WTF to my doctor. I told her I had pain in my hip at my appt. today. And she proceeded to call L&D and then say to me "How does 7 a.m. tomorrow sound for an induction?" Mind you, I am not even 40 weeks (I'm at 39W2d) and have no other issues whatsoever-- I am lucky enough to have had a relatively easy pg. No real ms, bp of 104/68 today...I still walk 3-4 miles a day...I haven't even had heartburn or hemorrhoids (don't hate me for saying that, btw)! I was shocked, to say the least. She said "Well, if you want to get rid of that sciatica, we have to get him out of there." Um...I'm not dying. I'm uncomfortable, which is pretty much the norm at this stage, no? Why the rush to induce???
Needless to say, I am NOT being induced tomorrow.
This doctor is one of five at my practice. And now I am crossing all my fingers and toes that she will not be the doctor at the hospital when I actually do go into labor because apparently she is trigger happy with the medical interventions!
WTF to my doctor. I told her I had pain in my hip at my appt. today. And she proceeded to call L&D and then say to me "How does 7 a.m. tomorrow sound for an induction?" Mind you, I am not even 40 weeks (I'm at 39W2d) and have no other issues whatsoever-- I am lucky enough to have had a relatively easy pg. No real ms, bp of 104/68 today...I still walk 3-4 miles a day...I haven't even had heartburn or hemorrhoids (don't hate me for saying that, btw)! I was shocked, to say the least. She said "Well, if you want to get rid of that sciatica, we have to get him out of there." Um...I'm not dying. I'm uncomfortable, which is pretty much the norm at this stage, no? Why the rush to induce???
Needless to say, I am NOT being induced tomorrow.
This doctor is one of five at my practice. And now I am crossing all my fingers and toes that she will not be the doctor at the hospital when I actually do go into labor because apparently she is trigger happy with the medical interventions!
WTF to my doctor. I told her I had pain in my hip at my appt. today. And she proceeded to call L&D and then say to me "How does 7 a.m. tomorrow sound for an induction?" Mind you, I am not even 40 weeks (I'm at 39W2d) and have no other issues whatsoever-- I am lucky enough to have had a relatively easy pg. No real ms, bp of 104/68 today...I still walk 3-4 miles a day...I haven't even had heartburn or hemorrhoids (don't hate me for saying that, btw)! I was shocked, to say the least. She said "Well, if you want to get rid of that sciatica, we have to get him out of there." Um...I'm not dying. I'm uncomfortable, which is pretty much the norm at this stage, no? Why the rush to induce???
Needless to say, I am NOT being induced tomorrow.
This doctor is one of five at my practice. And now I am crossing all my fingers and toes that she will not be the doctor at the hospital when I actually do go into labor because apparently she is trigger happy with the medical interventions!
Whaaaaaat?! That seems just a tad unnecessary...
I know. I was livid. It's taken me all day to calm down about it. I just can't understand and didn't get a chance to talk about it because when I gave her an incredulous look she just said "Well, I just want you to know it's an option." Um...if you, the expert, the MD thinks I should be induced, can we at least have a convo about it? She then gave me my sheet and left the room. I still don't know what to think about it all and why she would recommend induction as opposed to, I don't know, giving me some ideas for stretches, or other techniques I might use to alleviate some of the hip discomfort?
Maybe the doctor just thought if the pain was severe enough to warrant a call to the hospital, you were therefore super-duper desperate to make it end?
I dunno, I'm honestly at a loss on that one too. That's the only explanation I can come up with, though: that maybe she just thought you were in so much agony that you couldn't take it anymore.
Maybe the doctor just thought if the pain was severe enough to warrant a call to the hospital, you were therefore super-duper desperate to make it end?
I dunno, I'm honestly at a loss on that one too. That's the only explanation I can come up with, though: that maybe she just thought you were in so much agony that you couldn't take it anymore.
It's not like I was complaining, saying "Doc, I'm dyin' here!" I really said "I've got some pain in my hip, but that's normal at this stage, right?" She answered, "Unfortunately, the only remedy is birth" and we laughed at that and she went on to do the checkup.
