Pretty sure next year I'm going to beg DH to go out of town for the 4th of July. Our new neighbors - the next door neighbors, plus several other houses surrounding us - decided to set off fireworks way longer than was necessary. I was expecting some but I was thinking they'd be over by 10 or so... nope, still going strong at midnight. Miraculously, they only woke DD once. Our neighborhood is not very firework friendly, either; the houses are practically on top of each other and there are lots of trees. I know it was the 4th of July, but what happened to safety first, or consideration for neighbors who have work in the morning and little kids? Guess being a mom has made me into a 4th of July scrooge.
My in-laws are staying with us (for ELEVEN DAYS!). It is day 3 and I am done with them. My MIL commented twice within 10 minutes of getting off the plane "are you sure it's not twins! haha" Yes. You've seen the ultrasound pictures. Instead of any of the fun activities we suggested, all they have wanted to do so far is go to Costco (they have Costco at home so this isn't a special treat or anything), and sit around my house and make a mess. I have never been so happy to go to work as I was this morning.
My in-laws are staying with us (for ELEVEN DAYS!). It is day 3 and I am done with them. My MIL commented twice within 10 minutes of getting off the plane "are you sure it's not twins! haha" Yes. You've seen the ultrasound pictures. Instead of any of the fun activities we suggested, all they have wanted to do so far is go to Costco (they have Costco at home so this isn't a special treat or anything), and sit around my house and make a mess. I have never been so happy to go to work as I was this morning.
Good luck. Visiting in-laws can be rough. MIL and SIL came this weekend and SIL thought it would be funny to try to trick me into thinking DD was missing while we were at the children's museum (DH had just taken her for a diaper change), then when I told her that her "joke" wasn't funny, or ever a subject that it's ok to joke about, she pouted for the rest of the day. Thank God they're gone now.
@karaelaine1991, OMG! How did you keep your cool? This day in age that is not something to "joke" about, ever!
I know! I went to the bathroom and we had been talking about DD possibly needing a diaper change but she was eating lunch so I just went by myself and then when I got back, she and DH were gone, so I said, "Oh, did he take her for a diaper change?" She responded by saying in a completely serious tone, "Oh, we thought she was with you." Only took me a second to realize she was joking, but that that is not something under any circumstances that you joke about, ESPECIALLY in a public, crowded place like a museum. But, you know, I have no sense of humor, so I'm a huge bitch. Ugh. Good riddance!
We went camping over the 4th of July weekend and I had bought some special donuts you can only find in the area. When we were getting ready to go to bed I made sure the donuts were put away in the car as our camp site had a lot of cute chipmunks running around and I didn't want them getting into the donuts. Well low and behold my husband takes the donuts out of the car (WHHHHYYYY??????? Still wondering why this even happened) and he left them out. And sure enough, when we woke up in the morning the chipmunks and gotten into the package and eaten some of the donuts and we had to throw them away. I was so mad at him for doing that, like seriously? Why did he take the donuts out of the car??
I can't complain too much about him though because I ended up getting a cold this weekend and he has been the most patient and caring man. I can't really ask any more from him because he has gone above and beyond so I GUESS I will let this one slide...
@karaelaine1991 I would have ripped her a new one. No, seriously. Especially as ragey as I've been feeling lately, I probably would have slapped her across the face. There would have been a huge, huge problem. I can't believe she thought that was funny. That's borderline sick. @sagoon I don't envy you. I hope the time passes quickly. I weep bitterly when I have to be around my MIL for a day, but ELEVEN?! When my daughter was born my MIL stayed with us for a week. I didn't want her to stay and "help" me, but I was too concerned about hurting her feelings so I told her "sure, yeah, come stay." Uuugghhhh. Dealing with postpartum exhaustion and hormones, in addition to her? It was HELL. Because of her, the memories of the early weeks of my daughter's life are painful to even think of. This time around, I have zero qualms about speaking up. If she offers to stay again, I will respond with a loud and clear "NO, THANKS ANYWAY!"
