Holiday baby

Lexibizzel · April 2016

So I'm due on 12/24, and I have to admit I'm a little bummed about it. I always felt bad for the kids whose birthdays were overshadowed by Christmas. Anybody else share this concern? Or perhaps have some benefits of being born during this time to share and cheer us (or maybe it's just me) up?

ToBeMiller1921 · April 2016

My youngest is 2, her birthday is December 11. I'm not going to lie, it's a bummer. I suggest doing early birthday parties, so that it doesn't feel like just another Christmas party. We are going to celebrate before we put decorations up, so it doesn't feel Christmas-y. The bummer is the massive amounts of toys that come in all at once. Ha, but really it's not too bad, obviously, or I wouldn't have put myself here with another due date in December.

sourlemon · April 2016

My brothers birthday is 12/30 and has never really been overshadowed. My parents always made it a point to have a birthday party and separate gifts. It actually worked out better for him in 2 ways than my summer birthday. First, more often than not, at least one grandparent was visiting. Second, when he wanted super expensive items, he would get money for Christmas then "trade up" to a bigger birthday present. But idk how he feels about it.

My concern with a December baby is the birthday party. We live in AZ and have a summer baby already so parties are at our pool and grilling. I have no clue how to host a party for kiddos without a pool! I'm sure I'll figure it out but my brother was always jealous of my awesome pool parties (as I am also a summer kid).

mimi603107 · April 2016

My birthday is December 28th and my parents and grandma always went above and beyond for my birthday because my birthday is so close to Christmas, so I never felt overshadowed. My oldest birthday is on December 13th and we always make a point of celebrating his birthday with just the family and also having a party with extended family on a different day. Honestly, if you make a point of not pushing it together with Christmas, I don't think you'll have a problem

Lexibizzel · April 2016

@sourlemon
Same here! My DD turns one in June, and we are planning a pool party. I live in FL, and with my sisters and I being born in June, July, and August, it's pretty much all we know. But in FL it is not really too cold in December, so maybe we could still do something outside.

zubenescamali · April 2016

my brother was born December 25 and my sister December 21. my birthday is of course, no where near December. growing up (and still) I hated the pressure of always having to come up with 2 gifts during December for my siblings. and you cannot, absolutely cannot, spend twice as much as you would normally and combine the gift. that is a given. so you are stuck trying to be creative and end up buying them two shitty presents even though you really want to get them one awesome one that they will actually like. and the guilt. my brother successfully guilted my mother into getting two birthday parties a year for at least a decade. "let's celebrate in the summer!", so then the party is, but come around to Christmas and guess who's pile of gifts is suspiciously larger?! so here I am, getting barely any attention in August, and my parents are making a huge fuss over December. my sister is now 37, guess what I got for my birthday last year from my dad, a greeting card, nothing else. He gave her a check for her birthday. and she had the audacity to complain about how much it was for. December baby guilt, it's real!
so, somehow I ended up due in December. I have to admit, I want to draw attention away from my siblings with a December baby

my brother can't even be bothered to give me a starbucks card for my birthday. now he's gonna have competition.

mommymommy7 · April 2016

I am due 24th too but doubt I will have baby then.I have 7 kids and only 2 I went in labour on my own.

dmontgo · April 2016

I'm a December 15th baby, and I do have to say my parents did try to make it a separate event from Christmas. I rarely got more than 2 or 3 gifts, but they were good ones. Christmas would come and they didn't change anything.

Baby as of right now is due December 19th! Plus, our wedding anniversary is December 1st. When we did talk about children, we always said we didn't want a December baby...but I guess here we are lol. I don't want to lump birthdays and Christmas together, but I think I'm going to be saving up for holidays earlier in the year instead of starting in September. Whew.

