UO Thursday

mom2adoodle · May 2016

Share if you dare.

jk, we're pretty nice around here.

Alyeena · May 2016

I don't have an UO but I really wanted to share this little comic I saw on Tumblr. xD

Image: https://67.media.tumblr.com/0ee6d1ce0710b37a2d0cb2e502899e55/tumblr_o7bplaVAPS1qadrooo1_1280.jpg

TheTamedShrew · May 2016

I think it's ridiculous to get an elective induction for no medical reason. Unless an induction is medically necessary, babies should come when they're ready, not under the conditions of your convenience or your doctor's.

mom2adoodle · May 2016

@TheTamedShrew Dang, I didn't even know that was a thing? I thought it was only if medically necessary. Like if you're 2 weeks past your due date.

marajay6 · May 2016

@TheTamedShrew - I would be very surprised if that opinion is unpopular, especially around here.

Tippy05 · May 2016

A friend of mine did this. She was due in early January and didn't want to be in the hospital after the first of the year so she wouldn't incur a new deductible cost. She was induced early so she was in and out of the hospital before the 31st.

mommytimesfour · May 2016

I kind of wish we had more drive by crazies around here. This board is SO tame. I like that we are a chill bunch of preggos, but some of those trolls can be really entertaining.

marajay6 · May 2016

JLmama118 said:

I kind of wish we had more drive by crazies around here. This board is SO tame. I like that we are a chill bunch of preggos, but some of those trolls can be really entertaining.

I visit the trimester boards when I want some of that entertainment.

mom2adoodle · May 2016

Haha or I lurk TTGP @marajay6 @JLmama118

TheTamedShrew · May 2016

@mom2adoodle you would think, but apparently it is popular around where I live. My OB asked me at least three times at my last couple of appointments if I wanted to have my membranes swept, or schedule an induction since he would be out of town on my due date. I was like, "WTF. no. I already told you twice, NO. my child's birthday is not going to be determined based on your f*cking vacation plans." What I actually said was, "no. and I will go to 42 weeks if I have to." He didn't deliver DD1, it was actually a resident, and she turned out to be amazing, so whatever. All I could think was that he is so used to women asking for them. I know many women who have had them for reasons like "I'm tired of being pregnant" or "I wanted to be sure my doc/midwife would be there". It's crazy to me. I just can't wrap my head around it.

AnnaS930 · May 2016

@TheTamedShrew - My OB is the opposite. She likes to be the OB on-call for a couple days after she schedules an induction so that she can monitor it. She was like "well.. sorry, the only time I'm on-call after your due date you'll be about 42 weeks, so that's when we'll schedule you" There was no budging her to schedule an induction sooner than that.

I was the FTM that was super impatient as my due date came and went. I also hate surprises/can be impatient, so the end of pregnancy was very difficult for me not knowing when the time would come. The time came - 10 days after my due date, the day before induction was to begin. Now those extra few days seem like such a tiny deal to have to wait through in the grand scheme, hoping for more patience at #2

mom2adoodle · May 2016

@AnnaS930 @TheTamedShrew Very interesting.

I think I'm the opposite of wanting to be induced early for my doctor's schedule, etc. I'm TERRIFIED of baby coming too early! I keep telling him to bake until he wants and 42 weeks is good for me. Of course, I have no idea what it's like to be that pregnant but I just really want him to be healthy and ready. Maybe it's PGAL brain and maybe even UO but I really really want him to come either on or after his due date just for my piece of mind that he is fully ready for this world. Which I know babies can do just fine if born before then, but I'm just crazy.

vampirina · May 2016

IDK if this is a UO or just an opinion. But I hate the people who overly complain about people pooping in the bathroom. Like, I get it. It's not a pleasant smell, and having to use the lavatory after someone else's particularly bad bathroom experience is no fun, but just a normal turd in the toilet is perfect normal. No need to posts signs telling people to hike it to a different bathroom or making a big show of the fact that someone pooed.

For the record, I'm not talking about making fun of your ol' pal johnnies 2 hour bathroom mishap (because that's probably funny... at least when you think pooping is hilarious, like I do) I'm talking about co-workers or house mates who act like their own shit don't stink and no one should be pooping in a public or shared restroom.

It's like dude, bathrooms are for pooping! Where do you want me to shit? Your cubicle?!

vampirina · May 2016

@mom2adoodle - I'm with you! Baby should stay in there till he or she is good and ready to come out. I mean, Sept 18, baby's due date, would be absolutely perfect, but if babies not ready, I don't want to rush it!

