Bitchfest Monday 6/27

ballofmeat

kristynmac

I have two younger sisters and both are done with having kids. The middle one I am not super close to, but the youngest sister and I have always got along pretty well. I had my son in 2005 and have basically taken a break until this one, so during that time my youngest sister had two kids and wanted help the whole time. For the last few summers, she often drops her kids off for me to watch while she goes to rodeos on the weekends, but since I got pregnant she has basically disappeared. She doesn't ask how its going, doesn't offer to help out. She did offer to give me her crib, but then text me this morning to say that she doesn't think her youngest (3) will be out of the crib anytime soon. I asked my mom what was going on and she thinks that my sister is jealous that I will have the "baby" of the family...ummm how is this my fault? 

sbelle474

@kristynmac i am sorry! Not your fault at all!  Hugs.

jacmkelley

Im not kristynmac said:

I have two younger sisters and both are done with having kids. The middle one I am not super close to, but the youngest sister and I have always got along pretty well. I had my son in 2005 and have basically taken a break until this one, so during that time my youngest sister had two kids and wanted help the whole time. For the last few summers, she often drops her kids off for me to watch while she goes to rodeos on the weekends, but since I got pregnant she has basically disappeared. She doesn't ask how its going, doesn't offer to help out. She did offer to give me her crib, but then text me this morning to say that she doesn't think her youngest (3) will be out of the crib anytime soon. I asked my mom what was going on and she thinks that my sister is jealous that I will have the "baby" of the family...ummm how is this my fault? 

It's Monday, I say it's fair to respond to that by saying "Sucks to suck". 

ballofmeat

@kristynmac That's annoying! Hopefully it blows over soon. 

jacmkelley

My bitch is that I have entered the 4+ pee breaks during the night. I'm not sleeping and I have some weird ass pains in the area where my legs meet my pelvic bone. So literally at night I'm in pain just to get up and pee, and that doesn't even include the rolling and bullshit I have to do just to get out of the bed.  


I'm over it. 

amarfeo17

Thank goodness for bitchfest Monday..

I'm 34 weeks 4 days and starting to feel the strain on my body from being pregnant. Lower back pain has started overnight and during the day, and last night I had a leg cramp immediately followed by a cramp in my groin.. Talk about painful. 

My husband has been bitching about things not getting done around here, but he's a huge hypocrite and will let things lay around, just like I do. I finally lost it this morning. Taking care of a 1750 sq ft house on your own is NOT easy. I can't do it all on my own anymore, especially with all of these aches and pains. I just finished working thank god, I was a leave replacement teacher this year (which was a lot of work in itself) I let him have it. The hormones don't help at all. I told him I'm also afraid, because adding a baby to the mix only adds to the mess. I hope he gets his act together soon.. I just feel under appreciated and I wish he would cut me some more slack. 

ballofmeat

The ankle swelling.

Not being able to poop for days on end even though I chug water and colace.

Insomnia you can go back where you came from.

Working full time in the third trimester...yeah I'm over you too. I'm really not looking forward to working the Fourth of July holiday and dealing with the morons that get drunk, light fireworks, and end up in the ER. 

Could I be any more whiny? Probably. 

jamiesc58

@midwestbaby I totally agree with you on working full time during the third trimester...it sucks! I am whiny today also.

Bookhousegirl

@jacmkelley I have that same weird pain! It's like an ache that goes from my groin down to the top of my thigh... So strange!

My bitch is my moving company. They were great about changing our move date up a week, but now it's significantly more expensive. We switched it from a Saturday to a Thursday so I would have thought it would be cheaper, but it's definitely not! I cannot wait for this move to be done!

ballofmeat

@Bookhousegirl I would think the same. Kind of like flying in the middle of the week vs. a Sunday or Friday is cheaper. 

Mfuller76

@Bookhousegirl How are you managing packing and getting ready for the movers? Our move is on Friday and I feel like I'm so far behind. I'm usually super organized about these things but I've resorted to just throwing stuff in boxes and figuring it out later. 

tmk0325

So... Since the boys are in the nicu I've been pumping and getting pretty good at it. Got about 30 ML at my morning pump and had it sent up to the nicu and it got stuck in the tube they use to send it up (think a bank tube system) and no one saw it til now!! They just came in like 6 hours later and were like we are so sorry, we cant use this! I about let someone have it, the poor nurse on call right now apologized profusely but it wasn't here fault she wasn't there when it happened. If I didn't have enough pumped to get through the next couple feedings I think we both would of went off! 

