I think we can all agree, and the FTMs will soon learn, that if a 2-3 year old wants to wear a tutu and bunny ears to school, he or she is likely going to get his or her way.
@PSUBecky23- my son is only 17 months old, and already demands when he wants to wear his "hat" or his "boots" and will then march around the house in his rain boots, inside saying "boots boots boots boots" I can only imagine the outfits he'll have together within the next year.
- my son is only 17 months old, and already demands when he wants to wear his "hat" or his "boots" and will then march around the house in his rain boots, inside saying "boots boots boots boots" I can only imagine the outfits he'll have together within the next year.
McKenna demands to wear her shoes, too! She go around saying "Shooooo" and will cry until I put them on her. She's taken to demanding I wear mine at all times, too. Annoying because I hate wearing shoes, but I at least put them on for a bit for her. She goes back and forth on hats, but loves purses. Or sometimes what she interprets as purses. Occasionally, it's a piece of fence from her Little People dangling from her arm.
@camichael84that is so darn cute! Emmett will try to put his own shoes on, or as he calls them "oosh" .. not sure how he flip-flopped that word but it's damn adorable, and he does it with nothing else, so I go with it. After quite a few minutes of good persistence he usually gets frustrated and says "help!" which also melts my heart. Then we put them on him and he marches around... until eventually he tries to take them off, and we end up in the same cycle of trying really hard until he gets frustrated
Reese is less demanding about what she wears than she is about what she gets to do. "Mommy, I put your shoes on you. I carry your (expensive leather) purse (along the dirty ground). I get the vitamin out of the bottle. I buckle myself." All while trying to get out the door.
I just want to clarify my above post. I don't mean to imply that teaching/nursing/mothering are NOT ambitious careers. In fact, my lack of direction in my career is related to a lot of other things that have nothing to do with my gender. I shouldn't have added that into my description at all in terms of my femininity.
@PSUBecky23- I wish someone would invent a less interesting buckle!! I mean seriously.. the high chair, the changing table, the carseat.. all Emmett wants to do is "Bu-ckle? Bu-ckle?" Granted, they keep him entertained while I'm making him dinner as he tries to buckle his seat (while he's standing on the floor.. not in it unbuckled.. yikes) but sometimes mid-dinner he catches hold of that buckle and wants to unbuckle and rebuckle instead of eating. Roar.
I think most--if not all--of us can agree that messages like "future trophy wife" and "I hate my thighs" vs "future president" are completely inappropriate and perpetuate the gender inequality that a lot of us (myself included) are constantly striving to change. This type of saying only limits girls' capabilities in relation to boys' and I would NEVER want my girl limited by anyone, least of all me.
I think we're more talking about a lot of us not finding harm in outfits labeled "princess", "sweet like mommy", "captain adorable/handsome", "hunk", etc. My mom tried to do the whole girly thing for awhile with me growing up but pretty soon I was playing with my brother's toy cars, was better at him at baseball (and HATED the fact that I had to play softball and couldn't play baseball with the boys that I was better than), loved watching sports and still don't do the girly makeup, nails and perfect hair thing at all. She even went as far as to take me out of the basketball team when I was 10 because "it's not for girls". I would NEVER do that to my girl. I will teach my girl to be a feminist but she doesn't have to be in gender neutral clothing to learn, not unless she wants to!
Andplusalso, totally unrelated, but I'll definitely let my kids wear their costumes out. IDGAF what they choose to wear (as long as they're clothed) and I know to pick my battles. Besides, I find that the costume stage is one of the first ways of self expression and I always want to encourage that!
I'm not big on gender stereotypes, but I'm sure we push some things. I mean I tend to buy typical "boy things", but the kids are free to pick out whatever they want without restrictions to gender roles. We have a purple scooter, a play kitchen, the Melissa and Doug mop/broom and a baby doll that the boys wanted. Oh, and DS1 has a pack of Frozen underwear too. We haven't even seen it, but apparently Mia at daycare talks nonstop about Elsa, so must be cool.
I do equally side-eye people who go above and beyond to fight the gender stereotypes and buy lots of opposite gender stuff just to prove a point. Stuff their kid didn't necessarily ask for.
that is so darn cute! Emmett will try to put his own shoes on, or as he calls them "oosh" .. not sure how he flip-flopped that word but it's damn adorable, and he does it with nothing else, so I go with it. After quite a few minutes of good persistence he usually gets frustrated and says "help!" which also melts my heart. Then we put them on him and he marches around... until eventually he tries to take them off, and we end up in the same cycle of trying really hard until he gets frustrated
McKenna has my patience when it comes to attempting to put her shoes on... which is none at all. Haha. Not that she doesn't try, but it lasts for a very little amount of time before she gives up and asks me. She will, however, try for a ridiculous amount of time to pick food up with her spoon or fork. She's usually good with utensils, but some times things get away from her. I love her determination with it (even if sometimes in the end she ends up picking the food up with her hand and placing it on the fork to achieve her goal).
