So I used to work as a nurse at a drs office (7 years ago), where I am now receiving care for this pregnancy. I went in for my first appt, and ran into an old coworker who works in medical records . We did small chit chat, but never did I tell her why I was being seen (family practice office, she had no clue). That appointment did not end well. They could not find a heart beat (everything is great now , I was just earlier than expected).
Well, we finally told a few close friends about my news last week. One of them works in that same office in medical records. When I told her, she said "Gina mentioned something about that to me the other day. She said you were pregnant, and I said 'what?'. Gina said, 'didn't you know?'". My friend said she looked at her weird and said Gina got a weird look on her face and said "uh, yeah, she posted it on instagram". My friend checked right away and told her "there is nothing there." Gina told my friend "oh she must have deleted it, maybe she didn't want people to know".
Yay, no freaking shit I didn't want people to know! She flat out lied to cover her butt, I never posted in on social media! I gave it a few day to cool off, but when I think about it, I get just as angry again. It makes me mad that she has no integrity for working in MR as the supervisor and doesn't know how to keep info confidential, and blabbed it to my friend. With my history of losses and a bad appointment, it makes me even more angry.
My friend said I should report her, but I hate to throw my friend under the bus. She also told me that in electronic MR, it shows when people log into a chart. It will show Gina logging in (to see the reason for my appointment ). I didn't have labs or imaging for her to scan in. There was absolutely no reason for her to be on my chart.
So, with that said, would you report it? I am pretty sure I am going to, I just don't want my friend to regret telling me this info.
I hope this post makes sense, sorry it's long without a ; TLDR.



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Re: HIPAA- wwyd?
IUI #1 Feb 2012= DS1 born 11/2012
Unmedicated BFP (first post-weaning cycle)=DS2 born 9/2014
Unmedicated BFP (first post-weaning cycle again)= EDD 11/2016
As soon as I saw you, I knew an adventure was going to happen - Winnie the Pooh
Married 8/22/09
Pregnancy 1- EDD 11/21/10 NMC @ 6 weeks
Pregnancy 2 - Rainbow DS born 1/15/11
Pregnancy 3 - EDD 5/2/14 NMC @ 6 weeks 9/4/13
Pregnancy 4 - EDD 6/11/14 BO @ 9 weeks D&C 11/8/13
AF arrived 12/18/13
BENCH IS BURNED 2/2014
TTA until May/June
WOW!!! I'm pregnant!!! BFP 6/8/14 Rainbow on the way EDD 2/14/15
Winnie the Pooh
IUI #1 Feb 2012= DS1 born 11/2012
Unmedicated BFP (first post-weaning cycle)=DS2 born 9/2014
Unmedicated BFP (first post-weaning cycle again)= EDD 11/2016
That being said, it's certainly wrong that she told someone about it and I agree that it's a violation of HIPPA. She could lose her job if you report her, or she could explain to her bosses that she had a legitimate reason for accessing your record.
Married: October 2014
Began TTC: April 2015
BFP #1: 9/18/15. EDD 5/18/16. MC 10/26/15. (9w)
BFP #2: 2/27/16. EDD 11/7/16. MC/D&E 4/20/16 (11w)
BFP #3: 9/22/16. EDD 5/29/17. DS born 4/24/17
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As soon as I saw you, I knew an adventure was going to happen - Winnie the Pooh
Married 8/22/09
Pregnancy 1- EDD 11/21/10 NMC @ 6 weeks
Pregnancy 2 - Rainbow DS born 1/15/11
Pregnancy 3 - EDD 5/2/14 NMC @ 6 weeks 9/4/13
Pregnancy 4 - EDD 6/11/14 BO @ 9 weeks D&C 11/8/13
AF arrived 12/18/13
BENCH IS BURNED 2/2014
TTA until May/June
WOW!!! I'm pregnant!!! BFP 6/8/14 Rainbow on the way EDD 2/14/15
Winnie the Pooh
But my question is are you asking if you should report her to her employer, or to the federal gov't?
Awesome Kid #2: Due November 2016!