ginger819

MIL had the audacity to bitch at DH that she's fallen down her stairs three times the past week and this is somehow my moms fault because she said she'd come over and help put up a railing. Did she ever ask my mom to come over and help after the initial discussion? No. My mom was just supposed to show up and do it. (I'd like to add she told DH about falling at the same time as asking if she can have DD overnight, who's bedroom is upstairs and can't go down stairs without being carried yet.) Then continued to bitch about my mom coming to stay with us every weekend when we said she would be here when she wanted DD to help us set up the baby and DD's new room. My mom helps around the house while she is here. She does dishes, weeds, takes care of DD so I can sleep in or rest, pretty much anything that needs to be done or we need help with. Plus all week I basically talk to babies all day. I enjoy the adult conversation on the weekends, especially when DH is working. So, sorry, not sorry she gets to see DD more often than you. (MIL hardly ever even changes a diaper when she comes over or we go to her house.)

Its so irritating, too, because when MIL needs help unloading hay or building a fence my parents come over and help. They never ask for anything in return. She's never been to their house to do anything remotely work related, in fact she gets annoyed about having to go the hour and a half when she decides to come with us to go visit. I'm so over her pettiness and jealousy. I'm hoping for the day DH can transfer his job and we can move closer to my family.

sbelle474

What would you guys do?  I have a baby shower on July 9th, and I had folks asking me info (time and place) Saturday.  Evidently, the invites were sent late and just got mailed late last week.  Not sure whether or not to follow up with people or just not stress if they don't show up because of the late notice....

ballofmeat

@tmk0325 Ugh! I'd be pissed. They really shouldn't be sending 30 ml of fluid through a hospital tube system! You would be surprised how many times samples get sent to the wrong floor or not sent through in a hospital. If I were you, I would hand deliver it to the NICU from now on. 

nanner26

@tmk0325 That is awful! 

@sbelle474 That still gives people at least 2 weeks notice right? But then again I guess people's weekends do fill up quickly in the summer.
Does it say to RSVP on the invite by a certain date? If they are supposed to RSVP I would just go with the number of people that respond. Maybe call close family members or friends closer to the date.

My BF.
I'm tired of my mom asking how "my baby is doing." It's not your baby.
I know this is isn't a big deal, but it is just getting annoying. 

Mfuller76

@tmk0325 How frustrating! I'm sure I would've totally lost it. Glad to hear the pumping is going well though!

@sbelle474 I would maybe start casually mentioning it to people. Or, if you have emails for everyone, would the hostess be willing to send something out? My BFF knew she was going to be late in getting invites in the mail, so she sent a heads-up email to the guest list, asking them to mark their calendars for that day and time. 

ThisisNumber3

@sbelle474  I would go ahead and try to respond.  if they are reaching out to you about details its probably because they want to come!  

@tmk0325 - I agree I would be upset and would be hand delivering milk from now on! 

kwilliams3402

I ordered one of those v2 supporter compression belt things on my OB's recommendation after big time swelling "down there."  Well, it seemed to be helping yesterday, but today my pelvis, hips, etc. all hurt worse, and the swelling is perhaps worse today.  Do I stick with it or is this a sign that this isn't going to help?  Either way, this hurts and I am so tired of hurting all day and night!  Argh.

And the chiropractor and massage trips helped for a while but now at 34 weeks, it's like they each only help for 3-4 days....

AliKay20

In-law drama up in here today:

Long story short, DH & I cut off all ties with his mother back in November. She just had such high expectations for ME to meet but of course, this was clearly one sided. She doesn't want to change who she is or accommodate but somehow everything is my fault when it comes to keeping in touch with her. She sees that as my obligation when her own son never even had that type of close relationship with her. Her youngest daughter told me our baby is a quarter of her mom's so I must work things out with her. Ever since then, I pretty much shunned them out of my life completely (what entitles in laws to get so posessive over your unborn child? It truly baffles me).

Fast fwd to today- they learned we already had a baby shower (which they weren't invited to) & they know baby's arrival is coming up. 

I get this lovely "when did we ever have a fall out" birthday card from the sis-in-law telling me to have an amazing birthday and that she heard pregnancy is really not easy esp. in the summer time. Signed with "Love." 

I just cannot with DH's crazy female btches in the fam. His mom said some harsh things to DH and while DH clearly stated we are cutting off ties, his dad told him the other day his mom is waiting for us to reach out to her.

That poor pathetic woman. And what a shame to his youngest sis who has been brainwashed by her mom and thinks glossing over things with a not-so-genuine birthday card will make things all better. No apologies on how she came off and why we stopped talking since November.