Along the lines of gender stereotypes, my son has always been 100% typical boy... All about the dirt, super heroes, etc. My poor daughter has no chance though! Anything pink/sparkling/princess thing he sees he gushes over it and how we need it for baby sister. I was never super girly, more of a "tom boy", so he may be disappointed if babysitter doesn't line up to his girly expectations!!
He has already said things like "I'll offer my toys to her but she's just going to cry because they aren't girly!"
I agree with taking the middle of the road approach to gender stuff, although I am likely to sway more to whatever sex they were born as in the beginning. My son who is almost 9yrs old loves sports and swords and other "typical" boy things, but his favorite color is purple and he loves watching my little pony and other "girly" things. I am very conservative in general, but to me these are more about individual personality and preferences, then whether my son is or isn't a boy. I don't believe in forcing them into or away from typical gender stuff. Just my 2 cents.
My UO is I don't get all of the sub group check-ins. Now each "team" has a check in. There's usually a big overlap in information. Why all the division? There are some subgroups that connect on very different levels, but growing a boy or a girl can't be that different.
My UO is I don't get all of the sub group check-ins. Now each "team" has a check in. There's usually a big overlap in information. Why all the division? There are some subgroups that connect on very different levels, but growing a boy or a girl can't be that different.
The team green one was more about staying strong to resist the urge to find out and the reactions you get from people when you say you're team green. I don't get specific reason behind the pink/blue one personally, but it's pretty light hearted fun, so whatever.
My UO is I don't get all of the sub group check-ins. Now each "team" has a check in. There's usually a big overlap in information. Why all the division? There are some subgroups that connect on very different levels, but growing a boy or a girl can't be that different.
The team green one was more about staying strong to resist the urge to find out and the reactions you get from people when you say you're team green. I don't get specific reason behind the pink/blue one personally, but it's pretty light hearted fun, so whatever.
Re: UO Thursday
I think we can all agree, and the FTMs will soon learn, that if a 2-3 year old wants to wear a tutu and bunny ears to school, he or she is likely going to get his or her way.
I think we're more talking about a lot of us not finding harm in outfits labeled "princess", "sweet like mommy", "captain adorable/handsome", "hunk", etc. My mom tried to do the whole girly thing for awhile with me growing up but pretty soon I was playing with my brother's toy cars, was better at him at baseball (and HATED the fact that I had to play softball and couldn't play baseball with the boys that I was better than), loved watching sports and still don't do the girly makeup, nails and perfect hair thing at all. She even went as far as to take me out of the basketball team when I was 10 because "it's not for girls". I would NEVER do that to my girl. I will teach my girl to be a feminist but she doesn't have to be in gender neutral clothing to learn, not unless she wants to!
Andplusalso, totally unrelated, but I'll definitely let my kids wear their costumes out. IDGAF what they choose to wear (as long as they're clothed) and I know to pick my battles. Besides, I find that the costume stage is one of the first ways of self expression and I always want to encourage that!
I'm not big on gender stereotypes, but I'm sure we push some things. I mean I tend to buy typical "boy things", but the kids are free to pick out whatever they want without restrictions to gender roles. We have a purple scooter, a play kitchen, the Melissa and Doug mop/broom and a baby doll that the boys wanted. Oh, and DS1 has a pack of Frozen underwear too. We haven't even seen it, but apparently Mia at daycare talks nonstop about Elsa, so must be cool.
I do equally side-eye people who go above and beyond to fight the gender stereotypes and buy lots of opposite gender stuff just to prove a point. Stuff their kid didn't necessarily ask for.
Red Sour Patch Kids are my favorites. If they made nothing but red ones, I'd be thrilled.
Blue is good. Not my favorite, but I like blue raspberry.
Orange is blah.
What I really hate, though, are the green ones. Blech! I don't like anything artificially lime flavored, although I like real lime.
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My poor daughter has no chance though! Anything pink/sparkling/princess thing he sees he gushes over it and how we need it for baby sister. I was never super girly, more of a "tom boy", so he may be disappointed if babysitter doesn't line up to his girly expectations!!
He has already said things like "I'll offer my toys to her but she's just going to cry because they aren't girly!"
My UO is I don't get all of the sub group check-ins. Now each "team" has a check in. There's usually a big overlap in information. Why all the division? There are some subgroups that connect on very different levels, but growing a boy or a girl can't be that different.
November Siggy Challenge: Selfie Fails
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November Siggy Challenge: Selfie Fails
Hidden for the sake of your eyes!
November Siggy Challenge: Selfie Fails
Hidden for the sake of your eyes!