June 2016 Moms

UO??

24

Re: UO??

  • Loading the player...
  • H came to every appointment with me when I had DS because his schedule allowed for mornings off. This time around, he stays home with DS and I go. I do this because its nice to enjoy an hour BY MYSELF. Why? Because I have a crazy toddler that I focus 100% of my time & energy on and am available to 24/7 365. 
  • For the girl bikini issue - Italy has an interesting take on this.  Both little girls & boys wear bottoms only - bikini bottoms for girls, speedos or trunks for boys.  There's nothing on top, so nothing to cover - for either.  This is the most common beach attire for little girls. 

    I'd say they don't start wearing tops until the age when the girls themselves would start to get modest - probably 9 or so.  Initially, I thought this was very weird, but I've gotten used to it.  Children's chest are just not sexual. 

    For the record, Italian women very rarely go topless - it's fairly common in other parts of Europe (France & Scandinavia come to mind), but all the topless women I've seen in public in Italy were foreigners.  So it's not an issue of all ladies going topless.


  • @June2016BabyW your job sounds heartbreaking. I'm as glad that there are people able to do what you do as I am angry and sad that it's necessary. 

    Also, this is totally FFFC, but I had no idea that it wouldn't be "normal". My husband comes to almost every appointment. However, we are both fortunate enough to have jobs where there really isn't a schedule. We usually have a nice lunch and it ends up being like a date. 
    My hubby has come to all of mine too, except the last 2, he had jobs out of state. I like when he comes with me, plus I like not having to drive. He loves hearing the heart beat. We have a nice lunch after too. It's nice
    Pregnancy Ticker

  • @ahernandez16 I agree with you. My issue is more with people boycotting businesses and yelling at people about the issue just because you don't agree with their opinions. If people want to cause problems in a bathroom, a sign won't stop them. Everyone should just learn to respect others opinions and let them live their lives. 


    Pregnancy TickerBaby Birthday Ticker Ticker

  • alileecamalileecam member
    edited April 2016
    And the mic drop award goes to @CourtJack and @WinniethePoohsPants! I'm with you all the way.

    I'd also like to add that if a child can ask for broccoli, he's too old for br....oh, wait...that makes NO SENSE. And news flash: breastfeeding is not 100% only about nutrition, either. 
    True--the specific example I gave could have been a case of the child doing it for comfort. I thought about that. I think it just ended up being really distracting for other people in the meeting (whether that's right or wrong) and it's just not something I'd choose to do. But my experience has been that DS1 lost interest in BFing at 9 months, so my perspective is probably different just right off the bat because of that. Add to that: I have experienced harassment and discrimination in both my pregnancies, as well as when I went back to work after DS1 in a business setting. (Examples: I was fired. My direct supervisor balked when I asked for a place and time to pump. She also called me a cow.) People assumed that I wasn't as focused on job/work simply because I was becoming a mom or a parent of a newborn. Would I want to invite further discrimination by BFing in a business meeting? Nope. It's not right that I am scared of that, but it was real for me. 

    I have a friend who is still BFing her 4 year old constantly and will do it for the foreseeable future. I met her in La Leche League, so I consider it my job to keep cheering them on. If it works for them, fantastic. (It might hurt once he gets braces, though...)
    TTC#1 since May 2011

    BFP #1 June 2011 m/c@6wks

    BFP #2 December 2011, EDD 8/21/12, born 7/21/12 at 35w4d

    image
    Baby Birthday Ticker Ticker
    BFP #3 October 6, 2015. WHAT???

    Baby Birthday Ticker Ticker
  • I was totally going to mention that extended breastfeeding has little to do with nutrition in cultures where it is not deemed "inappropriate" by society, but @parsonsperson beat me to it. I'll add that breastfeeding is often cut short in cultures where it is a nutritional necessity due to malnourished mothers having the inability to continue milk production.
    Pregnancy Ticker
  • And the mic drop award goes to @CourtJack and @WinniethePoohsPants! I'm with you all the way.

