"Compromise" name

JillianGoe · July 2016

Baby boy is due in August and, although we didn't have trouble naming our girls, finding common ground for our son's name was a HUGE challenge. My favorites were Simon (I've been calling him this since we found out the gender), Joshua, and Isaac. The one and only name DH brought to the table was Atticus, and I'm just not a huge fan.

We settled on Titus--it has Biblical significance, which is important to me, and Roman associations, which is important to him. We felt like it was a solid compromise and we both truly do like the name, but I still can't imagine myself with a son named Titus (nn Ty)...I think just because I've "known" baby as Simon for so long and I thought our compromise name would be Isaac (he was coming around to it). I'm hoping Titus will grow on me.

What are your thoughts on the name (yes, I'm aware of the possible jokes and think it's a strong name regardless) and how we came to our decision? Anyone with a similar experience?

suchaglencoco · July 2016

I wouldn't settle and just compromise on a name to end it. We couldn't agree on a name for DD so we just dropped the discussion for several weeks, I had our twins, and when we saw her and held her, we both knew what name fit her best. I'm glad we stopped over thinking it and arguing about it.

Bringmemylongswordho · July 2016

I'd table names for a week or two, and see how the both of you feel when you come back.

Naming is a compromise, but you should both feel good about the name.

ladylolly89 · July 2016

I personally love Titus, but choosing it *just* to compromise doesn't seem quite right either! You still have some time. Maybe take a break and come back to names in a week or so.

susykat77 · July 2016

Not a fan of Titus. I like pp suggestion of putting names on the shelf of a week or two and then coming back to them.

kmvisioli · July 2016

I like Titus and think it does work for you guys, but if you aren't feeling great about it maybe take a break or just keep 2-3 choices to bring to the hospital.

PhoebeJune1984 · July 2016

The problem is that you have been calling him Simon since you found out the gender, even though it isn't something that you BOTH like. So now you are so use to calling him Simon, that it is going to sound strange calling him any other name. Stop calling him Simon, set the names aside, give it a little bit of time, and revisit a name list that you both agree on.

linzandjer11 · July 2016

I like Titus.

bbiutmcph · July 2016

I really really dislike Titus. That said you both need to like it, if you don't like it well you need to keep looking, just like you need to keep looking since Simon isn't liked by H. I agree stepping away from names for a few is best.

theGDpaterfamilias · July 2016

I'd agree with other posters about shelving the discussion and coming back fresh. Nothing against Titus, just wait a bit before committing when you're unsure. In the meantime, don't refer to the baby by any name until it's set in stone. Be open to other suggestions too, you seem to be upset that neither of your top suggestions resonated with your husband when the same is true of his suggestion. Just take a step back from the subject and revisit in a couple weeks and ask him to do the same.

SmrBrd2012 · July 2016

It sounds like Titus just isn't your style, but I do agree that it now seems to be an even bigger issue since you can only see him as a Simon. You mentioned some other names you like that aren't Simon though, while your H has only offered 1 other. Can you H give you some more options? I like the idea that is often suggested here of highlight names you both like in a baby book with different color markers. Or ask that he give you a list of his top 10 names, and you do the same.

magsugar13 · July 2016

i dont like it at all

CaboBride2015 · July 2016

I'm not a huge fan of Titus or the way you've come around to it. If you don't both like it, it's out. I agree with tabling the topic for a while and coming back to it later and perhaps with a fresh list of names.

soymuyfast · July 2016

Loved simon, wanted to name our 2nd that, we compromised with silas

emilyalso · July 2016

I like Titus AND Simon. Some other long I names to consider are Isaac, Micah, Levi, Eli, Malachi...

Good Luck!

JillianGoe · July 2016

Thanks for all of the feedback, everyone! We'll table the discussion and revisit later. Not to bash on DH--but the honest truth is that he LITERALLY only liked Atticus until Titus came along. I would be happy with any of...two dozen (or more) names (including all of your suggestions, EmilyAlso!). He admits he doesn't like boy names... But we need SOMETHING

He can't be "Baby Boy" forever....

Hopefully we'll gain some clarity in the upcoming weeks... Thanks again everyone.

HedgieLane02 · July 2016

How about Tirius or Tobias?

Miss Lilac · July 2016

Honestly, a lot of names have the potential to be made fun of and I don't always think that potential is a good reason to ditch a name... But Titus is kind of asking for it. Personally I really dislike it because, even as an adult, I'm smirking over the name. It's just too easy.

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