May TFAS Check-in! TW

Liss_37 · May 2016

I havent seen an May check in yet!

***TW*** This is a thread for those who have children but are TTC another.

previous pregnancies, births and children may and will be mentioned, but that should go without saying ☺️

Cycle/Month:

Number trying for (#2, #3, etc.):

Rants/raves:

GTKY- If you could make anything different for your next delivery, what would it be?

Liss_37 · May 2016

Cycle/Month: 5

Number trying for (#2, #3, etc.): 2

Rants/raves: DS keeps getting pneumonia in his right lung in the upper lobe. It's becoming a problem and we have an appointment with a pediatric respirologist on the 30th for xrays, a pulmonary function test and to see the doc. Problem is, I think he's getting sick AGAIN. which will make the tests moot because they are trying to get a baseline of what his lungs look like and how he can breathe when he's well. I'm just so frustrated with everything.

GTKY- If you could make anything different for your next delivery, what would it be? I would get the mirror. I wanted it last time but I was so angry with people talking mid-delivery that when they asked I yelled No lol

HLD3194 · May 2016

Cycle/Month: I always answer for the total amount including loss but I think I am going to shorten that going forward....total 16/10 TTCAL 3/2

Number trying for (#2, #3, etc.): #2 take home

Rants/raves: I am becoming discouraged and am happy when I see others announcing their pregnancies but I'm really sad for myself. Why did I have to loss my last one? Am I not good enough to care for 2 children? What did I do to deserve this? It's just a pity party for me today, I need to slap myself back to reality. We are leaving DD for 5 days because we are going to Mexico for a wedding. I am very nervous about flying and am nervous about leaving her for so long. I know by night 2 I will be a blubbering mess.

GTKY- If you could make anything different for your next delivery, what would it be? Not to push for so long. I pushed for 2.5 hours....granted there wasn't any real lasting damage done but it sucked. I had a big baby and she made it known. I'm jealous of other moms who only pushed like 2x but hey good for them right. I know ladies who have pushed way longer than me too so I guess it could always have been worse.

daisy62103 · May 2016

Cycle/Month: 10/10 ttcal

Number trying for (#2, #3, etc.): 4th (7th pg)

Rants/raves: It's been a hard year since my last mc. I never thought it would take this long to get pg again. I move to clomid and iui next month and I'm just frustrated.

GTKY- If you could make anything different for your next delivery, what would it be? I had the best labor/delivery last pg. I went natural and so glad I did. It was also quick - from start to finish a little over 2 1/2 hrs, so I wouldn't change anything and hope for my next delivery to be the same. (I was induced for my first two, had all the drugs, and took longer.)

Liss_37 · May 2016

@crazypt2285 I'm sorry you're having such a rough day. But you're totally allowed to, so just feel what you need to feel girl. big hugs to you!

Maybe a trip is what you need! last year we left DS for 9 days when we went on a cruise. it was the first time leaving him and I was literally freaking out. but you know what, he was fine. after a few days so was I. it ended up being a great time to re-connect as adults instead of just parents

daisy62103 · May 2016

@lisswastaken so sorry about your ds! That sounds awful, I can imagine how frustrating it must be.

@crazypt2285 hopefully you'll be having so much fun in mexico you won't have too much time to worry about your dd. I know how hard it is to leave them!

Liss_37 · May 2016

@Daisy621 wow that's a fast delivery!! Mine was 29 hours. after 19 hours they gave drugs to speed it up and it just stalled it and made everything worse! I would try natural the whole way next time if I could

hanshotfirst77 · May 2016

Cycle/Month: 7/6

Number trying for (#2, #3, etc.): #2

Rants/raves: bfn today at 12dpo. I'm strait to get really discouraged being past 6 month mark now. When is it my turn?

GTKY- If you could make anything different for your next delivery, what would it be

id like to go into labor naturally. I had to be induced with DS. So I never got to feel my water break or feel labor start without medicine.

ElleB11 · May 2016

Cycle/Month: 2/2 TTCAL

Number trying for (#2, #3, etc.): #2

Rants/raves: I'm having lunch with my sister today!

