I am a little jealous of the July snark and I think that some posts on here are a little to Facebook friendly. Pregnancy is beautiful (we are making a person after all), but at the same time its rough and there are side effects that are not "fun" so when people post about it like its sunshine and rainbows or even talk about how blissful it will be when baby is here and they can put them in cute outfits, I WISH we had an "I call bullshit" button to use as well as a "Love It" one.
@Kristynmac My husband goes to my appts with me and when they ask how I've been and I say "great" he calls me out...and says yea shes been cranky the passed week lol
I am a little jealous of the July snark and I think that some posts on here are a little to Facebook friendly. Pregnancy is beautiful (we are making a person after all), but at the same time its rough and there are side effects that are not "fun" so when people post about it like its sunshine and rainbows, I WISH we had an "I call bullshit" button to use as well as a "Love It" one.
I think the problem for me is that I need a little alcohol for my snark to come out. And since I can't have wine, I'm just stuck being boring and tame. I definitely do not claim that my pregnancy has been sunshine and rainbows, though!
My UO is I actually like that our board is relatively tame. Yes, the drive-by posters and the threads getting started that really could have been categorized as a "random, UO or WTFWed" annoy me, but I appreciate the patience and thoughtfulness others have given me with issues I've had. The lack of drama has been nice. Pregnancy definitely isn't sunshine and rainbows for me, but I like having a place to come and share my crap without having to worry about drama. I do wish the board was more active though.
@kristynmac I agree, I love their snark, for the most part. I think we can have a little more of that without being flat out mean or starting drama. Meanwhile, we're over here like...
Also, my UO is that it that pregnancy does not last 10 months and I think people that argue that need a math lesson.
Related to complaints about the board... I find it really strange that there are people who don't post much in the normal threads, but will share their nursery/bump/maternity photos. It's not that it even bothers me, it's more that I think it's kind of weird to want to share that stuff with people you're not even conversing with... I love getting the visuals on those who do participate though, because I feel like it helps us to get to know each other better.
I am swelling--its gross and to top it off its more on my left leg and foot, because that's where he likes to be and is creating pressure. I am happy that the bump is as big as it is, because it is supporting the weight of my ridiculous boobs. I ran out of toilet paper last night and used DH's towel because I was too lazy to waddle down the hall (I did throw it in the washer this morning--not a completely terrible person). Also, I have an 11-year-old that has hit this awesome snarky stage (wonder where he got it?) so I have a lot of times where I take a deep breath and walk away from him so this parenting thing is in a forever growing pain stage. When he was a baby, if I spent more than $10 on an outfit or tried to plan it out, it was almost a guarantee that he was going to poop up the back of it within 5 minutes of wearing it--so no I "can't wait to dress this baby up and show him off."
I am crossing my fingers he sleeps more than a few hours at a time. I hope that my milk comes in and he will take a bottle when I go back to work. I am dreading that he will like the daycare lady more than me, because I have to work and he will be there a lot (work/life) balance is a B. I LOVE the real answers and the feedback--so keep those coming!!!!
@Snaps816 girl. After your epic poop story, I have nothing but respect for you and I WISH that I could have that success. In the meantime I will be over here--crossing my fingers I don't develop hemorrhoids from pushing too hard with no success.
@Mfuller76 Ha! I had to do the math for someone this week on how pregnancy is not 10 months. 4 weeks does not equal 1 month. I don't know why it bothers me so much, but when people say they are 32 weeks pregnant and 8 months along, I just shake my head. No... you are actually 7 months and a couple days. Math is fun.
@kristynmac I'm blushing over here a bit to think that anyone remembers that poop story!! I guess that will be my claim to fame around here. Unfortunately, ever since I started the iron supplements, I think my toilet-clogging days are over. Now it's my pipes that are backed up.
I lurk so many boards. February has had some interesting threads lately.
I don't know if this has been said before, but baby's kicks sometimes feel so weird and alien like. I just feel like I've always heard such positive sweet things about babies movements and no one has ever talked about how strange it is! There are times when I'm just like nope...that felt gross and I didn't like it. I'm so grateful to feel her as much as I do, but I don't know if I'll ever get past how weird it is.