I'm glad to know I'm not completely off base with my reaction. I just can't understand what she was thinking??
Wtf to the on call doctor today. My BP rose this morning after the shift change (bc you know I had to adjust to new nurses/Doctor) and she immediately jumped to keeping me here till Saturday for monitoring then inducing. At this point we know it's 95% certain we're being induced this weekend, but I'd rather stay home on bed rest for 2 days than sit in the uncomfortable hospital bed. We know we don't have to stay bc they did say it was only recommended but I feel like she's purposely avoiding us now bc DH keeps pushing bed rest at home.
WTF to my husband who texted me an hour ago to tell me he has a work meeting tonight so can't go to our new parents class. It's the last available class before my due date, so can't reschedule, and so far I have not handled this relatively minor issue gracefully. I made him look for other classes somewhere else and he found one that's a 5 hour weekend class (instead of a 2 hour class tonight), and like hell I'm going to spend another one of my final weekend days before the baby comes in an all day class.
It's especially infuriating because I signed us up for this class four months ago, put it on his google calendar, and have reminded him periodically - including every day for the past week. This is our system for scheduling things - I try as hard as I can to remind him constantly of things we have planned and he puts absolutely zero effort into knowing what's on his calendar. And usually it just means that stuff that's important to me gets forgotten or he gets upset when he realizes it's happening last minute. I'm just so pissed that with everything I have to deal with for this pregnancy, he can't keep track of one stupid class.
Trying to decide whether I should go alone or see if my mom can come with me or just skip out completely - I know a lot of women probably have to go to stuff like this alone, but i really don't feel like doing that tonight. Any suggestions? Any good ways to get this info without going to a class?
@Pascal86 That sucks. Your H sounds like mine in the sense that I have to send constant reminders via text and verbal reminders leading up to something we need to do, because if I don't he claims I never told him and makes it seem like a huge inconvenience. It's so annoying!
I'd probably just ask your mom to go with you... At least you won't be alone, and then you won't resent your H for having to do extra research you hadn't planned on?
@Aquinna82 I love your chocolate suggestion, and I really think it should be implemented. Bump Gods take note! lol
My WTF goes to my hospital. Today my midwife told me that her privileges at said hospital are being revoked, because last year, long story short, she ended up delivering a few babies without insurance, leaving the hospital liable if anything had happened (nothing happened). So she can attend my birth, but not actually do anything. That's really great to know, two weeks from my due date. Seriously. She's the only midwife in town (it's a tiny town). She knows it was irresponsible to get behind on that sort of thing, she wasn't even aware of it. I get it, it could have been bad. But the hospital is considering permanently removing her privileges. Good luck ever getting another midwife to come work in our town after that.
I should add that it's a very small hospital, and they are known for being extremely cliquey, bullying employees they don't like, and basically just being a toxic work environment.
my WTF is a week old but I've been MIA from the bump because of baby so I've been saving this one up. . .
WTF to the hospital! I was there for 4 nights and I asked to see a Lactation consultant each day. I kept telling them I was concerned about my latch because I was constantly bleeding and in a ton of pain but I never ended up seeing anyone.
Also Lucy was supposed to get her first bath and cord clamp removed on day 3 but it didn't happen till a couple of hours before I was discharged on the last day and it was majorly rushed. The woman who did these things ( i found out after) was a trainee. When she put the diaper on i noticed it was really loose. I made a mental note to fix it once we got back to the room but it went right out of my head as I had people rushing in to give me paper and info before I left. Lucy decided that she would wait to poop till we got her all set in the car seat. It really wasn't a lot of poop but omg it was everywhere because of the loose diaper. I guess I can say it's partly my fault for forgetting to correct the situation but really I shouldn't have had to fix it in the first place. There was so much room between the diaper and her legs that I could easily fit my hand between them ( without stretching the elastic) Long story short, Her going home outfit was now in the "dirty laundry" bag because of a useless woman who didn't know how to put a diaper on.
