Bitchfest Monday

mom2adoodle · May 2016

What's the scoop?

ruemcclanahan · May 2016

I'm super annoyed that there isn't anything better on TV today. Lolllll

ab920 · May 2016

For some reason, 75% of the time I tell someone I'm having a girl, they go into this long story about how they "knew someone whose doctor told her she was 100% having a girl, then at the birth, it ended up being a boy! So be careful!"

It really does drive me crazy. Maybe I'm being too sensitive.

mom2adoodle · May 2016

WTF that would piss me off as well @abyrd1227. "Be careful?" like what, speak softly and carry a big stick in case a penis comes out? (no pun intended but embraced). People are annoying. I'm sorry.

seitzy3 · May 2016

Usually when DH comes off a road trip he is willing to take the girls for a few hours while I shower or just have some "me" time. But he must have came home last night 1) in the worst mood ever and 2) forgetting it was Mother's Day.

He started off by bitching at me that I didn't clean all the mulch out of the pool when my dog decided to dig in our garden. Then started bitching about the girls being cranky since it was close to their bed time, then just moody about all small things. So I am officially bitching about him bitching.

No DH just no. I am tired, cramping because I haven't shit in three days, I still have granola bar in my bra from this morning and oh, I'm sorry did you forget I have your seed growing rapidly in me, who by the way kicks all night and does jumping jacks on my bladder so 4-5 hours of sleep is all I'm getting. I get traveling is hard buddy, but seriously taking care of kids all alone on almost no sleep is dare I say more difficult. So I'm sorry I didn't get my goggles on and clean the mulch out of the pool ya turd face

superscarf · May 2016

Just told my sisters I'd rather have a shower or sprinkle in July than a sip & see in Oct for a multitude of reasons, and they're saying no I have to do what they want. Literally was told be grateful to get anything, and I don't have a say. I said if that's how it's gonna be then count me out. I don't think I'm being too demanding. It's not like I'm saying "this theme, these decorations, this food, etc". And honestly I've never thought showers or sip & sees meant leaving the mom-to-be's opinions completely out. Grrr!!

vampirina · May 2016

We have one unisex bathroom in my office and someone is in there taking forrreeevvvveeerrr. Can't they tell I have a baby on my bladder and need to go RIGHT NOW?! And also, i'm not looking forward to whatever smells get left behind

seitzy3 · May 2016

@superscarf I must be out of the loop but what in the world is a sip and see?

AnnaS930 · May 2016

@PoodleDoodleOoo - we have a designated women's room.. that smells like a dirty litter box today - I don't know why, nor do I want to. Unfortunately I'm getting used to the smell given that I have already gone at least 6 times in the 6 hours I've been here... come on bladder - why so iron clad overnight and size of a ping pong ball during the day?

KimmySchmidt · May 2016

seitzy3 said:

@superscarf I must be out of the loop but what in the world is a sip and see?

A sip and see is where you basically have an open house after the baby is born. You set out some food and wine people can swing by any time within a certain window. They can sip wine and see the baby, that's where the idea comes from. Pretty sure it's a southern thing, I've never personally heard of one happening in NY.

I for one don't like the idea of it because I'm not comfortable handing off the newborn to anybody who wants to visit. It's not my style. Puts new mom in a position to host at the least convenient time and it's too germy for me, but to each his own.

camichael84 · May 2016

@abyrd1227 Yeah, that would be annoying. I have heard that when people are told wrong (which is extremely rare, btw), it is often that they are told it's girl when it's a boy. That thought stuck with me my last pregnancy, and I had them double check my first daughter was still penis-less at the 24 and 32 week ultrasounds I had, which was admittedly ridiculous.

ETA: Buy all the pink and dresses and bows and ignore people "who knew someone who knew someone".

kosmo86 · May 2016

seitzy3 so sorry! I am sure he didn't realize but I do hope you reminded him! A nice swift kick in the butt is sometimes needed!!!!

PoodleDoodleOoo - we have 1 bathroom in our building too! it drives me crazy. it also echos and you can hear people using the bathroom from any desk in the room

My BF today is also shower related. I originally gave up on the idea of a shower because my mom who was throwing it was putting too much on me to do for it. She decided to throw a small shower at her apartment with her friends which was fine. Then she decided to ask my step-mom to come so my dad would take grandpa out to lunch. This then turned into my step mom want to invite people and now its too big for an apartment so we rented a place which my dad said he would pay for.

