For DH's Father's Day gift, I told him we could get his truck detailed (previously mine and used around a farm). I set up an appointment with a mobile auto detailer for today at 10am. No one showed up, so I called at 10:30 and left a message. I still haven't heard back. I just looked up a different place to take it in, just annoying that I made an appointment and no one bothered to show up.
And now I just pulled out our new Boba carrier that I bought on clearance to wash. Of course, they left the security tag on. Thankfully, we have a bed, bath, and beyond close by and when I called, they said they could remove the tag since I got it at BuyBuyBaby.
Another Monday bitch... My mil called today with a question. No big deal. But again she mentioned that I need to take it easy and keep baby boy cooking (she for some reason is very worried he will come too early). She said this to me over the weekend when she stopped by too. And a couple other times before that. Anyway, I love being told to take it easy when I have two kids home with me all day, and a home and in ground pool to care for. Is it wrong that this upsets me? If she wants me to take it easy, it would be helpful if she helped with something. Anything. Even just take the kids in my backyard to swim while I nap since I no longer sleep at night. I think next time she says that I'll just remind her that I try, but life goes on and the kids and house aren't going to care for themselves.
DH. Thats my bitch. I am constantly uncomfortable or in pain depending on how much Ive been on my feet. Which has been a lot in the past few days. 1. He bitches about not getting to relax at all after work while Im cooking dinner and packing lunches for the next day, doing dishes and laundry, etc. 2. Despite ME being the one in pain, he begs for a back rub every night. And when I roll over and say no, he whines like a little brat.
So I know it's not Monday anymore and this is a really stupid thing to bitch about but last week DH and I took a prenatal breastfeeding class. It was 2 hours long and actually very informative, but they provided the most uncomfortable chairs! By the 2nd half I was so uncomfortable I was constantly shifting in my seat so it was super distracting. If you're going to have a 2 hour class for pregnant women, provide comfortable chairs or at least give us a break to get up and walk around!
@alyssajrob22 I feel your pain. I just blew up on dh last night because I am tired of running myself ragged every night after work. I get that his job is more physical than mine, but I am working full time and growing a human right now. We also have 3 kiddos at home that I basically do everything for! Just once i want to NOT do everything that I do on a daily basis and see what happens. But I won't because it will just make more work for me in the long run.
@jamiesc58. I am in the same boat with my DH. He keeps talking about how "we" need to get the house organized and clean. I basically told him that the only way that is going to happen is if he gets up and helps me. I cannot do it all by myself anymore. I also told my 6.5 YO DD that she is going to have to help mommy by cleaning up her play room and shoes. For some reason DD and DH leave their shoes everywhere and it drives me crazy. I just don't get it. They each have a shoe bin by the back door to put their shoes in! Instead of using it they just leave them on the floor. I don't have a bin and yet all of my shoes are upstairs in my closet. (Sorry rant over)
@tinkerbell11210 I have an 11 yr old and a 7 yr old. They both have "chores" that they do everyday and that helps out but dh could do SOMETHING. Our laundry room is in the basement and I am having a really hard time keeping up. I can't carry the baskets up the stairs. My 11 yr old usually does it for me but she fractured her elbow and can't carry anything more than 5 lbs for about 3 more weeks.