@swflJD Im so sorry about your water and hope they get it fixed ( for cheap). I completely understand how frustrating that is. When we bought our house we had to build our water system from scratch only to find a leak in the slab so we had to repipe our entire house and had no water for 2 weeks! Our water softener broke and recently and just got that running again.
I know everyone is so sick of hearing about our bathroom renovations. After not seeing our contractor for two days, I sent a text to check on schedule. They were supposed to be done with the master bathroom on Friday, but it's currently missing painted walls, a tub, vanity, sinks, mirror, and toilet. He called me back and told me that the tub's knobs and what not haven't come in, and that he can't get his plumber in until the bath tub supplies are in, so that'll be early next week. Which then means the demo'ing the smaller bathroom and putting in new floors, a vanity, and toilet is being pushed to end of next week. And the best part? He's going out of town on the 14th.
Y'all. It was supposed to ALL be done last week. I'm trying not to cry. At this point we're committed, so there's nothing we can do. I've been joking that I hope she stays in as long as possible, but after hearing I'm not dilated at all yesterday, I began to realize I may get my wish and she stays in until 41 weeks, and then I'll have to be induced. I just want our bathrooms done and our baby to come on time, but both of those things are 100% out of my control. Deeeeeeep breathes.
@Pascal86 - My husband is the same way. I have to plan way ahead, and I remind him constantly. He's also good for making plans but not telling me (i.e. telling me at 10am that he has to be in at noon for a meeting, but I made plans for us to do something, or having his parents visit but telling me the night before and the house is a mess!)
@Myzticsunshine - Wisconsin has a well-known wine country called Door County, and even though I'll be breastfeeding at the time, I plan on taking half a day and doing a wine tasting event with my mom, best friend, grandmother and future SIL. I'm with you on wanting the wine!
My WTF is the other OB/GYN in my doctor's office, who had to see us yesterday because my doctor is on vacation. I have never met her before, have been seeing my doctor from the beginning and she begins the conversation with "I saw on your chart that you have a history of anxiety and depression" and then tried to push for starting medication prior to birth to avoid PPD. Um, thanks lady I met 3 minutes ago, but I don't really want your advice for something my doctor and I have discussed.
@Bluejay3030 and @rlworzalla Yeah, husbands who don't have a schedule/system for keeping track of anything are the worst. Reminds me of my coworkers who when I ask them to do something, smile and say, "I'm happy too! Just keep reminding me if I don't get to it!" This makes me so crazy!! Once I pass the information on to you, take care of it, you're a grown up!!
And mom is coming with me tonight, really grateful for that. And I assigned my husband the task of making one of our friends that's a new dad teach him how to do diaper changes and give baby baths. Also, I got him to come home from work early to deliver me a nice lunch and give me a back massage, so he is redeeming himself a little. Still kind of upset though, since I spent about two hours crying over this in the morning. Not saying that was a reasonable reaction, but I was especially upset because I had a doctor appointment and I was really excited for it (what can I say, I love doctor appointments!), but had to spend this one just trying not to cry the whole time and having the nurses and doctors ask me if I was okay over and over again.
I hate to vent about my own kid, but WTF @ my almost 3 year-old. He's been driving us nuts these past few days and the whining is in full effect. On top of that, it's constant "I want daddy. IIIII waaaant daaddddyyyyyy" to do everything. I'm all bitter about his rejection of me. lol And the "I want I want I want I want" has to stop. I'm trying not to indulge it and ask him to use his manners instead, but my patience is thin these days. The other day in the car, he said "Mommy, don't talk to me." Guess I can't win with him. Welcome to 3, right?
I'm right there with you! The terrible 3s are in full force over here!
@missnc77 Sorry I don't post much on here, but being an architect I have to comment on this one! Your contractor is being lazy and needs a good chewing out. (I would also play the super pregnant guilt trip card with them as well!) I would really challenge him on the bathtub knobs holding up the entire project. They can't set the tub without it? I call B.S. Ultimately tell him he is behind schedule and it isn't acceptable and he needs to figure out how to get things done ASAP.
