@laurenmdrn16 yes! I know people mean it as words of encouragement when they say stuff like that, but it can really backfire! My husband's father died when he was a kid, and his mom still talks about how angry it made her when people said "God only gives you what you can handle" or any variation of that. Her response basically was always "So you're saying if I was a weaker person, my husband would still be alive?"
I have 2: I do not like Oprah. Boom. I just don't. Not gonna change. (Suddenly, a glimmering on the horizon as the zealots rush with their torches and pitchforks).
I like wearing a bikini right now and am trying to get my tan on before this baby busts through the gates.
Amusing week we have. Although I think I missed the "you fancy" event. IDK what thread that was on
DH and I took DS to a water park this weekend (because, Florida. Also, it's likely the last "just us 3" event for a while) and I rocked that bikini!!! Most people commented were kind or smiled politely. One woman (teen?) in the ladies room grunted and muttered "Gross!", but frankly, I didn't care. First, it's nice to not have to suck it in! Second, I'm making a human, and wearing a horizontal striped maternity suite wouldn't somehow make that less obvious, so what's the problem? And third, my boobs looked spectacular!! DH kept telling me how hot I looked in my bikini. Bonus to the other pregnant woman I saw there rocking one herself while corralling a toddler. We smiled and gave each other the chin lift as we passed each other throughout the day. Big bellies unite!!
@laurenmdrn16 As a Christian, I hate the phrase "God won't give you any more than you can handle." I have a friend that has a little girl that was born with a heart defect and blindness. She says that, yes, there are times when she is angry and frustrated with her situation, but it has also caused her to lean on God more for strength, not herself.
This woman was a great mom to her "normal" older daughter before her special needs daughter came along, and she didn't suddenly become a "saint" once she was born.
Married: May 2012 DS1: May 2016 DS2: Jan 2019 Baby #3 EDD: 6/18/24
Can I also throw "for all intensive purposes" into the grammar ring. Because no. I mean...when will the less intense purposes be recognized???
Also...and please God let this be something esoteric to my world and not a widespread (mis)saying...but it's not a "moo point." Cows have literally nothing to do with it.
Oh! And you don't nip anything in the butt. Well, ok, I don't know, maybe you do. But if you do I don't think I want to hear about it. Unless it has to do with Butt Baby because I still want to hear about that.
Wait...didn't we have a thread on this topic months ago?
A longstanding opinion of mine, resurrected by the moo points on this thread...
Ross is literally the worst, in every respect, and Joey and Rachel were so good for one another: both good people with similar senses of humor and similar outlooks on the world, and they had such a sweet relationship, and the writers had to totally warp both of their characters to prevent them from continuing to date. There is literally no reason that Rachel should have ended up even contemplating any sort of relationship with Ross, other than the stock narrative of the nerd getting the hot girl (whom he has fetishized and not actually listened to for the last decade).
My UO (which I hope is not an UO!) is that I am Team Rachel and Joey (with Ross in a ditch covered in petrol on fire).
Our society is getting a bit better in that norms are broadening to accept feminine beauty as not only the supermodel bodies, but also strong, powerful, and pregnant bodies. If someone has a problem with pregnant bodies or breastfeeding, that is their narrow minded issue.
@ncm0328 I have one of those cousins who leaves cryptic messages on her FB wall, and then when people respond with "what's wrong?" she either doesn't answer or she says "PM me". Seriously?
@TheThornBird I never thought of it that way.....now I'm going to sanitize the equipment even more at the gym. Ewwwwwwww.
I hid my SIL because of her excessive vague posting. And when she wasn't vague posting, she was complaining.
My UO is when women refer to unmedicated child birth as natural birth. As in "I'm hoping for a natural birth". Honey, everything about birthing a baby is natural, no matter how your baby is delivered.
I am in complete agreement that Ross was the worst character on the show, but that hasn't stopped me from watching every episode 50 times each!
My UO this week is that older people are very rude but can get away with it because they are older. I've worked in customer service since I was 17 (first in a restaurant, then I worked for a news website, hotel, and then a bank). I have never been screamed at by anyone under the age of 25, nor have I felt like less than a person when trying to help young customers. Older folks, however, seem to believe they are entitled to much more than any other customer and feel the right to yell at or mistreat anyone in the service industry as soon as something doesn't go their way. Trust me, I can understand your anger when a company or employee is too incompetent to complete the standard service you have paid for. But that doesn't give you the right to mistreat a human being who is genuinely trying to help you. It frustrates me that so many young people are understanding and calm in these situations but older people think there is something seriously wrong with that generation (sagging pants aside).