@jamiesc58. I am in the same boat with my DH. He keeps talking about how "we" need to get the house organized and clean. I basically told him that the only way that is going to happen is if he gets up and helps me. I cannot do it all by myself anymore. I also told my 6.5 YO DD that she is going to have to help mommy by cleaning up her play room and shoes. For some reason DD and DH leave their shoes everywhere and it drives me crazy. I just don't get it. They each have a shoe bin by the back door to put their shoes in! Instead of using it they just leave them on the floor. I don't have a bin and yet all of my shoes are upstairs in my closet. (Sorry rant over)
Omg same. But my DD just leaves EVERYTHING everywhere. DH is the worst with his shoes, we literally have a closet at the end of the hall where all the shoes go. He walks past the closet to our room and 80% of the time leaves the shoes there. Seriously??!! I feel your pain, at this point he has said "you've nested for like 3 months now" I gave him the dirtiest look and said, "I'm not nesting, I'm tired of living in a shit hole!". Lol
Another Monday bitch... My mil called today with a question. No big deal. But again she mentioned that I need to take it easy and keep baby boy cooking (she for some reason is very worried he will come too early). She said this to me over the weekend when she stopped by too. And a couple other times before that. Anyway, I love being told to take it easy when I have two kids home with me all day, and a home and in ground pool to care for. Is it wrong that this upsets me? If she wants me to take it easy, it would be helpful if she helped with something. Anything. Even just take the kids in my backyard to swim while I nap since I no longer sleep at night. I think next time she says that I'll just remind her that I try, but life goes on and the kids and house aren't going to care for themselves.
I would just straight up say, "Thats great advice, can you help with XYZ because doing XYZ really takes it out of me. "
I really hate waiting FOREVER for a routine prenatal checkup that takes all of 5 minutes. My appointment was for 10 am. It's 11:30 and I am still here.
Married May 2014 DD born August 2016 Baby #2 due December 2017
I started with a new doctor at 28 weeks, and so far I like the practice, except for their scheduling person! After my 28 week appointment, they had me schedule my next 4 (30, 32, 34, 36). First of all, it took forever for the scheduling lady just to do this, I was standing at her desk for like 15 minutes while others waited in line behind me. Second, the timing is pretty off, like she had my 32 week appointment at 33+2, and third, they have now needed to reschedule two of those four appointments. Today she called to reschedule my 32 week, and wanted to push it back even farther, so I'd be 33+4. When I pointed that out and mentioned I already had a 34 week appointment a week later, she was like, "oh... yeah." And then she wanted to have me come in on a Friday, and had to say "isn't your ultrasound tech out on Fridays?" and again, she was like, "oh... yeah, you're right." Like, do I need to come down there and do this myself?
@jamiesc58and @tinkerbell11210 I use to tell DH you need to pick up after yourself the least you can do because i am no ones maid in this house. When he hears me start with i am no ones maid he starts picking up because he knows i will tell him a list of things he needs to do (thats how i cured him and my four year old step son) he picks up his room as well even makes his bed and when he eats puts the dish in the sink. I did it for a while is just you putting your foot down and training them to help out.
I'm agreeing with PPs. What the hell is with DHs not helping out when we are growing tiny humans? DH has his spells of being super helpful but here lately when I'm struggling to keep my head above the laundry list of chores, running daycare, and taking care of DD, he's nowhere to be found. He keeps saying I'll do XYZ tonight but then does absolutely NADA!! If you aren't going to do it, don't f*@$ing say you will. Also, yesterday he helped several of his friends with things but I asked repeatedly for one thing (a bag of sonic ice) and never got it!! Somedays I'm almost ready to be a single mom, that way I know it's just me and don't expect anyone else to help.
@jamiesc58 @tinkerbell11210@jacmkelley is there a private mens bump board that our husbands and kids are using? Its like they are communicating on ways to annoy us! DH is always suggesting things that we could do to organize, but then whines or has to leave once we get started. I asked DS (11) to fold and put away the laundry and he was super excited because he set a timer and it took him less than four minutes to put it all away....ummm no.
If I want anything done I have to do it myself! Dh is worthless when it comes to anything having to do with the house. I have told him a thousand times that I won't do laundry until the hamper is full (it equals one full load). I went into his drawer to get a polo for him the other day and he only had one left (he has 10-15). I looked in the hamper and it was almost empty. After picking up all the clothes he had left throughout the house I had 3 full loads. I blame my mil for not teaching her son how to clean up after himself. I will not do the same disservice to my children's future spouses.
I agree with all of you ladies! We have had cardboard boxes in our breakfast nook for two weeks because DH hasn't taken them to the dump yet. He's like i worked today, um well so did i and i have cleaned the kitchen and your messes!