@missnc77 we are going through a two bathroom remodel at the moment as well so I feel your pain. I ended up being induced so I didn't meet my completion timeline but for other reasons. Is it possible when he said the bathtub knobs he meant the rough in plumbing (literally the piping behind and through the wall) and said knobs just so you'd understand? I had our contractor give me a list of priorities for materials since we have a limited space for storage but he explained things like that without the knobs and the rough in he couldn't have the plumber come and set up the tub. Hope everything is finished with a day to spare to enjoy!
My 2nd wtf of the day: wtf to Babies R Us. I ordered a countertop drying rack for bottles/etc., plus a few other small items, and the box arrived today. The packing list has all the correct items on it, but only two of the actual items from the list are in the box. The rest of the box is filled with a bunch of baby bottles/nipples/etc, which I definitely did not order. What the heck?
Also, re: the Trump thing - I'm honestly surprised that the news didn't send me into labor. I don't even know what to think at this point.
@amberraysofdawn Babies r us needs to get it in order. I ordered a bunch of stuff from them. The box came in and most everything was there, but there were two items I did not order. I went through my packing list of stuff I ordered and it looks like everything is in there, so I am not sure why there are two extra items?! I haven't been charged for them though, so I am keeping them because it's a good product (cetyphil (sp) baby was for sensitive skin).
Me: 31
DH: 29, SA - Great
Married: June 12,2011
TTC #1: 1/2014
Diagnosis: Hypothalamic Amenorrhea
Treatment: Clomid: 50mg, 100mg, 150mg - not successful and not monitored
WTF to my doctor. I told her I had pain in my hip at my appt. today. And she proceeded to call L&D and then say to me "How does 7 a.m. tomorrow sound for an induction?" Mind you, I am not even 40 weeks (I'm at 39W2d) and have no other issues whatsoever-- I am lucky enough to have had a relatively easy pg. No real ms, bp of 104/68 today...I still walk 3-4 miles a day...I haven't even had heartburn or hemorrhoids (don't hate me for saying that, btw)! I was shocked, to say the least. She said "Well, if you want to get rid of that sciatica, we have to get him out of there." Um...I'm not dying. I'm uncomfortable, which is pretty much the norm at this stage, no? Why the rush to induce???
Needless to say, I am NOT being induced tomorrow.
This doctor is one of five at my practice. And now I am crossing all my fingers and toes that she will not be the doctor at the hospital when I actually do go into labor because apparently she is trigger happy with the medical interventions!
@vinerie I complained of the same thing to my midwife, told her that LO had found my sciatic nerve and it was getting uncomfortable when he hit it. She gave me some suggestions to help. Get on all fours and rock back and forth. It worked. The random pains haven't been AS bad. I had none yesterday, but just as I was typing this I got one. LO already wants to be difficult.
Me: 31
DH: 29, SA - Great
Married: June 12,2011
TTC #1: 1/2014
Diagnosis: Hypothalamic Amenorrhea
Treatment: Clomid: 50mg, 100mg, 150mg - not successful and not monitored
@swflJD Im so sorry about your water and hope they get it fixed ( for cheap). I completely understand how frustrating that is. When we bought our house we had to build our water system from scratch only to find a leak in the slab so we had to repipe our entire house and had no water for 2 weeks! Our water softener broke and recently and just got that running again.
@pooputtette Thanks! No water for 2 weeks? That's awful! One of the pleasures of dealing with Florida water systems, right? They had to replace the water pump and a few other components in our softener system, but they were able to get it up and running again by yesterday afternoon. It was only about $700, which is less than I expected, but it still took a bite out of my ML budget.
@amberraysofdawn we had the exact same issue with our online class. I called the hospital twice to sort it out - email didn't come through in the form through a glitch. They had me talk to the lactation consultant to get it fixed... if you haven't already call the tour or regular class #
@vinerie agreed that seems extreme. My OB sent me to physical therapy about a month ago for my sciatica and it was AMAZING. He had me doing this stretch where you lay on your back with your knees bent and slowly move your legs left them right like a pendulum. Also pelvis tilts and those Jane Fonda clam shell looking things on your side... light lunges and standing from a chair. Went from not being able to walk without pain to feeling on top of the world.