@karaelaine1991 I would have ripped her a new one. No, seriously. Especially as ragey as I've been feeling lately, I probably would have slapped her across the face. There would have been a huge, huge problem. I can't believe she thought that was funny. That's borderline sick. @sagoon I don't envy you. I hope the time passes quickly. I weep bitterly when I have to be around my MIL for a day, but ELEVEN?! When my daughter was born my MIL stayed with us for a week. I didn't want her to stay and "help" me, but I was too concerned about hurting her feelings so I told her "sure, yeah, come stay." Uuugghhhh. Dealing with postpartum exhaustion and hormones, in addition to her? It was HELL. Because of her, the memories of the early weeks of my daughter's life are painful to even think of. This time around, I have zero qualms about speaking up. If she offers to stay again, I will respond with a loud and clear "NO, THANKS ANYWAY!"
Yeah, I think my exact words were, "That's not funny at all. You don't joke about that," and then I walked away to throw out our trash. I'm pretty proud of myself for not flipping but I'm sure it was clear from my tone that I was not happy at all haha
@karaelaine1991 OMG that is not at all funny. I assume she doesn't have children of her own? I can't imagine someone with kids doing that. I've had those moments when I lose sight of my son in a crowded place and it is the worst feeling ever.
@karaelaine1991 OMG that is not at all funny. I assume she doesn't have children of her own? I can't imagine someone with kids doing that. I've had those moments when I lose sight of my son in a crowded place and it is the worst feeling ever.
Yeah, no kids yet, which explains it, but I'm just so stunned that she'd even go there. The only possible humor she could've gotten from it would've been from me freaking out with worry and that shouldn't be funny. No apology either...
@karaelaine1991 Whaaaaat. How old is your SIL? Joke or not, that's a really immature stunt to pull, and especially to be pouty about it after you explain how serious it is to say something like that.
@karaelaine1991 Whaaaaat. How old is your SIL? Joke or not, that's a really immature stunt to pull, and especially to be pouty about it after you explain how serious it is to say something like that.
She is 21 but clearly very immature, which I knew well before this. There is also an attitude among my in-laws that she can do no wrong which exacerbates the problem.
@karaelaine1991 kudos to you for keeping your cool! Glad she pouted all day. She should feel stupid for doing that! The nerve of some people!
She should! She also decided to skip her cousin's bridal shower the next day because it would've meant riding in my van for 3 hours both ways - I still went with my 13 month old DD by myself and had a wonderful time, LOVE the cousins and aunts on that side of my in-laws' family! - and then at the family 4th of July party the day after that (other side of the in-laws' family), my BIL's wife asked her how the shower was because she had to miss it, and SIL lied, specifically mentioned that she got a ride with me, and said she had a great time.
@karaelaine1991 kudos to you for keeping your cool! Glad she pouted all day. She should feel stupid for doing that! The nerve of some people!
She should! She also decided to skip her cousin's bridal shower the next day because it would've meant riding in my van for 3 hours both ways - I still went with my 13 month old DD by myself and had a wonderful time, LOVE the cousins and aunts on that side of my in-laws' family! - and then at the family 4th of July party the day after that (other side of the in-laws' family), my BIL's wife asked her how the shower was because she had to miss it, and SIL lied, specifically mentioned that she got a ride with me, and said she had a great time.
Girl. Is. Crazy.
Wow! Sounds like she's eventually going to receive a slap of reality in the face soon and not know how to handle it! Yikes! I don't get what is "up" with the younger generations.
My youngest BIL is also 21 and he is ridiculously immature. Still lives at home, no job or intentions of getting one, signs up for community college classes then drops them before the full refund deadline to appease his parents and says he'll come over for family get togethers at our house--I'll plan on him, buy enough food for him, rearrange the dates or times for him and he still won't show! My other BIL is 29 and is basically the same but has a job and lives with roommates. Frustrating to me because my only brother/sibling passed away two years ago and my son (and future child) were robbed of an amazing Uncle. So my son sees his only "uncles" about twice a year and we live in the same city. I put my foot down though. I didn't get the older one a birthday gift this year except for a nice card. The younger one got a gas card for his. Big deal because they've always received excellent heartfelt gifts from us. And I've stopped being nice with my invites. I literally told them, "if you don't have intentions of coming please don't say you will". My MIL is pretty upset with me but I don't care. Last get together, our second child announcement get together mind you, I had $25 worth of grilled steak sitting on a platter. We were eating steak sammies, steak pasta and just steak for several days. While this might be great for some, not so much when you're suffering from severe MS and it sounds/tastes horrible.
