I'm sending my kids to daycare tomorrow with the intention of packing and cleaning for our vacation but I really just want to sit and eat the snacks I don't allow them to eat and catch up on shows...
I want a housekeeper so badly. I like my house to be really clean but I'm not nesting at all and I don't have energy or motivation to do any cleaning right now. Ugh.
Get one get one get one. I have the most wonderful woman who comes every other week and I seriously don't know how I used to survive without her. I feel a little silly sometimes because I'm a SAHM so I *should* have time to keep the house in order, but having someone who comes in twice a month to give the whole place a deep clean is SO worth the money to me. I'd rearrange a ton of other stuff in my budget before I gave that up.
Do you mind me asking how much you pay? You can PM me if you prefer. I know it depends on size/location too.
Awesome Kid #1: Born September 2013! Awesome Kid #2: Due November 2016!
If its an option for you, house keepers are a must. I'm so thankful for the woman who cleans our place! @SRose27 stay at home moms totally deserve housekeepers! Parenting is the hardest job of all. I'm considering going back to work another day a week because I need "a break."
I'm watching Anthony Boudains parts unknown Jamaica. I want to be there right now.
My intake nurse was crazy today. Right after we sit down she proceeds to tell me a story she had heard right after she had her baby back in the 80s of a woman she had heard of that left her 6 week old with a 19 year old neighbor girl. She left for 3 hours to go to an office party with her husband and when they got back, they didn't see the baby. When they asked the baby sitter where the baby was, she said I don't know, but I am cooking some dinner in the oven. The dinner was the baby.
WHY THE F DID SHE TELL ME THIS STORY???????????? What is wrong with people????
@Thewizardofrhythm it's totally true, unfortunately. I can fake it really, really well. Like you'd never know from looking at me that I'm mentally (sometimes physically) wringing my hands and my anxiety is going up through the roof. Running into someone in a store is my nightmare, being caught off guard like that. I'm not sure what the clinical diagnosis would be but I strongly relate to introverts. I much prefer one on ones over groups, I get anxiety in crowds, that type of thing. I definitely prefer the company of myself but I'm trying to be better about that, for the sake of my son. He's that kid that goes barreling up to someone and goes, "HIIIIIII." And then tries to kiss them. He's not even 2, so I have to get my shit together.
I don't even like admitting this tbh. I can't be the only one here like that, this is an internet Mom's group, y'all are probably nutjobs like myself
@HomeyDontPlayThat - I have diagnosed crowd anxiety. If I'm not SUPER mentally prepared for large crowds (concerts, fairs, even just walking down a crowded sidewalk) I'm likely in for a panic attack. I have medication that helps avoid a full blown PA, but I can't take it right now so I just avoid those situations at the moment. Working as a flight attendant has forced me to get over my insane fear of small-talk and talking to strangers, but I don't do it in real life at all. Most of my coworkers also don't believe that I'm extremely shy because I put up a good front when I have to, but it's exhausting and draining to play that part at work. I'm definitely more of an introvert than anything- but so is DH so we mostly enjoy our downtime/days off together. I know I need to be more social for the kid, but I'm dreading it. I feel you girl!
@HomeyDontPlayThat@AdmiralKitty Three cheers for shy folk. I'm kind of terrible at talking—always stumbling over words, forgetting what I'm trying to say mid-sentence, not being able to come up with anything to say to keep a conversation moving—so I feel super uncomfortable in basically any social setting that isn't just me and a few close friends. Strangers always think I'm super friendly, so I know that no one else notices as much as I do, but I always feel like I've made a fool of myself or that I've come across as insincere post-socializing. Fortunately my husband is extremely outgoing and fantastic at conversation, so he's able to pick up my slack when we're at social events together. I'm perfectly content to stay inside my quiet little turtle shell.
Another random: I'm in bed this morning trying to wait out a bad headache, playing on my phone to pass time. I just found myself on Google Images scrolling through pictures of manta rays for a solid 15 minutes. How does this even happen??
I am a totally introvert but I was raised by a dad who is the most extreme extrovert ever, so I always thought something was wrong with me. Reading the book Quiet was literally life changing and so incredibly validating. I am so glad I married another introvert who understands my lack of desire to socialize with strangers and my need to spend time at home recharging.
