I'm new here... After over a year of TTC and in the middle of tests and appointments for infertility, we finally got a BFP. Last week, the miscarraige started. At this point, I think I appear mostly normal, but when my thoughts wander or something reminds me, I start crying out of the blue. I don't usually watch TV or movies (we don't even have cable or whatever it is you need nowadays to watch TV, but I do read a lot. The problem is, my books aren't distracting enough and my mind wanders, so I've been looking for movies to distract me. So, what have you seen lately, and is it trigger-free? Do you have any recommendations? Here's my list from the past few days:
Good:
-Spotlight (well made, interesting enough to really keep my attention, no pregnancies or lost children)
Bad:
-The Witch (dying and lost children, grieving mother)
-Birdman (woman thought she was pregnant, then not. Said something like "I'm so ready to be a mom, but my body isn't cooperating". Yeah, tell me about it)
Re: Movie for distraction
I know this time is incredibly hard. I suggest just taking the time you need to just let yourself grieve, and focus on taking care of yourself. We're all here for you. Hang in there! ::hugs::
The last movie I watched was an Israeli movie called Zero Motivation, about girls in the army (also Netflix). I do not think there was any pregnancy stuff, although other trigger warning required (suicide, attempted sexual assault).
/loss mentioned/
TTC#1 July 2014
dx: MFI (morphology)
IUI #1 w/Clomid + Ovidrel Sept. 2015 ~ BFN
IUI #2 w/Clomid + Ovidrel Halloween 2015 ~ BFN
IUI #3 w/Clomid + Ovidrel Thanksgiving 2015 ~ BFP!!
hb 146 bpm at 7w5d
1/28/16 ~ began to say goodbye to our beautiful baby at 11w
d&c, followed by cytotec
TTCAL April 2016
IUI #4 w/Clomid + Ovidrel Apr. 2016 ~ BFN
IUI #5 w/Clomid + Ovidrel ~ CP
IUI#6 w/Clomid + Ovidrel ~ BFN
I'm really sorry for your loss. Sending hugs. I totally get needing the distraction. I watched a lot of random documentaries after my losses as well, most of which were quite boring.
I can't think of a good movie to watch, but will keep my eye out. However, in the last couple months I have watched some that have resulted in many hormone driven tears and would suggest you don't watch them!
The giver, Me before you, How to be single, finding dory ( I cried during 1 part when I took my three year old niece to see it), one day.
Also started crying watching some of the Glades and bones episodes where children were involved, but you never know till already watching them.
Sorry for your loss.
CP 1/25/16 4.5 weeks, developed Graves' disease
TW: Loss
@mjolk that's good to know because I was actually wanting to see the secret life of pets...
@kirstynikole, I don't need anything new, I'm not a big movie watcher (prior to this experience, I could probably count on one hand all the movies I'd seen in the past 5 years. I might need 2 hands if we go back 10 years). So even older suggestions are helpful!
Bridget Jones
Love Actually
Pitch perfect
The holiday (Jude law has 2 young daughters who i think we see twice)
school of rock
10 things i hate about you (The dads an OBGYN so a few mentions and he makes his daughter wear a pregnant belly before she goes to a party)
Some movies i've stumbled across recently that i found upsetting were:
Regression (some graphic discussion and flashbacks to sexual abuse and pregnancy/ abortion and sacrifice)
Ted 2 (I didn't read the description so my own fault but it's about them trying to get a baby)
Hope that this helps someone!
I'm with you in that I hardly ever watch tv or movies... I still barely watched any despite being on almost 2 months of bedrest!
(trigger warning: one office person they discuss as being pregnant/overweight in it)