WTF Wednesday 5/4

jumpy57

I'm feeling ragey... how about you?

jumpy57

Before I lose my s*#^ I will say that I plan on an unmedicated birth and have been mentally preparing for awhile. I also understand that this might all go out the window and that's ok.

WTF to the men I don't even know giving me birth advice... "My wife had 3 boys, let me tell you... get the drugs as soon as you get to the hospital. Trust me." EXCUSE ME SIR... I'M GLAD YOUR WIFE'S CHOICES BLESSED YOU WITH SUCH AN EASY TIME WITH THE BIRTH OF YOUR CHILDREN. I'M SURE SHE ONLY HAD YOUR BEST INTERESTS IN MIND.

I will finish with, I really don't mind hearing advice/birth stories from people that have actually given birth.

AdorkablePixie

My WTF goes to my employer. They announced a month or two ago that they'd be announcing promotions in May. They sent out an e-mail yesterday that they're making new hires, announcing them this month and they will start in September. That's all well and good. I didn't think that would affect promotions until I read the rest of the e-mail this morning. Because of these new hires the promotions have been "paused". I bet they won't be announced at all now because they are using money set for promotions on new hires. This pisses me off. Promotions should be much more important than new hires in my opinion. THIS IS WHY YOU ARE LOSING SO MANY EMPLOYEES!!! Complete bullshit.

clw617

I'm here for the Karate Kid pt. 2 gif. 

I hate to vent about my own kid, but WTF @ my almost 3 year-old. He's been driving us nuts these past few days and the whining is in full effect. On top of that, it's constant "I want daddy. IIIII waaaant daaddddyyyyyy" to do everything. I'm all bitter about his rejection of me. lol And the "I want I want I want I want" has to stop. I'm trying not to indulge it and ask him to use his manners instead, but my patience is thin these days. The other day in the car, he said "Mommy, don't talk to me." Guess I can't win with him. Welcome to 3, right?

That1didntcount

I thought it was Thursday.  Wtf. 

Chappy_jr

I have never participated in a WTF Wednesday but after a discussion last night with my husband (see post about him freaking out about me being "late" at 39 weeks) I just have to vent.

He said that part of the reason he would prefer we just have a RCS is because he doesn't want to stay in the hospital for 5 days again (we stayed 3 nights last time) because he was "so uncomfortable.  The bed/futon was uncomfortable, the food was awful - and he had to walk so far to get it -, he couldn't sleep, the TV only got 3 channels, wahwahwah..."

Seriously.  WTF?   I couldn't respond to that one.  I just couldn't even dignify it with a response.

Oh, but then he goes on about how he just wants us to have a date set so that people at work can stop bugging him about when he'll be out and he can stop stressing about how he will get home in time if I go into labor (it takes 20 min to get to this office from our house).  

AND he said this is all based on his concern for me and the baby.  Concerned that she'll be "too big" like DS that she won't physically be able to come out if I go past my due date.  For the record, DS was 7lbs8oz, perfectly average and his size had nothing to do with it.  Plus, I had already mentioned to him that at my appointment yesterday, the fundal measurement was *small*, probably because her head is so far down.  

Seriously.  WTF?

I asked if there were things we could do or go ahead and make arrangements for that might help him feel more at ease and lesson his stress.  He said we needed to get bags packed and ready to go (mine and DS's are ready aside from toothbrushes), the car seat needs to be installed (I took it out of the box and assembled it two weeks ago and asked him to install it then...), the dog's stuff needs to be packed to go to MIL.  After an hour of him listing things I have already done I went to bed, assuming he would work on his bag and install the car seat and put the dog's crate in his car to take to MIL.  Nope.  He didn't do any of it.

Seriously.  WTF?