MamaWino · April 2016

You can add me to the slightly bummed to be due in Dec club. I always said I didn't want a Dec baby for many of the reasons listed above. I already have fall and spring babies and REALLY wanted a summer baby. I live in upstate NY and hate that all of my kids' birthday parties have to be inside. I'm due Dec 4 with this one so hopefully we won't be competing too much with Christmas but I still don't know how we're going to celebrate... my husband owns restaurants and is crazy busy from Thanksgiving till New Years so it's going to be tricky.

We have quite a few friends with Dec kids who have started doing half-birthday parties in the summer, rather than trying to compete with everyone's busy holiday schedules. So far it seems to work and the kids love it since the parties can be outside. Have any of you heard of this? I suppose it's something to at least consider. Maybe we'll just celebrate as a family and save the big party till summer. Who knows.

jennbaylor12 · April 2016

I'm def in the bummed to have a December Baby bunch, lol. In fact, when we first started talking about having children, I said the only month that I truly truly did not want to have a child in was December. But here we are! I have friends and family members with birthdays in December and definitely have heard more of the negatives than positives when it comes to many of the factors listed above. DH and I are thinking of doing a summer party perhaps? Our 2yo's birthday is in March - DH suggested combining them for a few years maybe? What we did decide was that when he/she is old enough we will let them choose if they want to have a party on/around their birthday or do they want to have one a different time of year and go with what they would prefer

phoenix870509 · April 2016

OMG December....where do I begin? I celebrate both Christmas and Hanukkah, my birthday is the 8th, DHs is the 16th. Our nephew is the 11th and our niece the 12th. My BILs is the 3rd. Our friends are the 5th, 9th, 19th and 27th. I also have 2 cousins whose birthdays are the 27th. My uncle is the 28th. DHs step grandmother's is also the 5th. The last thing I wanted was a December baby. And when am I due? December 9th. Someone has a sense of humor....

beff12 · April 2016

I'm also due the 24th!

My birthday is December 4th and even my birthday and Christmas presents would get combined by certain friends. Crazy. Obviously my parents didn't do that. My brother was born December 22nd and my parents have always given him very separate gifts.

I didn't understand when I was little and would get upset because extra family members would be in from out of town for Christmas and coincidentally his bday. I thought they just didn't care to come to my parties for a while

All that to say I think a Christmas baby will be fun and definitely doesn't have to get the shaft from at least us as parents. I've also heard of people doing half birthday parties for Christmas babies - a nice summer pool party/cookout with their friends!

JulieSmiles · April 2016

My birthday is December 19th. The only thing I recommend is that you keep them as separate events. My biggest frustration growing up was when friends would get a whole group of us the same gift but say it was my birthday and Christmas.

rstudard · April 2016

This made me laugh really hard! Life is funny that way!

slartybartfast · April 2016

I'm a Christmas baby - growing up I had very few bday parties. It was no big deal to me and I thought I must be incredibly special to have such an important birthday! I did get fewer presents and my parents didn't do a whole lot to make a deal out of my birthday but in the grand scheme of things, a very very minor thing in life.

The big thing was growing up and in college, for a couple birthdays, friends/boyfriends threw big parties for me. I totally freaked out because the idea of people gathering to celebrate me was foreign to me

Morgan400 · April 2016

I have a December 24th birthday! I don't know any other way, but I don't think it has been a big inconvenience or disadvantage in my life. My extended family would sometimes give me presents at thanksgiving to break it up. I remember having some 1/2 birthday parties and sometimes we would do it in January. I loved always being off school for my birthday!!

Glitter · April 2016

My birthday is January 5th so I always got the good gifts lol. Its like ppl would give me their presents or use gift cards for me hahaha. But my SO and family say its hard to double buy for me. I worry about the baby but hope that I can make their birthday special.

