Ok so obviously this is a ways a way for most of us (unless you're doing the Harmony test or something), but I was having a discussion with some friends/acquaintances and was curious what you ladies thought:
Is it tacky to throw your own gender reveal? I was always of the opinion/understanding that it was NOT, since you're essentially just throwing a party to tell everyone the gender and there is no "expectation" of gifts. I've never seen very many people bring gifts to one, and if they do a) it's usually a card and b) if it's an actual gift, it's not opened in front of everyone like at a shower. This was always my position, but apparently not everyone I know agrees! Now if someone offered to throw me one, I would probably be ok with that, but it never dawned on me that throwing my own gender reveal was tacky.
Thoughts?
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Re: Gender Reveal Party Question
So I have heard most people do it at their baby shower. However, baby showers are usually really close to EDD. So I have seen some that were right after the first trimester 14-20 weeks, just the baby gender reveal party. I don't think its necessarily tacky to throw a gender reveal party or get together. I would say it would be like a cook out or something with friends and family, no gifts needed. You then do something cute like the box with balloons or the cupcakes with colored cake.
My girlfriend did a gender reveal at like a cookout. I did mine with my DD at 4th of July when everyone was already together.
Throwing your own baby shower can be looked at as kind of awkward but sometimes depending on your situation that's just how things work out.
I think a gender reveal party is different than a shower, so I think it would be fine if you hosted. I mean, you're not expecting gifts... just wanting to gather people together to see the gender of your baby!
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I don't know if we'd have one anyway because of the family dynamics between my mom's side and my dad's side of the family. It was ok for our wedding because that was a bigger affair and we kept them literally on opposite sides of the room, but I would imagine the more intimate setting of such a gathering might make things awkward.
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There's definitely not an expectation of gifts with these and it's just another reason to have friends over. If someone wants to throw a party and invites me to it, I'm psyched. If they want to have a colored frosting filled cupcake to let me know if they are growing a boy or girl, bring it on. The thing I don't totally love but don't get too worked up over is the attributions people give to it being a boy or girl. Like assigning pink and blue, or balerinas vs trucks. Or other gender stereotypes that I feel hurt the concept of - let your little person be who they are instead of assigning roles to them before they are even born.
We didn't really do this with last baby but we had a family dinner where we had a poem and the last line of the poem was "it's a boy!" super corny but that's who we are! We also sprinkled the poem with things to throw it off... like rhymed with squirrel and world... It was fun.
That way its cute, no one feels obligated to attend, and you have a great video/picture of your and SO's faces when you find out.
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In my case, my husband and I want to find out the sex of the baby at the reveal party so we will have the Aunts in charge of it. I will have the Doctor slip the info into a little envelope and let them do the work.
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My coworker had a gender reveal party and when they found out it was a girl her husband started crying... Because he wanted a boy. LIKE REALLY?!
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We didn't have a reveal party for either of our other kids. But my SIL is pregnant now and due with her first baby four weeks before me, and coincidentally a family reunion is scheduled for July 2, so she wants us to both reveal the sex of our babies at the reunion. As others described, since it's something that is already planned and people who care will already be there, I'm totally cool with this idea. We won't hijack the reunion. We will just take a few minutes at some point to share the news in some creative way.
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