So my SIL is letting me borrow her pump so I don't have to buy one until I know for sure that baby and I are gonna be able to breastfeed successfully. I just set it up and now . . . I really wanna try it out! Haha I know there's no reason to and that it can stimulate contractions and all that, I'm just really curious about what it feels like! I know I'm being crazy but, do y'all think it would hurt anything to try it just for a few minutes? Maybe shoulda saved this for fffc . . .
@Car0liiine hahahaha I would say do not do it, just because of the risk of stimulating contractions. BUT DH was super curious about the one my sister dropped off and I am trying to convince him to let me hook him up to it...he is still saying no, but I am still trying!
I know I've complained plenty about my job on this board (due to my boredom because business has been slow), but I work for a small company and we are fairly close knit group. I found out when I came in this morning that my co-worker's father died yesterday, rather suddenly. Obviously, she will be out for the week and I haven't spoken to her, but I am so sad for her. Her mother died a few years back and she has one sibling who is pretty much estranged from the family. So she and her dad were all each other had, and they were very close. I also feel kind of guilty that I'm leaving the company soon and she'll have to deal with covering for me and finding my replacement, on top of everything she'll be dealing with due to her dad's death (settling his estate, selling house, I am sure it's a lot to handle). She is the office manager, and the owners of the company put everything on her, so those responsibilities will fall on her. It's just a gloomy day here at work and I get all emotional if I think about it too much.
this weekend all i could do is cry and be uncomfortable, i broke down because i was buying a few things for me to try to get ready for the baby and my SIL had to ask what was wrong and i told her it has hit me that i am actually having a baby and time is coming closer to an end for me to give birth. I am terrified and feel not ready at all. She was there for me to comfort me and tell me that everything is going to be okay and that the good thing is i have them all to help me out with whatever i need they are all a great support system if i ever need them. She told me it will all be okay and she understood how i felt because she felt the same way when she had my nephew. Then i just cried at home because my baby brother had left on vacation and he won't be at home, i know stupid but it happened.
Aww @emmeline714 *hugs* I get pretty scared about it sometimes too. Both about delivery and how life will be different after. I'm afraid of stress between DH and I, and worried about being lonely and either bored or overwhelmed staying home with baby. Not to mention worrying about being a good mommy and how on earth to protect baby from all the scary things that could happen. I know women have babies everyday, but that doesn't mean it isn't remarkable! It's a big damn deal! If we weren't freaking out a little, I don't think it would be human.
Aww @emmeline714 *hugs* I get pretty scared about it sometimes too. Both about delivery and how life will be different after. I'm afraid of stress between DH and I, and worried about being lonely and either bored or overwhelmed staying home with baby. Not to mention worrying about being a good mommy and how on earth to protect baby from all the scary things that could happen. I know women have babies everyday, but that doesn't mean it isn't remarkable! It's a big damn deal! If we weren't freaking out a little, I don't think it would be human.
I agree with all of this... I'm so scared of the changes coming... Delivery, bringing two babies home, caring for and raising them, how my life will change, my relationship with my SO.. I know that it'll probably be the best thing that has happened in my life so far, but it's so hard not to wonder or worry. Funny thing is for me, I had a fairly easy pregnancy and I think that is part of my worry, that shit is just going to hit the fan afterwards!
@emmeline714@Car0liiine@tmk0325 I had the same fears with DS. My dad told me that every age kept getting better. When DS arrived, I thought cuddly newborn was the best...but it really is more and more amazing and wonderful at each stage of development. You will be fantastic mommies, and while there will be tough seasons, it will keep getting better.
I feel like I'm in the same boat as you ladies as well! Last night me and DH were doing our birthing class "homework" where they gave us a list of positive affirmations I can say to myself and DH can say to me while in labor to help relax and focus. I was supposed to read them and pick out a few I liked, and i tried to read them outloud and I just had this overwhelming feeling of "wow this is so real and I can't imagine actually having to do this" and just started crying.
@skelly70 thanks, lately it just has been overwhelming and i will try my best to keep this LO happy, today i go to birthing class and i am just getting to anxious @caitlinj187 i still need to pre-register to the hospital think i am doing that today as well
I run a 5 week summer camp every summer. We started Sunday. I'm already worn out. Its exhausting not pregnant. Exhausting pregnant. And really really exhausting when you are pregnant and also have an (almost) 2 year old. Also, DD's bday is in less than 3 weeks and I have zero plans for her birthday party, and my sister's bachelorette/shower is in a month and I haven't bought my tickets or planned one thing for it. I'm the worst. And I'm oddly ok with it right now.