@karaelaine1991 kudos to you for keeping your cool! Glad she pouted all day. She should feel stupid for doing that! The nerve of some people!
She should! She also decided to skip her cousin's bridal shower the next day because it would've meant riding in my van for 3 hours both ways - I still went with my 13 month old DD by myself and had a wonderful time, LOVE the cousins and aunts on that side of my in-laws' family! - and then at the family 4th of July party the day after that (other side of the in-laws' family), my BIL's wife asked her how the shower was because she had to miss it, and SIL lied, specifically mentioned that she got a ride with me, and said she had a great time.
Girl. Is. Crazy.
Wow! Sounds like she's eventually going to receive a slap of reality in the face soon and not know how to handle it! Yikes! I don't get what is "up" with the younger generations.
My youngest BIL is also 21 and he is ridiculously immature. Still lives at home, no job or intentions of getting one, signs up for community college classes then drops them before the full refund deadline to appease his parents and says he'll come over for family get togethers at our house--I'll plan on him, buy enough food for him, rearrange the dates or times for him and he still won't show! My other BIL is 29 and is basically the same but has a job and lives with roommates. Frustrating to me because my only brother/sibling passed away two years ago and my son (and future child) were robbed of an amazing Uncle. So my son sees his only "uncles" about twice a year and we live in the same city. I put my foot down though. I didn't get the older one a birthday gift this year except for a nice card. The younger one got a gas card for his. Big deal because they've always received excellent heartfelt gifts from us. And I've stopped being nice with my invites. I literally told them, "if you don't have intentions of coming please don't say you will". My MIL is pretty upset with me but I don't care. Last get together, our second child announcement get together mind you, I had $25 worth of grilled steak sitting on a platter. We were eating steak sammies, steak pasta and just steak for several days. While this might be great for some, not so much when you're suffering from severe MS and it sounds/tastes horrible.
I'm so sorry for the loss of your brother, and that your BILs are struggling to grow up. My SIL and younger BIL are similar. My older BIL and his wife are wonderful; they're actually DD's godparents and we spend much more time with them than we do with the others because they're so much more pleasant to be around. It can be uncomfortable, though, because my family has very little drama and one of my sisters is SIL's age and one of my brother's is younger BIL's age, and neither of them pull any of the stunts that those two do. Last year, my younger BIL,who was 18 at the time, bought a brand new car knowing full well he was on a probationary period at his job. When DH refused to cosign to help him get a better interest rate, he freaked and accused DH of not caring about family. Lo and behold, he lost the job because they drug tested him and he failed, plus he's super lazy, and then he was left with a $400/month car payment and no job. Thank God we didn't cosign!
DH has accused me on multiple occasions of disliking his family or treating them differently from my own... I try really, really hard to bite my tongue and treat them as equals, but at the same time, if my siblings or parents acted like they do, I would call them on it and there would be consequences of some sort. So far there hardly ever are where his family is concerned. And frankly, it's infuriating.
Random question.... I wonder why it is that, in general, in-laws suck. I know there are plenty of wonderful in-laws out there, but I tend to hear A LOT about how awful people's in-laws are. I know my in-laws suck. Especially MIL.
Random question.... I wonder why it is that, in general, in-laws suck. I know there are plenty of wonderful in-laws out there, but I tend to hear A LOT about how awful people's in-laws are. I know my in-laws suck. Especially MIL.
Eta my comment didn't save, ugh. Basically, my opinion is that different families are different and sometimes the differences don't mesh well. That is definitely the problem in my case.
Mobile bump question- do tags not work with mobile? I can tag other people but I never get a notification when someone tags me. Am I missing something?