Seriously, I love my DH, I do but I now understand when people would say things like, "before you marry, really get to see that person's family & their values because in a way, you're marrying into his family as well."

SO OVER IT! They prob want to ease their way into our lives to have access to "their baby." I can't even.

emmeline714

my bitch is that the stroller i had ordered is out of stock so now i have to pick out another one and i so liked the one i had picked out, i been annoyed about this and i am tired and have been snapping at everyone that has got on my nerves today

Stephanie7693

@tmk0325... I would have lost it on someone if that happened to me! Definitely hand deliver from now on, I know when I pumped every ounce was gold! 

My bitch for today... We're only 3 weeks into summer and my 10 year old daughter is driving me insane. She has been super whiney and crying over everything. Every time she gets in trouble or doesn't get her way. We had made so much progress on that in the last year or so, and now it's all gone to hell. It doesn't help that I'm sleep deprived and irritable too, it just makes me handle it worse. But the high pitch whine and sorta scream that come out of her mouth all too often make me want to bash my head against a wall. 
Summer sucks. I hate what all the free time does to my kids. They miss their schedule, and so do I 

texasmama2014

@tmk0325  It sucks that they messed up, BUT, 30 ML is great!  Keep on pumping and you'll have quite a supply!!

Bookhousegirl

@tmk0325 oh man, I would have been pissed! Good for you for keeping your cool. I hope your little boys are doing well!

@Mfuller76 my packing has basically stalled. I was super productive last week, but now I have no energy for it. The good thing for me is that DH will be home next week, because we were supposed to go on vacation, but I'm not allowed to anymore. I'm just relying on him doing most of it this weekend and early next week. That means things will just be thrown into boxes, but at this point I don't even care, I just want to get there!

Curls919

kwilliams3402 said:

I ordered one of those v2 supporter compression belt things on my OB's recommendation after big time swelling "down there."  Well, it seemed to be helping yesterday, but today my pelvis, hips, etc. all hurt worse, and the swelling is perhaps worse today.  Do I stick with it or is this a sign that this isn't going to help?  Either way, this hurts and I am so tired of hurting all day and night!  Argh.

And the chiropractor and massage trips helped for a while but now at 34 weeks, it's like they each only help for 3-4 days....

STUCK IN THE BOX

If the belt ends up working at some point please let me know.  I am dealing with the same issues!

jamiesc58

The manager of the office I work in is off until July 18th. She was off all last week and this week due to an emergency surgery she had to have to take out her gall bladder. Friday she and her family are leaving for a vacation in Florida. Now, while I know none of this is her fault, I am so annoyed that I am the only person here now and all of the responsibilities fall on me. They couldn't have enlisted someone to come down a couple days a week? There are numerous managers out there as we are one office of like 21 in our company. WTF? 

MrsEWilson

Well my bitching is majority of the pregnancy my husband has been working two jobs then he decided to go into the Marines (better career choice) so the basic training took up 3 more months after that he only had ten days home. I enjoyed our time, but we couldn't do to much because I'm pregnant & this GA heat is unbearable... Plus he pretty much missed the part of the pregnancy when I felt sexy so when he was home I didn't wanna be touched in that way. And this morning I had to drop him off at the bus station, he'll be gone another three months. Sucks I was miserable the whole time he was home. 

kwilliams3402

@curls919 - I gave up on it for the day.  My legs hurt, my hips were killing me, my tailbone hurt, and the swelling was I think slightly worse.  Coincidence maybe, but my gut is that it was actually hurting things.  We'll see.

Curls919

@kwilliams3402- ugh, i'm sorry.  I've just been sucking it up and not doing anything about my "issues".

NicoleD0516

Here's mine! Someone I know is due in late July. She's now working from home and started complaining that she doesn't think she can do it anymore. Working from home or working at all is just too tough. Really?? I manage an entire program and I'm working up until 39 weeks. I just can't imagine working from home being too tough at this point and the whining is killing me. 

I was supposed to have my annual review on the 10th. They come with a pay raise, My boss still hasn't scheduled mine and I'm 35 weeks. my first came at 37 weeks. I feel like he's sand bagging and stalling to avoid the raise. 

SkiChic626

I get so annoyed when my FIL calls the baby "#4."  It's DH parent's 4th grandchild, so that's why he calls him "#4," but he's not my #4, he's not my parent's 4th grandchild, etc. and idk I just don't like it and want to TP him every time he says it!

