I am mixed, my dad is black(really he is mixed with a lot, African, Native American, European, possibly Indian. He is very dark skinned) my mom is white (Although her great-grandmother was Native-American) and my husband is white.
Everyone I tell usually reacts with "I wonder what your baby is going to look like!!" It doesn't bother me, I think it's kind of funny, I wonder sometimes myself. More than likely our kids will be very light skinned, however, we have known "white couples" who had dark skinned children due just to a great-great-grandparents. So the debate amongst lots of family is trying to guess what our child will look like!
I was curious if anyone on here is in a mixed relationship and what sort of reactions/comments you are getting??
To clarify, both sides of the family doesn't care one way or the other, they are very excited and love this baby already. Just excited to meet him or her!
Re: "Mixed" babies anyone?
While my husband and I are both Caucasian western European mutts, we used donor eggs (as my eggs are crap) and I am pretty sure everyone is curious what this little one will look like - although no one has said anything to us as maybe they think it is a sensitive topic for us? Our donor is Czech so I imagine that they will have some of the eastern European features. They say that the birth mother influences how the genes are expressed when using donor eggs - so I guess we will see!
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One of my friends is mixed. Her mother is white and her father is half black and half south american. She is married to a white man and their children look 100% white. They didn't get african american features or coloring at all.
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Everyone is always wondering what our kids will look like and it gets a little annoying when people say "Oh I hope they're light-skinned with dark hair, wouldn't they look gorgeous!" Like, no, they'll be gorgeous no matter what they look like.
Also, my mom's hoping for a blonde blue eyed girl. Because she doesn't understand genetics.
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DD born January 30 2017
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I completely understand this! I've heard it so much I just shrug it off now. My sister-in-law (who is 17, so yah know, words. They aren't always the right ones) said "Oh, what is the baby comes out with dark frumpy hair(referring to my curly hair) and light eyes! That would be crazy!"
Everyone is kind of hoping for 'light eyes', when I kinda want dark brown eye babies. I have dark brown, almost black eyes, and so does everyone in my family except for my mom. I just keep picturing these cute little chocolate eyes looking up at me! But I also know that's the rebel in me going against what society is telling me I should want. So yeh. There's that. lol
This baby won't be mixed - my husband and I are both pale with blue eyes and medium-light hair- but I'm still excited to see who he/she looks like. It's still fun to see my DD grow to have my eyes, SIL nose, etc.
I'm wondering if my Swedish genetics will come out or if my crazy olive skin/hazel eye genetics will be dominant in the baby. My husband has brown hair and brown eyes, as does most of his family, so odds are the baby will have brown hair, brown eyes, and olive skin and will look nothing like their blonde/blue-eyed cousins (from my side of the family).
I've got purely Germanic roots so my family is nothing but light-haired blue-eyed folk. I am fully expecting our child to look like him, but genetics be crazy so I won't be terribly shocked if we get a blue-eyed baby with curly black hair, fair skin, and high cheekbones. As long as it's ours and we get to take it home!
With my first everyone was 100% sure she would be ginger but didn't happen, she has my dirty blonde hair, but crazy curly when mine is dead straight. My mil has those crazy curls that you can pull and they bob back up!
It's so exciting waiting to see who a baby will look like...I'm betting even more exciting for mixed families, since there are so many different features that are options for baby! I honestly cannot wait for January when we get to post what all our babies look like!
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Lol @colleenkevin yeah that brown eyed baby would be pretty elusive.
@HJ.Morgan What the what? Still not okay to call your hair frumpy, even if she's 17.
My half sister is actually a redhead so I might roll the genetic lottery ( I think it's a very small percent possible, like 2%) and get one myself lol!
BFP May 16th 2016
DD born January 30 2017
Surprise BFP/MC April 2017
I'm really interested in seeing who our baby resembles more. My side of the family has support prominent features(genes?), but so does DH's. I've never thought about it much till just now! How interesting to consider.
Though it'd be nice if they got my dad's eyes, a true hazel. Mine are nice but the real hazel can change to all colors - blue, brown, green, and shades in between. I loved seeing my dad's eyes change day to day. Mine are the green/brown we normally call hazel but I at least get all shades in between (p.s. I love my eyes).
My biggest hope is this child will not be overly hairy if a girl. Fine if a boy... but society is rough being a hairy girl (and I got off light). Super thrilled to find out.
We get asked constantly, "what do you think the baby will look like?" And we always respond with, "Like an Alien." The only thing that concerns me, and my mom because she worries about everything, is when he's out alone with our baby. I don't want anyone approaching him about our child (even though it can't be helped). We live in Northern Virginia and there's been a few instances of dad's being mistaken for kidnappers.
I totally understand this. My Dad has very dark skin, but most of us came out very light skinned. All growing up we've had people questioning if he's really my Dad when out and about. Although as the years go by, I think people are learning about mixed families and genetics... lol
Oh my goodness that is so cute!! You just have a little rainbow family going on there, huh??
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But seriously, we're both white, though I'm much more olive toned than H. H has dark blonde hair and light blue eyes, and I have brown hair and light green eyes. As babies/toddlers, we looked so much alike that if you showed pictures of us to someone who didn't know we were married, they'd think we were siblings. Light eyes, white blonde hair. So, I really feel we're having a light hair, light eyes baby. I'll be shocked if it's anything other than that.
Most people just joke that we'll have a super hairy child with really pretty hair but that's about all the commentary we get.
DD1 is white, dark brown straight hair, blue eyes and DD2 is darker, light brown curly hair, and what we think are probably hazel eyes, sometimes green, sometimes light brown.
No one has ever said anything about the girls not looking like DH, but when DD1 was a baby (much darker when she was little), someone at church mentioned how cute she was and asked me whose baby I was holding! Lol.
Also, we have several family friends who have adopted internationally, and just throwing it out there how rude and insensitive it is for anyone to presume parents and children need to match on the outside.
Our first baby has brown hair and brown eyes. His skin is not as dark as my husband's, but he tans well. I'm sure this baby will probably have the same coloring. I can't imagine my fair complexion would win out.
I know he's got some very distant Spanish ancestry and has cousins with green eyes, so it's not out of the realm of possibility that we'd have a light eyed baby. I just think it's hilarious when people who have no idea how genetics work say out our baby will look exactly like me due tooverwhelmingly "dominant" genes.
On the other side, I've also had a few people ask me if it bothers me that my kids won't look like me.
BFP May 16th 2016
DD born January 30 2017
Surprise BFP/MC April 2017