My MIL really needs to stop saying that someone needs to give her a granddaughter. (We´re having a boy) It is pissing me off so much that I am getting ready to snap and tell her to shut her effing face. Can´t she just be happy that her first grandchild is growing healthily and recognize that it is a miracle and a blessing that he is even on his way? (We had to go through invitro to get pregnant).
It's Monday and I have a LONG 12 hr day and I'm running on very little sleep.
Married 11-11-11 TTC only since Dec 2015. I had some weight to get off. Been working hard in the gym for over a year. BFP 02-15-16 with our first IT'S A BOY!!!
People know we are not finding out the sex of our baby and yet every damn day I get from the same 10 people. Do you know what it is yet? I've been giving some pretty snappy answers. IE a baby, we'll last I checked it not a dinosaur, I was taken by aliens a while ago so I'm pretty sure it's an alien but don't tell maybe it till look human. People make me want to find out but nope I'm not.
Oh and number 2 my pain in the behind mother keeps suggesting names because the name I picked for a girl is to out there for her. Come on can I not have something a little different this time I stuck to the 1800s names for the other 2 I'm tired of the norm I want outside the box this time. And no I'm not naming my child Vera or Louis if it's a girl. FYI I picked Wynter and she's says it's not solid enough.
Pulled into work and spilled my coffee all over. All over me and the car and I just immediately started crying. If this is how Monday is going to be, its not a good sign!
@Mintz1982 Our family is the same when it comes to the sex of the baby. We were team green (then secretly we found out since we had a string of very bad luck and wanted something to cheer us up), but haven't told anyone. Yesterday when they were all over for Father's Day they kept bugging us to find out, but we keep telling them we have no idea. It's so annoying! Just be happy it's healthy people!
Yesterday at brunch, my dad asked me if we could pick a "more masculine name than Jaime" for DS. FTR, we're naming him James after my Pop Pop and I mentioned we might use Jaime as a nick name. Then my sister goes, "I don't understand, if you want to call him Jaime, why not just name him Jaime?" BECAUSE WE'RE NAMING HIM AFTER POP POP. I finally said, "because it's my kid and I'll call him what I want!" Why do people think they have a say in this process?
Me: 32 & DH: 37
Married: November 2014
TTC #1 Since: October 2015
BFP #1: 11/18/15 - CP BFP #2: 2/8/16 - EDD 10/20/16 IT'S A BOY!!!! DS Born 10/16/16
I had 2 bridal showers - one here where I live in NJ, the other back in NY, where I grew up. When I got pregnant, I said I just wanted one this time, here in NJ, where I have now lived for 5 years. People can travel if they want. So, my mom's planning it, and I just KNOW my MIL is kind of annoyed because it's not going to be a surprise (which is apparently how they all go down here in South Jersey...bridal and baby), and I wanted to be un-traditional and have a co-ed one, so my husband, brother, best friend, etc. could be there....
Anyway, my mom asked my MIL to share the planning, so that it was a joint effort and she seemed game! But now I'm acting as the go-between and it's getting super exhausting. My mom says she hasn't heard back from MIL and she's jumping to conclusions that she doesn't want to spend the money...my MIL says she doesn't know what's going on, and is telling family members that I'm planning my own... I wish I'd just kept my mouth shut and let them all fight it out behind my back.
I went to see my family this weekend which was great...mostly. My grandmother came over and proceeded to tell me how much weight I've gained and bragged about how she only gained 15 pounds during her entire pregnancy. I was just getting over that self-conscious "do I look bloated or pregnant?" phase and now I just feel meh.
Tempted to make a PSA saying "Please do not comment on the size, shape, or condition of a pregnant woman's body unless you are her doctor."
I have to write an entire grant today and I just do. not. feel. like. it. I was much better at grant writing when I could do it from home with a nice glass of wine.
This isn't really a fair bitchfest because I know the world doesn't revolve around me, but pregnancy hormones.