Totally random thing that has been bugging me for like 2weeks. DH moved the bath rug and it's not squared off with either of the 2 walls/tub etc. Everytime I go to the bathroom I stare at it and it bugs me but I'm too lazy to bend over and fix it lol
@karaelaine1991 kudos to you for keeping your cool! Glad she pouted all day. She should feel stupid for doing that! The nerve of some people!
She should! She also decided to skip her cousin's bridal shower the next day because it would've meant riding in my van for 3 hours both ways - I still went with my 13 month old DD by myself and had a wonderful time, LOVE the cousins and aunts on that side of my in-laws' family! - and then at the family 4th of July party the day after that (other side of the in-laws' family), my BIL's wife asked her how the shower was because she had to miss it, and SIL lied, specifically mentioned that she got a ride with me, and said she had a great time.
Girl. Is. Crazy.
Wow! Sounds like she's eventually going to receive a slap of reality in the face soon and not know how to handle it! Yikes! I don't get what is "up" with the younger generations.
My youngest BIL is also 21 and he is ridiculously immature. Still lives at home, no job or intentions of getting one, signs up for community college classes then drops them before the full refund deadline to appease his parents and says he'll come over for family get togethers at our house--I'll plan on him, buy enough food for him, rearrange the dates or times for him and he still won't show! My other BIL is 29 and is basically the same but has a job and lives with roommates. Frustrating to me because my only brother/sibling passed away two years ago and my son (and future child) were robbed of an amazing Uncle. So my son sees his only "uncles" about twice a year and we live in the same city. I put my foot down though. I didn't get the older one a birthday gift this year except for a nice card. The younger one got a gas card for his. Big deal because they've always received excellent heartfelt gifts from us. And I've stopped being nice with my invites. I literally told them, "if you don't have intentions of coming please don't say you will". My MIL is pretty upset with me but I don't care. Last get together, our second child announcement get together mind you, I had $25 worth of grilled steak sitting on a platter. We were eating steak sammies, steak pasta and just steak for several days. While this might be great for some, not so much when you're suffering from severe MS and it sounds/tastes horrible.
I'm so sorry for the loss of your brother, and that your BILs are struggling to grow up. My SIL and younger BIL are similar. My older BIL and his wife are wonderful; they're actually DD's godparents and we spend much more time with them than we do with the others because they're so much more pleasant to be around. It can be uncomfortable, though, because my family has very little drama and one of my sisters is SIL's age and one of my brother's is younger BIL's age, and neither of them pull any of the stunts that those two do. Last year, my younger BIL,who was 18 at the time, bought a brand new car knowing full well he was on a probationary period at his job. When DH refused to cosign to help him get a better interest rate, he freaked and accused DH of not caring about family. Lo and behold, he lost the job because they drug tested him and he failed, plus he's super lazy, and then he was left with a $400/month car payment and no job. Thank God we didn't cosign!
DH has accused me on multiple occasions of disliking his family or treating them differently from my own... I try really, really hard to bite my tongue and treat them as equals, but at the same time, if my siblings or parents acted like they do, I would call them on it and there would be consequences of some sort. So far there hardly ever are where his family is concerned. And frankly, it's infuriating.
Thank you, still grieving and hard to wrap my head around that he'll never hold this child but I feel his presence and know my kids have an awesome guardian Angel.
My Dad always told me growing up never loan money to family. My youngest BIL talked about moving in with us possibly and I told him he'd have to pay rent and keep a job. That was the end of that discussion! LOL I'm fortunate in that my hubby sees his family's actions and in-actions (finally) and we agree on a lot of things.
@jlea05 I don't know but I think there's a rule or something. I used to love my eventual MIL when my hubby and I first started dating...then she realized I was sticking around and the mask came off. She's very passive aggressive and I'm a very up front person so we don't mesh 100% except when we're both drinking! Lol Luckily, my FIL is awesome and rolls his eyes behind her a lot so I try to let my "issues" with her go. My family is so loving, accepting and fun that it was really hard for me to go to his house at first and boggled my mind they didn't eat family dinners together or do anything together. Not to say my family doesn't have issues! Hehehe! We'd get high ratings if we were a reality TV show! I agree with @karaelaine1991 that families are just different. Some are just REALLY different.
