I have an irritable bowel disease that is trying to ruin my life right now so it's awkward when because ask me "How are you feeling?" And I feel like shit. But pregnancy wise I feel great and I know that is what they're referring to so I just tell them I'm great.
I feel like people ask this because they want to hear you tell them how you feel awful or tired or whatever. Which I find super annoying and kind of twisted. So I always tell them I'm doing great. At a family birthday recently someone asked as we were leaving "are you feeling ready to go to bed?" To which I honestly answered "no, I'm feeling ready for the toddler to go to bed."
I was asked how I was feeling a lot when I first started showing by people who are just acquaintances. They were really asking "are you pregnant or just gaining weight?" but they didn't want to come out and ask. I was totally oblivious the first time and just said "Oh, fine."
@CopperBoom86 other than the power-washing incident, your weekend sounds awesome.
@annabenanna Now I want chocolate lava cake! And maybe some ice cream on the side...
Edited because I can't read the title of the thread.
So my mom moved in with us a few weeks ago, she wasn't a very good mom growing up always selfish and always bringing different guys into our lives. Well now that she has been here she keeps questioning me about what I put into my body (had a small coffee) and if I am going to do certain things with the baby. Then she lectures me, hello you barely raised us and you smoked week and god knows what else during the whole time pregnant with me and my brothers. Who gives you the right to say anything, this is my baby. I hope it doesn't get worse once the baby is here, I will go nuts!!!
One thing I'm learning from this experience is that the only thing I'm saying to pregnant women from here on out is "you look wonderful, is there anything you need?" Because that's all I really want to hear from people.
My MIL really needs to stop saying that someone needs to give her a granddaughter. (We´re having a boy) It is pissing me off so much that I am getting ready to snap and tell her to shut her effing face. Can´t she just be happy that her first grandchild is growing healthily and recognize that it is a miracle and a blessing that he is even on his way? (We had to go through invitro to get pregnant).
Ok that´s my bitching for the day.
This is partly why I didn't want to find out the sex of the baby. My mother has three little granddaughters and very badly wants a grandson. I'm sure once it gets here she won't care what sex the baby is, however. I'm sure your MIL will be the same way, too. But I can see how her comments would rub you the wrong way (they would for me, too).
hahah @bnsmith85 she's one of those people that just has no boundaries. She talks with her mouth full of food, brings up politics all the time at work, talks about conspiracy theories, bad mouths everyone behind their back, etc.
Not so much a bitchfest then a "OMG that scared me" rant.
I kind of freaked out just now because I was feeling so sick this morning. Nausea, stomachache, constipation, chest/back ache. But I also noticed it was pretty warm and stuffy in my office and that there didn't seem to be any air coming through the vent.
Well, it's 110 degrees today and it hasn't even hit noon yet. My boss called the Facilities department and apparently a line is broken that brings air to our part of the office. So I gathered up my stuff and drove home. Working in my nice air conditioned living room with a fan going. Feeling better already. Oy. For a hot minute I really thought something was wrong, because my nausea and stomach cramps were abnormal.
That was me yesterday! All of a sudden I wasn't feeling well, at first I thought I had to have a diarrhea attack, but then that cramp went away and then I started feeling light headed and seriously nauseous and that's totally not normal for me. When I got home (from picking up dinner) I actually ended up puking and of course feeling more miserable. My house doesn't have AC and I was outside most of the day, but of course I couldn't help thinking I might have made a bad decision painting the baby's room yesterday morning (even though I had the window open and a fan going). Today at work I felt better (yay AC at work), just tired from lack of sleep last night. Now I get to go back home to my sauna! Just hoping the rain starts sooner rather than later cause that will get some cool air flowing.
My husband is the type of person who will drop everything for his friends. It's how we became so close when we met, he was always there for me when I needed someone. But sometimes he takes it too far and my son or I get the short end of the stick.
Yesterday we were at my parents house with his son for Father's Day. After dinner he comes up to me and says that a friend's husband decided he wants a divorce. He had cancelled all her cards, cutting her off to their money. She was going to stay at a friends house a few hours away and needed gas money. So he left for a good hour to meet her and lend her some cash. I was pretty irritated.
Shes a really nice person and she messaged me to apologize for inconveniencing us, but I was still pissed he took off on Father's Day when he could have had her meet him at the house....