Sounds all well and good except my Parents don't actually speak to each other and now I am left in the middle again. My mom reserved the place this morning and I realized she put MY name as the contracted person responsible for the event. These things are exactly why I didn't want a shower. I just want to show up see people and eat some food. Why oh Why do I have do the planning????

jhems776 · May 2016

Today marks the 13th straight day it has rained and it looks like it won't be until this weekend we will have 24 straight hours of no rain. I guess I should be happy that it only rained a little yesterday.

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Knottie1450304223 · May 2016

1. My leftover Chinese food is disgusting
2. My students are on my last possible nerve today!

jhems776 · May 2016

Grrr work bitch now. Just got off the phone meeting with our IT vendor. In the last meeting I made it very very very clear what bug needs to be fixed first on our new tool and how this one was crazy important and needs to be done asap. Today they ask what the priorities are, like 1 I told you and 2 WTF have you been working on and billing us for the last three weeks then?!?!?!

kosmo86 · May 2016

@jhems776 I HATE when it rains every day. Having 2 dogs that have to go outside it is never fun. I live in Florida so July is pretty much non-stop rain and it sucks. Hope you get a sunny day soon!

ElcaB · May 2016

I feel overall annoyed & we desperately need groceries. I could probably get DH to go shopping, but he is horrible at following instructions and we will probably end up with all of the wrong things.

vampirina · May 2016

@ElcaB - The last time I sent DH to the grocery store he came home with 4 boxes of cap n crunch cereal, a box of mac and cheese, about 20 mealy and bruised apples, a carton of eggs in which 2-3 were cracked, and a few other random things that would, in no way shape or form, contribute to a real meal. He completely forgot the basics, like milk, butter, bread, etc. despite sending him off with a very detailed list.

We ate out a lot that week.

cammlyn · May 2016

our justice system is so freaking screwed up. I know it is not prego related but today it is my BF. I think it is so crappy that it protects people who are getting out of jail more so that the victims that they hurt to end up in there in the first place. And all this crap is the last thing I want to be dealing with during my pregnancy.

hey_clever_girl · May 2016

I have a bitchfest for today. And perhaps this is also an UO. I just read a blog post from a mom talking about why she and her daughters wear board shorts to the pool, citing that "God's love wants us to have clothes on." And that "our bodies are a special treasure from God and we are to preserve them for marriage by dressing modestly."

I just CANNOT with this. Can't. I disagree so vehemently with this I could spit. Maybe if we as a society stopped sexualizing women and girls' bodies, this wouldn't be a problem. Nobody bitches at boys to put a top on at the pool, because boys aren't objectified in the same way and aren't expected to be "modest" or "ladylike" like women are.

And I feel this way about little kids, too. If someone has a problem with a child in a swimsuit—bikinis included—that is THEIR problem. Not the kid's problem. Stop viewing women as objects, and realize that we're just f****** hot in the summertime. SCREW YOUR MODESTY.

/end rant

steminist · May 2016

@PoodleDoodleOoo I feel you, and that is super irritating...but now I really want Cap'n Crunch!!

vampirina · May 2016

@runningisrad

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Tippy05 · May 2016

runningisrad said:

I have a bitchfest for today. And perhaps this is also an UO. I just read a blog post from a mom talking about why she and her daughters wear board shorts to the pool, citing that "God's love wants us to have clothes on." And that "our bodies are a special treasure from God and we are to preserve them for marriage by dressing modestly."

I just CANNOT with this. Can't. I disagree so vehemently with this I could spit. Maybe if we as a society stopped sexualizing women and girls' bodies, this wouldn't be a problem. Nobody bitches at boys to put a top on at the pool, because boys aren't objectified in the same way and aren't expected to be "modest" or "ladylike" like women are.

And I feel this way about little kids, too. If someone has a problem with a child in a swimsuit—bikinis included—that is THEIR problem. Not the kid's problem. Stop viewing women as objects, and realize that we're just f****** hot in the summertime. SCREW YOUR MODESTY.