Sorry for the length. I once again cannot get to sleep! Ugh!
The saga continues... DH asked his sister and mom to apologize to me (his mom because she knew SIL was going to play the "joke" and did nothing) and not only did they refuse, I'm "overly sensitive" and am similar to DH's dad. Coming from MIL,this is just about the worst insult out there. Guess I know how they really feel about me now...
@karaelaine1991 they're dicks. I'm so sorry but fuck 'em, don't let them get to you! (She's probably just overcompensating because she realized that it was awful but god forbid golden child SIL do anything wrong- she won't admit it. That's exactly how my mom is with my sociopath brother)
@karaelaine1991 they're dicks. I'm so sorry but fuck 'em, don't let them get to you! (She's probably just overcompensating because she realized that it was awful but god forbid golden child SIL do anything wrong- she won't admit it. That's exactly how my mom is with my sociopath brother)
Ditto what TinaBelcher says above! This is a time where your hubby needs to continue to stand up for you and I'm glad he already has!!! No mother should have to endure the panic, even if for a second, of someone taking her child! Overly sensitive my ass!
Thanks @TinaBelcher and @BrennansMom2012! You're right, I'm so grateful DH is sticking up for me, especially since he's super non confrontational and I know it took a lot for him to do it. I told my mom and she was like, "well in addition to being mean that's just really stupid of them... if she wants to see her granddaughter, she has to be nice to her daughter-in-law!" Which is so true - I was the one bringing her to see them 90% of the time. That's not happening anymore.
So I'm gathering from that other thread that a bunch of ppl don't read this because they just want answers and don't care to build relationships here.... Wanna turn our beds into bunk beds?
I don't think people don't want to build relationships, I just think some go about it different ways. It's hard to stay on top of the random stuff thread :-) but yes there are many that just want to get an answer and leave :-/
@juliebird6 I definitely think so. Depending on the brand, I bounce between a large, xL, or 1x (rarely). I consider XL to be my normal size and what I've bought so far seems to be spot on.
So I'm gathering from that other thread that a bunch of ppl don't read this because they just want answers and don't care to build relationships here.... Wanna turn our beds into bunk beds?
Right now PinkBlush is having some technical difficulties when it comes to check out time, but I'm supposed to get a phone call when it comes back up and I'll post here.
I'm SO envious of all you US residents when it comes to online maternity shopping. You do not realize the level of access you have, trust. In Canada, there are fewer big stores, and fewer brands available. I tried to shop at a US site for maternity wear recently, and they were very happy to let me ship to Canada... for a $75 shipping charge. Ugh.
Hey hey hey girls! I am here to build relationships. I have some good friends from my first bmb. I only bump mobile, so it isn't terribly conducive to tagging and quoting...plus I don't have enough time to read through it all, don't get notifications, and then I feel left out.
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Jan17 Sept Sig: Pumpkin Spice gone too far
I can't complain too much about him though because I ended up getting a cold this weekend and he has been the most patient and caring man. I can't really ask any more from him because he has gone above and beyond so I GUESS I will let this one slide...
@sagoon I don't envy you. I hope the time passes quickly. I weep bitterly when I have to be around my MIL for a day, but ELEVEN?! When my daughter was born my MIL stayed with us for a week. I didn't want her to stay and "help" me, but I was too concerned about hurting her feelings so I told her "sure, yeah, come stay." Uuugghhhh. Dealing with postpartum exhaustion and hormones, in addition to her? It was HELL. Because of her, the memories of the early weeks of my daughter's life are painful to even think of. This time around, I have zero qualms about speaking up. If she offers to stay again, I will respond with a loud and clear "NO, THANKS ANYWAY!"
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DS1 - 03/31/2006
DS2 - 12/31/2008
DS3 - 06/26/2012
DS4 - 08/07/2014
Girl. Is. Crazy.