I'm super annoyed. My sister lives in another state and delivered my niece yesterday night. She had been on the phone with me constantly up until delivery, then radio silence. Not a text saying all is well, let's talk/FaceTime later. Nothing. My parents are visiting her. They've gotten to meet the baby. She's already announced the arrival on social media. Will not call/text me or at least send me a picture. I feel like being super petty and being like "I'll remember this when its my turn. You get to wait a week!" Lol
I am a totally introvert but I was raised by a dad who is the most extreme extrovert ever, so I always thought something was wrong with me. Reading the book Quiet was literally life changing and so incredibly validating. I am so glad I married another introvert who understands my lack of desire to socialize with strangers and my need to spend time at home recharging.
I've never heard of this book, thanks for the rec ♥ yeah, staying at home is seen as avoidance for some people. They have a hard time understanding that peace and quiet doesn't mean the absence of something, it's the very presence of a place of peace. I hope that doesn't sound too ... obnoxious, I just think that's how I'd describe it. Hard to without sounding like a pamphlet or something, ha.
I am a totally introvert but I was raised by a dad who is the most extreme extrovert ever, so I always thought something was wrong with me. Reading the book Quiet was literally life changing and so incredibly validating. I am so glad I married another introvert who understands my lack of desire to socialize with strangers and my need to spend time at home recharging.
I've never heard of this book, thanks for the rec ♥ yeah, staying at home is seen as avoidance for some people. They have a hard time understanding that peace and quiet doesn't mean the absence of something, it's the very presence of a place of peace. I hope that doesn't sound too ... obnoxious, I just think that's how I'd describe it. Hard to without sounding like a pamphlet or something, ha.
Oh, you must read it then! It is all about being an introvert in an extroverted world. So good.
Trying to squeeze in a bit of work before bedtime, but the dog keeps giving me this look every time I stop petting her... Ugh, stop playing with my hormones, you adorable monster.
@Thewizardofrhythm it's totally true, unfortunately. I can fake it really, really well. Like you'd never know from looking at me that I'm mentally (sometimes physically) wringing my hands and my anxiety is going up through the roof. Running into someone in a store is my nightmare, being caught off guard like that. I'm not sure what the clinical diagnosis would be but I strongly relate to introverts. I much prefer one on ones over groups, I get anxiety in crowds, that type of thing. I definitely prefer the company of myself but I'm trying to be better about that, for the sake of my son. He's that kid that goes barreling up to someone and goes, "HIIIIIII." And then tries to kiss them. He's not even 2, so I have to get my shit together.
I don't even like admitting this tbh. I can't be the only one here like that, this is an internet Mom's group, y'all are probably nutjobs like myself
You sound like my soul friend. I 100% relate. My 2 yr old goes up to everyone, which forces me to socialize... And I die inside.
I sit on the fence between introverted and extroverted, with a large helping of socially awkward I've been working on overcoming as an adult. My parents never taught me social graces and they didn't come naturally until my 20s. That left a lot of residual social anxiety around parties, group interactions, or even having someone say hi to me in the hallway.
I love socializing one-on-one or in small groups. Now I can gear myself up for parties and will often have a good time, but I still focus on interacting with 1-2 people at a time. I have the hardest times at dinner gatherings or other large group occasions.
I just want to say I'm glad to hear an introvert's POV. I am very extroverted but my daughter is very shy. I think that part of it is her age, and the natural stranger danger kid's have. People keep telling me she will "grow out of it." But I actually totally love her shy little self, and I'm totally fine with it if she stays that way. It's nice to be reminded not to push her if she's uncomfortable. Does anyone have advice on helping a shy child be at ease, or what to say to adults who won't let up until she talks to them or hugs them?
Awesome Kid #1: Born September 2013! Awesome Kid #2: Due November 2016!
@aquasocks, my DD is very shy too so I run interference for her. I ask her if she wants to talk to/hug person X then respect her answer. If that answer is "no" then I calmly explain to the adult that she doesn't feel like it right then. I shut down any insistence...her body, her choices. However, I will sometimes explain quietly to DD that so-and-so went through the effort of picking out a really nice present for her, that thanking people who do nice things for us is a good thing to do. But she can draw a picture instead of say words if she'd rather.
My mom is shy too and gives DD the time she needs to warm up (they live cross-country). DD adores grandma. MIL is more immediately in her face demanding hugs and has trouble understanding why DD will run away at first. But once she warms up DD loves her too. I actually have stopped interfering there, but only in the last 6 months now that DD is verbal enough to set her own boundaries.
And now I'm wondering what got that thread closed...the initial crazy or the calling out of crazy? Pee-stick photos aren't allowed, so maybe skull theory ones are also forbidden? Or were we being too harsh to the OP? I thought most of the posts were respectful though obviously without sunshine and rainbows.