Which actually brings me to my WTF on myself. Apparently I've been feeling too good or I momentarily forgot I was pregnant. Tried to pull DH ' S birthday gift out of the packaging to surprise him today and I'm pretty sure I royally f'd my back. Stupid move, bad angle and it kind of vacuumed in that freaking box with the Styrofoam bumpers from hell. Now he's going to be home any minute and although I've been icing and resting all day and I still can barely walk or stand... never made his card or cupcakes I was planning to today... and so not ready for our birthday/last fancy dinner as DINKs. I was going to shave my legs and curl my hair and none of that happened. He's just going to be mad i tried to be superwoman again and not care about his birthday because he's rational like that but *I* care and am mad as hell at myself. Thank you hormones for making me feel like a failure who ruined his birthday.
Re: WTF Wednesday 5/4
Needless to say, I am NOT being induced tomorrow.
This doctor is one of five at my practice. And now I am crossing all my fingers and toes that she will not be the doctor at the hospital when I actually do go into labor because apparently she is trigger happy with the medical interventions!
DS: Born 5-17-16
DS: Born 5-17-16
I dunno, I'm honestly at a loss on that one too. That's the only explanation I can come up with, though: that maybe she just thought you were in so much agony that you couldn't take it anymore.
I'm glad to know I'm not completely off base with my reaction. I just can't understand what she was thinking??
DS: Born 5-17-16
I'd probably just ask your mom to go with you... At least you won't be alone, and then you won't resent your H for having to do extra research you hadn't planned on?
My WTF goes to my hospital. Today my midwife told me that her privileges at said hospital are being revoked, because last year, long story short, she ended up delivering a few babies without insurance, leaving the hospital liable if anything had happened (nothing happened). So she can attend my birth, but not actually do anything. That's really great to know, two weeks from my due date. Seriously. She's the only midwife in town (it's a tiny town). She knows it was irresponsible to get behind on that sort of thing, she wasn't even aware of it. I get it, it could have been bad. But the hospital is considering permanently removing her privileges. Good luck ever getting another midwife to come work in our town after that.
I should add that it's a very small hospital, and they are known for being extremely cliquey, bullying employees they don't like, and basically just being a toxic work environment.
BFP #1: 9/12/2015
DD: 6/1/2016
BFP #2: 1/16/2018 MC 2/2/2018
WTF to the hospital! I was there for 4 nights and I asked to see a Lactation consultant each day. I kept telling them I was concerned about my latch because I was constantly bleeding and in a ton of pain but I never ended up seeing anyone.
Also Lucy was supposed to get her first bath and cord clamp removed on day 3 but it didn't happen till a couple of hours before I was discharged on the last day and it was majorly rushed. The woman who did these things ( i found out after) was a trainee. When she put the diaper on i noticed it was really loose. I made a mental note to fix it once we got back to the room but it went right out of my head as I had people rushing in to give me paper and info before I left. Lucy decided that she would wait to poop till we got her all set in the car seat. It really wasn't a lot of poop but omg it was everywhere because of the loose diaper. I guess I can say it's partly my fault for forgetting to correct the situation but really I shouldn't have had to fix it in the first place. There was so much room between the diaper and her legs that I could easily fit my hand between them ( without stretching the elastic)
Long story short, Her going home outfit was now in the "dirty laundry" bag because of a useless woman who didn't know how to put a diaper on.
Y'all. It was supposed to ALL be done last week. I'm trying not to cry. At this point we're committed, so there's nothing we can do. I've been joking that I hope she stays in as long as possible, but after hearing I'm not dilated at all yesterday, I began to realize I may get my wish and she stays in until 41 weeks, and then I'll have to be induced. I just want our bathrooms done and our baby to come on time, but both of those things are 100% out of my control. Deeeeeeep breathes.
@Pascal86 - My husband is the same way. I have to plan way ahead, and I remind him constantly. He's also good for making plans but not telling me (i.e. telling me at 10am that he has to be in at noon for a meeting, but I made plans for us to do something, or having his parents visit but telling me the night before and the house is a mess!)