GTKY- If you could make anything different for your next delivery, what would it be? I'm thinking of having my mom with me. With DS, I couldn't make up my mind if I wanted her in the room with me so she was at the hospital but I didn't see her until after he was born.

mylove071407 · May 2016

Cycle/Month: 2/2

Number trying for (#2, #3, etc.): #2

Rants/raves: AF needs to leave the building. I'm sick of her.

GTKY- If you could make anything different for your next delivery, what would it be? I would just schedule a C-section instead of sitting in the hospital for three days attempting to induce labor.

Liss_37 · May 2016

@JediAlly85 I know exactly how you feel. that's how I feel this month too. it seems like everyone in my family can just blink and get KU and it's so frustrating.

@ElleB11 I think I might have someone else as well. the first time it was just DH but I'm thinking I might invite my sister next time around.

Megs7911 · May 2016

Cycle/Month: 3/3

Number trying for (#2, #3, etc.): 2

Rants/raves: 7dpo just waiting to test. Trying to hold out until friday at 10 dpo, bfns are so disheartening.

GTKY- If you could make anything different for your next delivery, what would it be? Um, everything? Can I say everything? Except for the fact that in the end I had a beautiful, perfect, and healthy boy (which made it ALL worth it), my labor and delivery was terrible. I was in real, hard, excruiating, back labor for 96 hours. NINETY. SIX. HOURS. Then, I ended up with a c-section anyway. boo. I am really hoping for a VBAC with the next one and my OB supports them, so I hope it can happen.

mrsstuessy · May 2016

@crazypt2285I left DD for the first prolonged time for 5 days back in April. My mom and I went to NYC and DH was in the thick of thesis prep. So, she stayed with my in-laws, who I love and who DD loves. I was kind of nervous and sad driving there to drop her off. But, about 10 minutes after I left I felt so good. It was so nice to just "be". Just be me and worry about myself. I feel like just the worst mom to say this, but honestly, I didn't really think about her very much the whole time I was gone. I mean, there were times when I though, DD would really enjoy this or when I was picking out a present for her. But, I was not sad once. I was, of course, just jumping out of my chair the last couple hours on my way to her and I just wanted to not lot her go for a couple days. But, it was overall so great! It is healthy to get away if you can for a bit.

Cycle/Month: 1/1

Number trying for (#2, #3, etc.): #2

Rants/raves: DD will be 3 in Sep. I have been SOOOOOOO ready to try for the next one for a year now. But, because of grad school/ jobs/ finances we just couldn't. I knew we couldn't. But it still made me just a tiny bit bitter on the inside and jealous of people popping out kids left and right. So, we are finally ready to try. I know that my family will think we should have waited longer (if we get pregnant in the first 6ish months). DD was not planned and it was rough on everyone since we were both in college and dirt poor and just not ready for a baby. The day I told my parents that I was pregnant was the worst day of my life so far. (I had to tell them super early because I was still on their insurance) They were not happy in the least. It was just horrible. I cried for months thinking about it. It honestly took over a year to feel like I could forgive them and let it go (mostly). I have been thinking of how we will tell them about the next one. We will definitely be waiting as long as possible this time. I know it is still on the early side of trying for #2, but we are just going to take our chances and jump in. Part of me wants to wait another 6 months, just to avoid any disappointment from them. But, DH thinks that is just ridiculous. I just don't want to go through any of that again. I know it is totally different this time. But we still don't own a house and still have a ton of students loans. That isn't changing anytime soon though, and we just really don't want our kids to be like 8 years apart. Ok, definitely a rant. There is just absolutely no one else I can talk to about this. And it feels really good to actually get it out.

GTKY- If you could make anything different for your next delivery, what would it be? My last labor was 22 hours, which isn't the worst, but I would just like something less than 10 hours for the next one. Overall my labor went great. Went into labor on my own. All natural. When DD came out though, I didn't get to hold her and they had to take her to the NICU immediately because of some breathing issues. Whenever I see or hear about people holding their baby skin to skin immediately it makes me so sad because I didn't get that at all. Also, I definitely don't care of more people are their for the next birth. Honestly, I feel like, whoever wants to come... come on in. haha! I don't think DH is totally in agreement with that though. I am now a doula too, so I have a ton of tricks to try for the next labor.

sldp123 · May 2016

Cycle/Month: 11

Number trying for (#2, #3, etc.): 2

Rants/raves: Just really sick of being here. Like @mrsstuessy said, I really didn't want my kids to be like eight years apart, but even if I'm KU right now, they will be 8.75 years apart and that is just ever increasing. I'm feeling really down today about everything, and just found out that my sister's ex-boyfriend got his new girlfriend of a few months KU, they are like 19 years old. That's how old my kid will probably be when/if I ever have my second, ha.