@laurenmdrn16 - I'm not a Christian (or any other religion, actually) and I totally get why people say this (my grandmother still repeats it about the daughter she lost 60 years ago, like a vocal talisman) - but I agree. It's a terrible saying and it needs to end. The idea that a family is particularly picked out for hard living leads to such expectations of that family that they shouldn't have to deal with - they can be overwhelmed, it's okay to be overwhelmed, but saying things like "God chose you!" increases their chances of then not seeking out help, and that's not a consequence I want to live with.
@dshannah and @emsnedds - YES! Finally - people who agree with me! I hated Ross, and I would literally leave the room when the story line was all about him. He was just annoying and Rachel was not a prize to be won, dammnit! She had so much character growth throughout the series ... and Ross ruins it (that being said, I have a weird appreciation for David Schwimmer, possibly because he's a feminist who took up causes in my area?)
For the grammar police people - I was like that too. I think, for me it was part and parcel of being an immigrant ESL person - you get made fun of for saying things like "yous" and "Sangwich" and other things, like "Close the lights" (my husband still makes fun of me for that one, "You turn off the lights in English, babe. You literally cannot close them.") - and you become a little neurotic about it, so I spent a good deal of my life being snotty abut grammar. Then I realized that language isn't so static: we are literally changing language all the time just through speaking it and adopting new things, discarding old ones - which is why reading Shakespeare can be a bitch to us nowadays, I suppose. Understanding that language is not static and that the people who usually get made fun of for poor grammar are ESLs like me, or ill-educated people, suddenly made being snotty about grammar seem shallow, or worse - oppressive, so I've tried to curb it myself. And before people get offended: I am not saying any one of you is making fun of ESLs and ill educated people - I am saying that understanding that's where a lot of the grammar policing stuff comes from made me look at it in a different way.
My UO this week is that I still love to celebrate my birthday (this has come up because it is tomorrow and I am making a huge cake since it's 30, and everyone I've spoken to has said that's silly, childish or brave - the latter of which I think is funny since it's just 30 - If I want to live to 90, it's only a third of the way there!) - bring on the cake and sparklers!
@AmmyBelle um, yeah, as far as I'm concerned you NEVER need a reason to have a huge cake. So forget what everyone else says, have an awesome 30th bday cake!
I am in complete agreement that Ross was the worst character on the show, but that hasn't stopped me from watching every episode 50 times each!
My UO this week is that older people are very rude but can get away with it because they are older. I've worked in customer service since I was 17 (first in a restaurant, then I worked for a news website, hotel, and then a bank). I have never been screamed at by anyone under the age of 25, nor have I felt like less than a person when trying to help young customers. Older folks, however, seem to believe they are entitled to much more than any other customer and feel the right to yell at or mistreat anyone in the service industry as soon as something doesn't go their way. Trust me, I can understand your anger when a company or employee is too incompetent to complete the standard service you have paid for. But that doesn't give you the right to mistreat a human being who is genuinely trying to help you. It frustrates me that so many young people are understanding and calm in these situations but older people think there is something seriously wrong with that generation (sagging pants aside).
Whaaaa whatttt????? Ross was the best!! I mean, who else gets stuck in his leather pants (best episode ever).
@AmmyBelle It's my 29th today, so not really a special one, and I am SO getting cake. A really big piece, too. To me, 30 seems like one worth celebrating. Go ahead and eat the whole thing!
@AmmyBelle It's my 29th today, so not really a special one, and I am SO getting cake. A really big piece, too. To me, 30 seems like one worth celebrating. Go ahead and eat the whole thing!
I can't stand lengthy personal calls in cubicle land. Something quick is fine but please don't spend ten minutes discussing with your husband if he needs to buy a new sweater, if it's the right time to plant kale, or about your personal weekend agenda.
I am in complete agreement that Ross was the worst character on the show, but that hasn't stopped me from watching every episode 50 times each!