I actually slept good on Sunday night but went right back to the insomnia last night. DD woke up around 2 and wanted to party and I was going to lay down with her to get her back to sleep but my legs were so restless I couldn't keep them still. DH had to go do it and then be at work early this morning. I should have plenty of practice for staying up all night once LO comes if this persists.
Aww @emmeline714 *hugs* I get pretty scared about it sometimes too. Both about delivery and how life will be different after. I'm afraid of stress between DH and I, and worried about being lonely and either bored or overwhelmed staying home with baby. Not to mention worrying about being a good mommy and how on earth to protect baby from all the scary things that could happen. I know women have babies everyday, but that doesn't mean it isn't remarkable! It's a big damn deal! If we weren't freaking out a little, I don't think it would be human.
As a STM, I can totally relate to how you are feeling going into this. We had only been married a few months when I got pregnant with DD. She was born a week before our first anniversary. If I'm being completely honest, even after DD was born, I still had those "what have we done" feelings. I remember crying for the first couple weeks because nothing would ever be the same ever again. Throw in some crazy hormones, hot flashes, and a screaming newborn, and I wasn't sure anything would ever feel normal. You may be one of those moms that feels instantly in love with your precious baby the second she/he is born, but I think it is safe to say it doesn't happen for everyone. Of course you love them, you created them, but it's ok to feel overwhelmed, flustered, scared, confused, even after baby is here.
You will be amazing mama's. Everything will fall into place and a new normal (a wonderful new normal!) will develop. I think going into it cognizant of all the life changes that are about to occur is extremely beneficial. You are aware that you have to make time for your relationship and for yourself all while caring for your baby. For me it took a little bit of time and having to let go of some of my type A ways, but looking back I would never change any of it.
I don't know if that is helpful or not, but really what I'm getting at is that those fears are completely normal.
@LWC1112 thank you, i know that my life won't be the same anymore once LO comes into this world, which i am fine and starting to realize that sometimes you don't even tend to care how you look, i would always tell my mom, "i will make sure i am always dolled up" but you sometimes don't even have energy to do absolutely nothing of it. I just hope with time just my fears go away and will try my hardest for my DD.
@emmeline714 they will! I know saying "don't worry" really doesn't help, but try not to stress about it now if possible. You will figure it all out and just know to ask for help when you need too.
Our one year old dd is cutting more teeth, molars to be exact. She is a BEAR! She doesn't want to eat or sleep. She cannot make up her mind whether she wants to be held or get down and play. She is lucky I love her so much and she is cute lol.
@jamiesc58 DD cut her molars a few months ago but they didn't seem to bother her that bad. Her K9s have been the worst so far for us. She finally cut both top and now she's cutting the bottom ones but they won't just break through already. It's accompanied by the runny nose and everything. I feel your pain.
@Lynnlove28 good luck! The K9s were the worst for the other 2 kids we have at home. DD doesn't have those ones yet so I don't know why she is already getting molars. Her teeth are not coming in like normal. She only has 3 on the bottom in the front and 2 on the top in the front so far.
So since admitting to being a slacker, I rescheduled an appointment, made one for DD's 2 year, and looked at plane tickets to go to the shower/bachelorette. I have also been killing it at work getting a lot of stuff done. So yay me!
I posted this in one of the pinned threads, but am wondering if we shouldn't repin the introductions board back on the top since there seems to be a lot of new people introducing themselves... Just a thought.
I posted this in one of the pinned threads, but am wondering if we shouldn't repin the introductions board back on the top since there seems to be a lot of new people introducing themselves... Just a thought.
We had that happen on my last BMB too. Getting towards the end ladies would post their own threads to introduce even if the one was pinned. I never even opened it back up after I introduced myself.
My 5 year old DS has been the easiest child from day one. He was easy to potty training. I never dealt with terrible two. He's always listened and been polite. Very rarely have we ever had issues with him. (His older brother is another story) But this past week has been so hard. He started talking back. He's been demanding. He throws a fit at bed time. And he's had 2 accidents! I know a lot of it has to do with the the baby coming. And the fact that he's bored since school is out and I am too exhausted to run and play with him. Something has got to give. Soon. Ok. My rant is over.
We finally put the crib back together in LOs room. Switched out the curtains and hung up the clothes we have for him so far. I know the nesting bug bit me because I also cleaned the front of our dishwasher. I don't think I realized how dirty it was. Thank goodness for progress!!
@Lynnlove28 my mom came over on Saturday and we deep cleaned our whole 700 sq ft apartment. It took 6.5 hours!! It wasn't even that bad in my opinion but to my mom this meant we washed every wall, cupboard, surface, you name it. I now can't wait for my shower Sunday so I can organize and put stuff away... But I am afraid of making it dirty again!!