During the summer, I condense all of my weekly music lessons to one day and that's Monday, so I still have the rest of the week to do what I want. Today's the first day of summer break, and I really don't want to teach tonight.
DH's dad is in town. He's literally one of the most inconsiderate person I've ever met. Last time he came, he showed up unannounced with a friend (who I later found out was an ex-felon), broke my couch, and stayed over a month. So I told DH that he was not allowed to stay with us again. Mind you, he has his own vacant house still here literally minutes away. While he isn't staying with us, he comes over and stays at the house all day. Makes messes, leaves dirty dishes in the sink, etc. He's a terrible influence and is more interested in acting like 24 year old bachelor than a father to his kids. He cheated on DH's mom their entire marriage, for example. Anyway, I digress.
DH worked all weekend and had a class yesterday so I've been single parenting my wretched toddler in 111 degree heat by myself while 24 weeks pregnant with twins. I asked him to watch DD for 1-2 hours last night so I could clean and do laundry. DH shows up, invited his dad over to watch the NBA finals, and wanted to know why I was having a mental breakdown. I cried doing dishes and took DD upstairs with me. I came downstairs this morning to dirty dishes in the sink, all the lights on, and crumbs all over the stove. I LITERALLY CLEANED THE KITCHEN LESS THAN 12 HOURS BEFORE. I want to stab everyone. So DH and I are now in a war and he has no idea why I'm mad.
hahah @bnsmith85 she's one of those people that just has no boundaries. She talks with her mouth full of food, brings up politics all the time at work, talks about conspiracy theories, bad mouths everyone behind their back, etc.
it's a good thing she and I don't work together. She'd DEFINITELY talk bad about me because that is just unacceptable. Get your life together lady! Have some manners!
While the rest of the country is in a heat wave, it's been cold here in seattle area. It's still getting into the 50s at night, the heat is kicking on, and my poor vegetable garden is suffering. Wtf, it's June. We usually never need the heat past April. And I am pregnant, so... wtf is going on with the weather?
Also, my unborn child's grandparents need to stop thinking they have any say/influence/rights/anything to do with my child. It is my child, not theirs.
While the rest of the country is in a heat wave, it's been cold here in seattle area. It's still getting into the 50s at night, the heat is kicking on, and my poor vegetable garden is suffering. Wtf, it's June. We usually never need the heat past April. And I am pregnant, so... wtf is going on with the weather?
Also, my unborn child's grandparents need to stop thinking they have any say/influence/rights/anything to do with my child. It is my child, not theirs.
I'm in Seattle, too, and I'm also sick of the rainy, cold, cloudy weather.
@SpaceBurger Your co-worker is a jerk. Why do people think it's okay to say and do to pregnant women things that it would NEVER be okay to say or do to a non-pregnant person?
Monday is almost over!!!! Glad I didn't call in sick, today feels like one of the days I wish I could go home, take off my heels, plop on the couch and pour me a glass.
Another bitch for today is that, I WANT WINE!!!!!!
I'm one of those people that sleeps with a fan on in the winter, so surviving summer pre-pregnancy without ac sucked, but now this is horrible. I got so over heated yesterday (even though I drank tons of water, sprayed myself with water to cool off, had a cool shower, and whatever else) I ended up puking from the heat and then felt miserable for the rest of the night. Then trying to sleep while feeling hot and miserable?? Ya not happening! I woke up half a dozen times to have some water, mist myself and try to fall back asleep. Now I'm at work feeling crappy and exhausted and not really wanting to be here since there is nothing to be done today. *whines*
I feel ya. I'm sitting in my kids kiddie pool cause I'm just SO hot.
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Hey y'all. I posted recently on the ultrasound thread and the anatomy scan thread, but just in case, just wanted to say hello again! I disappeared for quite some time because I just wasn't feeling this pregnancy: I was so sick and felt very beat up/overwhelmed, but after our anatomy scan, I'm excited to be expecting number two and I'm trying to get through this lingering nausea to just enjoy what I think will be my last pregnancy. I hope everyone has been doing well these last few months and I'm so happy we're all just about halfway there!