My UO this week is that older people are very rude but can get away with it because they are older. I've worked in customer service since I was 17 (first in a restaurant, then I worked for a news website, hotel, and then a bank). I have never been screamed at by anyone under the age of 25, nor have I felt like less than a person when trying to help young customers. Older folks, however, seem to believe they are entitled to much more than any other customer and feel the right to yell at or mistreat anyone in the service industry as soon as something doesn't go their way. Trust me, I can understand your anger when a company or employee is too incompetent to complete the standard service you have paid for. But that doesn't give you the right to mistreat a human being who is genuinely trying to help you. It frustrates me that so many young people are understanding and calm in these situations but older people think there is something seriously wrong with that generation (sagging pants aside).
Whaaaa whatttt????? Ross was the best!! I mean, who else gets stuck in his leather pants (best episode ever).
Hahaha! Okay, the leather pants were good, but another example of Ross being a major mess. He's such a debbie-downer throughout the series
Also for today, since I saw this hilarious Magic School Bus video about anti-vaxxers on Facebook, I thought I would throw in my UO (probably not super UO hopefully) about how silly I think this new "trend" is. Here's the video for anyone that needs a good laugh and agrees that vaccines are necessary. https://m.youtube.com/watch?v=nDjz5qHIzsc
I am in complete agreement that Ross was the worst character on the show, but that hasn't stopped me from watching every episode 50 times each!
My UO this week is that older people are very rude but can get away with it because they are older. I've worked in customer service since I was 17 (first in a restaurant, then I worked for a news website, hotel, and then a bank). I have never been screamed at by anyone under the age of 25, nor have I felt like less than a person when trying to help young customers. Older folks, however, seem to believe they are entitled to much more than any other customer and feel the right to yell at or mistreat anyone in the service industry as soon as something doesn't go their way. Trust me, I can understand your anger when a company or employee is too incompetent to complete the standard service you have paid for. But that doesn't give you the right to mistreat a human being who is genuinely trying to help you. It frustrates me that so many young people are understanding and calm in these situations but older people think there is something seriously wrong with that generation (sagging pants aside).
Whaaaa whatttt????? Ross was the best!! I mean, who else gets stuck in his leather pants (best episode ever).
Hahaha! Okay, the leather pants were good, but another example of Ross being a major mess. He's such a debbie-downer throughout the series
But comon! The guy always had something happening to him. Wouldn't you be a DD?
I'll be flamed for this but.... I think Friends is overrated. My college roommate was obsessed but it just never did anything for me.There are defenitly good episodes but as a series IMO it's kind of generic. Seinfeld > Friends
I'll be flamed for this but.... I think Friends is overrated. My college roommate was obsessed but it just never did anything for me.There are defenitly good episodes but as a series IMO it's kind of generic. Seinfeld > Friends
YES! Seinfeld all the way! DH likes Friends and actually owned the box set before I met him . . . I don't know why but I never really found it that great and that's not for a lack of trying. I have had several people try to get me to like it and I have seen at least half of the episodes but it just doesn't do anything for me.
@charla1224 and @kurrant, I think there is a divide in this country. Not on race or political stance. But on Friends vs Seinfeld. I have been saying this for years. Personally I DESPISE Seinfeld but would watch 24 hours of Friends marathon if I could. Definitely have noticed that people tend to like one over the other.
I'm completely with the grammar folks. All of the shorthand like "ur" and "2" instead of too, make me crazy. However, slight confession, it's probably the Texan in me but I often say things like "I used to could" ... I never even noticed it until my older brother pointed it out one time and said it was nonsensical! I guess "I used to be able to" would be more grammatically correct but it is so long to say! So I often don't. I also say "y'all" and "I's" as in short for I was ... that one even drives me crazy. It is really more like "I was" in one syllable... but I promise I'm not a hick!
UO - DH and I have a huge family (parents are divorced and all but one are remarried so we have 7 parents, not to mention siblings and half siblings and their spouses and children, etc). We are very close with all of them and love them dearly. However, I wish I could have the baby without telling anyone. With my first, hours after CS (which, I think people forget, is major surgery), I had about 15 people in the hospital room at once. I couldn't see DD's first bath, nobody could hear me even if I yelled. My anxiety has NEVER been so bad. This time, I'm going to put in my birth plan that I want no more than two visitors (not including myself, DH, DD, and LO) in the room at one time. And visitors are not to stay for more than an hour. I want the nurses to actively kick people out. DH is on board and will help schedule when people come visit via text but seriously... it was miserable. FX for a quick VBAC before my RCS so nobody is in town!