GTKY- If you could make anything different for your next delivery, what would it be? I don't know, it was so long ago, haha. I was younger and pretty uneducated, so I really didn't know how to advocate for myself. So I guess this time I would like to have a plan and know what I want and know that it's okay to ask for it.

Tink112011 · May 2016

Lurker jumping in!

Cycle/Month: ehhh.. not sure. Had a MC at the end of March, so NTNP. Haven't had AF yet.

Number trying for (#2, #3, etc.): #2 I have a 4 year-old DS. We though we would be One and Done for a while. Who knows, we may still be OAD if we're not successful within a year.

Rants/raves: I'm feeling in a really peaceful place about our situation. I hope we have a #2, but DS is so darn awesome and the MC has put me at ease with only have one, if that's the hand we are dealt.

GTKY- If you could make anything different for your next delivery, what would it be? Less tearing would be awesome!

Marley629 · May 2016

Cycle/Month: 6/6 +2months NTNP

Number trying for (#2, #3, etc.): 2

Rants/raves: doc appt scheduled with OB on Thursday. Glad that im going to be seen but nervous for what it may or may not bring.

GTKY- If you could make anything different for your next delivery, what would it be?

most of it but mostly I wish I remembered the day or the day after but it's very fuzzy. I was 9 days late and being induced. I was only 2cm and wasn't progressing so Doctor insisted I get the epidural at that point because she said I was too tense and wouldn't dilate that way - within 20 seconds of getting the epidural my blood pressure plummeted and my heart rate skyrocketed and DS's heart rate dropped drastically; (I'm telling the story from OH & MIL's versions because I don't remember) Doctor came rushing in with all nurses and kept flipping me back and forth and they shot me up with multiple doses of epinephrine to stabilize me and DS which they did; it happened again within 5 minutes so they rushed me to OR for emergency c-section; turned out DS had a prolapsed cord and was sunny side up. We both were ok but I cried for months about not being able to remember his birth.

Marley629 · May 2016

@lisswastaken ugh I feel your pain! I hope DS feels better soon and they figure it out. My DS had pneumonia 3 times and was hospitalized for it among many other respiratory infections. ultimately received a diagnosis of reactive airway disorder and was put on a daily inhaler and also nebulizer treatments as needed. He also was found to have an immune deficiency to the pneumococcal vaccine and was given a booster and knock on wood has been OK since January. I know how stressful that can all be so sending you creepy internet hugs

delujm0 · May 2016

Hi ladies! I'm mostly lurking/occasionally checking in right now because I gave up on temping due to my cycles being nonsense (still breastfeeding my almost 11-month old currently). So I can't really participate in the WTO/TWW threads, but this looks like a good place to be in my situation.

Cycle/Month: 5 (NTNP)

Number trying for (#2, #3, etc.): #2

Rants/raves: Had mastitis again last week. Last time I had it, about 2 months ago, it caused me to have a 21-day anovulatory cycle. But that time I had a 104 degree fever for almost 3 days...this time I caught it early and only had a 101 degree fever for about 24 hours. I believe I probably ovulated while sick (based on my normal schedule and CM), so this cycle is likely a wash, though it is possible that if I ovulated on the tail end of my illness I hit one day. My LPs are super short due to breastfeeding anyway...I temped the first 4 cycles and the longest one was 9 days...so I'm not hopeful. But i'll be pump-weaning in the next couple of months and only breastfeeding once a day, so I'm hoping to regulate at that point. I had DD a few days after turning 33, so I'm almost definitely looking at being AMA for the next pregnancy, therefore time is of the essence.