R0824H · April 2016

I'm not THAT close to Christmas (Dec 1) but still in the month where the holiday falls, my birthday was never played down. My parents didn't give me less gifts because I'd be getting more in 24 days. I thought it was kind of awesome because if my birthday was a weekend that's when my dad's work Christmas party would be AND the Christmas parade. When Dh and I started TTC we didn't really want a baby born in October-April (yeah I was one of THOSE people lol ) only for the reason that there are more options for birthday parties in warmer months than winter where you have to stay indoors, but we fully knew if we got to this point we really wouldn't care and we don't at all

ArtlessIbex · April 2016

DD is Dec 12, and this one will probably be right around Thanksgiving. Neither bothers me. We work to make it clear that birthdays are separate from Christmas in all ways. She has a party and gifts around her birthday that are in no way Christmas themed, and then we have Christmas. It doesn't bother her, so why should it bother me? Letting a holiday "overshadow" her birthday is completely within my control. I determine how and when attention is paid to her birthday and to Christmas. It's okay to be in charge of making sure your kiddo feels special on her special day.

RatsPJ · April 2016

This may be an UO however we had been TTC for a while, and nowhere near as long as some others on here. I'm so over the moon excited about a baby that I couldn't care less when he/she gets here.

beff12 · April 2016

@RatsPJ amen sister.

SchruteBucks · April 2016

My last baby was due Christmas Day. She chose to come on the 30th though. So far, it hasn't been an issue that her birthday is so close to Christmas. We make sure to celebrate both separately. When she gets older and wants to have parties, we'll just schedule it for earlier in December or later in January.

cjt121413 · April 2016

***TW Loss Mentioned***

What @RatsPJsaid. After having an MC in November and praying like crazy for a sticky rainbow baby, we'll be thrilled to have a healthy baby any day of the year. Our EDD is December 19, but I will have a RCS probably around the 12th. Our wedding anniversary is December 14. We'll be thrilled either way. I love the holidays and this will be one more thing to love.

shara3333 · April 2016

Based on LMP I'm due 12/23, but tracking O I was a few days later than "norm" so it could be 12/26. I have a DS that will be 3yo in July and what I really worry about is being in the hospital and missing his face Christmas morning....also figuring out who will play Santa if my husband is in the hospital with me. I know we'll do whatever we can to make sure this LO feels birthday and Christmas love separately - if anything I'm sure DS will end up being jealous of the "extra" gifts this LO will get. Then I can feel guilty about that. Mom guilt is real and sometimes makes you crazy.

CNCBump · April 2016

I actually WANTED a December baby. EDD is the same as my DH's birthday (Dec 11) and I've always loved celebrating his birthday during December. His parents were great about separating his birthday and Christmas. I just think December is just a happy month so I'm excited to add one more thing to celebrate!

lizncar20 · April 2016

The 3yo doesn't know what day is actually Dec. 25th. If my baby forced me to be in the hospital on Christmas Day, we would just celebrate a few days late. I wouldn't miss his face!

cjm1994 · April 2016

Exactly I always kinda wanted to avoid a December birthday.. In my family alone we have 6 birthdays in December. But in just looking on the up side I get to have one of my biggest dreams come true and I'm due the first week of December so that's better at least (:

cdbishop · April 2016

I'm due December 24th too. My 2 year olds birthday is December 8th (she was actually due on Thanksgiving day). It will definitely be tough, but we will make the kids feel special. My main concern now is having to be in the hospital on Christmas with my 2 (then 3 year old) not being home for Christmas with her.

ve304856 · April 2016

I can relate on being bummed about being due so close to Christmas. I will have a 5 year old and a 2 year old at Christmas, and my oldest will know when Christmas is. I am due on Dec 26th. I am just hoping I have this baby a week early like my other 2 pregnancies.

JEM525 · April 2016

Has anyone thought about celebrating the 1/2 birthday instead? Is that crazy? My DH has a December birthday close to Christmas and from age 7 on he had the option of picking to celebrate his 1/2 birthday for his "friends" birthday party. They still celebrated with family on his real birthday but did a pool party in the summer with his friends.