So, we are way past Monday, but I need to bitch for a minute... My brother moved back to our home town and his roommate needed a place to stay. DH opened his big mouth and offered him our basement. Not a huge deal. But this guy is 30. He can't hold a job. He is super self-serving. And he is just flat out rude. Whatever... anyway Today we got a call from our Internet provider because someone on our network has been downloading pirated tv shows! WTH. So after talking to the guy on the phone for more than an hour we are left with assuming it can only be the roommate. So I send him a text trying to give him the benifit of the doubt and let him know what's going on and he needs to be careful about what he's doing... (maybe he didn't realize what he had done) and this is the response I got 4 hours later
Oh shoot. Yeah... I forgot about notices coming to the house.. I'll make sure that doesn't happen again. Thanks for letting me know
Really?! You idiot! You knowingly downloaded pirated tv from OUR service. Ungrateful little ass. Turns out this is something he does regularly. Oh, and my husband went down to the basement today to change out the laundry for me and saw he left a hot plate on. He'd been gone for at least 6 hours by that time. Ugh!
@lotsofsunshine, maybe you could look into putting a password on your internet or place restrictions on your home network. I think the roommate can use a data plan on his own phone for surfing the web and pirating his TV shows.
@lotsofsunshine... I'd have that guy out of my house before baby comes. Not only is the guy an ass, he also could have burned down your house! Not ok, especially with a new baby. Hope he finds somewhere else to go soon!
@lotsofsunshine I agree with @Stephanie7693, that guy's gotta go. Pain in the ass roommates are for young single people, not families. Give him a week or two, or whatever you think is fair, to be out of there. He's abusing your resources and being irresponsible, causing safety hazards. You'll be doing a favor to the next person who lets him crash, maybe next time he'll get his shit together!! And honestly, who wants some rando around when you have a new baby?
@lotsofsunshine I agree with @Stephanie7693, that guy's gotta go. Pain in the ass roommates are for young single people, not families. Give him a week or two, or whatever you think is fair, to be out of there. He's abusing your resources and being irresponsible, causing safety hazards. You'll be doing a favor to the next person who lets him crash, maybe next time he'll get his shit together!! And honestly, who wants some rando around when you have a new baby?
So much of this! Bye bye roommate!
Also I would freak out on my DH if he invited some random guy to stay with us without asking me first.
*TW Spoiler*
DD: Aug '16
10/2017: Twins confirmed with TTTS at 22 weeks. 10/10/17 Twin B passed after in utero placenta surgery 11/2/17 Twin A & B born 11/26/17: Twin A passed after 24 days fighting in the NICU Benched 6 months BFP: 6/28/18 MC:7/16/18 BO BFP: 10/2/18 EDD 6/15/18
Thanks guys! DH changed the wifi password last night, and told him he has 2 weeks to get out. He only moved in 2 weeks ago. We are really frustrated because we have known this guy for years and had no idea he was so terrible. I just hope nothing crazy happens before he gets out.
@lotsofsunshine. I agree with others that guy has to go! When your LO gets here you are not going to have time to deal with this and you shouldn't have to.
If I want anything done I have to do it myself! Dh is worthless when it comes to anything having to do with the house. I have told him a thousand times that I won't do laundry until the hamper is full (it equals one full load). I went into his drawer to get a polo for him the other day and he only had one left (he has 10-15). I looked in the hamper and it was almost empty. After picking up all the clothes he had left throughout the house I had 3 full loads. I blame my mil for not teaching her son how to clean up after himself. I will not do the same disservice to my children's future spouses.
Exactly! My MIL did NOT teach her boys to pick up after themselves. But they can play every sport under the sun, sports do nothing for me lady. Some cleaning would help lol
If I want anything done I have to do it myself! Dh is worthless when it comes to anything having to do with the house. I have told him a thousand times that I won't do laundry until the hamper is full (it equals one full load). I went into his drawer to get a polo for him the other day and he only had one left (he has 10-15). I looked in the hamper and it was almost empty. After picking up all the clothes he had left throughout the house I had 3 full loads. I blame my mil for not teaching her son how to clean up after himself. I will not do the same disservice to my children's future spouses.