GTKY- If you could make anything different for your next delivery, what would it be? I would like to push for less than 2.5 hours next time. DD was sunny side up and got stuck in my pelvic bone for like 2 hours. Luckily I had very minimal tearing and didn't require the use of instruments for her to come out, but I was SO TIRED by the end of it. There was much crying. Also, I'd like my triage nurses to not be THE WORST - they refused to believe I was in labor when I arrived at the hospital (with contractions 2-3 minutes apart and at 60-90 seconds long) because they "couldn't find my cervix, so it must be closed." By the time they ran blood work (my blood pressure was slightly elevated and I was 39+6 so the doctor was consider "inducing" me, which is insane because I was already in active labor, but better that than sending me home) and got an actual L&D nurse down there, she was like "oh you're almost 6 cm, we better get you admitted." NO KIDDING. My water broke on my way up to the delivery room. Thank god the anesthesiologist didn't have a waiting list and was able to come right away. I wanted my epi roughly 3 hours before I actually got it.

KirstinH88 · May 2016

Cycle/Month: 2 after MC

Number trying for (#2, #3, etc.): it will be baby #2 for me, but I have 2 wonderful stepsons, so it would be #4 all together.

Rants/raves: just so much I could put. I'm tired of waiting for it to happen. The MC threw me for a loop because I never thought it would happen to me after having a healthy pregnancy before. I didn't want a huge age gap (my youngest is 4 in July) and it seems like the age gap just keeps getting longer and longer. With my son, we basically conceived without trying, so why is it so hard now?

GTKY- If you could make anything different for your next delivery, what would it be?

i would try natural. With my first, I was just so scared of the unknown. Of the pain. I did make it to 8 cm dilated before getting to the hospital, but begged for an epidural. It was wonderful and fantastic, but if I make it that far again, I'd like to try natural.

Taggarab · May 2016

Cycle/Month: 4/4 since loss

Number trying for: #2

Rants/Raves: It's been a rough road since my ectopic, but have been doing better since a real low last week. DH and I have talked about everything and he is supportive, but I still feel like he feels differently about things than I do. I have been making an effort this cycle to just chill out and spend lots of quality time with my son, who is 2 1/2. I know how lucky I am to have him and have made sure he hasn't gotten lost in all this emotional mess.

Different for this labor? Hands down, no back labor! Not that I have much control over this, but it was a killer.

wineo929 · May 2016

Hey! I've never posted here but figured I'd jump in!

Cycle/Month: 7/8

Number trying for: 2

Rants/Raves: This has been quite the experience. When I got KU with #1 we were SO lucky and got pregnant the first month. Being on cycle 8 feels so weird since I really didn't think it'd take that long, even though I know science... I have 5 more cycles to go before this is even a reality, but I am terrified of secondary infertility. I know I have a lot of time before I need to worry about that, but every month that goes by I can't help but think it.

GTKY: I had cholestasis of the liver with my son so if I could change anything I would change that haha But things within my control I think I would keep the same.

wineo929 · May 2016

@Taggarab, I agree with making sure to have QT with #1. He's 3 and makes the process much easier when I get those snuggles.

HopingForOneAgain · May 2016

OOh, I didn't know this thread existed!!!

Cycle/Month: 1é1

Number trying for (#2, #3, etc.): 3

Rants/raves: I really hate TTC. With my first I went through infertility. With my second, I got pregnant right when I stopped the pill. For some reason, this time, I have a terrible feeling that my past problems may come back :S

GTKY- If you could make anything different for your next delivery, what would it b

To not be induced! I wasn't with my first and it was such a better experience!

belocin · May 2016

Hi! I've just recently come back to TB and was excited to see this thread!

Cycle/Month: Still waiting on first postpartum cycle

Number trying for (#2, #3, etc.): #2

Rants/raves: DD is 14 months old and I expected my cycle to return by now. I EBF'd until she was just under 13 months and for the past three weeks have been nursing just 2x a day. I haven't started temping yet but I'm watching my symptoms for any hint of return. Until then, we are treating it like I am always in my FW.