@Myzticsunshine - Wisconsin has a well-known wine country called Door County, and even though I'll be breastfeeding at the time, I plan on taking half a day and doing a wine tasting event with my mom, best friend, grandmother and future SIL. I'm with you on wanting the wine!
My WTF is the other OB/GYN in my doctor's office, who had to see us yesterday because my doctor is on vacation. I have never met her before, have been seeing my doctor from the beginning and she begins the conversation with "I saw on your chart that you have a history of anxiety and depression" and then tried to push for starting medication prior to birth to avoid PPD. Um, thanks lady I met 3 minutes ago, but I don't really want your advice for something my doctor and I have discussed.
And mom is coming with me tonight, really grateful for that. And I assigned my husband the task of making one of our friends that's a new dad teach him how to do diaper changes and give baby baths. Also, I got him to come home from work early to deliver me a nice lunch and give me a back massage, so he is redeeming himself a little. Still kind of upset though, since I spent about two hours crying over this in the morning. Not saying that was a reasonable reaction, but I was especially upset because I had a doctor appointment and I was really excited for it (what can I say, I love doctor appointments!), but had to spend this one just trying not to cry the whole time and having the nurses and doctors ask me if I was okay over and over again.
@amberraysofdawn Babies r us needs to get it in order. I ordered a bunch of stuff from them. The box came in and most everything was there, but there were two items I did not order. I went through my packing list of stuff I ordered and it looks like everything is in there, so I am not sure why there are two extra items?! I haven't been charged for them though, so I am keeping them because it's a good product (cetyphil (sp) baby was for sensitive skin).
Me: 31
DH: 29, SA - Great
Married: June 12,2011
TTC #1: 1/2014
Diagnosis: Hypothalamic Amenorrhea
Treatment: Clomid: 50mg, 100mg, 150mg - not successful and not monitored
Menopur 75ml (upped to 112.5ml), Ovidrel, & IUI IUI #1 8/31/2015
9/15/2015: BFP HCG - 400, 9/17/2015: HCG - 827, 9/21/2015 - HCG 3,327!@vinerie I complained of the same thing to my midwife, told her that LO had found my sciatic nerve and it was getting uncomfortable when he hit it. She gave me some suggestions to help. Get on all fours and rock back and forth. It worked. The random pains haven't been AS bad. I had none yesterday, but just as I was typing this I got one. LO already wants to be difficult.
Me: 31
DH: 29, SA - Great
Married: June 12,2011
TTC #1: 1/2014
Diagnosis: Hypothalamic Amenorrhea
Treatment: Clomid: 50mg, 100mg, 150mg - not successful and not monitored
Menopur 75ml (upped to 112.5ml), Ovidrel, & IUI IUI #1 8/31/2015
9/15/2015: BFP HCG - 400, 9/17/2015: HCG - 827, 9/21/2015 - HCG 3,327!@vinerie agreed that seems extreme. My OB sent me to physical therapy about a month ago for my sciatica and it was AMAZING. He had me doing this stretch where you lay on your back with your knees bent and slowly move your legs left them right like a pendulum. Also pelvis tilts and those Jane Fonda clam shell looking things on your side... light lunges and standing from a chair. Went from not being able to walk without pain to feeling on top of the world.
Which actually brings me to my WTF on myself. Apparently I've been feeling too good or I momentarily forgot I was pregnant. Tried to pull DH ' S birthday gift out of the packaging to surprise him today and I'm pretty sure I royally f'd my back. Stupid move, bad angle and it kind of vacuumed in that freaking box with the Styrofoam bumpers from hell. Now he's going to be home any minute and although I've been icing and resting all day and I still can barely walk or stand... never made his card or cupcakes I was planning to today... and so not ready for our birthday/last fancy dinner as DINKs. I was going to shave my legs and curl my hair and none of that happened. He's just going to be mad i tried to be superwoman again and not care about his birthday because he's rational like that but *I* care and am mad as hell at myself. Thank you hormones for making me feel like a failure who ruined his birthday.