DH is not an asshole, I promise.  He's just freaking out and being weird all of a sudden.

jenashawn

I don't think I've ever posted on the WTF thread before. But today I am pissed. I am one week away from my due date, and I woke up to discover stretch marks on one hip and one boob. I know I should be glad that I'm not COVERED in them, especially considering I have gained like 50 lbs this pregnancy. But seriously, my skin couldn't just deal with it for ONE MORE WEEK???? WTF.

lizChesnut

@jenbkc I feel ya! I might be getting some late in the game here. It's not a big deal if I do..... but.... I was really excited I didn't have any. So when I saw one ...WTF!!!! ONE WEEK!!!!! (Mine also popped up 1 week before EDD)

jenashawn

@lizChesnut It seems like a cruel joke doesn't it? Arg.

lizChesnut

All the F's to the husband's this week! My sweet loving supportive birth partner. has decided late in the game to start indulging on a few too many drinks at night! He's not obnoxious or anything like most people get when they drink. But my due date is SUNDAY!!! I could literally go into labor at any moment! Now is not the time to have a drink too many! This morning I told him if he can't drive me to the hospital I'm driving my own damn self and not telling him I'm in labor! 

AdorkablePixie

@jenbkc I am 37+2 and noticed my first stretch mark yesterday. I almost cried. I know I was expecting them, but to actually get one was a different story. I don't think weight gain has anything to do with it though, I've only gained like 17 pounds.

bkjade

@lizChesnut - DH had a few too many at band practice earlier this week. When I got home from work he was doing dishes and blasting music and would not stop talking. I was like, bro are you wasted? He was like sorry I had some whiskey with the guys and was super apologetic. And I tried to be pissed off, but it was so funny that he felt guilty and was clearly trying to clean the house since he knew I'd be less than stoked to come home from working all day to a husband smelling like whiskey. What a dummy. I know he's freaking the heck out since we are in the middle of opening our bar and expecting a baby so I let him know I was pissed and we laughed about it the next day. Hell, if I could have some tequila I would be all over it too. 

Lusitano8

So ragey today

WTF to MIL wanting to be updated on my dilation every step of the way. And asking about it while there was company over at the house! My own mother and family are so much more chill! Geez a little privacy - no one has ever taken this much interest in my lady parts before. I'm tempted to update them on the status of my reproductive organs after birth since they have so much interest in them now. I'm sure they want a text on the status of my hemorrhoids if they want a text about my cervix! 

WTF to false labor. DH thinks I should leave work early so I can relax and that's why things started than stopped. I just want to have my baby already! My EDD is tomorrow, I know it's an estimate for a reason but it still feels like such a bummer that there's no sign he's getting ready to arrive.

and WTF again to  the IL's for not getting their TDAP boosters, every day that goes by makes me more ragey. They are not against getting it... just lazy. 

Chappy_jr  Ugg I feel for you - I'm sorry your DH is being craycray right now. It's like all the SO's turn into their own special hormonal disasters. You are a saint and I'm sure he's just freaking out about wanting you and baby to have an easy time and having a new baby. But still... I would kindly tell him to suck it up buttercup because his problems of slight discomfort and people annoying him are nothing compared to yours! 

LadyStardust179

WTF my immune system! I've caught some virus and I feel like total crap. I had stomach flu symptoms overnight Monday/Tuesday and the doc advised me to go to L&D as it could be a sign of labor and I was already dilated to 3 at my last appointment. Wasn't labor but I'm glad I went because baby's heart rate was high. Turns out I was just dehydrated as his HR went down after some IV fluids. Now I feel tired and achy and have no appetite. And really, really pregnant too, of course. 

I think it will all be fine but this gives me new things to worry about. Like what if I go into labor today? I'm already exhausted and I would be worried about passing it on to the baby. What if I get DS1 and DH sick and they're not well by the time the baby comes? Bah!

bkjade

WTF to the woman at the store who asked if I was SHOPLIFTING! She asked while I was at the checkout if I was hiding anything in my coat. I said "A BABY" and ripped open my coat which was probably a bit shocking since I was wearing a nude colored leotard and black spandex from the gym. Efffffff you. She tried to make a joke after and I was like NOPE.

balamama

I'm so ragey today.

WTF to false labor... three times in the past two weeks. WTF to everyone I know asking how dilated I am... it's NONE OF YOUR BUSINESS! WTF to the shooting pains down my thighs when I go to sit on the toilet, as if I could be more uncomfortable.

js8812

bkjade said:

WTF to the woman at the store who asked if I was SHOPLIFTING! She asked while I was at the checkout if I was hiding anything in my coat. I said "A BABY" and ripped open my coat which was probably a bit shocking since I was wearing a nude colored leotard and black spandex from the gym. Efffffff you. She tried to make a joke after and I was like NOPE.