As soon as I saw you, I knew an adventure was going to happen - Winnie the Pooh
Married 8/22/09
Pregnancy 1- EDD 11/21/10 NMC @ 6 weeks
Pregnancy 2 - Rainbow DS born 1/15/11
Pregnancy 3 - EDD 5/2/14 NMC @ 6 weeks 9/4/13
Pregnancy 4 - EDD 6/11/14 BO @ 9 weeks D&C 11/8/13
AF arrived 12/18/13
BENCH IS BURNED 2/2014
TTA until May/June
WOW!!! I'm pregnant!!! BFP 6/8/14 Rainbow on the way EDD 2/14/15
Winnie the Pooh
IUI #1 Feb 2012= DS1 born 11/2012
Unmedicated BFP (first post-weaning cycle)=DS2 born 9/2014
Unmedicated BFP (first post-weaning cycle again)= EDD 11/2016
Me - 33 DH - 30
Married May 2015
TTC #1 since January 2016
BFP 03/14/16
EDD 11/22/16
As soon as I saw you, I knew an adventure was going to happen - Winnie the Pooh
Married 8/22/09
Pregnancy 1- EDD 11/21/10 NMC @ 6 weeks
Pregnancy 2 - Rainbow DS born 1/15/11
Pregnancy 3 - EDD 5/2/14 NMC @ 6 weeks 9/4/13
Pregnancy 4 - EDD 6/11/14 BO @ 9 weeks D&C 11/8/13
AF arrived 12/18/13
BENCH IS BURNED 2/2014
TTA until May/June
WOW!!! I'm pregnant!!! BFP 6/8/14 Rainbow on the way EDD 2/14/15
Winnie the Pooh
Me - 33 DH - 30
Married May 2015
TTC #1 since January 2016
BFP 03/14/16
EDD 11/22/16
I would rather go to the office manager.
As soon as I saw you, I knew an adventure was going to happen - Winnie the Pooh
Married 8/22/09
Pregnancy 1- EDD 11/21/10 NMC @ 6 weeks
Pregnancy 2 - Rainbow DS born 1/15/11
Pregnancy 3 - EDD 5/2/14 NMC @ 6 weeks 9/4/13
Pregnancy 4 - EDD 6/11/14 BO @ 9 weeks D&C 11/8/13
AF arrived 12/18/13
BENCH IS BURNED 2/2014
TTA until May/June
WOW!!! I'm pregnant!!! BFP 6/8/14 Rainbow on the way EDD 2/14/15
Winnie the Pooh
As soon as I saw you, I knew an adventure was going to happen - Winnie the Pooh
Married 8/22/09
Pregnancy 1- EDD 11/21/10 NMC @ 6 weeks
Pregnancy 2 - Rainbow DS born 1/15/11
Pregnancy 3 - EDD 5/2/14 NMC @ 6 weeks 9/4/13
Pregnancy 4 - EDD 6/11/14 BO @ 9 weeks D&C 11/8/13
AF arrived 12/18/13
BENCH IS BURNED 2/2014
TTA until May/June
WOW!!! I'm pregnant!!! BFP 6/8/14 Rainbow on the way EDD 2/14/15
Winnie the Pooh
As soon as I saw you, I knew an adventure was going to happen - Winnie the Pooh
Married 8/22/09
Pregnancy 1- EDD 11/21/10 NMC @ 6 weeks
Pregnancy 2 - Rainbow DS born 1/15/11
Pregnancy 3 - EDD 5/2/14 NMC @ 6 weeks 9/4/13
Pregnancy 4 - EDD 6/11/14 BO @ 9 weeks D&C 11/8/13
AF arrived 12/18/13
BENCH IS BURNED 2/2014
TTA until May/June
WOW!!! I'm pregnant!!! BFP 6/8/14 Rainbow on the way EDD 2/14/15
Winnie the Pooh
Awesome Kid #2: Due November 2016!
Edited for spelling
It doesn't sound like you are close with this person nor do you value a continued friendship with her. I would absolutely report her to the office manager in a heartbeat.
While I don't work in the medical field, I grew up in a medical family and I really, truly feel this stuff is serious business.
When Gina told your friend, shouldn't your friend have reported her? Does that make sense? At least to the office manager?
If if that isn't how it works, then I agree 100% that she should be reported.