@Hannah0726 I'm with you on the strangeness. I love baby kicks from like 22 weeks to 30weeks. Earlier than that, they are a little nauseating - all the fluttering and whatnot - and later they are painful and a bit weird. Watching and feeling a foot run down my stomach freaks me out sometimes. Also, he tends to be super active when I'm working (as a therapist) and I always worry that my clients are going to notice my wiggling stomach!
@Bookhousegirl Yes!! There was a "cute" period of time but now that I'm almost 31 weeks she's getting stronger and it's so much more pushing. The other night I was laying down and she was pushing in one spot and I actually "pushed" back a little and felt her push against me. Aaahhh!
@Bookhousegirl I was sitting at the doctor the other day and LO was moving like crazy. You could totally see it from the outside and there was a lady across from me staring big time lol. We were not at the OB's office but the Orthopedic surgeon's for my dd.
My UO is I actually like that our board is relatively tame. Yes, the drive-by posters and the threads getting started that really could have been categorized as a "random, UO or WTFWed" annoy me, but I appreciate the patience and thoughtfulness others have given me with issues I've had. The lack of drama has been nice. Pregnancy definitely isn't sunshine and rainbows for me, but I like having a place to come and share my crap without having to worry about drama. I do wish the board was more active though.
I agree. On the June 2014 board, I basically couldn't get any real responses to anything once I posted a UO about not liking when pregnant women wear bikinis, which I also posted on this board. It was like they shunned me....I definitely prefer the atmosphere on August 2016 over that level of snark and nastiness.
I've gone back and forth on the snark. After I moved over here from the TTC board I missed the snark big time and I still enjoy reading it on other boards. But after being here I think I prefer not having snark. I've received so much support on this board and I don't feel like I have to read my post 1,000 times before posting it to make sure it won't elicit mean comments or be read the wrong way. I guess I feel more relaxed and feel like I can be myself on this board and I like that.
@Mrsrundell I don't either! I can't drink water unless it's filtered or from a bottle. I get freaked out otherwise.
I'm with all of you in the change of fetal movement. Im so glad I feel it and would panic if I didn't, but the whole limbs poking out really far is also freaky! LO loves to poke the inside of my belly button constantly and I don't like the way that feels.
Sorry ladies, but I'm 30 weeks into this board and I stI'll haven't figured out what UO is... part of my lack in participating on here is bc I don't know what everything means, the other part is because I'm on the app and it makes me lazy lol. I can't even look at the threads with pictures because it makes the app crash. Maybe someday I'll go on my real computer and contribute on those boards!
Basically post something that many people may not agree with. But, going along with the trend today, most of us usually do agree but sometimes it can spark a conversation/debate.
I've never participated in chat rooms or forums before this board. So in the beginning I was terrified of you ladies! Lol Now I know a little more about the etiquette so I feel more comfortable posting. But honestly I still don't know all the etiquette and some of it makes no sense to me. So I really appreciate that on this board nobody is gonna flame me because I posted my hdbd pic after Wednesday. I do still get a little anxious about people thinking I participate too little or on the wrong boards or whatever, but I try to contribute when I have something to add, but if it's just gonna be the same thing others have said I feel like that just junks up the thread so i stay quiet and "love it." That being said, some of the posters on July are fucking hilarious! I think this board could be a little less tame and pc without that meaning we are mean and belligerent. I have thought about participating on the July board some since my DD is August 1st, but want sure if that was gonna get me flamed. Like, if our baby comes now, do we start using the June board?
Here is my UO: I kind of think "maternity shoots" are ridiculous. Like yeah, we're all going to want some pics of ourselves pregnant, to show our kids one day. But we are not celebrities. A full on professional photo shoot is not necessary. Especially when it's someone who expresses concern over paying for all the baby stuff - why drop $300 on a photo shoot, then? I think this, along with gender reveal parties, only came about because Pinterest has made everyone think they have to do these elaborate projects and make everything look just-so, and because Facebook has compelled us all to make our lives look super perfect to others. Or I guess it's not the shoots themselves that I think are ridiculous, but the idea that they've become standard pregnancy protocol, right up there with choosing a pediatrician and having a shower. But that's just my opinion.
@Car0liiine I feel the same sometimes too. Being a FTM I have no previous experience with certain topics and so I am just constantly reading what everyone else has to say, or I feel I don't have anything interesting to contribute. I love tit the crap out stuff though so hopefully it shows I'm still actively participating.
