October 2016 Moms
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UO Thursday (May 26)
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Let's hear 'em people!
Me: 31 | DH: 43
BFP #1: 7/15/15, SB: 11/14/15
Rainbow baby DS born 9/29/16!!
BFP #3 3/26/18 | Due 12/3/18
BFP #1: 7/15/15, SB: 11/14/15
Rainbow baby DS born 9/29/16!!
BFP #3 3/26/18 | Due 12/3/18
Re: UO Thursday (May 26)
If you're on government assistance, you should be on birth control, as well.
It's an interesting concept. Part of me thinks it's fundamentally wrong for the government to control reproduction. But another part of me thinks it's pretty smart from an economic stand point. I mean, let's be honest, if you're not able to provide financially for yourself and the kids you've already got, you should NOT be having more.
Aaaaaaaaand GO.
@copperboom86 I have feelings on that, but probably shouldn't get into them.
I'll post my UO that got people all heated last time I was on TB. I don't, nor will I, kiss my kid on the lips. I don't know why, it's just too intimate for me.
I won't be doing it with my kids mainly because mouths gross me out. I don't drink after anyone, including DH. I can handle vomit and poopy diapers all day long, but thinking about my baby's drool getting on or in my mouth makes me gag!
Edited for clarity.
But I think if you are on EI or welfare (Canada's programs) you should be weekly drug tested. If it's positive your money stops.
I also feel the whole First Nations thing is way out of hand here. I mean when someone turns 18 they get huge treaty's. When can we stop with the pay offs and just all be Canadians and be treated the same.
And I'm not entirely sure how I avoided watching the movie for as long as I did.
DH: 34
Married: May 2011
TTC #1: May 2015
DS: 10/20/2016
TTC #2: June 2019
#2 EDD: 2/20/2020
Me: 32 & DH: 37
BFP #2: 2/8/16 - EDD 10/20/16
IT'S A BOY!!!!
DS Born 10/16/16
My UO is that breastfeeding for comfort weirds me out. I want to breastfeed and plan to breastfeed for as long as I can, for nutritional values and purposes (also - that shit is free!) but once a child is no longer getting the milk or has teeth and can eat regular food, or is solely on the boob as a comfort thing... It kinda weirds me out. Give me my tatas back. They are used as a pleasurable part of sex for me, as well, so it's easy for me to separate the two for necessity and food for my child, just not comfort.
Me: 32 & DH: 37
BFP #2: 2/8/16 - EDD 10/20/16
IT'S A BOY!!!!
DS Born 10/16/16
Here's an interesting article on the subject. https://thinkprogress.org/economy/2015/02/26/3624447/tanf-drug-testing-states/
ETA: Like @MRSCORKER said, this particular article is from a biased source, but I've read other out there that aren't.
BFP #1: 7/15/15, SB: 11/14/15
Rainbow baby DS born 9/29/16!!
BFP #3 3/26/18 | Due 12/3/18
I also wiiiish I had more time for UO today
BFP #1: 7/15/15, SB: 11/14/15
Rainbow baby DS born 9/29/16!!
BFP #3 3/26/18 | Due 12/3/18
I also agree about Anna. I think Elsa gets all the hype because she's got the supercool winter powers and Anna doesn't but Elsa would also have been fucked without Anna so she needs some more spotlight!
I feel like I can never think of an UO no matter how hard I try.
It's not that simple of a choice though. SNAP (food stamps) for example, almost 3/4 of the money for SNAP goes to households with children. So it's more like the government telling someone "go on birth control or else you won't be able to feed your kids." That's not really giving someone a free choice. Also, it would really just punish women more since there is no male equivalent.
Another program I would like to see them try is a volunteer program for those on assistance. Maybe that those who are on assistance are required to conduct 10 hours per week of volunteer work. But I also know there would be flaws in this. Such as many of the people may not have transportation or child care during those times.
A lot of things are nice in theory but to put them into practice are a lot more complicated.
Dating: 10/3/08 | Married: 12/27/14
TTC #1: August 2015 | BFP: 2/3/16 | EDD: 10/7/16
DD: 10/5/16
TTC #2: September 2017 | BFP: 4/28/18 | EDD: 1/7/19
DS: 1/9/19
It's clear our welfare system needs reform, but I'm sure glad it doesn't fall to me to make those kinds of decisions for our country!