I am in complete agreement that Ross was the worst character on the show, but that hasn't stopped me from watching every episode 50 times each!
My UO this week is that older people are very rude but can get away with it because they are older. I've worked in customer service since I was 17 (first in a restaurant, then I worked for a news website, hotel, and then a bank). I have never been screamed at by anyone under the age of 25, nor have I felt like less than a person when trying to help young customers. Older folks, however, seem to believe they are entitled to much more than any other customer and feel the right to yell at or mistreat anyone in the service industry as soon as something doesn't go their way. Trust me, I can understand your anger when a company or employee is too incompetent to complete the standard service you have paid for. But that doesn't give you the right to mistreat a human being who is genuinely trying to help you. It frustrates me that so many young people are understanding and calm in these situations but older people think there is something seriously wrong with that generation (sagging pants aside).
Having also worked in customer service for a long time, I totally see this and hate it. I worked at an upscale custom cake bakery for three and a half years. The people that came in there were INSANE. I mean, I totally get that when you are spending way too much money on something frivolous and it doesn't come out how you imagined, it can be very frustrating. But the entitled douchehelmets that came in to this place and complained about MINOR, EASILY FIXABLE things destroyed my soul. And you're right, it was mostly middle aged people. Not that I didn't get my share of obnoxious younger people, too. And now at my current job, most of our customers are middle age and elderly, and there are some real awful ones. The worst part is that all these years of working customer service has made me learn the ways to complain to get what I want. I mean, I consider myself a very courteous customer because of the hell I've been through, but when a business truly does fail me or piss me off, instead of just letting it go and not dealing with them anymore, I find myself more and more complaining or trying to see "what can be done for me" or whatever. Don't get me wrong, I'm still way more respectful about it than most of the jerks I've dealt with, but I hate that I've become that person!
@TheThornBird you should totally make your husband watch that video! Crowd-immunity was only ever meant to keep young infants safe between vaccines, not so adults could just opt-out of vaccines permanently.
And I'm with @yogahh about the great divide in our nation over Friends vs Seinfeld. Despite our disagreement on Ross, I could never replace Friends.
Add me to the "Friends is overrated" camp. It would be better if Ross wasn't so awful. And Joey. And Rachel. And Monica. Then again, I don't Seinfeld either. Only Full House for me, forever
I see your Friends vs Seinfeld debate, and I have to say...I come down on the side of Frasier.
@sillyfox Same here! I'm so picky about the way I write (with the occasional "y'all" thrown in, and goodness knows I have a tendency for run-ons), but I use a ridiculous amount of Texan/Southern dialect in my actual speech. It gets worse when I'm around my mother...I can hear the accent getting thicker and I can't stop it.
*QBF* I also dislike him because of how he treated Camille. I am also a huge fan of his production company and some of the shows they've produced and I've learned that it was lead by Camille.
I haven't watched many episodes of the shows that are listed (Friends, Seinfeld, Frasier, etc.) to say I like one more than the other. My UO is that I hate watching reruns so marathons would be out for me.
Re: UO Thursday 4/14
@Aquinna82 I believe Joey from Friends would disagree with your "moo point" argument
This woman was a great mom to her "normal" older daughter before her special needs daughter came along, and she didn't suddenly become a "saint" once she was born.
DS1: May 2016
DS2: Jan 2019
Baby #3 EDD: 6/18/24
YES to all the grammar comments! I think some of you ladies may enjoy this post.
https://hyperboleandahalf.blogspot.ca/2010/04/alot-is-better-than-you-at-everything.html
BFP #1: 9/12/2015
DD: 6/1/2016
BFP #2: 1/16/2018 MC 2/2/2018
Ross is literally the worst, in every respect, and Joey and Rachel were so good for one another: both good people with similar senses of humor and similar outlooks on the world, and they had such a sweet relationship, and the writers had to totally warp both of their characters to prevent them from continuing to date. There is literally no reason that Rachel should have ended up even contemplating any sort of relationship with Ross, other than the stock narrative of the nerd getting the hot girl (whom he has fetishized and not actually listened to for the last decade).