OliveP27 · April 2016

I'm due on 12/23 but I have babies early so it's more likely to be around the middle of the month. My MIL actually hates her 12/27 birthday. My guess is that parents have the ability to make that or break that experience for the kids. Look on the bright side, they will probably always get that time off school or work!

s _mac23 · April 2016

I'm due December 10th. My 8 year old was born January 1st. We usually have is party in November so that it's not breaking people's bank. He loves it. I was a bit sad that I'd be having another baby so close to Christmas but it's not that bad. I have a lot of family born in December, including the 25th and 26th. They always have a party and it's never overshadowed. Christmas is just a hallmark holiday anyways. Spoil your child on their birthday and buy them 1 or 2 things for Christmas. Their birthday should be far more important. Christmas is about family and spending time with each other. Not about gifts.

brouwer2016 · April 2016

I'm surprised so many people are bummed out by a December due date. I'm pumped about mine! Myself, my grandma, my sister, husband, 2 nephews, grandpa, mother and father in law, and cousin all have December birthdays. We love it. We always have a huge party in early December celebrating our birthdays, and it feels really special celebrating with so many people. As a kid, I loved having a December birthday. We got to do something different for a birthday party outside of the typical pool party/ BBQ. We would go bowling, to a movie theatre, to a restaurant, etc. Or what about a skiing or tobogganing day? (If you get snow!)
I'm just thrilled about the fact that I am having a baby - the birth month really is no factor.

Lexibizzel · April 2016

I've really enjoyed everyone's perspectives on the topic. Hopefully we will still be active on the board in the months leading up to December 2017, and can share birthday ideas. I'm planning my DD's first birthday in June, and for those who haven't been there yet, is it ever fun!

I'm hoping that no one feels this is an insensitive topic. I'm sure we are all very appreciative of of our December babies on the way. This is just one, of many, aspects of our LO's life that (IMO) is worth considering.

emilie250 · April 2016

My husband's birthday is Dec 21 and his mom always waited until Dec 22 to put up the christmas tree. Thought some other people might like this suggestion!

beff12 · April 2016

It's funny how different our perspectives are! I mentioned in my post that my birthday is December 4. We always have the tree up for it because I'm a Christmas freak and love having the decorations around for my birthday!

silverfrost · April 2016

I share your concerns! My husband's birthday is December 17th and mine is November 28th. Hubby's brother has a December 26th bday too and both his parents were born in November! And here we are having another holiday time/December birthday. Goodness!

HopefulNoob · April 2016

I'm December 25th and it kinda sucked growing up but I love it now. Mine is due December 1st so we'll see. Winter birthdays are awesome and I'm really hoping for December vs November.

millerclanx5 · April 2016

I have a nephew whose birthday is December 16th, then my brothers is the 17th, then mine is the 18th. I was much more bummed about having to share a birthday close to my brother than the holidays. I'm really hoping not to continue the streak and have this LO on the 15th or 19th. I'm due the 21st.

Kacie209 · April 2016

Dating not confirmed yet, but due around December 12 based on the due date calculators. So, I do plan on making sure birthdays and the holidays are separate. Our oldest nephew's birthday is December 5, which is enough time between. We still get him things for both.

DH said we could have combo birthday parties. I'm like... yeah, maybe after they're a little older for family only IF they're that close. But, I'd like to allow our child to have their own birthday parties for awhile and not share with a cousin. Especially their first. Plus, if we have a girl... they'll never get their own theme since their older cousin (by 8 years once our baby is born) is a boy. My sister and I are 8 days apart and we shared family birthday gatherings for a long time.

Having a birthday party and Christmas so close may hinder some family (like my sister who lives out of town) from attending, so I may have to get creative.

em01092 · April 2016

A friend of mine growing up had a birthday on 12/24. Her mom always made a big deal about her half birthday in June and would throw a pool party for her then. Kids don't care, they just like a reason to swim and eat cake lol. If they did anything for her actual birthday it was small and just family, but distinct from any Christmas/holiday festivities. I think that was a cool way to go about it.

ETA: Because I can't do math and figure out what month is 6 months before December this early apparently. =P

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