I think you should still announce your pregnancy here but then participate where you felt comfortable. I think I would still participate on this board though just because I'm familiar with all the ladies here and then just lurk the other board.
ETA: Does anyone else love tit something and then realize you are on another board? Ha!
I like a little bit of snark, but I'm really a passive aggressive person. I always think up a witty response and then think, "Mmmm, better not." Plus I'm really not that good at UO- I feel like mine always count as a FFFC, but then when Friday rolls around I can never remember what I wanted to say! Stupid preggo brain.
My REAL UO: I love hospital food. Which is good since I work at a hospital. All the chefs know me and will throw some blueberries or chocolate chips in my pancake. Its pretty nice.
@Snaps816, I refuse to have a Pinterest log on for just that reason. Sometimes people save stuff for me on a private board, but I agree, just hundreds of things to look at and make myself discontent with my - cooking, home, self, or life. I have a very nice life - but it's certainly looks infererior to me when I compare it to all those perfect pictures.
I do plan to do maternity photos. My husband isn't at all thrilled, but I LOVE pictures. It is something we have the luxury of being able to afford without hardship at this point in our lives. But he thinks I want to do them just because "it's what everybody else is doing."
ETA: I also like our board without too much snark for the most part - but there are a few times when I feel people need to be flamed (and it's usually not the regulars.)
My REAL UO: I love hospital food. Which is good since I work at a hospital. All the chefs know me and will throw some blueberries or chocolate chips in my pancake. Its pretty nice.
My hospital has really good food! I didn't appreciate it after I delivered DS but he was hospitalized twice as an infant for a total of about 2 weeks and since I was nursing and he wasn't eating solids I got the guest trays. I'm now dreaming of the food I'm going to order when I'm in with this kid lol
@Curls919 Those guys make the BEST breakfast quesadillas. I've already told DH that he will have to get one while we are in the hospital. That might be the one thing I'm looking forward to after coming back to work following my maternity leave.. I get to put all the spicy things that give me heartburn right now into the quesadilla.
I actually like the maternity photos. I wasn't going to do them because we can't afford them, but my friend who has been playing around with photography recently told me she wanted to do one for me as my shower gift. I'm definitely taking her up on that offer!
@LWC1112 can you explain the math for me? Lol. Whenever someone asks how far along I am I tell them in weeks and then they ask how many months that is. Then I get super confused! Lol
@squishy0511 the easiest way for me to think of it is by my delivery day. I'm due on the 24th and that is 9 full months, so tomorrow I will be 7 full months (6/24). Because most months have 30 or 31 days in them, you end up dropping 2 or 3 days each time you use the 4 weeks = 1 month method. One or two months of doing that isn't going to change much, but the further into pregnancy you get, the more it does. For example, by 7 months pregnant that is 14 to 21 days you are leaving out if you just think in terms of 28 days per month (4 weeks). I hope that makes sense!
@LWC1112 gotcha!! But then if you're 7 full months (or have completed 7), aren't you technically in your 8th month or just starting it? I think I'm over complicating it haha.
@squishy0511 yes you would just be starting your 8 month. I feel like if I told someone I was 8 months pregnant though they would assume I would be due in July.
I agree with the UO on gender reveal parties. "Come to my party so I can tell you if my kid has a penis or vagina! Now eat cake!"
I also just wanted to say I love our board and I'm getting so excited for our birth announcements!
Buuuuuut I do dig the occasional snark as well. That's why I lurk over in July from time to time. The tap water one...ha!
*TW Spoiler*
DD: Aug '16
10/2017: Twins confirmed with TTTS at 22 weeks. 10/10/17 Twin B passed after in utero placenta surgery 11/2/17 Twin A & B born 11/26/17: Twin A passed after 24 days fighting in the NICU Benched 6 months BFP: 6/28/18 MC:7/16/18 BO BFP: 10/2/18 EDD 6/15/18
I love photography, so I'm all about the maternity shoots. I also only have head-cut-off pics of my baby bellys, so my maternity shoots are my shot at getting a few good photos of myself pregnant that are frame-worthy. I also NEED to get a pic of DD kissing my belly. She does it all the time and I have zero pics of her doing it. I'm praying that she cooperates at our shoot this weekend!
I do agree on the gender reveal party thing - I think they're so dumb! Ain't nobody got time for that!