@Lynnlove28 my mom came over on Saturday and we deep cleaned our whole 700 sq ft apartment. It took 6.5 hours!! It wasn't even that bad in my opinion but to my mom this meant we washed every wall, cupboard, surface, you name it. I now can't wait for my shower Sunday so I can organize and put stuff away... But I am afraid of making it dirty again!!
Will your mom come help me? Haha! I bet your place looks amazing!
I am putting off the deep cleaning until my shower at 36 weeks. Hopefully I don't go early!
*TW Spoiler*
DD: Aug '16
10/2017: Twins confirmed with TTTS at 22 weeks. 10/10/17 Twin B passed after in utero placenta surgery 11/2/17 Twin A & B born 11/26/17: Twin A passed after 24 days fighting in the NICU Benched 6 months BFP: 6/28/18 MC:7/16/18 BO BFP: 10/2/18 EDD 6/15/18
Well i was cleaning my kitchen and my uncle lives with us but lately he has been getting on my nerves he only starts cleaning behind me when i start cleaning. I always voice it as far as we dirty things up lets clean after ourselves as we are all older in the house, but he was sweeping and i was not done wiping the counters off. I have a way on how I clean. He was like wow you would think it is not dirty but look at all that i just swept, then he was like well we can mop another day and mine you i was not done cleaning. He went outside to just relax and talk on the phone and I've had my stove clean and he has been the one cooking for himself as i have not been making dinner as i have no energies for it so either we have gone out to grab food or we have gone to families for dinner. I just pretty much told him well there is a few things that need to get done and i will mop it so i finish cleaning and had to sweep again because he did not pick up the kitchen rug or sweep under the table and had finish counter tops i got a lot of trash and finish mopping, i am just ready for him to GTFO my house, he always complaining about everything and i am just fed up he does not even pay any rent at the house and when we go grocery shopping he will come along and buy his things and takes everything to his room but will eat our damn food. I don't know how much longer i can put up with this BS.Flustered much. Rant over.
I'm on a conference call with my Regional VP, and like 40 other stores and it is such a waste of time when I need to be on my sales floor helping customers..... I wish I wasn't the boss today! This call has already wasted 30 minutes, and will probably waste 30 more, at least..... UGH!
@tmk0325 oh man, I have a list of things I want to clean but I am waiting closer to my due date so that it's fresh. My sprinkle isn't until July 17th. I wish it was closer so we could just have everything organized all ready.
This is super random but I think it's hilarious. DD has started saying boobie and every time I change clothes she will point at my boobs and say boobie over and over again. It probably won't be as funny when she gets a little older and pointing at random people saying boobie.
@Lynnlove28 my mom came over on Saturday and we deep cleaned our whole 700 sq ft apartment. It took 6.5 hours!! It wasn't even that bad in my opinion but to my mom this meant we washed every wall, cupboard, surface, you name it. I now can't wait for my shower Sunday so I can organize and put stuff away... But I am afraid of making it dirty again!!
Will your mom come help me? Haha! I bet your place looks amazing!
I am putting off the deep cleaning until my shower at 36 weeks. Hopefully I don't go early!
@Lynnlove28 my mom came over on Saturday and we deep cleaned our whole 700 sq ft apartment. It took 6.5 hours!! It wasn't even that bad in my opinion but to my mom this meant we washed every wall, cupboard, surface, you name it. I now can't wait for my shower Sunday so I can organize and put stuff away... But I am afraid of making it dirty again!!
Will your mom come help me? Haha! I bet your place looks amazing!
I am putting off the deep cleaning until my shower at 36 weeks. Hopefully I don't go early!
Me next! I'll borrow her
She probably would! It's a good thing she did come over and help, I went in today to get checked because I wasn't feeling one baby move much and turns out I was having BH contractions about 5 minutes apart (both babies are fine). Hopefully it's not an indicator I'll go super early but at least I feel somewhat ready to bring the babies home. Decided to throw my first load of baby laundry in the washer also... I think the nesting has finally kicked in! Shits getting real!
This is super random but I think it's hilarious. DD has started saying boobie and every time I change clothes she will point at my boobs and say boobie over and over again. It probably won't be as funny when she gets a little older and pointing at random people saying boobie.
My husband taught my dd to use boobie when she wanted to nurse. It is absolutely mortifying when she is in public and he just laughs. Now she only asks when she is tired, so most of the time it isn't an issue. A couple months back though we were on a plane and we were waiting for everyone to leave the plane. I stood up causing dd to wake and she started yelling "boobie, boobie" on a very quiet plane. I have never been so embarrassed in my life!
