours? 10-12 (maybe every two hours?)
How many minutes was the average diaper change? 1-2 minutes. They're quick until they learn to roll, then it's like wrestling an alligator.
How many times a day did you change the baby's clothes? 1-2. She fortunately didn't spit up much so it was only when she had a diaper blowout.
How many minutes did each clothing change take? 3-4 minutes. Again, quick until they learn to roll.
How many minutes was the average feeding?
20-30 minutes
How many diaper changes in 24 hours?
8-10. We did then before feedings unless there was a poop.
How many minutes was the average diaper change? 1-2 unless it was a poop diaper. Those typically took longer because we'd think she was done then we'd open the diaper and she'd start shooting poop across the room.
How many times a day did you change the baby's clothes? 2-3 times
How many minutes did each clothing change take? 1-3 minutes.
Also, did you lug this thing to the hospital when delivering?