My little brother's friend tragically passed away over the weekend. My mom was supposed to be here this week with me and we were going to get some stuff done for the nursery with the crib and bassinet both arriving this week. She knows I'm stressed out because we really haven't done anything for the nursery. Well she's decided she's going to go back home today since she found out about my brother's friend. The funeral is not until later in the week, but she still feels like she needs to go today. He will be working all day everyday until the funeral day, and my dad is home with him. So I'm not really sure why she needs to go today when she could go home like Wednesday when DH gets back from his work trip. I realize this is selfish and we all need her from time to time, but this whole year has her pulled one way or another because of other circumstances, and I feel like I am not getting any of her attention. I'm afraid something will happen around baby time and she won't be here like she says she will be. I know other things are more important than a nursery, but this is also an important time for me.
I know I'm sounding rather selfish. But I just had to get it out and I don't want to make her feel bad just because my hormones are getting the best of me. Selfish bitchfest over.
Me:33 DH: 34 Married: May 2011 TTC #1: May 2015 DS: 10/20/2016 TTC #2: June 2019 #2 EDD: 2/20/2020
I'm one of those people that sleeps with a fan on in the winter, so surviving summer pre-pregnancy without ac sucked, but now this is horrible. I got so over heated yesterday (even though I drank tons of water, sprayed myself with water to cool off, had a cool shower, and whatever else) I ended up puking from the heat and then felt miserable for the rest of the night. Then trying to sleep while feeling hot and miserable?? Ya not happening! I woke up half a dozen times to have some water, mist myself and try to fall back asleep. Now I'm at work feeling crappy and exhausted and not really wanting to be here since there is nothing to be done today. *whines*
I'm struggling to be awake at work. We are now on summer hours with 4 day work weeks with 10 hour days (although today I have to pull at 13 hour day). I was ready for lunch at 9:30... I'll be happy to have Friday off, but being this tired I doubt I'll spend quality time awake by the time Friday rolls around. I'm not bitchy, but definitely not smiling. This is going to be a long day!
I accidentally sprayed my toes with a power washer over the weekend and now it looks and feels like something straight out of a horror movie. It's basically a hole in my foot and because of the location, I can't really cover it with bandaids. I also can't wear close-toed shoes, so I guess I won't be going to Zumba tonight and I really needed to dance some stress away!
Stupid power washer. Stupid self for wearing flip flops to power wash in. Stupid freaking hole in my foot!!!
T-Mobile cut our phones off and I'm infuriated because they have taken TWO payments out of my bank account this month but they did not shown up on my phone account just my bank statement, so I've had to call my bank and t-mobile to fix it, and even though it is THEIR fault somethings is going wrong they cut our service anyway!
My SO promised we would go to the beach today. We found a private little hidden beach about 45mins up north from where we live and we make a trip out there once a year a since we both work and its rare we have a whole day off together. However, my SO is still sleeping and its almost 12. He stayed up all night playing video games with his brother and his friends. I don't mind him playing videos games but I expect my beach trip when he says we will go to the beach.
SO and I have been together: 5 Years+ BFP: 03/10 First Baby: 10/20/2016
There's a heatwave in San Diego, and it was 85 degrees at 7AM this morning. 7AM. We have no AC. I'm pregnant. Unacceptable. I told SO if he expects to have sex this summer, there needs to be AC.
Also, if I hear "have you picked out a name yet?" one more time, I might slap a bitch.
Sunday we were visiting with my dad and talking about a trip to Put-In-Bay (which is this nifty little island on Lake Erie with fun monuments and parks and caves and stuff) with me, DH, DD, Dad, and his wife. He was wondering if we could get away with only one golf cart (it's a small island, cars are a bit of an overkill there) for the 5 of us. I made a comment that my lap will only be getting smaller as my belly gets bigger, so the room for DD will be limited.
He then made a comment that since it's only going to be getting hotter and I'm only going to be getting bigger, maybe I should stay home and just have DH and DD go with them. I told him "I'm pregnant, not an invalid". Yea, it'll be hot. If I get too warm, know what I'll do? Sit down and drink some water, maybe find an air conditioned shop to cool down in. That's pretty much all I'll need.