AnnaS930 · May 2016

@mom2adoodle - I certainly wanted baby to come around his estimated due date. It was my own fault for being impatient beyond that.. I had decided to go on maternity leave on my due date because I work an hour from my hospital and was worried about Maine winter roads if I went into labor here (also just had set that date and by the time it came I was way too checked out of work to consider coming back after Thanksgiving break). I was very patient up until my estimated due date and never once wished for baby to come before that. Once that day came and went I was ready, then beyond ready for him to arrive.

Trust me, my Dec14 board laid the smackdown on me for being impatient, and I am extremely grateful that he came when he was good and ready, but it didn't make the waiting (at the time) much easier on me. I'm also an anxious person and like to dive into things and get them over with.. so there is obviously a lot of unknown as you approach your due date and that anxiety mounted with each day beyond.

camichael84 · May 2016

@AnnaS930 I knew I was being induced at 39w3d (for medical reasons... not convenience), and was still horribly impatient the last several weeks. I know I wouldn't have had a choice if I'd been in your situation, but it would have kiiiiilled me. I'm also hoping to just enjoy the end of this pregnancy since it's likely my last, but it so hard when you just want to meet your baby.

camichael84 · May 2016

Adding on to my earlier post because there were comments I didn't see before... DD ended up coming on her own at 39w2d. Those last several days just weren't necessary for her. I think the main hope should be a full term baby that comes on it's own time. There is no need to worry yourself if baby decides to come at 38 or 39 weeks instead of 40.

tinypikachu · May 2016

No shame in being anxious, ladies! I'm a FTM but can totally see it driving me crazy if baby's two weeks late, I'll probably start getting anxious around 36 weeks. On top of the extreme desire of wanting baby to be here, in the real world, in all his/her squishy, cuddly goodness, there's also the discomfort of feeling huge, swollen, unable to sleep or breathe well, nauseous (for some women), and all the other good stuff that comes with being 8-9 months pregnant. I mean, you wait the better part of a year to meet the most important person in your life!

I'm also against an unnecessary induction, especially seeing that they have higher cesarean rates than going into labor naturally as sometimes the body will not progress as it needs to. I'm guilty of side-eying people that say "I was just so sick of being pregnant so I begged my doctor to induce me!" and would not go to an OB that wanted to induce out of scheduling convenience.

TheTamedShrew · May 2016

DD1 was born at 40w5d. The 5 days past her due date were agony. It's definitely hard when you get to the end, but I totally side-eye moms who can't just wait it out. I was pregnant 40 weeks already, so what's one more week if it means there's still something baby needs to "finish up" in there.

PSUBecky23 · May 2016

When my daughter was born at 38w2d, I was more than ready, physically. Emotionally, I'm still not ready.

TheTamedShrew · May 2016

I would also like to add that your EDD is just that, an ESTIMATED due date. Most of the time women don't know the exact day they conceived. I knew this time because I was temping/charting, but most women don't. What is 40 weeks to you, could really be 39 to your baby. Or if you think you are a week past your due date your baby could be right on schedule. Since the earliest you can elect an induction is 39 weeks, you could possibly be making your baby come at 38 weeks, and so forth and so on. That's why I believe there is still development happening and you need to let baby cook as long as possible.

AnnaS930 · May 2016

TheTamedShrew said:

I would also like to add that your EDD is just that, an ESTIMATED due date. Most of the time women don't know the exact day they conceived. I knew this time because I was temping/charting, but most women don't. What is 40 weeks to you, could really be 39 to your baby. Or if you think you are a week past your due date your baby could be right on schedule. Since the earliest you can elect an induction is 39 weeks, you could possibly be making your baby come at 38 weeks, and so forth and so on. That's why I believe there is still development happening and you need to let baby cook as long as possible.

I completely agree with this.. and because I was taking Clomid and tracking ovulation I know that my estimated due date was within a couple days of accurate (depending on when the egg fertilized.. but had a very small window). And he still required 41 weeks, 3 days.

He was probably working on his back hair for those extra 10 days.. man was he a furry little baby

hey_clever_girl · May 2016

PoodleDoodleOoo said:

IDK if this is a UO or just an opinion. But I hate the people who overly complain about people pooping in the bathroom. Like, I get it. It's not a pleasant smell, and having to use the lavatory after someone else's particularly bad bathroom experience is no fun, but just a normal turd in the toilet is perfect normal. No need to posts signs telling people to hike it to a different bathroom or making a big show of the fact that someone pooed.

