I'm a little surprised that everyone here seems so weirded out by a woman checking her own cervix... Did none of you chart your cervical position when ttc? I've previously been on boards where EVERYONE charts when they're trying, and just assumed that there would be women everywhere who did. Also, I've never understood why anyone thinks it's not ok to touch one's own cervix, but it's ok for anyone one has sex with to do it... I promise your partner touches your cervix with his penis literally every time you have sex, and if fingers are involved, he probably does then, too.
It's weird to purposely introduce bacteria there when you're already bleeding and worried about miscarriage. As @jonesl12 so eloquently put it, women can fingerbang themselves all they want and it's not my business, but I wouldn't recommend messing with it if it's already acting funky and worryisome. Also, what is her cervix even going to tell her at that point?
I'm a little surprised that everyone here seems so weirded out by a woman checking her own cervix... Did none of you chart your cervical position when ttc? I've previously been on boards where EVERYONE charts when they're trying, and just assumed that there would be women everywhere who did. Also, I've never understood why anyone thinks it's not ok to touch one's own cervix, but it's ok for anyone one has sex with to do it... I promise your partner touches your cervix with his penis literally every time you have sex, and if fingers are involved, he probably does then, too.
I don't think there is anything wrong with it as long as you know what your doing. She did it pre pregnancy which is fine but if your experiencing issues during pregnancy IMO I would not be messing with anything down there on my own. The thing with that poster was that she was experiencing unexplained bleeding and was still touching around...which could of been another reason why she kept bleeding. Not to mention here constant judgement towards Americans (not necessarily).
I'm a little surprised that everyone here seems so weirded out by a woman checking her own cervix... Did none of you chart your cervical position when ttc? I've previously been on boards where EVERYONE charts when they're trying, and just assumed that there would be women everywhere who did. Also, I've never understood why anyone thinks it's not ok to touch one's own cervix, but it's ok for anyone one has sex with to do it... I promise your partner touches your cervix with his penis literally every time you have sex, and if fingers are involved, he probably does then, too.
I never legitimately TTCd, so no to that but I did have to check the strings of my IUD and they were curled at the end of my cervix so I am familiar with the concept. At this point though, I don't see any reason to be checking my own (that's assuming I could reach it) and knowing my luck, I'd end up somehow breaking my own water with my fingernails - DS keeps telling me I need to trim them because I scratch him when I help him with his socks
I didn't read the thread, since you ladies said there had already been a ton of deleted comments. I'm absolutely not defending poking around repeatedly when there already seems to be a problem- that is asking for trouble. @AmadorRose, if she went into the emergency room, or into her own ob office, they would likely do a cervical exam to determine whether or not her cervix was dilating. If it's closed, it's usually labeled a threatened miscarriage, but if it's open, it's pretty much inevitable. That's what the cervix tells you. And they probably wouldn't be using sterile gloves, either (they usually only break out sterile gloves after water breaks), so they're introducing foreign bacteria rather than your own. I was really just curious about what I perceived the general attitude to be...
I didn't read the thread, since you ladies said there had already been a ton of deleted comments. I'm absolutely not defending poking around repeatedly when there already seems to be a problem- that is asking for trouble. @AmadorRose, if she went into the emergency room, or into her own ob office, they would likely do a cervical exam to determine whether or not her cervix was dilating. If it's closed, it's usually labeled a threatened miscarriage, but if it's open, it's pretty much inevitable. That's what the cervix tells you. And they probably wouldn't be using sterile gloves, either (they usually only break out sterile gloves after water breaks), so they're introducing foreign bacteria rather than your own. I was really just curious about what I perceived the general attitude to be...
My doctor always uses sterile gloves. ALWAYS. And if any doctor attempted to touch me down there without gloves id be walking out of there office. With a family of nurses and being a licensed Aesthetician it is unprofessional and extremely unsanitary to not wear gloves
I didn't read the thread, since you ladies said there had already been a ton of deleted comments. I'm absolutely not defending poking around repeatedly when there already seems to be a problem- that is asking for trouble. @AmadorRose, if she went into the emergency room, or into her own ob office, they would likely do a cervical exam to determine whether or not her cervix was dilating. If it's closed, it's usually labeled a threatened miscarriage, but if it's open, it's pretty much inevitable. That's what the cervix tells you. And they probably wouldn't be using sterile gloves, either (they usually only break out sterile gloves after water breaks), so they're introducing foreign bacteria rather than your own. I was really just curious about what I perceived the general attitude to be...