She's lucky she didn't get throat punched. 

jumpy57

bkjade said:

WTF to the woman at the store who asked if I was SHOPLIFTING! She asked while I was at the checkout if I was hiding anything in my coat. I said "A BABY" and ripped open my coat which was probably a bit shocking since I was wearing a nude colored leotard and black spandex from the gym. Efffffff you. She tried to make a joke after and I was like NOPE.

seriously??? what a weirdo! Plus, I know where I used to work they didn't want cashiers confronting people on stuff like that for safety reasons (and it's just rude)

swflJD

WTF to my SIL who has started texting me every day while she knows I'm at work (and then calling me if I don't immediately respond) to see if her nephew is any closer to his arrival.  I get that she's excited, but it's not like it's going to happen and no one is going to tell her!  So, leave me alone...or just call your brother!

jumpy57

@lusitano8 please send them a MP or hemorrhoid pic (just find one off the internet) and say you just wanted to keep them updated

gamommyx3

babyfmama said:

I'm so ragey today.

WTF to false labor... three times in the past two weeks. WTF to everyone I know asking how dilated I am... it's NONE OF YOUR BUSINESS! WTF to the shooting pains down my thighs when I go to sit on the toilet, as if I could be more uncomfortable.

Yes to all of this. What is up with the random leg pain?? The contractions that are doing NOTHING are bad enough.

WTF to TB mobile. I can't open any threads with photos or it crashes. Every time I open a thread it takes me back to the 1st page of it. Because I really wanted to start at page 1 of 90 in the random thread. 

And a final irrational Wtf  to TB home page for saying "40 weeks and 3 days...you're almost there!!" Fuck you. I AM THERE. It should say "you're overdue and we're sure that makes you super ragey, here, have some of this chocolate." And then it should send chocolate. 

clbness

@lizChesnut YES!  Except, I feel my DH has been drinking even more while I'm pregnant than before I got pregnant (like he's making up for me not drinking?!).  And, it's not like he's getting drunk, but seriously, why do you have to have a couple double crowns each week night?  Shits getting oooolllldddddd...

ETA: And the main reason it pisses me off is because it makes him snore SO BAD.  And I already have enough trouble sleeping.

mello13

WTF to this frickin' cold!! DH was coming down with it on the day I went into labor. He then proceeded to spend the next week writhing on the couch like he was dying, until I flipped my shit and told him to get it together (so, secondary WTF to DH and his inability to handle the man-cold). Now, DS has caught it and of course is dripping snot everywhere and feeling miserable. I feel like a royal guard keeping them all away from DD and paranoid she'll catch it at less than 2 weeks old. And now my freaking throat is getting scratchy. Because mom anxiety isn't high enough already!

AdorkablePixie

@bkjade Wow!! How did you refrain from hitting her?! How freaking rude. Plus, what if you were just fat or something? How offensive.

@babyfmama and @Lusitano8 I don't even know what I would say to someone who asks me how dilated I am. I hope, for their sake, that no one asks me. I don't remember ever asking my best friend if or how much she was dilated when she was pregnant. I really don't want to know what her lady parts are doing, I just want to love on the babies!!

Jparke2

Dang, I'm not happy that all of our husbands are going nuts right now, but I am glad I'm not the only one. My face is puffy from all the sobbing I did yesterday (I won't retype it all, its in TW Tuesday for anybody interested) and I'm still waiting on an apology. 

I understand that maybe our husbands are seeing the end in sight and might be feeling ignored or like their fears and worries are being ignored, but honestly it's no excuse! And it could very much just be my husband being a douchehelmet, he is lucky I'm trying to make excuses for him!