GTKY- If you could make anything different for your next delivery, what would it be? I would like to be a little more levelheaded about it, if possible. I always joked that my only birth plan was to get an epidural and she came too fast for that to happen. My water broke, I was an 8 by the time we got to the hospital, and she was out less than an hour after we arrived. I couldn't believe I was ending up with an unmediated birth and was not a very willing participant. Knowing what to expect now, I'd be better about breathing and pushing when they told me to.

belocin · May 2016

@crazypt2285 I'm so anxious for the first time we leave DD! My husband has suggested leaving her with the grandparents a few times but I'm just not there yet. Hopefully your trip is amazing and rejuvenating!

Megzb510 · May 2016

Cycle/Month: 7/10

Number trying for (#2, #3, etc.):#2

Rants/raves: DS did some little GTKY activity in preschool where they asked his favorite food and stuff and he said that he hoped he could have one brother and one sister. Hit me right in the feels. We have been trying for almost a year now so trying not to get frustrated by my long cycles and stuff.

GTKY- If you could make anything different for your next delivery, what would it be? I will just have a scheduled Csection and skip the useless induction. I had 2 LEEPs when I was younger and never dilated past 1 cm and the dr said he thinks there was too much scar tissue so my cervix will probably never dilate "normally". The induction was just too exhausting.

Taggarab · May 2016

@mrsstuessy Your name looks familiar. Were you on the O13 board back in the day?

mrsstuessy · May 2016

@Taggarab Yes, I was! Were you on there as well? I am guessing you changed your name. Were you one of the regulars?

Taggarab · May 2016

@mrsstuessy Yes, I forgot my password on my old account and couldn't get it changed. Hah! I was pretty regular. My name was Chrisanna0508. My avatar was a picture of me and my horse. Glad to see a person I recognize after the mass exodus

momstahp · May 2016

I haven't been participating much in TTGP lately so I missed this thread! Glad someone else picked up starting it this month

Cycle/Month: Cycle 11, Month 14

Number trying for (#2, #3, etc.): #2

Rants/raves: It looks like things are really regulating for me since I decided to start night weaning my son. I'm hoping this is the last piece to get pregnant now! I used stupid cheap OPKs from Walmart that had me confused this cycle, but hopefully this is it!

GTKY- If you could make anything different for your next delivery, what would it be? I really really want to try for a VBAC. I had an almost emergency C-section for my son, so if I could deliver vaginally I will be so happy! Also never thought that would be something I would publicly post on the internet. lol

**ETA: I'm so grateful I found this thread again. Please take my love tits as virtual hugs and support.

momstahp · May 2016

@mrsstuessy I totally feel you on being read for #2! I was honestly looking forward to trying for baby #2 when DS was like 5 months old lol but we weren't ready then, for sure. Once we decided for sure we would start trying last March (first cycle was in April 2015) I was like ok I want the next one in my arms RIGHT NOW. So this having to wait a whole year with no BFP has sucked. Sometimes I worry that my family (and moreso my in laws) will judge us for trying for the next when we also have a lot of student loans and are renting, but when DH and I talk about everything it just feels right. Hopefully we will both get our BFPs soon!

clover28 · May 2016

I could have sworn I had already posted here this month, but I guess not. Oops.

Cycle/Month: 8/8

Number trying for (#2, #3, etc.) #2.

Rants/raves: Night weaning has been a disaster. I'm ready to have my boobs back and DS is just not having it. He is fine drinking from a cup all day long but the minute 8:00pm hits he wants milk straight from the source at least 2-3 times at night. I send DH in and a meltdown ensues for as long as it takes for me to get fed up and whip out a milkmaker. He also refuses to take milk in a sippy cup and even a bottle, so I'm worried about his milk intake if I decide absolutely no night nursing anymore. Tips? Tricks?

GTKY- If you could make anything different for your next delivery, what would it be? I had pre-eclampsia and was induced a month early. Stupid me wanted a completely med-free approach and so I had a manual cervical dilator placed to stretch my cervix open instead of cervadil/pitocin. It was terrible, but it did put me into labor. Next time, I'm going to just have them throw the epidural at me like a dart as soon as I wheel in the door.

momstahp · May 2016

@clover28 How old is your son? I don't really have any advice since I've found myself in the same situation with my nearly 2 year old. Sometimes I melt down with him because it can get rough!

clover28 · May 2016

momstahp said:

@clover28 How old is your son? I don't really have any advice since I've found myself in the same situation with my nearly 2 year old. Sometimes I melt down with him because it can get rough!