DH: 34
Married: May 2011
TTC #1: May 2015
DS: 10/20/2016
TTC #2: June 2019
#2 EDD: 2/20/2020
LFAF April Siggy: TV/Movie BFFs
BFP #4 1/2016, DD born 10/2016
BFP #1: 7/15/15, SB: 11/14/15
Rainbow baby DS born 9/29/16!!
BFP #3 3/26/18 | Due 12/3/18
Also, yes, abortion aside, PP does much greater things and the abortion rate would HAVE to go up of those things were withdrawn. People aren't going to stop having sex, but they will be less careful about it if things are no longer offered to them affordably. I am pro-choice if it requires a label, but I have multiple stances in different parts of it. It doesn't affect me, so it's not my business. That's how I want people to view my life and decisions, so that's what I try to give other people.
Dating: 10/3/08 | Married: 12/27/14
TTC #1: August 2015 | BFP: 2/3/16 | EDD: 10/7/16
DD: 10/5/16
TTC #2: September 2017 | BFP: 4/28/18 | EDD: 1/7/19
DS: 1/9/19
I love and need LGBT representation, but not *every* LGBT character needs to have a story that's all about finding love or coming out. I want more characters who are gay or bi and that is just a part of who they are, it's not the whole story.
So if Disney made her a lesbian, I would be ecstatic. Have her awkwardly flirt with a handmaiden or check out the Princess from a neighboring country. But the focus of her story should be about her being the queen and how she deals with being a woman with these magical powers. I think it's just as important to ditch the stereotypical fairy tale in kids movies as it is to teach them to accept all kinds of people. And you can do both at the same time.
That's just my humble opinion. Other members of the LGBT community may feel differently though.
My related and possibly UO is that I would much rather have my tax dollars going toward helping families and children through programs like TANF, WIC, SNAP, etc than toward the exorbitant amount we spend in military technologies and the like.
Posts like these make me feel embarrassed and ashamed for not having everything I used to have, or everything we need right now without assistance, but as it happens so often to so many people, we have fallen on hard times and the technicalities of our specific situations further complicate matters.
There was a time in my life when I had all kinds of opinions on how government and state assistance should be regulated, who should qualify, this that and the other, until I needed it. Until I saw just how difficult it really is to recieve, and how much effort the few that DO abuse it would really have to put in to keeping that abuse going. I don't know about other states, but in mine you have to be able to provide proof of everything you are stating when applying for assistance.
You do with your body as you want and parent as you want. That being said...
In my book, comfort nursing is magic. Pure, unadulterated, magic.
ETA: DS is 2.5yo
Agree that you can't be doing what basically amounts to population experiments on people. As a PP said, most govt assistance goes towards *children.* Seriously, would you literally take food and medical away from innocent kids because mom and dad are fucked up? That day would mark the start of a sad, sad turn of events for the country.
Also agree that we could spend about a zillion less on military BS and give it to people who need it...say implement a paid maternity leave system? And still be a world military leader.
DS#2 due 25 April 2019
For another thing, I think most recipients of means-tested benefits (WIC, medicaid, SNAP, etc.) are like @ladyshark311 in that they don't consider it a lifestyle choice. It's a temporary safety net. Most recipients of benefits either work at least part time or are physically unable to work. In fact, some programs, like TANF, require people receiving benefits to work at least 30 hours a week to continue receiving benefits. Also, you can't live on welfare benefits. I think the average SNAP recipient gets $134 a month. Imagine trying to eat on $134 a month.
So, I think requiring recipients of these means-tested benefits to submit to drug testing (which 1) has been held to be unconstitutional by the U.S. Court of Appeals; and 2) ended up costing the state of Florida $45,000 more than it saved) or to be on birth control (which sounds like a gross violation of personal autonomy) is just a way of shaming people who are availing themselves of something we all get at some point in our lives - government assistance.
On that note, UO: breastfeeding toddlers. I understand that in some cultures and parts of the world it is normal, or even necessary for development, but I'm talking USA urban living where there's more than just rice and millet to supplement the boob. People can do what they want, but I always raise an eyebrow at toddlers sucking on the tatas. If they can have a conversation (or tantrum) with their moms asking (demanding) for milk, it weirds me out. I always think walking and talking kids who still suck on their moms' boobs become those creepy gropey frat boys infatuated by breasts down the road.