@skichic626 I'm 5'4 and agree. Plus my boobs are ginormous so maxi dresses look really frumpy on me. Sadly this does not stop me from wearing them. Lesson learned about being photographed in them though... Saw some photos of me in a maxi and nearly died at how huge I looked.
@AliKay20 Avvidentslly leaving the baby in the car is one of my biggest fears, especially living in Texas and knowing how brutal summers get.
@midwestbaby I hadn't read the tap water one! I think that's the perfect level of snark - randos popping up and being responded to with WTF Gifs.
@SkiChic626 Say wha...? I'm 5'3" and wear maxis all the time! Maybe it's because I'm all leg with a short torso, or because I tend to wear wedges a lot but I feel like I can rock a maxi. Plus... so comfy!
@SkiChic626 I am tall and have big boobs, and when I wear a maxi dress I basically look like a wall. Or like, if I leaned against a wall someone might thing there was a doorway there. It's way too much fabric. So I don't know who really pulls of the maxi dress.
@SkiChic626 I don't care if I look like a whale-- when it's hot and my ankles and feet are swollen, I'm having trouble shaving my legs, it's way harder to keep my legs together, I'm sweating and trying to just make it through the day I'm totally wearing comfy, breathable maxi dresses. I don't normally wear them as a short person but I gotta do what I gotta do--it's all about just making it through at this point for me.
My UO is that I cannot stand when people submit their child's picture to a "cutest baby/kid" completion and then post it all over social media trying to get their friends to vote for their kid. Do you really need validation that you kid is cute?
I love that when I'm stressed, concerned, or just need to talk all things baby I can come here. I'm not a "blogger" or a "chat room" person. But this is so nice and I love the support. I love that we are rainbows and sunshine. And I feel like we are all pretty caring. Reading the other BC is like they are all in competition to be more mean or snarky. That's not supportive. And I love the support here.
I dislike the daily threads because I'm on a completely different time zone and it feels like I never see them at the right time, and then I feel silly posting the next day so I don't participate in them often (case in point, it's Friday for me not Thursday!). By the time the Thursday thread has started, I'm asleep or it's already Friday.
Always a tough one with timezones, it can make a board feel very US centric or UK centric etc. You miss all the good discussions living somewhere else!
I agree the support here is amazing. What I meant was some posts are a little too good to be true. As in when people post on other social media sites how "perfect" their life and family is (#blessed) and it's almost too perfect to be real, but they never post the real stuff.
@ccfc1984, I do shift work, so it often lends itself to a similar situation. I wouldn't feel shy about posting the next day. I think the "daily theme" is more about starting the conversation rather than confining the conversion to a particular time-frame.
I love photography, so I'm all about the maternity shoots. I also only have head-cut-off pics of my baby bellys, so my maternity shoots are my shot at getting a few good photos of myself pregnant that are frame-worthy. I also NEED to get a pic of DD kissing my belly. She does it all the time and I have zero pics of her doing it. I'm praying that she cooperates at our shoot this weekend!
I do agree on the gender reveal party thing - I think they're so dumb! Ain't nobody got time for that!
My UO is that I think only tall women should wear maxi dresses. I've thought this ever since they became a trend years ago. They just make shorter girls look frumpy and stumpy, yes, even pregnant short girls. Though, pregnant short girls can get away with it better than non-pregnant short girls. I think there should be a requirement that you have to be at least 5'8 to wear a maxi dress. I'm 5'10 and I don't even wear them except for pregnancy because most regular length maternity dresses are waaaaay too short for me.
Plus I get so hot in maxi dresses! I thought I was going to live in these but I much prefer traditional sun dresses where my body can breathe.
@Car0liiine I'm with you, I usually don't add a whole lot to the threads that already have a few good responses to a question. I just tap that little love it and nod to myself in agreement.