/end rant

While I agree it's not the "kid's problem", there is no way I would put my little girl in a bikini. There are too many sicko's out there and I personally wouldn't feel comfortable putting my daughter in a situation like that. At home, fine, maybe, but in a public place, no way. Maybe I'm just a prude.

hey_clever_girl · May 2016

Tippy05 said:

runningisrad said:

I have a bitchfest for today. And perhaps this is also an UO. I just read a blog post from a mom talking about why she and her daughters wear board shorts to the pool, citing that "God's love wants us to have clothes on." And that "our bodies are a special treasure from God and we are to preserve them for marriage by dressing modestly."

I just CANNOT with this. Can't. I disagree so vehemently with this I could spit. Maybe if we as a society stopped sexualizing women and girls' bodies, this wouldn't be a problem. Nobody bitches at boys to put a top on at the pool, because boys aren't objectified in the same way and aren't expected to be "modest" or "ladylike" like women are.

And I feel this way about little kids, too. If someone has a problem with a child in a swimsuit—bikinis included—that is THEIR problem. Not the kid's problem. Stop viewing women as objects, and realize that we're just f****** hot in the summertime. SCREW YOUR MODESTY.

/end rant

While I agree it's not the "kid's problem", there is no way I would put my little girl in a bikini. There are too many sicko's out there and I personally wouldn't feel comfortable putting my daughter in a situation like that. At home, fine, maybe, but in a public place, no way. Maybe I'm just a prude.

A lot of people feel that way, but the way I look at it is this: Those perverts are gonna be perverts whether our kids are in swimsuits or full-on pants and long-sleeved shirts. A bikini doesn't encourage a pervert to look or act any more than a miniskirt encourages a rapist to rape.

camichael84 · May 2016

@Tippy05 The only thing a bikini shows on a child that a one piece doesn't is belly. To each their own, but putting my daughter in a bikini doesn't bother me. A sicko that will oggle a small child is going to be a sicko, no matter what she/he is wearing.

mrsl0429 · May 2016

runningisrad said:

I have a bitchfest for today. And perhaps this is also an UO. I just read a blog post from a mom talking about why she and her daughters wear board shorts to the pool, citing that "God's love wants us to have clothes on." And that "our bodies are a special treasure from God and we are to preserve them for marriage by dressing modestly."

I just CANNOT with this. Can't. I disagree so vehemently with this I could spit. Maybe if we as a society stopped sexualizing women and girls' bodies, this wouldn't be a problem. Nobody bitches at boys to put a top on at the pool, because boys aren't objectified in the same way and aren't expected to be "modest" or "ladylike" like women are.

And I feel this way about little kids, too. If someone has a problem with a child in a swimsuit—bikinis included—that is THEIR problem. Not the kid's problem. Stop viewing women as objects, and realize that we're just f****** hot in the summertime. SCREW YOUR MODESTY.

/end rant

Just..... what?

Look, I am a practicing Christian. But *technically* you could make the argument that if God wanted us to have clothes on.... then he would have given us fur to cover up with. Agree with you @runningisrad - people who have a problem with kids in swimsuits have their own issues. It is a little kid. It is hot outside. Get over yourself.

People like this create something out of nothing. And the worst part is, it's their kids that suffer. What kid wouldn't have a body issue if their mom was constantly telling them to cover up? SMH.

Tippy05 · May 2016

@camichael84 - that's true, I just have a hard time with it. Don't get me wrong, I think they're adorable! Like I said, I'm probably just a prude and have never even worn a bikini myself, so putting a small child in one just doesn't sit right with me.

ElcaB · May 2016

PoodleDoodleOoo said:

@ElcaB - The last time I sent DH to the grocery store he came home with 4 boxes of cap n crunch cereal, a box of mac and cheese, about 20 mealy and bruised apples, a carton of eggs in which 2-3 were cracked, and a few other random things that would, in no way shape or form, contribute to a real meal. He completely forgot the basics, like milk, butter, bread, etc. despite sending him off with a very detailed list.

We ate out a lot that week.

@PoodleDoodleOoo, IMPORTANT: Was it PEANUT BUTTER Cap 'n Crunch? Because if it was, I can see past the apples & eggs.