@tmk0325 that is the best feeling, to have everything clean! It's the only benefit of moving a month before the baby, because the whole place will be cleaned!
@tmk0325 glad it was just braxton hicks - thats scary, especially with twins! I've been having contractions for over a month and the midwife said it basically just means your body is unhappy about something, if it's not changing your cervix it has no bearing on when you will or wont deliver. It could mean you need to drink more water, or walk more, or walk less, or not eat chocolate - like literally *anything* can trigger BH. She said to me "You can contract 5 minutes apart, now until 42 weeks - it really does nothing other than make you uncomfortable..." That made me feel much better - hopefully it does for you too!
I have heard from friends who had lots vs had none the friends who had lots said labor was not bad - the friends who had none were telling labor horror stories. Completely anecdotal, but maybe they DO "prepare" your body for labor! (Or maybe after dealing with this for months, for those women it just seemed like more of the same only worse... not "wtf is happening?")
FX for both of us the scary braxton hicks are harbingers of an easy peasy l&d
@tmk0325 so glad to hear all is a-ok! Also, it's comforting to know BH doesn't indicate that you'll be in labor right away.
I thought of how TB Aug community has been so supportive to me as a FTM (& first of our friends to go through this) as I was in the shower just now. All the scare, worry, & stress in the beginning to just being able to adapt to the new normal thanks to many of you...cue the sappy music but I'll miss you all after we have our little bubbas.
As soon as I got to that thought, however, I realized some of us may be back on a different board as early as six months from now (I mean, it's possible right? Ha).
I got out of the shower and this sappy yet random thought was replaced by another random compelling thought: Our room just smells like fart. DH is in the living room, I just got out of the shower, so why the fk does our room smell like fart?
Love pregnancy. When I don't have a reason to justify anything these days, I just chuck it to pregnancy esp. when it doesn't make any sense (like now).
Re: Randoms 6/6-6/12
Maybe shoulda saved this for fffc . . .
@Car0liiine hahahaha I would say do not do it, just because of the risk of stimulating contractions. BUT DH was super curious about the one my sister dropped off and I am trying to convince him to let me hook him up to it...he is still saying no, but I am still trying!
I know women have babies everyday, but that doesn't mean it isn't remarkable! It's a big damn deal! If we weren't freaking out a little, I don't think it would be human.
I had the same fears with DS. My dad told me that every age kept getting better. When DS arrived, I thought cuddly newborn was the best...but it really is more and more amazing and wonderful at each stage of development. You will be fantastic mommies, and while there will be tough seasons, it will keep getting better.
You will be amazing mama's. Everything will fall into place and a new normal (a wonderful new normal!) will develop. I think going into it cognizant of all the life changes that are about to occur is extremely beneficial. You are aware that you have to make time for your relationship and for yourself all while caring for your baby. For me it took a little bit of time and having to let go of some of my type A ways, but looking back I would never change any of it.
I don't know if that is helpful or not, but really what I'm getting at is that those fears are completely normal.
Ok. My rant is over.
I am putting off the deep cleaning until my shower at 36 weeks. Hopefully I don't go early!
DD: Aug '16
10/2017: Twins confirmed with TTTS at 22 weeks.
10/10/17 Twin B passed after in utero placenta surgery
11/2/17 Twin A & B born
11/26/17: Twin A passed after 24 days fighting in the NICU
Benched 6 months
BFP: 6/28/18 MC:7/16/18 BO
BFP: 10/2/18 EDD 6/15/18
Me next! I'll borrow her
This pretty much sums up my attention span/level of focus at work today... and every day lately.
Glad everything turned out okay with the babies!
I have heard from friends who had lots vs had none the friends who had lots said labor was not bad - the friends who had none were telling labor horror stories. Completely anecdotal, but maybe they DO "prepare" your body for labor! (Or maybe after dealing with this for months, for those women it just seemed like more of the same only worse... not "wtf is happening?")
FX for both of us the scary braxton hicks are harbingers of an easy peasy l&d
I thought of how TB Aug community has been so supportive to me as a FTM (& first of our friends to go through this) as I was in the shower just now. All the scare, worry, & stress in the beginning to just being able to adapt to the new normal thanks to many of you...cue the sappy music but I'll miss you all after we have our little bubbas.
As soon as I got to that thought, however, I realized some of us may be back on a different board as early as six months from now (I mean, it's possible right? Ha).
I got out of the shower and this sappy yet random thought was replaced by another random compelling thought: Our room just smells like fart. DH is in the living room, I just got out of the shower, so why the fk does our room smell like fart?
Love pregnancy. When I don't have a reason to justify anything these days, I just chuck it to pregnancy esp. when it doesn't make any sense (like now).