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BFP 10/13/14 TWINS! 20 week loss of both twins, Scott Feivel and Miles Conrad
BFP 06/19/2015 16 week loss, Penny June
2015 Working with RI; Diagnosed with thrombopheiia and celiacs
BFP 03/12/16 TWINS AGAIN! PLEASE BE OUR RAINBOWS
It's a serious breach of ethics to snoop and gossip, and I would sure as heck want to know about this incident if I were her manager. OB-GYN is a field that deals with a lot of sensitive information, and people need to feel comfortable in their doctor's office.
It's a really shitty position to be in.
Does YH have any thoughts on the matter? Whenever I'm super pissed about something and ready to take action (which again, you have every right to), I like to run it by DH because I really value his viewpoint and feel like he always has my best interest in mind, even if I don't like what he has to say.
IUI #1 Feb 2012= DS1 born 11/2012
Unmedicated BFP (first post-weaning cycle)=DS2 born 9/2014
Unmedicated BFP (first post-weaning cycle again)= EDD 11/2016
I agree it's a really hard place to be in, and I'm sorry for that @srcr2011
Mom to P (12/7/10) Step-Mom-to-be to H (05/29/13)
BFP 10/13/14 TWINS! 20 week loss of both twins, Scott Feivel and Miles Conrad
BFP 06/19/2015 16 week loss, Penny June
2015 Working with RI; Diagnosed with thrombopheiia and celiacs
BFP 03/12/16 TWINS AGAIN! PLEASE BE OUR RAINBOWS
As bad as you might feel if (when) she got fired, it's really not your fault as others have said. It's hers. If I were you, I wouldn't feel comfortable going back there knowing she might be all up in my business and blabbing about it to others. Not to mention, you might not be the only person she's done it to, but others might not have the connections to find out.
Anyway, yeah, I think you have to say something.
TTC #2: April 2018 ~~ BFP: May 2018 ~~ EDD: January 2019
If she were my friend, I'd definitely have a frank, in-person discussion with her and flat out say, "I should have reported you, and you should have lost your job for that." And if she makes anything less than an over-the-top groveling apology I'm sure I'd never speak to her again.
IUI #1 Feb 2012= DS1 born 11/2012
Unmedicated BFP (first post-weaning cycle)=DS2 born 9/2014
Unmedicated BFP (first post-weaning cycle again)= EDD 11/2016
As soon as I saw you, I knew an adventure was going to happen - Winnie the Pooh
Married 8/22/09
Pregnancy 1- EDD 11/21/10 NMC @ 6 weeks
Pregnancy 2 - Rainbow DS born 1/15/11
Pregnancy 3 - EDD 5/2/14 NMC @ 6 weeks 9/4/13
Pregnancy 4 - EDD 6/11/14 BO @ 9 weeks D&C 11/8/13
AF arrived 12/18/13
BENCH IS BURNED 2/2014
TTA until May/June
WOW!!! I'm pregnant!!! BFP 6/8/14 Rainbow on the way EDD 2/14/15
Winnie the Pooh
Also, it's one thing to look into personal information illegally, it's another thing for her to go around blabbing YOUR news to people you know personally. That is NOT a friend.
Married 5/14/13
TTC #1 since 5/14
TTC #1 w/ treatments since 5/15
BFN 7/15
BFP 8/15-MMC 9/15
BFP 10/15- Diagnosed BO 12/15
BFP 2/16-EDD 11/18/2016
The thing is that all she told was that you're pregnant and this is a desired and positive pregnancy for you. But what if what she tells next time is someone's terminal diagnosis, or a contracted STD, or maybe a pregnancy that's the woman hasn't decided if she will or can carry. Her actions can have very real ramifications for others.
She works in medical records, she knows the rules.
IUI #1 Feb 2012= DS1 born 11/2012
Unmedicated BFP (first post-weaning cycle)=DS2 born 9/2014
Unmedicated BFP (first post-weaning cycle again)= EDD 11/2016
Late to this post but Gina needs another job. She should maybe look into public records research bc at least then when she gossips it won't be illegal.
Also, it would be real tempting to me to link her to a thread like this (maybe not this one but apparently this is a common occurrence). She needs to know she got busted regardless of who you chose to tell (ie her, her boss, or some other authority)