There's a family sitting behind me on the bus right now. They're all either suffering the effects of neurological impairment or intoxicated. Considering it's 8am I'm optimistic about option 1 but considering stereotypes they are definitely drunk. I know it's the weekend but still.
@shevaCC there was a post removed for TOU violation too. I guess the admin didn't like that she called us all b*tches? I didn't think we were being too mean. We just refused to guess the gender of her baby
ETA I love that you let your DD draw a picture instead of using words! My little brother has aspergers and my parents always tried to force him to do things he didn't like
@aquasocks I would recommend reading the book Quiet. It will help you understand how your daughter sees the world as an introvert. She aims a lot of the book towards extroverts living and working with introverts and actually talks about parenting an introvert. I have a cousin in the same boat. She is a textbook extrovert with a very introverted son and she just does not understand why he doesn't want to go to all the birthday parties and play dates. She thinks she is a failure of a mom because he just wants to play at home. I am glad you are trying to understand your daughter and not trying to fix her!
im and introvert married to an introvert. We hang out with each other for the most part. We throw 3 big parties a year and then just hang out with each other or our very close friends at someone's house. Even then you can find him and I on a couch talking to each other. We cringe at wedding invites, Birthday invites etc...
@NatashaSprout ha that's me and my DH too! We always hide together around other people. I'm lucky my kid is such an extrovert, she distracts people enough they don't need to talk to us
This intovert/extrovert talk makes me think of a line from a local comedian. Description of Minnesotan's: "Where the introverts stare at their shoes, and the extroverts stare at your shoes."
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Awesome Kid #2: Due November 2016!
@homeydontplaythat I actually don't believe you when you say you're shy.
If its an option for you, house keepers are a must. I'm so thankful for the woman who cleans our place!
@SRose27 stay at home moms totally deserve housekeepers! Parenting is the hardest job of all. I'm considering going back to work another day a week because I need "a break."
I'm watching Anthony Boudains parts unknown Jamaica. I want to be there right now.
WHY THE F DID SHE TELL ME THIS STORY???????????? What is wrong with people????
Son, K, 9 | Daughter, C, 5 | Daughter, M, expected November 7, 2016
I don't even like admitting this tbh. I can't be the only one here like that, this is an internet Mom's group, y'all are probably nutjobs like myself
Another random: I'm in bed this morning trying to wait out a bad headache, playing on my phone to pass time. I just found myself on Google Images scrolling through pictures of manta rays for a solid 15 minutes. How does this even happen??
I am so glad I married another introvert who understands my lack of desire to socialize with strangers and my need to spend time at home recharging.
This week marks the end of my first trimester, crazy!
On Sunday, my birthday, I'll begin my second trimester journey.
This is probably csb for everyone but I'm just really excited! That's also when we'll be announcing to our families
Ugh, stop playing with my hormones, you adorable monster.
And side note. Whenever I go to tag someone my phone always predicts @HomeyDontPlayThat not sure why though
My 2 yr old goes up to everyone, which forces me to socialize... And I die inside.
I love socializing one-on-one or in small groups. Now I can gear myself up for parties and will often have a good time, but I still focus on interacting with 1-2 people at a time. I have the hardest times at dinner gatherings or other large group occasions.
Awesome Kid #2: Due November 2016!
My mom is shy too and gives DD the time she needs to warm up (they live cross-country). DD adores grandma. MIL is more immediately in her face demanding hugs and has trouble understanding why DD will run away at first. But once she warms up DD loves her too. I actually have stopped interfering there, but only in the last 6 months now that DD is verbal enough to set her own boundaries.
ETA I love that you let your DD draw a picture instead of using words! My little brother has aspergers and my parents always tried to force him to do things he didn't like
I have a cousin in the same boat. She is a textbook extrovert with a very introverted son and she just does not understand why he doesn't want to go to all the birthday parties and play dates. She thinks she is a failure of a mom because he just wants to play at home. I am glad you are trying to understand your daughter and not trying to fix her!
im and introvert married to an introvert. We hang out with each other for the most part. We throw 3 big parties a year and then just hang out with each other or our very close friends at someone's house. Even then you can find him and I on a couch talking to each other. We cringe at wedding invites, Birthday invites etc...
Then there's our daughter. The social butterfly. Confuses the hell out of us.
Son, K, 9 | Daughter, C, 5 | Daughter, M, expected November 7, 2016
Description of Minnesotan's: "Where the introverts stare at their shoes, and the extroverts stare at your shoes."