My UO is that I think only tall women should wear maxi dresses. I've thought this ever since they became a trend years ago. They just make shorter girls look frumpy and stumpy, yes, even pregnant short girls. Though, pregnant short girls can get away with it better than non-pregnant short girls. I think there should be a requirement that you have to be at least 5'8 to wear a maxi dress. I'm 5'10 and I don't even wear them except for pregnancy because most regular length maternity dresses are waaaaay too short for me.
Re: UO Thursday
Also, my UO is that it that pregnancy does not last 10 months and I think people that argue that need a math lesson.
I am crossing my fingers he sleeps more than a few hours at a time.
I hope that my milk comes in and he will take a bottle when I go back to work.
I am dreading that he will like the daycare lady more than me, because I have to work and he will be there a lot (work/life) balance is a B.
I LOVE the real answers and the feedback--so keep those coming!!!!
@Snaps816 girl. After your epic poop story, I have nothing but respect for you and I WISH that I could have that success. In the meantime I will be over here--crossing my fingers I don't develop hemorrhoids from pushing too hard with no success.
My UO: I never drink tap water
I don't know if this has been said before, but baby's kicks sometimes feel so weird and alien like. I just feel like I've always heard such positive sweet things about babies movements and no one has ever talked about how strange it is! There are times when I'm just like nope...that felt gross and I didn't like it. I'm so grateful to feel her as much as I do, but I don't know if I'll ever get past how weird it is.
Baby #2 due 8/11/2016
@Mrsrundell I don't either! I can't drink water unless it's filtered or from a bottle. I get freaked out otherwise.
I'm with all of you in the change of fetal movement. Im so glad I feel it and would panic if I didn't, but the whole limbs poking out really far is also freaky! LO loves to poke the inside of my belly button constantly and I don't like the way that feels.
I don't really have my own UO to contribute.
Basically post something that many people may not agree with. But, going along with the trend today, most of us usually do agree but sometimes it can spark a conversation/debate.
I've seen many UO threads get downright brutal.
That being said, some of the posters on July are fucking hilarious! I think this board could be a little less tame and pc without that meaning we are mean and belligerent.
I have thought about participating on the July board some since my DD is August 1st, but want sure if that was gonna get me flamed. Like, if our baby comes now, do we start using the June board?
I think you should still announce your pregnancy here but then participate where you felt comfortable.
I think I would still participate on this board though just because I'm familiar with all the ladies here and then just lurk the other board.
ETA: Does anyone else love tit something and then realize you are on another board? Ha!
My REAL UO: I love hospital food. Which is good since I work at a hospital. All the chefs know me and will throw some blueberries or chocolate chips in my pancake. Its pretty nice.
I do plan to do maternity photos. My husband isn't at all thrilled, but I LOVE pictures. It is something we have the luxury of being able to afford without hardship at this point in our lives. But he thinks I want to do them just because "it's what everybody else is doing."
ETA: I also like our board without too much snark for the most part - but there are a few times when I feel people need to be flamed (and it's usually not the regulars.)
Mine? Who am I to say this right but I'll go ahead and say it anyway:
Some people just should NOT reproduce. Case in point below:
I also just wanted to say I love our board and I'm getting so excited for our birth announcements!
Buuuuuut I do dig the occasional snark as well. That's why I lurk over in July from time to time. The tap water one...ha!
DD: Aug '16
10/2017: Twins confirmed with TTTS at 22 weeks.
10/10/17 Twin B passed after in utero placenta surgery
11/2/17 Twin A & B born
11/26/17: Twin A passed after 24 days fighting in the NICU
Benched 6 months
BFP: 6/28/18 MC:7/16/18 BO
BFP: 10/2/18 EDD 6/15/18
I do agree on the gender reveal party thing - I think they're so dumb! Ain't nobody got time for that!
My UO is that I think only tall women should wear maxi dresses. I've thought this ever since they became a trend years ago. They just make shorter girls look frumpy and stumpy, yes, even pregnant short girls. Though, pregnant short girls can get away with it better than non-pregnant short girls. I think there should be a requirement that you have to be at least 5'8 to wear a maxi dress. I'm 5'10 and I don't even wear them except for pregnancy because most regular length maternity dresses are waaaaay too short for me.
Baby #2 due 8/11/2016