He's 14 months. Deep down, I know he's just not ready. He's still a baby and I feel bad for weaning him for my own selfish reasons. It was so hard to get pregnant with him and I know the next won't be easy either (we've had a rough start already). I just feel like quitting breastfeeding will help to jumpstart my crazy cycles. I've always pictured having kids close together and I really think DS would enjoy growing up with a sibling close in age. Alright, this turned into a rant... I apologize.

momstahp · May 2016

clover28 said:

momstahp said:

@clover28 How old is your son? I don't really have any advice since I've found myself in the same situation with my nearly 2 year old. Sometimes I melt down with him because it can get rough!

He's 14 months. Deep down, I know he's just not ready. He's still a baby and I feel bad for weaning him for my own selfish reasons. It was so hard to get pregnant with him and I know the next won't be easy either (we've had a rough start already). I just feel like quitting breastfeeding will help to jumpstart my crazy cycles. I've always pictured having kids close together and I really think DS would enjoy growing up with a sibling close in age. Alright, this turned into a rant... I apologize.

I understand, I've been working on weaning since my son was about 10 months old, and I got working on night weaning when he was 18 months and it's been a crazy emotional ride.

**edited because I wrote out this long thought out post and TB ate it. Basically I totally feel you, and as hard as this weaning and TTC business is, it's nice to hear we aren't alone

Liss_37 · May 2016

I totally hear you ladies on wanting your kids siblings close together. I'm in the same boat, but it's just not working out for me. DS is 6.5 so even if I got KU next month he will be 7 before he becomes a big brother. I know it's not the end of the world but it still makes me sad sometimes.

clover28 · May 2016

momstahp said:

clover28 said:

momstahp said:

@clover28 How old is your son? I don't really have any advice since I've found myself in the same situation with my nearly 2 year old. Sometimes I melt down with him because it can get rough!

He's 14 months. Deep down, I know he's just not ready. He's still a baby and I feel bad for weaning him for my own selfish reasons. It was so hard to get pregnant with him and I know the next won't be easy either (we've had a rough start already). I just feel like quitting breastfeeding will help to jumpstart my crazy cycles. I've always pictured having kids close together and I really think DS would enjoy growing up with a sibling close in age. Alright, this turned into a rant... I apologize.

I understand, I've been working on weaning since my son was about 10 months old, and I got working on night weaning when he was 18 months and it's been a crazy emotional ride.

**edited because I wrote out this long thought out post and TB ate it. Basically I totally feel you, and as hard as this weaning and TTC business is, it's nice to hear we aren't alone

Its really emotional. There's nothing I love more than BFing my son. He's so quiet and calm when he nurses and its the ONE THING i can do for him that no one else can. Once he's done, he's like a tornado... But for the five minutes that he nurses he just looks at me and pats my chest and will give me so many milky smiles. I know he wont remember weaning or really even BFing, but I will.

delujm0 · May 2016

momstahp said:

clover28 said:

momstahp said:

@clover28 How old is your son? I don't really have any advice since I've found myself in the same situation with my nearly 2 year old. Sometimes I melt down with him because it can get rough!

He's 14 months. Deep down, I know he's just not ready. He's still a baby and I feel bad for weaning him for my own selfish reasons. It was so hard to get pregnant with him and I know the next won't be easy either (we've had a rough start already). I just feel like quitting breastfeeding will help to jumpstart my crazy cycles. I've always pictured having kids close together and I really think DS would enjoy growing up with a sibling close in age. Alright, this turned into a rant... I apologize.

I understand, I've been working on weaning since my son was about 10 months old, and I got working on night weaning when he was 18 months and it's been a crazy emotional ride.

**edited because I wrote out this long thought out post and TB ate it. Basically I totally feel you, and as hard as this weaning and TTC business is, it's nice to hear we aren't alone

Doesn't this all make you ladies think "HOW DO PEOPLE TANDEM NURSE, HOW IS THAT A THING???" I think that all the time. My periods came back right after DD turned 6 months, about 4 weeks after she started regularly sleeping through from 8pm - 6am and I was no longer pumping during that time. So I initially freaked out, because I didn't want to get pregnant again that soon. But then I noticed that even though my periods are regular, my LPs were really short (still are), and I'm not sure I COULD get pregnant if I tried as a result of that.

