@LGW2015 Yes what you said is exactly how I feel!! It's like I'm still not allowing this to set in that I'm having a baby. I think my subconscious is holding onto the fear associated with having had losses before this PG. I kind of told myself that once I'm in the second tri it would feel real but nope. I just feel bloated and off all the time, my FI is always like honey you are PREGNANT of course you are (fill in blank with whatever symptom) lol! I feel like he constantly reminds because it's still not set in and he knows I feel some sort of guilt about it.
With my son the first week or so I felt like I was babysitting someone else's child who wouldn't go home. Finally I was like "well I guess we will keep him" and that is when the attachment and bond really happened. This pregnancy has been soooo much harder than I remember my first! Granted it has been 9 years since I had my son. I spent 9 years hoping for another child and now that I am pregnant I am miserable and wondering what on earth i was thinking! Haha I know it will be worth it when baby is here, but it is hard thinking about starting all over again.
I am pregnant with my fifth. Each one has been different with the exception that I gain a ton of weight and end up with high blood pressure. I am learning at this point...expect the unexpected always and never plan!
I am on round 3 of being pregnant my son was the worst for cravings my daughter was the worst for morning sickness. This one I expected somethings the same such as eczema Clear up happened both the other times so far I'm not impressed maybe it's just the season I hope. I also expected to be able to eat better all I can handle is fruit and veggies my husband cooks anything from an animal and I feel like my house has been skunked.
I expected to glow and didn't know the extent of the exhaustion I would feel. Instead of glowing, I have tons of acne and I nap whenever I can. My sex drive has increased, but I have had a reoccurring yeast infections since February, so sex is not enjoyable and I just don't do it. Ha. Pregnancy is a beautiful thing, but to me I do not feel beautiful and it's pretty gross actually.
@LMNOBaby I always wanted to be a mother and I struggled with attachment with DS. He was 2 months old before I felt anything but worry and responsibility for him. It's not something that gets talked about enough, but later talking to friends and online, I found that it is quite common. There's nothing wrong with how you're feeling, the overwhelming love and attachment will come. Give yourself time.
Sorry, stuck in the quote box... I was not bonded to DD closer to 3 months. Like you I felt responsible for her and wanted the best for her but she was not mine, yet. I was in feeding (pumping and bottle), researching and advocating mode for her. It honestly felt like a babysitting gig. She was born with a cleft palate and so we jumped in with both feet to make sure she had everything she needed. Once we found our rhythm and adjusted (we were married 7 years prior to her birth) I was able to just love her. I try to remind myself that any relationship takes time to get to know one another and establish a connection beyond the surface.
You guys are going to hate me, but my pregnancy is going much better than I expected. I barely had morning sickness, I'm gaining all the weight in my bump and boobs (actually losing weight in other places), and my skin looks better than ever. I usually have an acne problem, but everyone keeps saying my skin looks better and is glowing.
On the negative, DH is not really acting the way I expected him to act. I always looked forward to my husband rubbing my belly and talking to baby. DH is completely creeped out by pregnancy. He will barely have sex, he won't touch my belly or talk to it.... He won't even let us have a 4D ultrasound because he said they look creepy. He is so supportive in all the more practical ways. He is doing extra house work, treating me a little sweeter, not letting me pick up anything heavy, etc. He just isn't as into the baby as I thought he would be. Hopefully that changes once the baby is born!
I haven't imagined that I would be waiting for a normal size bump, and waiting for baby to move. I'm super irritated that old cloths don't fit anymore and maternity clothes don't fit yet, and I finally want to feel it moving to believe that it's real. I have the strangest motherly feelings, but for a baby you can't hug - it's just not the same. I'm only 18 weeks, and already have so little patience. And my attention span for anything other than baby related stuff is so short that work is a chore - I wouldn't have thought that.
Re: Pregnancy expectations vs. reality
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On the negative, DH is not really acting the way I expected him to act. I always looked forward to my husband rubbing my belly and talking to baby. DH is completely creeped out by pregnancy. He will barely have sex, he won't touch my belly or talk to it.... He won't even let us have a 4D ultrasound because he said they look creepy. He is so supportive in all the more practical ways. He is doing extra house work, treating me a little sweeter, not letting me pick up anything heavy, etc. He just isn't as into the baby as I thought he would be. Hopefully that changes once the baby is born!