For the record, I'm not talking about making fun of your ol' pal johnnies 2 hour bathroom mishap (because that's probably funny... at least when you think pooping is hilarious, like I do) I'm talking about co-workers or house mates who act like their own shit down stink and no one should be pooping in a public or shared restroom.

It's like dude, bathrooms are for pooping! Where do you want me to shit? Your cubicle?!

OMGGGGG THIS. Pooping is what bathrooms are for. If I am at work and I have to poop, guess what? Gonna poop. If I'm at Target and I have to poop, guess what? GONNA POOP. Potties are for POOPING.

LakeR2014 · May 2016

TheTamedShrew said:

I think it's ridiculous to get an elective induction for no medical reason. Unless an induction is medically necessary, babies should come when they're ready, not under the conditions of your convenience or your doctor's.

*Trigger Warning*

@TheTamedShrew I'll be the other way, which may be the more UO. If my baby goes to a week past due date I want an induction right then. I've known of three babies who went two weeks over due date and passed prior to birth. None of them were genetic but had to due with complications from umbilical cord wrapping, to low fluid, etc. Had they come out sooner, they would've survived. For this reason, I've let my doctor know my cut off is 41 weeks (If I could I'd make it 40 weeks, but I'm trying not to be that paranoid). Thankfully she's fine with it and understands my fears/insecurities on this and has no problem moving forward with it.

Edited to add: Trigger Warning

AnnaS930 · May 2016

**Trigger Warning**
Similar to LakeR above, I did have more reasons for my anxiety as I moved past my due date. Very unfortunately, a friend of mine had a very long labor and the baby passed within her first day of life (a congenital defect, nothing pertaining to the labor). This happened right around the time of my due date and was very hard to handle for the next couple of weeks waiting for my son to be born and just wanting to see and hold him Earth-side and know that things were ok.

I totally see where you're coming from, especially if the experiences could in one way or another be tied to gestational duration

TheTamedShrew · May 2016

LakeR2014 said:

TheTamedShrew said:

I think it's ridiculous to get an elective induction for no medical reason. Unless an induction is medically necessary, babies should come when they're ready, not under the conditions of your convenience or your doctor's.

@TheTamedShrew I'll be the other way, which may be the more UO. If my baby goes to a week past due date I want an induction right then. I've known of three babies who went two weeks over due date and passed prior to birth. None of them were genetic but had to due with complications from umbilical cord wrapping, to low fluid, etc. Had they come out sooner, they would've survived. For this reason, I've let my doctor know my cut off is 41 weeks (If I could I'd make it 40 weeks, but I'm trying not to be that paranoid). Thankfully she's fine with it and understands my fears/insecurities on this and has no problem moving forward with it.

I had a NST at 40 weeks. I thought that was the purpose of those tests to monitor blood flow/oxygen and baby's reactivity?

AnnaS930 · May 2016

I didn't have any testing beyond 40 weeks other than an ultrasound 2 days before my scheduled induction, so 41+1 day

LakeR2014 · May 2016

AnnaS930 said:

I didn't have any testing beyond 40 weeks other than an ultrasound 2 days before my scheduled induction, so 41+1 day

To my understanding all were similar to the above. No further testing was done. Heart rate was good, babies just 'weren't ready.' To my paranoid mind, it's just not worth the risk

marajay6 · May 2016

LakeR2014 said:

AnnaS930 said:

I didn't have any testing beyond 40 weeks other than an ultrasound 2 days before my scheduled induction, so 41+1 day

To my understanding all were similar to the above. No further testing was done. Heart rate was good, babies just 'weren't ready.' To my paranoid mind, it's just not worth the risk

This must be something that varies by practice. At the practice I go to they start NSTs at your due date and then have one every couple of days until delivery. DS came on my due date, but I had an NST earlier that day.

pilotswifey · May 2016

I'm on the unpopular side with this one. We scheduled the induction with DS1 a few days before my EDD, and we are scheduling this induction a little early, too. I want my husband to be present for the birth, and with his schedule, it's not possible unless I induce. I also live more than an hour away from the hospital. If I go into labor and he's not home, I have to drive myself. Not sure that's a great idea. So, yeah, it may be unpopular, but if it were unsafe, my doctor wouldn't do it. He does an ultrasound at every appointment, so he has a good idea of what's going on in there.