But seriously though, this sounds just like my husband.

LakeR2014 · May 2016

@Tippy05 I'm with you on the bikini/child thing. I don't take it as a prude thing, more as a 'little girl' thing. I view bikini's as something to wear when you're older. My reason for not liking them is not a 'sexualizing' thing it's more of a 'keep my little girl young why she is still young' thing. Same thing goes with lacy miniskirts or mid-driff outfits I see for little girls in the store. Sometimes I look at some of the clothes out there and wonder when we stopped allowing little girls to be little girls?

hey_clever_girl · May 2016

LakeR2014 said:

@Tippy05 I'm with you on the bikini/child thing. I don't take it as a prude thing, more as a 'little girl' thing. I view bikini's as something to wear when you're older. My reason for not liking them is not a 'sexualizing' thing it's more of a 'keep my little girl young why she is still young' thing. Same thing goes with lacy miniskirts or mid-driff outfits I see for little girls in the store. Sometimes I look at some of the clothes out there and wonder when we stopped allowing little girls to be little girls?

But IMO that all circles back around to the sexualization of women's bodies. People view bikinis as "sexy" because they "show off" a woman's body, when they should be viewed as bathing suits and nothing more. If you view a bikini as something sexy that only grown women should wear, of course you're going to feel uncomfortable seeing a small child in something that society tells us is supposed to make someone sexy.

But what if people stopped seeing women's bodies as something to show off, and stopped viewing bikinis as a means to do that - and rather saw them merely as something to wear when it's hot outside?

yellowrose314 · May 2016

My BF is my grandmother, my late father's mother. We have had a very rocky relationship since my father passed away. Up until about 3 months into my pregnancy I hadn't spoken to her in 3 years (since our wedding). She is one of the most selfish people I have ever known, and it's not just because she's old. EVERYTHING is about her, or in some way effects her. But since finding out I'm pregnant and she's getting another great-grandchild she's actually been pretty great... until this week.
Many of you might have read my other post about my mom having an aneurysm discovered and having to get emerg surgery this week (which went great, and she's getting discharged tomorrow!). But in the first few days, somehow one of my aunts from that side of the family found out, and on my dad's side of the family, once someone knows, FREAKING EVERYONE KNOWS because nobody understands what discretion means. At that point I was getting incredibly overwhelmed because everyone on that side of the family, on my moms side, her friends etc etc wanted updates like every friggin half hour, which I get because my mom is awesome and she has a lot of people who love her. I had to tell people unless I contact you, please give us some privacy because we're already stressed out of our minds without having to provide updates to 20+ people every hour on the hour that no, she still hasn't gone into surgery.
The day of my moms surgery (Thursday), I get a call from my grandmother... and I couldn't even bring myself to take it because I can predict exactly what she's going to say, and sure enough... she left me a 5 minute angry voicemail about how I should have called her and told her what was going on and how could I be so selfish and how do I think that makes her feel, especially when she's leaving the next day to go on a 2 week cruise to Alaska. F****** SERIOUSLY?!?! My mother has a bloody aneurysm and she still turns into something about her. Also, she hasn't talked to my mom in at least 5 years, she didn't even say a word to her at my wedding. I didn't phone her back, obviously because I probably would have yelled to her to the point where she had a massive coronary from the shock of someone actually telling her what an old bag she actually is....
Sorry about the length. Clearly I haven't gotten over this.

superscarf · May 2016

@seitzy3 yep, @KimmySchmidt explained it right on. I don't mind the concept, but there seem to be more reasons to opt for a shower instead. Just so insulted that my sisters are being inconsiderate *and* trying to make me feel bad that I have an opinion. Ugh!

steminist · May 2016

@yellowrose314 I'm really sorry about the responses of your family, especially your grandmother. I have family like that, too, who just seem to make every little (or big...) thing all about themselves. Congrats on the restraint to not call back and b*tch her out about it! Also, that is really really excellent news about your mom. I hope her recovery is as smooth as you indicated her surgery was.

SarahDarah333 · May 2016

@yellowrose314 I'm sorry you have to deal with those people! I have some in my family like that- no matter what is going on they find a way to make it about them!

