I received bad news about my NIPT today

blessdtxas · May 2016

@thatlauragirl I'm sorry to hear this for you. I'm sure it is a lot of difficult news to process and will take time to sink in. I'm sure you abd your husband will make the right decision for your family

I'm in the waiting period to get news myself after a high nuchal translucency reading on Wednesday. Thoughts and prayers for you mama.

Sheybre · May 2016

I'm so sorry! Sending you my thoughts and prayers. *hugs*

lrg14 · May 2016

I'm so sorry you are going through this tough time. Sending good thoughts to you and your family.

erniebernie1 · May 2016

Thoughts and prayers for your family

zuuls_mom · May 2016

I'm so sorry. Thinking of you and your family and sending prayers your way.

Oakleypoozles · May 2016

Don't let fear of the unknown distract you from the precious gift you are carrying. Different doesn't mean wrong. The life inside of you needs you. Cast away your fear.

Thewizardofrhythm · May 2016

Oakleypoozles said:

Don't let fear of the unknown distract you from the precious gift you are carrying. Different doesn't mean wrong. The life inside of you needs you. Cast away your fear.

This is incredibly inappropriate. Take it somewhere else

Thewizardofrhythm · May 2016

Oakleypoozles said:

Don't let fear of the unknown distract you from the precious gift you are carrying. Different doesn't mean wrong. The life inside of you needs you. Cast away your fear.

Actually I have more to say. Im pretty sure you think your being godly and righteous with your comment. Please don't deceive yourself. Your being judgmental and insensitive by pushing your own beliefs into an emotional and personal situation. Can you comprehend the cruelty of that? When a person is vulnerable and has a potentially difficult challenge to face, inserting your personal opinion can sway them in a direction that may not be right for them. It is clear you think there is a right decision here. But in reality, there isn't. In fact right and wrong don't exist. It's just what's best for that person. To think you know that is "right" is arrogant. I don't care if you're arrogant. But please don't try to sway another in their time of need with such an emotionally manipulative statement. Be kind.

GreenEyedUnicorn · May 2016

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comealongponds · May 2016

@Oakleypoozles honestly this is the one time I would support a dirty delete on this forum. Maybe you didn't mean to come off preachy and superior but you did (and if that was your intention, you're a horrible person). OP deserves support, regardless of your possible personal belief in pro-life bullshit. This is not your life, and not your child - it's hers. I can't imagine the pain and emotional torment she is likely going through at the moment, and to have to come on here and read something like that would be devastating to me if I were in her shoes.

@thatlauragirl please don't let ignorant people make you feel bad, whatever your decision may be. No matter your decision, I can only begin to imagine the emotional toll it must be taking on you and your family. I hope you're receiving genetic counseling and have someone impartial to talk to (I'm a willing volunteer if you need an ear) and that you're dealing with this okay. Thinking of you still.

doraleigh35 · May 2016

@comealongponds that was perfectly stated.

@oakleypoozles I would highly suggest deleting/editing your comments. They are offensive and come across as "holier than thou".

shevaCC · May 2016

@thatlauragirl, still thinking of you and your family.
@oakleypoozles I also found your comment offensive and misguided. You would do well to backtrack and offer your apologies rather than your insensitive judgment.

FiancB · May 2016

Welp I was really hoping one of those wouldn't show up but of course they did. OP, I'm sorry that you had to see that. Please don't let that crap guilt you into anything that isn't the right decision FOR YOU.

@oakleypoozles I don't know what I would do in this situation, I would certainly struggle with it. I was raised in a family that is very pro-life and have seen the kind of fervent self-righteousness, black-and-white thinking, and denial of facts that leads to unhelpful comments like yours. Anything that would make me consider terminating has nothing to do with fear but what is best for my family AND the baby. The reality is that there is a huge range of health in trisomy babies. We only see the relatively healthy and high-functioning ones. Please educate yourself. I actually work with the disabled regularly in group homes and in the clinical setting and am very familiar with the health ramifications that comes with a wide variety of mental disabilities, how about you? I doubt it.

talkthewholetime · May 2016

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comealongponds · May 2016

**Removed for TOU violation**

Ha I didn't realize that. Explains a lot.

I hope you're doing okay @thatlauragirl, please check in with us if/when you feel up to it.

carlatron · May 2016

Sending hugs and love. xox

XmomX · May 2016

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Also she probably has most of the board blocked and can't even see the call outs.

kms456 · May 2016

hugs and prayers for you during this difficult time.

KRMcD · May 2016

If the amnio confirms T21 and you do make the decision to terminate you can join the group Ending a Wanted Pregnancy. I joined after we terminated for anencephaly last August. It's a wonderfully helpful group. There are people who terminated for a fatal diagnosis like mine, but there are also plenty of people who terminated for T21 and other non-fatal but definitely debilitating diagnoses. I'm sorry you are going through this and wish you the best.

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