What did he think I would do all day while they were gone without me, sit on the couch and knit booties and rub my belly longingly? Why do people insist on treating pregnant women like we are suddenly made of glass and can be broken at the slightest uncomfortable situation? Unless you have an MD in obstetrics that I don't know about, please keep your suggestions at just that, suggestions. I don't mind checking in, like if he would have said "It's only going to be getting hotter, do you think you'd be ok out there all day?" Suggestions like that are much better received by the hormonal pregnant lady than trying to leave her out of a family outing just because she's pregnant.
/end rant
Countdown to Baby H! Mommy to Elizabeth (6/18/09), preemie at 34 weeks
@annabenanna I can't tell you how many times I answered the question "how are you feeling?" over the weekend at a party. If I wasn't feeling well, do you think I would be out and about, much less at a party???
Me:33 DH: 34 Married: May 2011 TTC #1: May 2015 DS: 10/20/2016 TTC #2: June 2019 #2 EDD: 2/20/2020
@annabenanna I can't tell you how many times I answered the question "how are you feeling?" over the weekend at a party. If I wasn't feeling well, do you think I would be out and about, much less at a party???
Hahahaha, I know what you mean! I know they mean well, but I wish they would just say "how are you?"
@Kaytee1087 I had to have this discussion with my H this weekend. We went to a baseball game on Friday and there were a lot of different things at play that made me unreasonably tired and uncomfortable. He kept saying we shouldn't go to anymore games this summer. Umm... I'm not dying, I'm a little tired. Maybe next time we can go on a Saturday and I'll make sure to nap first. No need to sit at home all summer and do nothing because I got tired at a baseball game once.
Me: 32 & DH: 37
Married: November 2014
TTC #1 Since: October 2015
BFP #1: 11/18/15 - CP BFP #2: 2/8/16 - EDD 10/20/16 IT'S A BOY!!!! DS Born 10/16/16
@annabenanna I feel you on this heat wave! I'm such a wimp about the San Diego heat. I wanted to wear a bikini and/or fan suit to work today, but that might not go over so well.
@annabenanna I can't tell you how many times I answered the question "how are you feeling?" over the weekend at a party. If I wasn't feeling well, do you think I would be out and about, much less at a party???
Hahahaha, I know what you mean! I know they mean well, but I wish they would just say "how are you?"
Every day, my coworker comes into my office with a worried look and says "how are you feeling today?" I know she means well, but it just makes me think that I look like garbage. I'm at work - if I'm not feeling well, I'll let you know.
@SpaceBurger, oh hey fellow San Diegan! It's so nice to see someone else from SD on here... I feel like we are the only ones. Are we? We hit up Coronado yesterday, but when we got home at 4PM, it was balls hot till like 10PM.
@depineta, I just don't understand those worried looks! I get them too, "how are you feeling sweetie?" like were sick or something. wth?
I have an irritable bowel disease that is trying to ruin my life right now so it's awkward when because ask me "How are you feeling?" And I feel like shit. But pregnancy wise I feel great and I know that is what they're referring to so I just tell them I'm great.
@annabenanna I'm so tired of the name question too. DH & I can't agree, so it's a source of frustration for me and every time I'm asked "So what's the name??", my anxiety spikes a little.
@suzy311 I like your idea of a PSA! If only people had a bit of tact. I saw my MIL last week for the first time since the beginning of April (when she threw a giant fit that she wasn't the first person to find out the gender). The first thing she said when she walked in was, "Oh! How much weight have you gained?!"
@Kaessi, it gives me anxiety too. SO and I have not agreed on a name. I mean we have names we like, but we aren't truly choosing the name until the baby is here and we can see what he looks like/what his personality is like. Plus, I don't want to hear people say "that name is cute but.....how about this one?" UGH.
@Kaessi@annabenanna I'm with you guys on the name anxiety, anytime anyone asks I feel like I've just entered an argument with FI even if he miles away at work or something!
YOU GUYS my coworker keeps calling me fat. It happened just now! We were sitting next to each other in a meeting, and there wasn't much room. She laughs and shouts, "You're just too fat!" That's around the 4th time she's done it. I laugh it off, then run to come bitch about it on here hahahahah. Thanks for listening.