Exactly! My MIL did NOT teach her boys to pick up after themselves. But they can play every sport under the sun, sports do nothing for me lady. Some cleaning would help lol
MIL keeps a disgusting house. She will have a dishwasher, sink and counter full of dirty dishes. I don't think we even have that many dishes to be dirty at one time. When DH was a teenager, his clothes wouldn't get washed unless he did them himself. In return he now can't stand a dirty house. He claims when he was younger she used to keep a really clean house and he doesn't know what happened. It's so bad that we don't take DD into her house, we always go to his grandmas which is right next door.
@Lynnlove28 I seriously have never understood people who completely load up a dishwasher and then don't turn the sucker on. I get it if it isnt a full load though.
Re: Bitchfest Monday 6/27
And now I just pulled out our new Boba carrier that I bought on clearance to wash. Of course, they left the security tag on. Thankfully, we have a bed, bath, and beyond close by and when I called, they said they could remove the tag since I got it at BuyBuyBaby.
My mil called today with a question. No big deal. But again she mentioned that I need to take it easy and keep baby boy cooking (she for some reason is very worried he will come too early). She said this to me over the weekend when she stopped by too. And a couple other times before that. Anyway, I love being told to take it easy when I have two kids home with me all day, and a home and in ground pool to care for. Is it wrong that this upsets me? If she wants me to take it easy, it would be helpful if she helped with something. Anything. Even just take the kids in my backyard to swim while I nap since I no longer sleep at night.
I think next time she says that I'll just remind her that I try, but life goes on and the kids and house aren't going to care for themselves.
1. He bitches about not getting to relax at all after work while Im cooking dinner and packing lunches for the next day, doing dishes and laundry, etc.
2. Despite ME being the one in pain, he begs for a back rub every night. And when I roll over and say no, he whines like a little brat.
Over it.
I feel your pain, at this point he has said "you've nested for like 3 months now" I gave him the dirtiest look and said, "I'm not nesting, I'm tired of living in a shit hole!". Lol
Married May 2014
DD born August 2016
Baby #2 due December 2017
Wow! Sorry for the novel rant ladies!!
My brother moved back to our home town and his roommate needed a place to stay. DH opened his big mouth and offered him our basement. Not a huge deal. But this guy is 30. He can't hold a job. He is super self-serving. And he is just flat out rude. Whatever... anyway Today we got a call from our Internet provider because someone on our network has been downloading pirated tv shows! WTH. So after talking to the guy on the phone for more than an hour we are left with assuming it can only be the roommate. So I send him a text trying to give him the benifit of the doubt and let him know what's going on and he needs to be careful about what he's doing... (maybe he didn't realize what he had done) and this is the response I got 4 hours later
Oh shoot. Yeah... I forgot about notices coming to the house.. I'll make sure that doesn't happen again. Thanks for letting me know
Really?! You idiot! You knowingly downloaded pirated tv from OUR service. Ungrateful little ass. Turns out this is something he does regularly. Oh, and my husband went down to the basement today to change out the laundry for me and saw he left a hot plate on. He'd been gone for at least 6 hours by that time. Ugh!
Thanks for letting me vent.
Hope he finds somewhere else to go soon!
Also I would freak out on my DH if he invited some random guy to stay with us without asking me first.
DD: Aug '16
10/2017: Twins confirmed with TTTS at 22 weeks.
10/10/17 Twin B passed after in utero placenta surgery
11/2/17 Twin A & B born
11/26/17: Twin A passed after 24 days fighting in the NICU
Benched 6 months
BFP: 6/28/18 MC:7/16/18 BO
BFP: 10/2/18 EDD 6/15/18