    I'd also like to add that if a child can ask for broccoli, he's too old for br....oh, wait...that makes NO SENSE. And news flash: breastfeeding is not 100% only about nutrition, either. 
    Yes!  I was surprised to learn that many pediatricians now recommend either breastfeeding while giving vaccines or immediately after (depending on their comfort with hitting the target in a less than optimal position) because it is really comforting and soothing.  
  • I'm so out of the loop... googling target bathroom controversy 
    Pregnancy Ticker

  • And the mic drop award goes to @CourtJack and @WinniethePoohsPants! I'm with you all the way.

    I'd also like to add that if a child can ask for broccoli, he's too old for br....oh, wait...that makes NO SENSE. And news flash: breastfeeding is not 100% only about nutrition, either. 
    Yes!  I was surprised to learn that many pediatricians now recommend either breastfeeding while giving vaccines or immediately after (depending on their comfort with hitting the target in a less than optimal position) because it is really comforting and soothing.  
    With my second, the nurses told me to nurse while they did the heel prick blood test thing (don't remember what it's called) she barely flinched, was more annoyed they kept pulling her leg straight to squeeze the blood onto the paper. 
    With my first they didn't mention it and I didn't know and she screamed the whole time :( 
    BabyFruit Ticker BabyFetus Ticker


  • I am totally split on the bathroom situation. While I don't give a shit if a transgender man is peeing next to me at Target.. However, I do think that if a pedophile man walks into the Target mens bathroom looking to cause trouble no one would question it because its a man going into the mens restroom.. He could stay in there ALL day long and do whatever he does to numerous children becuase no one would question a man going in to the mens restroom. The second a man goes into the womens restroom I guarantee someone would notice and he would be out of there pronto. I do know that my son will be going to the womens restroom with me until he is old enough to punch a pedophile in the face. 
  • PalissonPalisson member
    edited May 2016
  • @June2016BabyW it's a horrible thing to have to say, but I have a 15 year old, so this is experience talking. You have to explain pedophiles and every other kind of sex crime to them eventually, no matter what they wear. Which I guess is kind of my UO. 

    I firmly believe that there are age appropriate conversations for children of all ages about sexuality and their bodies. People who avoid these conversations freak me out. I also have a 15 year old niece who is incredibly naive. She's my daughters best friend.  The body of a girl who had been murdered and assaulted was found on the campus of the college my daughter wants to attend just a few weeks ago. When she mentioned it to her cousin she had to explain what that meant. In less that 3 years my niece will be off to college and have a 1/5 chance of being sexually assaulted, but had no idea what that actually meant. If kids don't know the truth about these things then they cannot protect themselves or their peers. 
    I agree completely that these conversations have to be had (which truly is just horrifying to know). And it's not that I would consider NOT having the conversation. I think since I work with kids who have been molested and sexually abused, I am probably more likely to have the conversation fairly early on (the focus can't just be on "stranger danger" any more people). However, I still think when you put little girls in clothing that should (or shouldn't) be meant for older women, you are setting a trend for what they consider to be a norm. I have friends who let their kids wear bikinis throughout their childhood but once they told them they couldnt around the age of 12, the kids argued about it because it is what they have always done. I actually had a 14 year old come in for counseling with her mom not too long ago wearing shorts that would make a volleyball player blush. I told her she couldn't come to session in those any more. Both she and her mom looked really surprised and then her mom said "I told her they were too short." Then why did you buy them for her and why did you let her leave the house in them??!?! Oh...because you yourself are wearing those ridiculous patterned leggings. The kids argument? " I always wear stuff like this." 




    **STUCK ON BOX**

    Regarding the bonded

    Really? Apparently I am going to dress my child inappropriately because I wear silly patterned leggings. Big eye roll from me over here. 


    babysizercom pregnancy ticker

  • Sheesh, maybe I should have stuck to FFCF. You all are right, I'm a hateful bitch with no heart or empathy for anyone else's outstanding situation. I'm a completely one dimensional cartoon person defined solely by this one opinion. Generalizations ALWAYS apply to *everyone's* unique situations all the time, and there is literally no room for any outstanding circumstances or exceptions. I'm glad you thoughtful, kind, supportive and understanding folks are here to tell me what a horrible, bitchy, ignorant asshole I am. Otherwise I might never know. 
Sign In or Register to comment.
Choose Another Board
Search Boards
"
"