@annabenanna As far as I've seen, I think we are the only two! I go back and forth between here and Seattle often. We hit up Carlsbad yesterday since I'm more on north side. So. crowded.
I have an irritable bowel disease that is trying to ruin my life right now so it's awkward when because ask me "How are you feeling?" And I feel like shit. But pregnancy wise I feel great and I know that is what they're referring to so I just tell them I'm great.
I feel like people ask this because they want to hear you tell them how you feel awful or tired or whatever. Which I find super annoying and kind of twisted. So I always tell them I'm doing great. At a family birthday recently someone asked as we were leaving "are you feeling ready to go to bed?" To which I honestly answered "no, I'm feeling ready for the toddler to go to bed."
@CopperBoom86 - power washer foot injuries are super common in the summer at my ER. I feel like people either aren't given proper instruction in safe power washer use when renting them, or don't realize that it really is a power tool. Either way, watch for infection and I hope you heal quickly.
My bitch: I've had an inner ear itch for weeks now. It's so annoying and I don't want to go to the doctor to get it checked. I totally didn't even think to tell the OB at my 24 week appt last week, so I may just let it go til 28 weeks. #irresponsible
Not so much a bitchfest then a "OMG that scared me" rant.
I kind of freaked out just now because I was feeling so sick this morning. Nausea, stomachache, constipation, chest/back ache. But I also noticed it was pretty warm and stuffy in my office and that there didn't seem to be any air coming through the vent.
Well, it's 110 degrees today and it hasn't even hit noon yet. My boss called the Facilities department and apparently a line is broken that brings air to our part of the office. So I gathered up my stuff and drove home. Working in my nice air conditioned living room with a fan going. Feeling better already. Oy. For a hot minute I really thought something was wrong, because my nausea and stomach cramps were abnormal.
@CopperBoom86 - power washer foot injuries are super common in the summer at my ER. I feel like people either aren't given proper instruction in safe power washer use when renting them, or don't realize that it really is a power tool. Either way, watch for infection and I hope you heal quickly.
Thanks! A bug flew into my mouth while I was spraying our front porch and all awareness of the washer flew out the window during my girlie freak out moment. I knew I got my foot, but I didn't even stop to check it until I was certain I got the bug (and every drop of spit that was in there when he flew in) out of my mouth. I'm sure I was quite the sight lol.
Re: Monday Bitchfest 6/20
Ok that´s my bitching for the day.
E born 6/2014
TTC only since Dec 2015. I had some weight to get off. Been working hard in the gym for over a year.
BFP 02-15-16 with our first
IT'S A BOY!!!
Oh and number 2 my pain in the behind mother keeps suggesting names because the name I picked for a girl is to out there for her. Come on can I not have something a little different this time I stuck to the 1800s names for the other 2 I'm tired of the norm I want outside the box this time. And no I'm not naming my child Vera or Louis if it's a girl. FYI I picked Wynter and she's says it's not solid enough.
Me: 32 & DH: 37
BFP #2: 2/8/16 - EDD 10/20/16
IT'S A BOY!!!!
DS Born 10/16/16
Anyway, my mom asked my MIL to share the planning, so that it was a joint effort and she seemed game! But now I'm acting as the go-between and it's getting super exhausting. My mom says she hasn't heard back from MIL and she's jumping to conclusions that she doesn't want to spend the money...my MIL says she doesn't know what's going on, and is telling family members that I'm planning my own... I wish I'd just kept my mouth shut and let them all fight it out behind my back.
Tempted to make a PSA saying "Please do not comment on the size, shape, or condition of a pregnant woman's body unless you are her doctor."
My little brother's friend tragically passed away over the weekend. My mom was supposed to be here this week with me and we were going to get some stuff done for the nursery with the crib and bassinet both arriving this week. She knows I'm stressed out because we really haven't done anything for the nursery. Well she's decided she's going to go back home today since she found out about my brother's friend. The funeral is not until later in the week, but she still feels like she needs to go today. He will be working all day everyday until the funeral day, and my dad is home with him. So I'm not really sure why she needs to go today when she could go home like Wednesday when DH gets back from his work trip. I realize this is selfish and we all need her from time to time, but this whole year has her pulled one way or another because of other circumstances, and I feel like I am not getting any of her attention. I'm afraid something will happen around baby time and she won't be here like she says she will be. I know other things are more important than a nursery, but this is also an important time for me.