steminist · May 2016

@pilotswifey I think there is a difference between not being able to get to the hospital safely or wanting your husband there and wanting to induce because your OB is on vacation or you just feel like you want your body back. (Not that this is the viewpoint of any on the board, but that's the thinking that people seem to be objecting to)

mom2adoodle · May 2016

I've got an opinion. People who aren't good at texting bother me. I mean like failing to reply that day. I know people who reply days later. I don't even admire them like "Wow, they're so able to unplug from technology." Instead, it irks me.

vampirina · May 2016

@mom2doodle or when you ask them a question like "what time should I be there?" and they respond "k" or they say something like "wut R U talkin bout 2day is dat ting we sposed 2 go 2 meet me at 2"

Or my mom, who is really cryptic
Me sitting at home watching Netflix
Mom texts me: "in the dressing room"
Me: What, are you lost?
Mom: getting shirts
me: What? Are you picking stuff up, Where are you?
Mom: Dressing Room. Right side.

What the hell, mom?!

ETA Or my dad, who will randomly text me a picture of a beach and be like "Drove to Florida. Have a fun weekend. See you on Tuesday" Mind you, my family lives in MN, so it's not like driving to Florida is a quick and easy thing to do, but he just sends us updates like driving that far for a long weekend is a totes normal thing to do. He only texts me to show off, basically. How annoying.

Thscary · May 2016

PoodleDoodleOoo said:

@mom2doodle or when you ask them a question like "what time should I be there?" and they respond "k" or they say something like "wut R U talkin bout 2day is dat ting we sposed 2 go 2 meet me at 2"

Or my mom, who is really cryptic
Me sitting at home watching Netflix
Mom texts me: "in the dressing room"
Me: What, are you lost?
Mom: getting shirts
me: What? Are you picking stuff up, Where are you?
Mom: Dressing Room. Right side.

What the hell, mom?!

This made me laugh. My FIL uses the voice recognition to text and then doesn't proof read so his texts are always incoherent.

I also get annoyed by people who don't text back. I have one friend who will be texting back and forth with me and she'll say "let's get dinner soon" and I'll respond and be like "ok well I am free all weekend, what is your schedule like" and then no answer, for weeks!! Like wtf, you're the one that brought up going to dinner?!

my UO is that I don't think Daniel Tosh is funny at all. I love stand up comedy and he just sucks. I don't see what the big deal is. Not only do I find him not funny, but I also want to punch him in the throat

SLou24 · May 2016

Hahah, @Thscary I love Daniel Tosh!! He's super offensive for sure, but he always cracks me up. I saw him live last year and loved it-- I can definitely see why people would hate his material though.

diagonalley · May 2016

I'm team keep baby in as long as he or she needs. My first came 6 weeks early and spent 12 days in the NICU and then 3 months on a monitor. I don't want to relive that again at all. I will suck up the discomfort and what not to keep him in as long as possible and quite frankly it makes me super stabby when people choose to have their babies before their dd for purely selfish reasons.

hey_clever_girl · May 2016

This is an UO that might not be an UO? But since discovering we're having a boy, I've been browsing the little boys' sections of baby sites, naturally. I'm so irritated by all of the overtly masculine bullshit onesies and shirts like, "Macho Man" and "Little Stud" and "Watch Out Ladies" and "Lock Up Your Daughters!" I feel the same about little girl clothes that are all sparkles and glitter with phrases like "Sweet and Sassy" and "Princess" and BS like that. Can we not force small children into stereotypical gender roles from, you know, birth? Argh.

marikkita12 · May 2016

@runningisrad I'm right there with you. We are purposely avoiding anything with words on it along those lines.

mom2adoodle · May 2016

@runningisrad Ew, I hate those phrases on baby clothes as well! I don't even like "Mommy's blah blah blah"

AnnaS930 · May 2016

I love phrases on emmetts shirts and baby 2 will wear them too. Today he had a shirt on that said "hunk" and he is one!! We have lots of "handsome like daddy" etc. Even a "chick magnet" with a big magnet and baby chicks on it. Stereotypical gender roles don't bug me though

camichael84 · May 2016

@AnnaS930 I love the phrases, too. At least in the first year. McKenna had a ton of "I love mommy/daddy/gma/auntie/ect" onsies and things like "sweet and cute" that we will be reusing.

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