I desperately want to fully pump wean but continue the pre-bed nursing session when DD turns a year, and I'm hoping that's all it takes for my hormones to even out and support a pregnancy, but I'm afraid it won't be enough. I can't decide what I want more - to be pregnant soon, or to force DD to wean. Right now she only nurses twice a day (once when we get home from school and once before bed - only one side each time, so once per boob per day) and gets bottles the rest of the time, so I don't think a switch to WCM will be a problem during the day. but I love nursing her, and she goes to bed so easy. I don't want to mess with it.

However it also might be nice to have a full 9 months of break from breastfeeding before starting up again, for the good of my poor nipples, so that's a consideration as well.

clover28 · May 2016

delujm0 said:

momstahp said:

clover28 said:

momstahp said:

@clover28 How old is your son? I don't really have any advice since I've found myself in the same situation with my nearly 2 year old. Sometimes I melt down with him because it can get rough!

He's 14 months. Deep down, I know he's just not ready. He's still a baby and I feel bad for weaning him for my own selfish reasons. It was so hard to get pregnant with him and I know the next won't be easy either (we've had a rough start already). I just feel like quitting breastfeeding will help to jumpstart my crazy cycles. I've always pictured having kids close together and I really think DS would enjoy growing up with a sibling close in age. Alright, this turned into a rant... I apologize.

I understand, I've been working on weaning since my son was about 10 months old, and I got working on night weaning when he was 18 months and it's been a crazy emotional ride.

**edited because I wrote out this long thought out post and TB ate it. Basically I totally feel you, and as hard as this weaning and TTC business is, it's nice to hear we aren't alone

Doesn't this all make you ladies think "HOW DO PEOPLE TANDEM NURSE, HOW IS THAT A THING???" I think that all the time. My periods came back right after DD turned 6 months, about 4 weeks after she started regularly sleeping through from 8pm - 6am and I was no longer pumping during that time. So I initially freaked out, because I didn't want to get pregnant again that soon. But then I noticed that even though my periods are regular, my LPs were really short (still are), and I'm not sure I COULD get pregnant if I tried as a result of that.

I desperately want to fully pump wean but continue the pre-bed nursing session when DD turns a year, and I'm hoping that's all it takes for my hormones to even out and support a pregnancy, but I'm afraid it won't be enough. I can't decide what I want more - to be pregnant soon, or to force DD to wean. Right now she only nurses twice a day (once when we get home from school and once before bed - only one side each time, so once per boob per day) and gets bottles the rest of the time, so I don't think a switch to WCM will be a problem during the day. but I love nursing her, and she goes to bed so easy. I don't want to mess with it.

However it also might be nice to have a full 9 months of break from breastfeeding before starting up again, for the good of my poor nipples, so that's a consideration as well.

YES ON THE TANDEM NURSING. How does that happen?! How do you nurse through being pregnant?! My kid absolutely tears my nipples UP with his little shark teeth... I can't imagine doing this while super sensitive from pregnancy. Also, I'm a little bit jelly that your baby sleeps from 8p-6a. What's your secret?

delujm0 · May 2016

@clover28 I wish I had a secret, because then I could apply it to future children. She's just a good night sleeper. Normal now at about 11 months is 730-630. Terrible napper though. If we get 2 30 minute naps it's a good day. I like to think the good nighttime sleep is her trying to make up for those first 3 months when she was a colicky mess.

redheeler · May 2016

Cycle/Month: 6/6

Number trying for (#2, #3, etc.): #2

Rants/raves: DS is coming down with the flu, poor boy sounds horrible :-(

im at work, I've been up since 4am (it's 7:30am here now) I didn't sleep well and I'm considering falling asleep standing up.

GTKY- If you could make anything different for your next delivery, what would it be?

knowing what I do now, and not being a timid 18yr old that time around, I would speak up for myself more (not that I really had to) I'd probably try more "natural" pain relief, water birthing, warm shower etc, and I would t let them induce me again

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