I know I'm sounding rather selfish. But I just had to get it out and I don't want to make her feel bad just because my hormones are getting the best of me. Selfish bitchfest over.
DH: 34
Married: May 2011
TTC #1: May 2015
DS: 10/20/2016
TTC #2: June 2019
#2 EDD: 2/20/2020
Stupid fireworks kept my dogs up, which in turn kept me up from the Cavs winning last night. I am a zombie at work today.
Stupid power washer. Stupid self for wearing flip flops to power wash in. Stupid freaking hole in my foot!!!
SO and I have been together: 5 Years+
BFP: 03/10
First Baby: 10/20/2016
Also, if I hear "have you picked out a name yet?" one more time, I might slap a bitch.
He then made a comment that since it's only going to be getting hotter and I'm only going to be getting bigger, maybe I should stay home and just have DH and DD go with them. I told him "I'm pregnant, not an invalid". Yea, it'll be hot. If I get too warm, know what I'll do? Sit down and drink some water, maybe find an air conditioned shop to cool down in. That's pretty much all I'll need.
What did he think I would do all day while they were gone without me, sit on the couch and knit booties and rub my belly longingly? Why do people insist on treating pregnant women like we are suddenly made of glass and can be broken at the slightest uncomfortable situation? Unless you have an MD in obstetrics that I don't know about, please keep your suggestions at just that, suggestions. I don't mind checking in, like if he would have said "It's only going to be getting hotter, do you think you'd be ok out there all day?" Suggestions like that are much better received by the hormonal pregnant lady than trying to leave her out of a family outing just because she's pregnant.
/end rant
Mommy to Elizabeth (6/18/09), preemie at 34 weeks
Team Blue!
DH: 34
Married: May 2011
TTC #1: May 2015
DS: 10/20/2016
TTC #2: June 2019
#2 EDD: 2/20/2020
Me: 32 & DH: 37
BFP #2: 2/8/16 - EDD 10/20/16
IT'S A BOY!!!!
DS Born 10/16/16
@depineta, I just don't understand those worried looks! I get them too, "how are you feeling sweetie?" like were sick or something. wth?
@suzy311 I like your idea of a PSA! If only people had a bit of tact. I saw my MIL last week for the first time since the beginning of April (when she threw a giant fit that she wasn't the first person to find out the gender). The first thing she said when she walked in was, "Oh! How much weight have you gained?!"
@annabenanna As far as I've seen, I think we are the only two! I go back and forth between here and Seattle often. We hit up Carlsbad yesterday since I'm more on north side. So. crowded.
Edited bc my shouldn't be in all caps.
DH: 34
Married: May 2011
TTC #1: May 2015
DS: 10/20/2016
TTC #2: June 2019
#2 EDD: 2/20/2020
Me: 32 & DH: 37
BFP #2: 2/8/16 - EDD 10/20/16
IT'S A BOY!!!!
DS Born 10/16/16
@CopperBoom86 - power washer foot injuries are super common in the summer at my ER. I feel like people either aren't given proper instruction in safe power washer use when renting them, or don't realize that it really is a power tool. Either way, watch for infection and I hope you heal quickly.
My bitch: I've had an inner ear itch for weeks now. It's so annoying and I don't want to go to the doctor to get it checked. I totally didn't even think to tell the OB at my 24 week appt last week, so I may just let it go til 28 weeks. #irresponsible
I kind of freaked out just now because I was feeling so sick this morning. Nausea, stomachache, constipation, chest/back ache. But I also noticed it was pretty warm and stuffy in my office and that there didn't seem to be any air coming through the vent.
Well, it's 110 degrees today and it hasn't even hit noon yet. My boss called the Facilities department and apparently a line is broken that brings air to our part of the office. So I gathered up my stuff and drove home. Working in my nice air conditioned living room with a fan going. Feeling better already. Oy. For a hot minute I really thought something was wrong, because my nausea and stomach cramps were abnormal.