I am having a serious case of the Mondays, though. Took toddler to the grocery store in this blistering humidity and when I got back, I set her up in her high chair with her lunch so I could put groceries away. She had a full blown meltdown and sent her plate crashing onto the floor. Then she proceeded to scream bloody murder while I put the rest of the groceries away. I also managed to drop a tub of sour cream on my toes and while that is definitely not as horrifying as @CopperBoom86's accident with the power washer, I was in tears and my toes are nice and bruised (I'm such a wuss!!).
@nlane0723 I'm really sorry that husband isn't understanding why you'd need a little support. My DH is like this sometimes and is kind of oblivious. His parents almost never see our kid, but we saw them yesterday and he was frustrated when he plopped DD in his dad's arms and she cried. Um, it's because she doesn't know him. And then he proceeded to mingle with other guests (my MIL threw my SIL a surprise bridal shower yesterday on Father's Day) and left me to deal with a fussy toddler who had refused her nap earlier. I really feel you on the never ending dishes as well and I'm so sorry your feelings aren't being understood.
@nlane0723 I would be in a war, too!! Unfortunately, I think husband's just aren't as in tune to how we're feeling or thinking about how their actions affect us... they just don't always think past that moment. And they're definitely not aware of how we've cleaned or just organized or worked to finish folding the laundry while feeding your child...Definitely not an excuse, but after a night like that I would have a major, yet calm and rational sit down drag it all out talk. My husband and I recently had a major blow out after I was coming home from work to him having done nothing to start dinner, feed the dogs, throw in laundry, etc. (He gets home 3 hours before me....). I finally snapped, blowing up, yelling "why did he just leave it all for me? Is this what will happen when baby is here?" Till he screamed back, "I had no idea, I didn't realize you wanted me to do all this stuff, why didn't you just ask me." *Sigh* As much as we want them to just KNOW what we're thinking and feeling and what should be done, sometimes we just need to spell it out.
Sorry, just realized I was kind of venting, too! Anyway, hope you feel better and are able to get your point across to the hubs!! Hang in there!
@annabenanna those guys gifs are torture. I want all the wine. Now.
Is it some joke from the universe or powers that be that the time in our lives we need to take the edge off most with a little vino - we're not allowed to touch it?? So cruel.
My SO and I ended up going to the beach. Being from Cali, I have NEVER encountered the biting lake flies until today. Granted we go to this spot once a year, but oh man were they all over me. I'm not usually one to complain about bugs but these were annoying, I would've brought insect repellent but I had no idea these guys existed.I guess I'll know better for now on and my SO just acted like I should've known, he's from MI and he said they are normal.
Also, I told my SO that instead of going for my BSN I'm thinking of changing degrees to radiology (again) and he didn't seem into it. I'm not even sure if I'm into it, I'm just scared of burning out as a nurse before I get to go into the field that I want to.
SO and I have been together: 5 Years+ BFP: 03/10 First Baby: 10/20/2016
@annabenanna those guys gifs are torture. I want all the wine. Now.
Is it some joke from the universe or powers that be that the time in our lives we need to take the edge off most with a little vino - we're not allowed to touch it?? So cruel.
Have a glass. They're allowed to do it in other countries so why not here.
While the rest of the country is in a heat wave, it's been cold here in seattle area. It's still getting into the 50s at night, the heat is kicking on, and my poor vegetable garden is suffering. Wtf, it's June. We usually never need the heat past April. And I am pregnant, so... wtf is going on with the weather?
Also, my unborn child's grandparents need to stop thinking they have any say/influence/rights/anything to do with my child. It is my child, not theirs.
My bitch is fir this never ending terrible headache. I'm dying. I'm drinking water, taking cal-mag, taking tylenol and it still won't go away. I hate resorting to caffeine but I had to.
Hopping on late to the bitchfest, but... I miss my family, my friends, everything. Sometimes being a military spouse sucks so hard. I'm 600 miles away from the people I love. I love my husband, but when he gets home he eats dinner with me and IMMEDIATELY jumps into videogames for the rest of thd night. Like, hello, pregnant wife over here, I've been doing chores all day to keep our house, dishes and laundry clean and prepare for baby. The least I could get is a little bit of positive attention beside the odd "*grunt* dinner's good"
I need my mommy. And my daddy. And my girlfriends. I am so alone here. I miss the beach, and mountains. My son might grow up without mountains surrounding him! That thought kills me!
Selfish bitching, I know, but I needed a good bitch. At least my dog has been paying more attention to me (though I can't move an inch without her being up in my business. I swear she thinks she's a nurse!)
