DH has been complaining about getting up at night. Im like "argh!" Hes up 2-3 times tops to do a diaper and sound asleep otherwise. No tiny person sucking on his boobs for 40 min at a time. Diapers are NOT THE SAME THING. then he complains anout exhaustion. Uggghh.
At least he is doing diapers. Mine gets up to tell me the baby is up. Then goes back to bed...
DH really isn't doing much to help. I'm a one woman show with feelings, diapering, bathing, dressing, calming and putting to bed- on top of cleaning and cooking. I know now where the phrase "a mothers job is never done" comes from. When I go back to work beginning of August he will still be off (teacher) and will be staying home with her three days a week and she will be in DC two days. I told him last night in worried about him being home alone with her. Is he gonna go just stick her in a swing and ignore her all day??? I told him he needs to be more involved so he knows how to do these things when I'm not around (suggested he should "practice")
For example as I'm making dinner last night, he's sitting on the couch watching tv and playing on his phone. I started to feed her and handed her off mid bottle and asked him to finish. I come back from the kitchen and she hadn't eaten anything else. I asked him if she refused it. He says he didn't even try to give it to her?? I'm trying not to get upset as I think he is just slow to pick this all up, but seriously, he needs to step it up! He does other things for us like laundry and running out when we are out of formula, but he also needs to be a parent.
Apparently my reply disappeared. Im sorry your DH hasnt been helpful. Maybe its time for a frank discussion and specific instructions?
It is. Every day he comes home, gets in the door, complains about his day, takes a poop, then takes a nap. Never comes in and kisses me or her, or asks how our day was. Its all about him. And quite frankly, I am tired of it. When it was just me I can brush it off since this is who he is. But how can he come home and not want to smother this baby with love after not seeing her all day? I don't see her for 10 minutes while I am showering and I miss her...
@yogahh DH definitely does not miss the girls like I do. He loves them both so much and is a wonderful, hands-on dad but he is much more comfortable being away from them than I am! It used to upset me because how could he not miss them like I do, but I realize now that he loves them but isn't as emotional as I am about things like that. And now that DD1 is 3 he will walk in the door and immediately want hugs from her, but that didn't really start until she was older.
So as I'm getting Harper ready for a bath, dh says he wants to see what I'm doing so he can do it next time. And said he needs to "step up". Is he checking my bump account?
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It is. Every day he comes home, gets in the door, complains about his day, takes a poop, then takes a nap. Never comes in and kisses me or her, or asks how our day was. Its all about him. And quite frankly, I am tired of it. When it was just me I can brush it off since this is who he is. But how can he come home and not want to smother this baby with love after not seeing her all day? I don't see her for 10 minutes while I am showering and I miss her...