Also I agree with @jamiesc58 you will always be an August 16 mama
*TW Spoiler*
DD: Aug '16
10/2017: Twins confirmed with TTTS at 22 weeks. 10/10/17 Twin B passed after in utero placenta surgery 11/2/17 Twin A & B born 11/26/17: Twin A passed after 24 days fighting in the NICU Benched 6 months BFP: 6/28/18 MC:7/16/18 BO BFP: 10/2/18 EDD 6/15/18
Just gonna throw this out there for all you FTM's relating to leaving a baby in a hot car...
It is SO EASY to forget. When you haven't slept. When you're off routine. When you have 1 million things to do. My GREATEST fear has been forgetting DD in her car seat since she was born. I used to judge a lot of moms/dads. Personally, I haven't forgotten (yet). I actually in my sleep deprived states have forgotten that she WASN'T in the car and went to get her out only to realize she was dropped off at my mom's house. I have so many friends who have told their story through social media- THANK GOD, their stories turned out ok. They walked into the house and something felt off, an older child said something, etc. We're all in this together, lets just show some compassion towards parents who have lost a child. It could so easily be any one of us. Even the best moms (and dads) make mistakes sometimes.
Personal story: A month or so ago we took DD home from my parents house pretty late, and mom had wanted her just to spend the night so she wouldn't have to come pick her up in the morning. I refused because I wanted her home even if I only got an extra 20 minutes with her in the morning it is was worth it to me. We drove home, and she fell asleep so I carried her in the house. DH was with me the WHOLE TIME. She was already asleep so she laid down and she actually stayed asleep. We went to bed, and woke up the next day to realize DH had forgotten his shoes at my parents house and needed them for work. I suggested he call my mom, maybe she could bring them. He was really weird about it, and I was confused about that. So he finally called her after he left and she asked if he wanted her to go back and get them before she got too far, he had no idea where she was going or why should would be coming to our house. Although he had walked past her crib, I had been staring at her that morning even. He had COMPLETELY forgotten that DD came home with us the night before. He was tired. He was preoccupied. He isn't a bad dad, in fact, I would put him up against any dad I know. He's amazing with her. But he was tired, it was out of routine, and he forgot that she was home. Obviously its not a hot car situation, and DD was fine, I get her ready in the morning and was well aware that she was there.
Personal story: A month or so ago we took DD home from my parents house pretty late, and mom had wanted her just to spend the night so she wouldn't have to come pick her up in the morning. I refused because I wanted her home even if I only got an extra 20 minutes with her in the morning it is was worth it to me. We drove home, and she fell asleep so I carried her in the house. DH was with me the WHOLE TIME. She was already asleep so she laid down and she actually stayed asleep. We went to bed, and woke up the next day to realize DH had forgotten his shoes at my parents house and needed them for work. I suggested he call my mom, maybe she could bring them. He was really weird about it, and I was confused about that. So he finally called her after he left and she asked if he wanted her to go back and get them before she got too far, he had no idea where she was going or why should would be coming to our house. Although he had walked past her crib, I had been staring at her that morning even. He had COMPLETELY forgotten that DD came home with us the night before. He was tired. He was preoccupied. He isn't a bad dad, in fact, I would put him up against any dad I know. He's amazing with her. But he was tired, it was out of routine, and he forgot that she was home. Obviously its not a hot car situation, and DD was fine, I get her ready in the morning and was well aware that she was there.
This is so true about sleep and NO ONE can prepare you for what it will do for you. There is a reason that sleep deprivation was banned as a torture treatment in the Geneva Convention.
I remember one night I had put my DD down in her Rock N' Sleep and went to bed to try to get some much needed rest. She had only been sleeping about 1 hour at the time. I woke up screaming that my baby was gone and someone took her b/c she wasn't lying next to me. In my delirious state, I thought I was holding my baby when I was sleeping. It is nuts.
Just gonna throw this out there for all you FTM's relating to leaving a baby in a hot car...