My youngest BIL is also 21 and he is ridiculously immature. Still lives at home, no job or intentions of getting one, signs up for community college classes then drops them before the full refund deadline to appease his parents and says he'll come over for family get togethers at our house--I'll plan on him, buy enough food for him, rearrange the dates or times for him and he still won't show! My other BIL is 29 and is basically the same but has a job and lives with roommates. Frustrating to me because my only brother/sibling passed away two years ago and my son (and future child) were robbed of an amazing Uncle. So my son sees his only "uncles" about twice a year and we live in the same city. I put my foot down though. I didn't get the older one a birthday gift this year except for a nice card. The younger one got a gas card for his. Big deal because they've always received excellent heartfelt gifts from us. And I've stopped being nice with my invites. I literally told them, "if you don't have intentions of coming please don't say you will". My MIL is pretty upset with me but I don't care. Last get together, our second child announcement get together mind you, I had $25 worth of grilled steak sitting on a platter. We were eating steak sammies, steak pasta and just steak for several days. While this might be great for some, not so much when you're suffering from severe MS and it sounds/tastes horrible.
DH has accused me on multiple occasions of disliking his family or treating them differently from my own... I try really, really hard to bite my tongue and treat them as equals, but at the same time, if my siblings or parents acted like they do, I would call them on it and there would be consequences of some sort. So far there hardly ever are where his family is concerned. And frankly, it's infuriating.
I wonder why it is that, in general, in-laws suck. I know there are plenty of wonderful in-laws out there, but I tend to hear A LOT about how awful people's in-laws are. I know my in-laws suck. Especially MIL.
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BFP1 12/24/14 - EDD 09/07/15 (D/C 8w1d)
BFP2 6/12/15 - EDD 2/22/16 (D/C 10w3d)
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Diagnoses and Treatments
PCOS (myo-inositol, excercize)
Indeterminant levels of APS IgM antibodies (baby aspirin)
Sub-septate uterus (hysteroscopic septoplasty 12/18/15)
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BFP3 05/02/16 EDD 01/09/17 DS born 01/05/17
BFP4 01/28/19 EDD 10/?/19 🤞🙏
DS1 - 03/31/2006
DS2 - 12/31/2008
DS3 - 06/26/2012
DS4 - 08/07/2014
My Dad always told me growing up never loan money to family. My youngest BIL talked about moving in with us possibly and I told him he'd have to pay rent and keep a job. That was the end of that discussion! LOL I'm fortunate in that my hubby sees his family's actions and in-actions (finally) and we agree on a lot of things.
@jlea05 I don't know but I think there's a rule or something. I used to love my eventual MIL when my hubby and I first started dating...then she realized I was sticking around and the mask came off. She's very passive aggressive and I'm a very up front person so we don't mesh 100% except when we're both drinking! Lol Luckily, my FIL is awesome and rolls his eyes behind her a lot so I try to let my "issues" with her go. My family is so loving, accepting and fun that it was really hard for me to go to his house at first and boggled my mind they didn't eat family dinners together or do anything together. Not to say my family doesn't have issues! Hehehe! We'd get high ratings if we were a reality TV show!
Sorry for the length. I once again cannot get to sleep! Ugh!
I've never ordered from Pink Blush before but the stuff looks so cute!! Would you say the clothes run true to size? Is the sizing comparable to Destination Maternity?
I don't think people don't want to build relationships, I just think some go about it different ways. It's hard to stay on top of the random stuff thread :-) but yes there are many that just want to get an answer and leave :-/
DS1 - 03/31/2006
DS2 - 12/31/2008
DS3 - 06/26/2012
DS4 - 08/07/2014
Me: 28 | DH: 31
Together since 2006 | Married May 2015
TTC #1 since November 2015
BFP 5/17/16 | EDD 1/27/17 | Born 2/4/17
I'm SO envious of all you US residents when it comes to online maternity shopping. You do not realize the level of access you have, trust. In Canada, there are fewer big stores, and fewer brands available. I tried to shop at a US site for maternity wear recently, and they were very happy to let me ship to Canada... for a $75 shipping charge. Ugh.
Thyme Maternity and virtually nothing else it is!
But seriously that sucks, and I'm sorry