My BF is more just whining because today is my one day off, and tomorrow starts my 6 day work week stretch- and I just can't want to!!! I'm usually off Sundays but my boss has been scheduling so many events on Sundays, and I have to attend them. The one this Sunday wouldn't be bad if it was just the opening of the art installation I brought in-house, but my boss had to go and add an early morning brunch with VIPs about an education initiative, a film festival in house to "coincide" with the art opening, AND freaking poetry readings in the evening, turning what would have been a few extra hours of work for me into a full-blown 9 hour work day for me. Not to mention- she is promoting the poetry thing far more than the exhibit opening... and we are a freaking art museum/art center, for visual arts. I get that poetry is a form of art, and I love poetry- but she's crapping all over my parade. *sigh*

KimmySchmidt · May 2016

runningisrad said:

I have a bitchfest for today. And perhaps this is also an UO. I just read a blog post from a mom talking about why she and her daughters wear board shorts to the pool, citing that "God's love wants us to have clothes on." And that "our bodies are a special treasure from God and we are to preserve them for marriage by dressing modestly."

I just CANNOT with this. Can't. I disagree so vehemently with this I could spit. Maybe if we as a society stopped sexualizing women and girls' bodies, this wouldn't be a problem. Nobody bitches at boys to put a top on at the pool, because boys aren't objectified in the same way and aren't expected to be "modest" or "ladylike" like women are.

And I feel this way about little kids, too. If someone has a problem with a child in a swimsuit—bikinis included—that is THEIR problem. Not the kid's problem. Stop viewing women as objects, and realize that we're just f****** hot in the summertime. SCREW YOUR MODESTY.

/end rant

At first I was reading and I was like 'Board shorts at the pool sounds great!" because I tend to like any swimwear that cuts down the amount of sunscreen I have to wrestle on to my toddler. Then I kept reading and I was like "Oh....oh, no."

kosmo86 · May 2016

So my dad asked what we decided on for a name and my step-mom also messaged me the same (I guess they were talking about it and both decided to message me) Well I texted both of them "Alice". and guess what...?

THEY NEVER RESPONDED. My step mom follows up 30 minutes later about baby shower themes but no one says anything about the name. I guess the old saying goes "if you can't say anything nice don't say anything at all" I didn't think my Dad would like it but I would have liked at least a pretend happy response.

KimmySchmidt · May 2016

@kosmo86

vampirina · May 2016

I mean, ultimately, I'm team put your kid in whatever you want and whatever you think is most comfortable, practical, etc for them, but saying that little girls have to be in board shorts and rash guard tops so that men and boys dont oogle them or whatever seems to miss the mark.

SarahDarah333 · May 2016

Alright new BF- my dog has been throwing up his food for the last half hour. DH decided to get him cheaper food and just mix it with his good food, which we ran out of so DH then gave him a full dish of the cheaper food. No bueno. And now DH is at work pulling an overnight shift, and I'm home with the poor puking dog. *sigh* My dog's old too- and this happens to him once or twice a year if he eats something weird or gets into the garbage. He was with me all day so I know he didn't eat anything bad, and he's acting fine otherwise so I know it's got to be that food. Just hid a little pepto in a treat for him to help calm his little tummy (trick the vet OK'd)
They are conspiring and prepping me for motherhood I swear! Now I'll spend the night "sleeping" with one ear perked up to listen for if the dog is yakking on the floor.

PSUBecky23 · May 2016

PoodleDoodleOoo said:

I mean, ultimately, I'm team put your kid in whatever you want and whatever you think is most comfortable, practical, etc for them, but saying that little girls have to be in board shorts and rash guard tops so that men and boys dont oogle them or whatever seems to miss the mark.

This. If you don't want your child wearing a bikini for personal reasons, fine. But if that reason is to prevent her from being ogled, then you're perpetuating the cycle. No woman, especially a child, should feel responsible for a man being "unable to control his urges" or should be ashamed of her body.

kosmo86 · May 2016

KimmySchmidt oh I know! Which is why we are selectively telling people. My mom has been literally overjoyed and LOVES the name. I wouldn't have told my dad but my step-mom needed to know because she wants it for a gift?!? I guess I fully expect people to not like it since it's not mainstream, but anyone who knows me knows I am a HUGE Disney fanatic so the name fits.

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