It is SO EASY to forget. When you haven't slept. When you're off routine. When you have 1 million things to do. My GREATEST fear has been forgetting DD in her car seat since she was born. I used to judge a lot of moms/dads. Personally, I haven't forgotten (yet). I actually in my sleep deprived states have forgotten that she WASN'T in the car and went to get her out only to realize she was dropped off at my mom's house. I have so many friends who have told their story through social media- THANK GOD, their stories turned out ok. They walked into the house and something felt off, an older child said something, etc. We're all in this together, lets just show some compassion towards parents who have lost a child. It could so easily be any one of us. Even the best moms (and dads) make mistakes sometimes.
Personal story: A month or so ago we took DD home from my parents house pretty late, and mom had wanted her just to spend the night so she wouldn't have to come pick her up in the morning. I refused because I wanted her home even if I only got an extra 20 minutes with her in the morning it is was worth it to me. We drove home, and she fell asleep so I carried her in the house. DH was with me the WHOLE TIME. She was already asleep so she laid down and she actually stayed asleep. We went to bed, and woke up the next day to realize DH had forgotten his shoes at my parents house and needed them for work. I suggested he call my mom, maybe she could bring them. He was really weird about it, and I was confused about that. So he finally called her after he left and she asked if he wanted her to go back and get them before she got too far, he had no idea where she was going or why should would be coming to our house. Although he had walked past her crib, I had been staring at her that morning even. He had COMPLETELY forgotten that DD came home with us the night before. He was tired. He was preoccupied. He isn't a bad dad, in fact, I would put him up against any dad I know. He's amazing with her. But he was tired, it was out of routine, and he forgot that she was home. Obviously its not a hot car situation, and DD was fine, I get her ready in the morning and was well aware that she was there.
I completely agree, I will say the story that @AliKay20 shared is different, he left his daughter in the car and before calling for help he put her in the fridge for an unknown amount of time. I have friends/family with horror stories of leaving their child at home on accident, or in the car in summer heat but none of them tried to mask their mistakes. They immediately called for help etc... I cannot imagine leaving DD in the car for hours and finding her unresponsive to put her in a refrigerator. That's insanity!
But in my opinion people who accidentally leave their children etc... It could be me. It could be my DH, shit just happens and is horrible. I'm not about to shame someone for an absolutely horrific mistake.
This is one of my biggest fears as well. I already feel like I can be kinda spacey even when I have had a suitable amount of sleep.
Parents today should be more supportive of one another when these accidental tragedies occur. Along the same lines with the recent alligator incident. It could happen to ANYONE and that's what is frightening.
*TW Spoiler*
DD: Aug '16
10/2017: Twins confirmed with TTTS at 22 weeks. 10/10/17 Twin B passed after in utero placenta surgery 11/2/17 Twin A & B born 11/26/17: Twin A passed after 24 days fighting in the NICU Benched 6 months BFP: 6/28/18 MC:7/16/18 BO BFP: 10/2/18 EDD 6/15/18
@jacmkelley Yeah, the refrigerator part doesn't make sense to me, but I also have no idea what I would do if it happened to me. I'd like to think I would immediately call for help, but honestly, I might do something stupid or crazy. Maybe he panicked ya know? He'll deal with the courts, I just pray for his wife and 2 older children. They live less than an hour from me.
Personal story: A month or so ago we took DD home from my parents house pretty late, and mom had wanted her just to spend the night so she wouldn't have to come pick her up in the morning. I refused because I wanted her home even if I only got an extra 20 minutes with her in the morning it is was worth it to me. We drove home, and she fell asleep so I carried her in the house. DH was with me the WHOLE TIME. She was already asleep so she laid down and she actually stayed asleep. We went to bed, and woke up the next day to realize DH had forgotten his shoes at my parents house and needed them for work. I suggested he call my mom, maybe she could bring them. He was really weird about it, and I was confused about that. So he finally called her after he left and she asked if he wanted her to go back and get them before she got too far, he had no idea where she was going or why should would be coming to our house. Although he had walked past her crib, I had been staring at her that morning even. He had COMPLETELY forgotten that DD came home with us the night before. He was tired. He was preoccupied. He isn't a bad dad, in fact, I would put him up against any dad I know. He's amazing with her. But he was tired, it was out of routine, and he forgot that she was home. Obviously its not a hot car situation, and DD was fine, I get her ready in the morning and was well aware that she was there.