I know it's Tuesday, but I have something to bitch about. My parents are driving me insane. They divorced almost 20 years ago. Every time I talk about the baby, I get a story about how one of them was terrible when I was born. For example, I was talking about taking a breast feeding class and my mom reminds me of how my dad said the baby would starve b/c her boobs were too small. I told my dad we registered for baby stuff, he says the baby doesn't need much stuff, your mom always went overboard. Those don't seem too bad on their own, but it is CONSTANT. Can they muster up one happy memory from when my sister and I were kids?
@depineta ugh I can see why that would get frustrating! First off, it's not about them! Secondly, it's turning a positive moment into negative unnecessarily sorry they're being so negative. Sometimes adults still need to learn how to grow up too...
@cowinapartyhat We only moved 100 miles away but I know how you feel! Being alone all day stinks and trying to find new friends in a new place is rough. Just wanted to let you know you're not alone!
While the rest of the country is in a heat wave, it's been cold here in seattle area. It's still getting into the 50s at night, the heat is kicking on, and my poor vegetable garden is suffering. Wtf, it's June. We usually never need the heat past April. And I am pregnant, so... wtf is going on with the weather?
Also, my unborn child's grandparents need to stop thinking they have any say/influence/rights/anything to do with my child. It is my child, not theirs.
Today wasn't that bad...
Yeah, it finally stopped raining at around 5pm and I got to wear shorts for a couple hours. Then the sun went down and it dropped to 53 overnight. I left the house in leggings under my dress and a sweater this morning. It's not bad, but it's piss poor weather for summer.
Good to hear from you @rozANDbenSINCE2001! I always wonder about the regular posters who just disappear one day. I'm glad you're doing a bit better and here's to hoping our poor little piggies heal quickly!
While the rest of the country is in a heat wave, it's been cold here in seattle area. It's still getting into the 50s at night, the heat is kicking on, and my poor vegetable garden is suffering. Wtf, it's June. We usually never need the heat past April. And I am pregnant, so... wtf is going on with the weather?
Also, my unborn child's grandparents need to stop thinking they have any say/influence/rights/anything to do with my child. It is my child, not theirs.
Today wasn't that bad...
Yeah, it finally stopped raining at around 5pm and I got to wear shorts for a couple hours. Then the sun went down and it dropped to 53 overnight. I left the house in leggings under my dress and a sweater this morning. It's not bad, but it's piss poor weather for summer.
@AllyTheKid Hello! You are too sweet! I didn't mean to disappear but I think my baby was trying to kill me! I'm starting to finally feel better! Happy to see you! Did you decide on a middle name for baby Johnny yet?
@CopperBoom86 Hello! Thank you so much for the welcome back! You are too kind! My toes are bruised but will heal--how is your foot? That sounded so awful! I hope you're doing okay!!
@annabenanna I'm starting to feel a little better. It comes and goes, but I stopped taking my Diclegis recently so we will see how my body does without it. Thank you so very much for asking! I saw you're having a baby boy! Congratulations!!! That is so exciting! Are you buying all of the baby clothes yet? It's so hard to contain myself when it comes to dressing baby!
@rozANDbenSINCE2001, oh girl, ALLLLL the baby clothes. And ALLLLLL the baby beanies. I even bought (don't laugh) skinny jeans for the bebe boy. As soon as it arrived from American Apparel (of course right, because AA would HAVE skinny jeans for a 3 month old), I hid the package from SO, because he has forbidden me from buying clothes until after the baby shower. LOL.
How have you been? Any nesting? What's the progress on the nursery? Our progress is so so so slow. I thought we'd be faster!
Re: Monday Bitchfest 6/20
@CopperBoom86 other than the power-washing incident, your weekend sounds awesome.
@annabenanna Now I want chocolate lava cake! And maybe some ice cream on the side...
Edited because I can't read the title of the thread.
Baby GIRL born 9/16/201
BFP! EDD 8/1/2019 CP 4w2d
Yesterday we were at my parents house with his son for Father's Day. After dinner he comes up to me and says that a friend's husband decided he wants a divorce. He had cancelled all her cards, cutting her off to their money. She was going to stay at a friends house a few hours away and needed gas money. So he left for a good hour to meet her and lend her some cash. I was pretty irritated.