That1didntcount

My for real WTF is the anxiety dreams I have had the last three nights. I know its the stress of upcoming labor and finishing up work, but I am dreaming of real cases. Ugh! Also, I dreamed my OB left the practice the day I went into labor. I didn't even think I was that attached to her!?!

swflJD

My other WTF today is the water system at my house.  We live just outside of the city, so we have a well.  DH lost water pressure when he was showering last night, and now we don't even having running water!  He called a company to come look at it this afternoon while we're at work, but since we don't know what is wrong with it, we have no idea how much it is going to cost or how long it is going to take to fix it.  I couldn't shower this morning, so I used bottled water to brush my teeth, wash my face, and clean up with a wash cloth before my OB appointment and work.  I feel gross!  If it isn't fixed by the time I get off work, I'm going home, packing an overnight bag, and heading across town to DH's grandmother's (unoccupied) vacation condo until it's fixed. Hopefully, this situation doesn't drain the savings we had put back for ML.      

bookelf221

WTF to the ladies in Target who kept stopping abruptly in the middle of the aisle, and a SERIOUS WTF to the lad who whipped her cart around super fast, with no warning, that almost hit the bump.

Pascal86

WTF to my husband who texted me an hour ago to tell me he has a work meeting tonight so can't go to our new parents class. It's the last available class before my due date, so can't reschedule, and so far I have not handled this relatively minor issue gracefully. I made him look for other classes somewhere else and he found one that's a 5 hour weekend class (instead of a 2 hour class tonight), and like hell I'm going to spend another one of my final weekend days before the baby comes in an all day class.

It's especially infuriating because I signed us up for this class four months ago, put it on his google calendar, and have reminded him periodically - including every day for the past week. This is our system for scheduling things - I try as hard as I can to remind him constantly of things we have planned and he puts absolutely zero effort into knowing what's on his calendar. And usually it just means that stuff that's important to me gets forgotten or he gets upset when he realizes it's happening last minute. I'm just so pissed that with everything I have to deal with for this pregnancy, he can't keep track of one stupid class.

Trying to decide whether I should go alone or see if my mom can come with me or just skip out completely - I know a lot of women probably have to go to stuff like this alone, but i really don't feel like doing that tonight. Any suggestions? Any good ways to get this info without going to a class?

Myzticsunshine

WTF to all the back and rib pain. I'm doing my last week of classes, and it's super not fun to try sitting up straight. And I haven't been contracting so i don't feel (at all) like this is happening any time soon. The 13th feels sooo far away. 

Also  WTF to being broke. This transmission nonsense is getting on my last nerve as it is, but we are getting so close to Mother's Day (and also my moms birthday) and I spent every physical dime I have on making sure I have an operating car for when L/O arrives. 

Finally, WTF because reading about all these lucky (and if I may speak for myself whiny) ass husbands getting drunk makes me miss my bottle of wine nights. Am I the only one whose got a stock ready for when they're done breast feeding? 

TinaTho

WTF to my high risk OB's... Last week I was told we'd likely go for a version and today I get told it is not a good idea and to accept the CS on the 25th as being a reality. So now I'm finally letting myself freak out about the CS. I was in denial up until today. And if anything LO keeps pushing her head farther up, she's not into down (and likely can't do it anyway so I really can't blame her).

TinaTho

Myzticsunshine said:

WTF to all the back and rib pain. I'm doing my last week of classes, and it's super not fun to try sitting up straight. And I haven't been contracting so i don't feel (at all) like this is happening any time soon. The 13th feels sooo far away. 

Also  WTF to being broke. This transmission nonsense is getting on my last nerve as it is, but we are getting so close to Mother's Day (and also my moms birthday) and I spent every physical dime I have on making sure I have an operating car for when L/O arrives. 

Finally, WTF because reading about all these lucky (and if I may speak for myself whiny) ass husbands getting drunk makes me miss my bottle of wine nights. Am I the only one whose got a stock ready for when they're done breast feeding? 