This is so true about sleep and NO ONE can prepare you for what it will do for you. There is a reason that sleep deprivation was banned as a torture treatment in the Geneva Convention.
I remember one night I had put my DD down in her Rock N' Sleep and went to bed to try to get some much needed rest. She had only been sleeping about 1 hour at the time. I woke up screaming that my baby was gone and someone took her b/c she wasn't lying next to me. In my delirious state, I thought I was holding my baby when I was sleeping. It is nuts.
Similar to @Katienu, DD was maybe a week or so old, she was sleeping right next to me in her RnP, and I had laid down in bed to get a few Zzzz's as well. I hear something thud and I hear DH go "Oh my God!!! Are you OK???" - he was downstairs watching TV. So I sprung up thinking DD had rolled out of the bassinet of the pack n play and fell onto the floor or something, and once I came to I saw that she was still sound asleep in her RnP right next to me. The raucous was actually the cat falling down our open stairwell literally 1.5 flights....poor kitty, she was fine, but holy crap it gave me a heart attack thinking it was the sleeping baby who was really right next to me!
@texasmama2014 it is definitely one of my biggest fears being in Texas. I will text DH or the nanny if I know they are going somewhere with DD to make sure "drop off" went well. I trust them both 100% but we are all exhausted.
My personal story happened about 2 weeks ago. Our spring schedule changed into our summer schedule and instead of me taking DD to school on Mondays, I now take her on Wednesdays. I was driving to work and was talking to my mom on bluetooth. DD is always really quiet when anyone is on bluetooth because she likes to listen in. Absentmindedly I drove to my office, turned down the lane that gets to my parking garage, and luckily realized at that moment I was not supposed to go there first. I am fairly confident that I would have realized before I parked or DD would have said something before I got out of the car, but it was one of the scariest moments for me. I never thought I could ever do something like that, but I'm a creature of habit and wasn't used to the Wednesday drop off. DD is my world. I truly consider myself a good mom. My heart absolutely breaks when I hear the stories of the "good" parents that this happens too. It is terrifying.
My grandma used to babysit our oldest dd. She was about 4 at the time. I was pregnant with ds and was going to meet up with my mom after work and picking up dd. I was on the phone with my mom checking in to make sure the plans had not changed and completely drove right past my grandma's house. I noticed about halfway to mom's and had to turn around. They all got a good laugh out of it but I felt like the absolute worst person in the world. @texasmama2014 is spot on when talking about sleep deprivation, things going on in your mind/life, or any other outside issues making your brain not fully function. We are all human.
I read somewhere that if you are truly worried about something like this, put your left shoe in the back seat next to your baby. You will get out and realize you don't have a shoe on. It shouldn't make you feel like a bad person at all, especially as a FTM. Your life is completely changed and your brain will take some time to adjust.
Since I became a mom almost 11 years ago, my fear has been that I will forget my kids somewhere. I don't know why, but to this day, I will check the backseat to make sure I remembered them. They are 6 and 10. I know it's a little different than leaving them in a hot car, but it's still leaving your child alone. And I have no idea why I have always been so worried. And although I can't imagine leaving my baby in a hot car, I do see how it can happen to some parents. And you just never know when you will be so far out of routine and sleep deprived that it's a real possibility it could happen to you. But I agree this last one sounds a little off. Putting the kid in the fridge? And I read that mom tried to do cpr before calling 911. How did she get left in the car if mom was there too? And something must have been off for the cops to be charging the dad already.
@texasmomma2014 I agree, who knows what you would do. I just wanted to point out it wasn't your typical story. There is some suspicion there and personally I just cant fathom doing anything other than calling 911 first. We live in DFW area - he's super close! Just blows my mind. I dread this time of year for this reason alone. And then you get people who shame other parents and say truly painful things because "they could never". And I just feel like parents should support each other in such awful times.