My doctor always uses sterile gloves. ALWAYS. And if any doctor attempted to touch me down there without gloves id be walking out of there office. With a family of nurses and being a licensed Aesthetician it is unprofessional and extremely unsanitary to not wear gloves
I'm guessing she meant the sterile gloves being the ones that are individually wrapped rather than the box of gloves that are mounted on the wall. Every cervical check I've had done so far they've unwrapped the individually packaged (sterile) gloves though.
I didn't read the thread, since you ladies said there had already been a ton of deleted comments. I'm absolutely not defending poking around repeatedly when there already seems to be a problem- that is asking for trouble. @AmadorRose, if she went into the emergency room, or into her own ob office, they would likely do a cervical exam to determine whether or not her cervix was dilating. If it's closed, it's usually labeled a threatened miscarriage, but if it's open, it's pretty much inevitable. That's what the cervix tells you. And they probably wouldn't be using sterile gloves, either (they usually only break out sterile gloves after water breaks), so they're introducing foreign bacteria rather than your own. I was really just curious about what I perceived the general attitude to be...
My doctor always uses sterile gloves. ALWAYS. And if any doctor attempted to touch me down there without gloves id be walking out of there office. With a family of nurses and being a licensed Aesthetician it is unprofessional and extremely unsanitary to not wear gloves
I'm guessing she meant the sterile gloves being the ones that are individually wrapped rather than the box of gloves that are mounted on the wall. Every cervical check I've had done so far they've unwrapped the individually packaged (sterile) gloves though.
I didn't read the thread, since you ladies said there had already been a ton of deleted comments. I'm absolutely not defending poking around repeatedly when there already seems to be a problem- that is asking for trouble. @AmadorRose, if she went into the emergency room, or into her own ob office, they would likely do a cervical exam to determine whether or not her cervix was dilating. If it's closed, it's usually labeled a threatened miscarriage, but if it's open, it's pretty much inevitable. That's what the cervix tells you. And they probably wouldn't be using sterile gloves, either (they usually only break out sterile gloves after water breaks), so they're introducing foreign bacteria rather than your own. I was really just curious about what I perceived the general attitude to be...
My doctor always uses sterile gloves. ALWAYS. And if any doctor attempted to touch me down there without gloves id be walking out of there office. With a family of nurses and being a licensed Aesthetician it is unprofessional and extremely unsanitary to not wear gloves
I'm guessing she meant the sterile gloves being the ones that are individually wrapped rather than the box of gloves that are mounted on the wall. Every cervical check I've had done so far they've unwrapped the individually packaged (sterile) gloves though.
I didn't read the thread, since you ladies said there had already been a ton of deleted comments. I'm absolutely not defending poking around repeatedly when there already seems to be a problem- that is asking for trouble. @AmadorRose, if she went into the emergency room, or into her own ob office, they would likely do a cervical exam to determine whether or not her cervix was dilating. If it's closed, it's usually labeled a threatened miscarriage, but if it's open, it's pretty much inevitable. That's what the cervix tells you. And they probably wouldn't be using sterile gloves, either (they usually only break out sterile gloves after water breaks), so they're introducing foreign bacteria rather than your own. I was really just curious about what I perceived the general attitude to be...
My doctor always uses sterile gloves. ALWAYS. And if any doctor attempted to touch me down there without gloves id be walking out of there office. With a family of nurses and being a licensed Aesthetician it is unprofessional and extremely unsanitary to not wear gloves
I'm guessing she meant the sterile gloves being the ones that are individually wrapped rather than the box of gloves that are mounted on the wall. Every cervical check I've had done so far they've unwrapped the individually packaged (sterile) gloves though.
Anyone take red raspberry leaf tea? Does it have any connection with labor or contractions?
I do constantly and it hasn't really done anything labor wise. From what I've read and from what my dr says is its great for actual labor. It helps soften the cervix and if you are already close to labor it may push it over the edge. But everyone is different. A close friend of mine drank it straight for a day and had her son the next day. Who knows. It tastes yummy so why not!
Agree, I'm drinking it (not 3x a day, that's just way too much tea for me) because it tastes good and it supposedly softens the cervix and tones the uterus. I fully don't expect it to do much, but why not? I don't expect it to lead to labor or contractions though, that seems silly. So far nothing at all.
I didn't read the thread, since you ladies said there had already been a ton of deleted comments. I'm absolutely not defending poking around repeatedly when there already seems to be a problem- that is asking for trouble. @AmadorRose, if she went into the emergency room, or into her own ob office, they would likely do a cervical exam to determine whether or not her cervix was dilating. If it's closed, it's usually labeled a threatened miscarriage, but if it's open, it's pretty much inevitable. That's what the cervix tells you. And they probably wouldn't be using sterile gloves, either (they usually only break out sterile gloves after water breaks), so they're introducing foreign bacteria rather than your own. I was really just curious about what I perceived the general attitude to be...