Shes a really nice person and she messaged me to apologize for inconveniencing us, but I was still pissed he took off on Father's Day when he could have had her meet him at the house....
DH worked all weekend and had a class yesterday so I've been single parenting my wretched toddler in 111 degree heat by myself while 24 weeks pregnant with twins. I asked him to watch DD for 1-2 hours last night so I could clean and do laundry. DH shows up, invited his dad over to watch the NBA finals, and wanted to know why I was having a mental breakdown. I cried doing dishes and took DD upstairs with me. I came downstairs this morning to dirty dishes in the sink, all the lights on, and crumbs all over the stove. I LITERALLY CLEANED THE KITCHEN LESS THAN 12 HOURS BEFORE. I want to stab everyone. So DH and I are now in a war and he has no idea why I'm mad.
Me: 28 DH: 27
Also, my unborn child's grandparents need to stop thinking they have any say/influence/rights/anything to do with my child. It is my child, not theirs.
But seriously, tell her to STFU. How insensitive!
@SpaceBurger Your co-worker is a jerk. Why do people think it's okay to say and do to pregnant women things that it would NEVER be okay to say or do to a non-pregnant person?
Another bitch for today is that, I WANT WINE!!!!!!
I am having a serious case of the Mondays, though. Took toddler to the grocery store in this blistering humidity and when I got back, I set her up in her high chair with her lunch so I could put groceries away. She had a full blown meltdown and sent her plate crashing onto the floor. Then she proceeded to scream bloody murder while I put the rest of the groceries away. I also managed to drop a tub of sour cream on my toes and while that is definitely not as horrifying as @CopperBoom86's accident with the power washer, I was in tears and my toes are nice and bruised (I'm such a wuss!!).
@nlane0723 I'm really sorry that husband isn't understanding why you'd need a little support. My DH is like this sometimes and is kind of oblivious. His parents almost never see our kid, but we saw them yesterday and he was frustrated when he plopped DD in his dad's arms and she cried. Um, it's because she doesn't know him. And then he proceeded to mingle with other guests (my MIL threw my SIL a surprise bridal shower yesterday on Father's Day) and left me to deal with a fussy toddler who had refused her nap earlier. I really feel you on the never ending dishes as well and I'm so sorry your feelings aren't being understood.
Sorry, just realized I was kind of venting, too! Anyway, hope you feel better and are able to get your point across to the hubs!! Hang in there!
Is it some joke from the universe or powers that be that the time in our lives we need to take the edge off most with a little vino - we're not allowed to touch it?? So cruel.
Also, I told my SO that instead of going for my BSN I'm thinking of changing degrees to radiology (again) and he didn't seem into it. I'm not even sure if I'm into it, I'm just scared of burning out as a nurse before I get to go into the field that I want to.
SO and I have been together: 5 Years+
BFP: 03/10
First Baby: 10/20/2016
Me: 28 DH: 27
I miss my family, my friends, everything. Sometimes being a military spouse sucks so hard. I'm 600 miles away from the people I love. I love my husband, but when he gets home he eats dinner with me and IMMEDIATELY jumps into videogames for the rest of thd night. Like, hello, pregnant wife over here, I've been doing chores all day to keep our house, dishes and laundry clean and prepare for baby. The least I could get is a little bit of positive attention beside the odd "*grunt* dinner's good"
I need my mommy. And my daddy. And my girlfriends. I am so alone here. I miss the beach, and mountains. My son might grow up without mountains surrounding him! That thought kills me!
Selfish bitching, I know, but I needed a good bitch. At least my dog has been paying more attention to me (though I can't move an inch without her being up in my business. I swear she thinks she's a nurse!)
Yeah, it finally stopped raining at around 5pm and I got to wear shorts for a couple hours. Then the sun went down and it dropped to 53 overnight. I left the house in leggings under my dress and a sweater this morning. It's not bad, but it's piss poor weather for summer.
@CopperBoom86 Hello! Thank you so much for the welcome back! You are too kind! My toes are bruised but will heal--how is your foot? That sounded so awful! I hope you're doing okay!!
@rozANDbenSINCE2001, sorry you haven't been feeling well this pregnancy.
How have you been? Any nesting? What's the progress on the nursery? Our progress is so so so slow. I thought we'd be faster!