Have any of you considered getting one of those car alarms/monitors to remind you that the baby is still in the vehicle? or setting an alarm on your phone? I am terrified that this could happen and I have even considered where I want to place his carseat so that its visible (not behind my seat, but maybe the middle or behind passenger). Last year, I took my son to school and its normally something that DH does so even in the 5 block drive to his school, I ended up driving to work and he was in the back seat laughing because I forgot to drop him off and he was 10 and able to speak up.
Have any of you considered getting one of those car alarms/monitors to remind you that the baby is still in the vehicle? or setting an alarm on your phone? I am terrified that this could happen and I have even considered where I want to place his carseat so that its visible (not behind my seat, but maybe the middle or behind passenger). Last year, I took my son to school and its normally something that DH does so even in the 5 block drive to his school, I ended up driving to work and he was in the back seat laughing because I forgot to drop him off and he was 10 and able to speak up.
Sounds like such a boy thing to do! Too funny! And scary, I didn't know they have monitors and alarms!? That's super neat. I may need to look into that. My issue is I worry my husband will forget or my MIL who often has DD now.
@kristynmac yes, I have. The only problem is that putting something on the carseat could decrease its safety due to it being an aftermarket product. I would love to buy some if Graco/Chicco approves them to be used on the seats I have, or definitely look into buy new.
@texasmama2014 Do you know if there is a way to certify that additions like an alarm are safe? Kind of like taking your vehicle to someone to certify the correct install?
To make my point clear, it was the fact that instead of dialing 911, he put his baby in the FRIDGE. Not the fact that accidents do happen where parents leave their kids in the car or elsewhere. I'm afraid I'll be in that situation as well.
But to find out your baby has been sitting in that car for several hours and is unresponsive...who in their right mind would think the next step is to put a baby in the fridge to cool down??????
To make my point clear, it was the fact that instead of dialing 911, he put his baby in the FRIDGE. Not the fact that accidents do happen where parents leave their kids in the car or elsewhere. I'm afraid I'll be in that situation as well.
But to find out your baby has been sitting in that car for several hours and is unresponsive...who in their right mind would think the next step is to put a baby in the fridge to cool down??????
That just has to be sheer stupidity. Even if you thought that might help bring her temp down, how could you not know that a child would suffocate in a fridge?
To make my point clear, it was the fact that instead of dialing 911, he put his baby in the FRIDGE. Not the fact that accidents do happen where parents leave their kids in the car or elsewhere. I'm afraid I'll be in that situation as well.
But to find out your baby has been sitting in that car for several hours and is unresponsive...who in their right mind would think the next step is to put a baby in the fridge to cool down??????
That just has to be sheer stupidity. Even if you thought that might help bring her temp down, how could you not know that a child would suffocate in a fridge?
Exactly my point. If she was in the car at below freezing temp, would he have put her in the oven to warm her up? It's his thought process that scares me. The fact that he went there instead of calling 911.
To make my point clear, it was the fact that instead of dialing 911, he put his baby in the FRIDGE. Not the fact that accidents do happen where parents leave their kids in the car or elsewhere. I'm afraid I'll be in that situation as well.
But to find out your baby has been sitting in that car for several hours and is unresponsive...who in their right mind would think the next step is to put a baby in the fridge to cool down??????
That just has to be sheer stupidity. Even if you thought that might help bring her temp down, how could you not know that a child would suffocate in a fridge?
Exactly my point. If she was in the car at below freezing temp, would he have put her in the oven to warm her up? It's his thought process that scares me. The fact that he went there instead of calling 911.
I'm with you. I don't get it at all. No matter how afraid or bad I feel the last thing I'll do is take matters into my own hands and especially not put my kid in a fridge, which seems morbid to be. Ill call 911.