@Myzticsunshine lol not alone at all on the wine front, I had missed out on a vineyard barrel tasting in November and my DH got a case of the favorites (since I was DD and he had some pity for me as I watched everyone taste wine from one of my favorite places)... I really can't wait. Even though I know if all goes according to plan it'll be a long time before I can have more than a small glass.

amberraysofdawn

Wtf to the hospital where DH and I signed up for a online birthing and breastfeeding classes. We had trouble the first time we registered due to a website error, and then we had to wait to make sure that our credit card hadn't been charged so we didn't accidentally pay twice (the classes together came to about $75). When we realized that we were never charged, we tried again and this time got through...we've got the confirmation email, but we can't start the classes (which are a do-at-your-own-pace-and-on-your-own-time type of thing) until we receive a second email with instructions and a code for access. Which, after two weeks, we still haven't received (yes, we've triple checked our spam filters). I'm due in another two weeks! So now we're trying to reach somebody about either sending us the codes ASAP or refunding us, but they've been slow to get back to us and are never there when we call.

I'm really going to laugh if I go into labor before we get those damn access codes.

tgortney

WTF to my doctors office. I woke up this morning to cramps, random contractions and bright red spotting. Went in for a check up and they didn't seem concerned about the spotting. Got sent home, still spotting, bright red at that too! I'm so tired of these damn labor games!!!
I wish water breaking was the norm so I know to go to the hospital right away instead of waiting for this contractions counting bull crap!! Ugh waiting for labor and these "signs of labor" is making me frustrated and ragey.

Also WTF to America, it's really becoming reality that Trump might be the next President. This sick joke isn't funny anymore.

baby-2-due

@EErin86 I had a lot of people tell me that I just need to get an epi. SO was on board with my plan even though he thought I should get meds, but he supported my decision. I delivered completely med free and he helped me keep to my plan. If you can do it I say go for it! Wth other ppl think they have a right to an opinion on your birth plan is ridiculous, especially men!! Everyone is different and every birth is different. It's good to have a plan and an idea of what you want/expect. I feel your frustration.

jumpy57

@maybaby0519 THANK YOU! DH is totally on board for helping with med free. It's almost exclusively male coworkers and men I have just met that like to give me their opinions on labor... it's the strangest thing.

bookelf221

tgortney said:

WTF to my doctors office. I woke up this morning to cramps, random contractions and bright red spotting. Went in for a check up and they didn't seem concerned about the spotting. Got sent home, still spotting, bright red at that too! I'm so tired of these damn labor games!!!
I wish water breaking was the norm so I know to go to the hospital right away instead of waiting for this contractions counting bull crap!! Ugh waiting for labor and these "signs of labor" is making me frustrated and ragey.

Also WTF to America, it's really becoming reality that Trump might be the next President. This sick joke isn't funny anymore.

@tgortney
The "Signs of labor" is making me frustrated and ragey, and ugh don't even get me started on the Trump thing- that makes me beyond ragey. 

folamij

tgortney said:

Also WTF to America, it's really becoming reality that Trump might be the next President. This sick joke isn't funny anymore.

THIS! I get being frustrated with the state our country is in but seriously?! IMO he is the farthest  person that has any solutions, and I was really hoping it would end up being an epic April fools prank but now it's just overly sad. 

balamama

tgortney said:

WTF to my doctors office. I woke up this morning to cramps, random contractions and bright red spotting. Went in for a check up and they didn't seem concerned about the spotting. Got sent home, still spotting, bright red at that too! I'm so tired of these damn labor games!!!
I wish water breaking was the norm so I know to go to the hospital right away instead of waiting for this contractions counting bull crap!! Ugh waiting for labor and these "signs of labor" is making me frustrated and ragey.

Also WTF to America, it's really becoming reality that Trump might be the next President. This sick joke isn't funny anymore.

YESSS I keep saying this too!

rlworzalla

@jenbkc - I'm ALL belly so I'm surprised I didn't have them all over. A few weeks ago I noticed a few on my left breast. This past weekend they surprised me on my stomach. I'm 39 weeks!  WTF body?!

amberraysofdawn

My 2nd wtf of the day: wtf to Babies R Us. I ordered a countertop drying rack for bottles/etc., plus a few other small items, and the box arrived today. The packing list has all the correct items on it, but only two of the actual items from the list are in the box. The rest of the box is filled with a bunch of baby bottles/nipples/etc, which I definitely did not order. What the heck?

Also, re: the Trump thing - I'm honestly surprised that the news didn't send me into labor. I don't even know what to think at this point.