ThisisNumber3

SkiChic626 said:

I get so annoyed when my FIL calls the baby "#4."  It's DH parent's 4th grandchild, so that's why he calls him "#4," but he's not my #4, he's not my parent's 4th grandchild, etc. and idk I just don't like it and want to TP him every time he says it!

IL's suggested we could just name the baby #11 because it was grandchild #11 for them.  Umm no.  Just because we aren't sharing our name thoughts with you doesn't mean we dont have some ideas.  

bearsandbeets7

DD has started throwing awful fits. It might be because she hasn't had her pacifier in about a week but they are ridiculous. She threw a ridiculous fit in hobby lobby today so me and my mom were trying to check out and leave and one of the employees was staring and rolling her eyes. My mom said "what you've never seen a kid throw a fit before." And she said she wasn't buying anything and we left. I don't know if I'm more frustrated with DD or people who act like their kids never threw fits. 

cal031686

EF THIS MONDAY!!! Woke up late this morning and my body thought it would be great to throw in some sickness to start my morning. Get myself cleaned up and start straightening my house like a maniac before daycare kids arrive. Enter 6 loud kiddos (1 of my own) who are not listening, whiny, and 1 who is having constant blowouts. My head hurts, I'm tired, and the constant bending over is killing me. I told all my parents I would be open till I pop, but do I really want to deal with everyone else's cranky kids when I feel horrible? 

AliKay20

Some of you saw my blown up right foot thanks to swelling. I kept it elevated all day today but didn't bother with the left foot because it never was as bad as the right foot.

Well now my left foot is swollen to the umpteenth power.

Pregnancy...you just don't let me win. Ever.

Today, my coworker yelled, "ohhh look! An OUTIE!!! Your belly button FINALLY came out! And you look like a mom today." 

??!?? What is a MOM supposed to look like? I am in my last month and my face has blown up as well. This coworker...ugh.

edited bc I can't spell umpteenth*

jacmkelley

AliKay20 said:

Some of you saw my blown up right foot thanks to swelling. I kept it elevated all day today but didn't bother with the left foot because it never was as bad as the right foot.

Well now my left foot is swollen to the umpteenth power.

Pregnancy...you just don't let me win. Ever.

Today, my coworker yelled, "ohhh look! An OUTIE!!! Your belly button FINALLY came out! And you look like a mom today." 

??!?? What is a MOM supposed to look like? I am in my last month and my face has blown up as well. This coworker...ugh.

edited bc I can't spell umpteenth*

AliKay20 said:

Some of you saw my blown up right foot thanks to swelling. I kept it elevated all day today but didn't bother with the left foot because it never was as bad as the right foot.

Well now my left foot is swollen to the umpteenth power.

Pregnancy...you just don't let me win. Ever.

Today, my coworker yelled, "ohhh look! An OUTIE!!! Your belly button FINALLY came out! And you look like a mom today." 

??!?? What is a MOM supposed to look like? I am in my last month and my face has blown up as well. This coworker...ugh.

edited bc I can't spell umpteenth*

Oh girl I'm so sorry!!! Your right food looks miserable. You need to just sit with your feet up tonight tell DH he has to do it all, your feet need a long ass break!

kwilliams3402

We had weeks of rain and then are in the middle of weeks of 95 degree+ heat, and apparently that has caused a roaches in the house problem.  We have routine pest control treatments, but they were just doing the minimal because we didn't see a problem. Wellllllll Houston we have a problem.  It took pest control a few days to get back out, but today they came and did a robust treatment.  I've been home an hour and killed SEVEN roaches.  Disgusting.  Can I go stay at a hotel and come back in a couple days when they're gone??!?!? 

cait5413

My bithoughts today is my back. Git sta r ed making freezer meals today, which means lots of standing and I stupidly didn't wear shoes for most of it. Now my back is killing me, my feet hurt, and I started having some BH. Just overdid it! But I did get breakfast sandwiches, two pot pies, and 2 chicken casseroles made as well as cooked some extra chicken for some other freezer casseroles later this week.  But I am feeling it now!

lotsofsunshine

My BF.
I'm tired of my mom asking how "my baby is doing." It's not your baby.
I know this is isn't a big deal, but it is just getting annoying. 

This. My mom does it with my kids also. It drives me nuts! Unfortunately, lately, we've had to reestablish some boudries with her and remind her that they are infact OUR children.

Stephanie7693

@kwilliams3402.. I don't know how you're handling that! I probably would have packed up and gone to mommys by now! 
But we have ants pretty bad right now, I'm trying to just ignore them lol