I definitely agree that sleep deprivation is real. While I haven't thus far forgotten a child in the car (and I'd make DH put his briefcase in the backseat on days he was dropping DS off to MIL), about a week after DS was born our garage door was being fixed and we were entering the house from the front door. A friend came over to visit and opened the door and came in. I was confused as to how she got in without ringing the bell for me and she said that there were keys in the door and it was unlocked. She assumed I wanted her to come in and not wake the baby or I was nursing or something. Nope. DH had come home the night before, used his keys to get into the house and now 18 hours later the door was still unlocked wth his keys in the lock! Thankfully we live in a pretty safe neighborhood and have an alarm system but if she hadn't come over the door would have been like that for 24 hours. And we don't leave the alarm on during the day
I can't type fast enough to actually keep up with the thread lol, but I just read the whole thing and then 12 new responses popped up haha... well I'm also happy that the birth month board isn't as snarky at TTC.... I felt like everyone there hated me... no matter what I said...and was a little afraid to participate here... but I will say that its kept me sane to be here because I kind of lost some of my friends with this pregnancy... a close friend miscarried when I found out and would rather keep her distance from me now... even though shes pregnant now... and on my floor in our apartment complex 2 other people are pregnant.. but they are not as into it as I am... like my neighbor doesn't want to watch documentaries or shop for baby stuff... so it kind of sucks... and my BFF isn't even married so the baby stuff is too much for her...wish I had more mommy friends
@Katm89 I was scared to participate in my 2015 board because of all the snark. There were some who were downright mean. I definitely didn't ask questions. I felt like I was back in school, afraid to raise my hand, thinking I would look/sound stupid. It was not very supportive at all unless you were in the "click". I need more mom friends also.
Re: UO Thursday
@midwestbaby I hadn't read the tap water one! I think that's the perfect level of snark - randos popping up and being responded to with WTF Gifs.
@SkiChic626 Say wha...? I'm 5'3" and wear maxis all the time! Maybe it's because I'm all leg with a short torso, or because I tend to wear wedges a lot but I feel like I can rock a maxi. Plus... so comfy!
I just love love apparently lol
Always a tough one with timezones, it can make a board feel very US centric or UK centric etc. You miss all the good discussions living somewhere else!
@alyssajrob22 I love the hospital food also! On the maternity floor I got fed REALLY well especially because I was nursing.
Also I agree with @jamiesc58 you will always be an August 16 mama
DD: Aug '16
10/2017: Twins confirmed with TTTS at 22 weeks.
10/10/17 Twin B passed after in utero placenta surgery
11/2/17 Twin A & B born
11/26/17: Twin A passed after 24 days fighting in the NICU
Benched 6 months
BFP: 6/28/18 MC:7/16/18 BO
BFP: 10/2/18 EDD 6/15/18
It is SO EASY to forget. When you haven't slept. When you're off routine. When you have 1 million things to do. My GREATEST fear has been forgetting DD in her car seat since she was born. I used to judge a lot of moms/dads. Personally, I haven't forgotten (yet). I actually in my sleep deprived states have forgotten that she WASN'T in the car and went to get her out only to realize she was dropped off at my mom's house. I have so many friends who have told their story through social media- THANK GOD, their stories turned out ok. They walked into the house and something felt off, an older child said something, etc. We're all in this together, lets just show some compassion towards parents who have lost a child. It could so easily be any one of us. Even the best moms (and dads) make mistakes sometimes.
Personal story: A month or so ago we took DD home from my parents house pretty late, and mom had wanted her just to spend the night so she wouldn't have to come pick her up in the morning. I refused because I wanted her home even if I only got an extra 20 minutes with her in the morning it is was worth it to me. We drove home, and she fell asleep so I carried her in the house. DH was with me the WHOLE TIME. She was already asleep so she laid down and she actually stayed asleep. We went to bed, and woke up the next day to realize DH had forgotten his shoes at my parents house and needed them for work. I suggested he call my mom, maybe she could bring them. He was really weird about it, and I was confused about that. So he finally called her after he left and she asked if he wanted her to go back and get them before she got too far, he had no idea where she was going or why should would be coming to our house. Although he had walked past her crib, I had been staring at her that morning even. He had COMPLETELY forgotten that DD came home with us the night before. He was tired. He was preoccupied. He isn't a bad dad, in fact, I would put him up against any dad I know. He's amazing with her. But he was tired, it was out of routine, and he forgot that she was home. Obviously its not a hot car situation, and DD was fine, I get her ready in the morning and was well aware that she was there.