My UO (which I hope is not an UO!) is that I am Team Rachel and Joey (with Ross in a ditch covered in petrol on fire).
You are so awesome. All the high fives.
Our society is getting a bit better in that norms are broadening to accept feminine beauty as not only the supermodel bodies, but also strong, powerful, and pregnant bodies.
If someone has a problem with pregnant bodies or breastfeeding, that is their narrow minded issue.
My UO this week is that older people are very rude but can get away with it because they are older. I've worked in customer service since I was 17 (first in a restaurant, then I worked for a news website, hotel, and then a bank). I have never been screamed at by anyone under the age of 25, nor have I felt like less than a person when trying to help young customers. Older folks, however, seem to believe they are entitled to much more than any other customer and feel the right to yell at or mistreat anyone in the service industry as soon as something doesn't go their way. Trust me, I can understand your anger when a company or employee is too incompetent to complete the standard service you have paid for. But that doesn't give you the right to mistreat a human being who is genuinely trying to help you. It frustrates me that so many young people are understanding and calm in these situations but older people think there is something seriously wrong with that generation (sagging pants aside).
@dshannah and @emsnedds - YES! Finally - people who agree with me! I hated Ross, and I would literally leave the room when the story line was all about him. He was just annoying and Rachel was not a prize to be won, dammnit! She had so much character growth throughout the series ... and Ross ruins it (that being said, I have a weird appreciation for David Schwimmer, possibly because he's a feminist who took up causes in my area?)
For the grammar police people - I was like that too. I think, for me it was part and parcel of being an immigrant ESL person - you get made fun of for saying things like "yous" and "Sangwich" and other things, like "Close the lights" (my husband still makes fun of me for that one, "You turn off the lights in English, babe. You literally cannot close them.") - and you become a little neurotic about it, so I spent a good deal of my life being snotty abut grammar. Then I realized that language isn't so static: we are literally changing language all the time just through speaking it and adopting new things, discarding old ones - which is why reading Shakespeare can be a bitch to us nowadays, I suppose. Understanding that language is not static and that the people who usually get made fun of for poor grammar are ESLs like me, or ill-educated people, suddenly made being snotty about grammar seem shallow, or worse - oppressive, so I've tried to curb it myself. And before people get offended: I am not saying any one of you is making fun of ESLs and ill educated people - I am saying that understanding that's where a lot of the grammar policing stuff comes from made me look at it in a different way.
My UO this week is that I still love to celebrate my birthday (this has come up because it is tomorrow and I am making a huge cake since it's 30, and everyone I've spoken to has said that's silly, childish or brave - the latter of which I think is funny since it's just 30 - If I want to live to 90, it's only a third of the way there!) - bring on the cake and sparklers!
BFP #1: 9/12/2015
DD: 6/1/2016
BFP #2: 1/16/2018 MC 2/2/2018
@asummerbride - Thanks
DD: 05/14/16
UO - DH and I have a huge family (parents are divorced and all but one are remarried so we have 7 parents, not to mention siblings and half siblings and their spouses and children, etc). We are very close with all of them and love them dearly. However, I wish I could have the baby without telling anyone. With my first, hours after CS (which, I think people forget, is major surgery), I had about 15 people in the hospital room at once. I couldn't see DD's first bath, nobody could hear me even if I yelled. My anxiety has NEVER been so bad. This time, I'm going to put in my birth plan that I want no more than two visitors (not including myself, DH, DD, and LO) in the room at one time. And visitors are not to stay for more than an hour. I want the nurses to actively kick people out. DH is on board and will help schedule when people come visit via text but seriously... it was miserable. FX for a quick VBAC before my RCS so nobody is in town!
BFP 1: 9/15/2013 | DD 5/23/2014
BFP 2: 9/15/2015 | EDD 5/26/2016
And I'm with @yogahh about the great divide in our nation over Friends vs Seinfeld. Despite our disagreement on Ross, I could never replace Friends.
Then again, I don't Seinfeld either. Only Full House for me, forever
@sillyfox Same here! I'm so picky about the way I write (with the occasional "y'all" thrown in, and goodness knows I have a tendency for run-ons), but I use a ridiculous amount of Texan/Southern dialect in my actual speech. It gets worse when I'm around my mother...I can hear the accent getting thicker and I can't stop it.
DD: 05/14/16