This is so true about sleep and NO ONE can prepare you for what it will do for you. There is a reason that sleep deprivation was banned as a torture treatment in the Geneva Convention.
I remember one night I had put my DD down in her Rock N' Sleep and went to bed to try to get some much needed rest. She had only been sleeping about 1 hour at the time. I woke up screaming that my baby was gone and someone took her b/c she wasn't lying next to me. In my delirious state, I thought I was holding my baby when I was sleeping. It is nuts.
I have friends/family with horror stories of leaving their child at home on accident, or in the car in summer heat but none of them tried to mask their mistakes. They immediately called for help etc... I cannot imagine leaving DD in the car for hours and finding her unresponsive to put her in a refrigerator. That's insanity!
But in my opinion people who accidentally leave their children etc... It could be me. It could be my DH, shit just happens and is horrible. I'm not about to shame someone for an absolutely horrific mistake.
This is one of my biggest fears as well. I already feel like I can be kinda spacey even when I have had a suitable amount of sleep.
Parents today should be more supportive of one another when these accidental tragedies occur. Along the same lines with the recent alligator incident. It could happen to ANYONE and that's what is frightening.
DD: Aug '16
10/2017: Twins confirmed with TTTS at 22 weeks.
10/10/17 Twin B passed after in utero placenta surgery
11/2/17 Twin A & B born
11/26/17: Twin A passed after 24 days fighting in the NICU
Benched 6 months
BFP: 6/28/18 MC:7/16/18 BO
BFP: 10/2/18 EDD 6/15/18
Baby #2 due 8/11/2016
My personal story happened about 2 weeks ago. Our spring schedule changed into our summer schedule and instead of me taking DD to school on Mondays, I now take her on Wednesdays. I was driving to work and was talking to my mom on bluetooth. DD is always really quiet when anyone is on bluetooth because she likes to listen in. Absentmindedly I drove to my office, turned down the lane that gets to my parking garage, and luckily realized at that moment I was not supposed to go there first. I am fairly confident that I would have realized before I parked or DD would have said something before I got out of the car, but it was one of the scariest moments for me. I never thought I could ever do something like that, but I'm a creature of habit and wasn't used to the Wednesday drop off. DD is my world. I truly consider myself a good mom. My heart absolutely breaks when I hear the stories of the "good" parents that this happens too. It is terrifying.
I read somewhere that if you are truly worried about something like this, put your left shoe in the back seat next to your baby. You will get out and realize you don't have a shoe on. It shouldn't make you feel like a bad person at all, especially as a FTM. Your life is completely changed and your brain will take some time to adjust.
But I agree this last one sounds a little off. Putting the kid in the fridge? And I read that mom tried to do cpr before calling 911. How did she get left in the car if mom was there too? And something must have been off for the cops to be charging the dad already.
We live in DFW area - he's super close! Just
blows my mind. I dread this time of year for this reason alone. And then you get people
who shame other parents and say truly painful things because "they could never". And I just feel like parents should support each other in such awful times.
I found this article about an EvenFlo carseat that Wal-Mart was selling last year-https://nypost.com/2015/07/24/walmart-selling-baby-car-seat-that-can-prevent-hot-car-deaths/
or this alarm that works with an app on your iPhone- https://www.sunshinebabyalarm.com/product/sunshine-baby/
@texasmama2014 Do you know if there is a way to certify that additions like an alarm are safe? Kind of like taking your vehicle to someone to certify the correct install?
But to find out your baby has been sitting in that car for several hours and is unresponsive...who in their right mind would think the next step is to put a baby in the fridge to cool down??????
Ill call 911.
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