This makes more sense. She had already seen her OB and been to the ER, so she wasn't going to get much out of checking it herself. I totally understand the validity of checking while TTC, but it just wasn't necessary for her to be irritating herself further.
I used DH's trimmer on my lady parts today . I did it completely blind and shaved after. It definately could have gone better
I'm going to take a stab at this + my legs tonight and I'm already nervous. It's been a few weeks.
I've been keeping up on the legs and bikini line no problem but the rest not so much. I missed a few patches so it probably looks even worse now
It's been even longer since I've tackled my legs to be honest, hahaha.
I try to get mine when I take a bath...it's the only way I can manage.
Well, I tackled it all blindly during my bath today. It was equal parts awkward and terrifying and took forever. I mustered up the courage to look with a mirror afterwards and I'm kind of proud of myself. That and I'm fairly certain that it won't be happening again before labor so this is as good as it's gonna get for my pals in L&D. 3.5 weeks left - come on, little lady!
I'm gonna have a little weird rant here so bear with me. Part of what makes me sad about living in Sweden is that I don't have any friends here. Meeting people is hard when you don't have a job here or a social circle. In Denmark the midwives like to take the time to group moms with close due dates so they can follow and support each other (like we do on the Bump but irl) which would be a way for me to make some friends with children the same age as LO. Problem is that Swedish midwives don't do the same. All the moms I've met here have either been too weird or too uninteresting for me to get along with (apart from the fact that their kids are all much older) so it's been kinda lonely.
Until yesterday! One of the Facebook Danish expat groups had another mom join a few weeks ago with a due date 12 days after me and we decided to meet up for a cup of coffee that ended up lasting several hours. And she's hilarious! I haven't had this much fun in a long time and I am so happy about my new mom-friend. She's snarky, funny, smart and non-boring! Someone I can be judgemental with.
So yeah, random rant but it means a lot to me. Now I have someone to go swimming with without looking like the only fat lady!
I'm gonna have a little weird rant here so bear with me. Part of what makes me sad about living in Sweden is that I don't have any friends here. Meeting people is hard when you don't have a job here or a social circle. In Denmark the midwives like to take the time to group moms with close due dates so they can follow and support each other (like we do on the Bump but irl) which would be a way for me to make some friends with children the same age as LO. Problem is that Swedish midwives don't do the same. All the moms I've met here have either been too weird or too uninteresting for me to get along with (apart from the fact that their kids are all much older) so it's been kinda lonely.
Until yesterday! One of the Facebook Danish expat groups had another mom join a few weeks ago with a due date 12 days after me and we decided to meet up for a cup of coffee that ended up lasting several hours. And she's hilarious! I haven't had this much fun in a long time and I am so happy about my new mom-friend. She's snarky, funny, smart and non-boring! Someone I can be judgemental with.
So yeah, random rant but it means a lot to me. Now I have someone to go swimming with without looking like the only fat lady!
@elasticheart13 I TOTALLY get the not having friends thing. Even though DH and I have lived in this house for 5 years, and in this town for longer, it is just HARD to make friends. This just seems like a hard stage of life to make friends at. Where we live, you don't have to go far for ANYTHING, so that fact that we live two towns over from where we work means people don't generally want to travel the two towns over (it's a whooping 20-30 mins...lazy people). We try making friends at church, but again, we go to church two towns over and everything the group we hang out with sometimes does is in that town instead of coming to where we are sometimes. We try to go, but with a kid it isn't always easy, especially when it is stuff in the evenings and we have to consider bedtime for her. We have some friends from work, but neither of us really like to get too involved with people from work outside of work, we like to keep work and our personal life a bit separate. So of course, that leaves us the challenge of making friends. Sigh. I just keep waiting for DD to be at an age where she really makes friends, and then we'll just befriend the parents of her friends lol. My closest friend, who is actually due 6 weeks after me with her first!, just moved an hour south of me so even THAT is hard now. Definitely a blessing to have found a friend at a similar stage for you!
Just need to vent....I'm getting annoyed by my mom and mil. My mom calls me EVERY SINGLE DAY to see how I'm doing. Nothing has changed!!! If it did you would know! MIL went crazy when she found out i lost my mucus plug and triggered a panic in DH that I go into L&D...NO I said! He had to call the nurse who said the same. Then MIL keeps asking when we think baby will be born so she can request time off work. Gees idk within the next two weeks??? Yes we think he'll be sooner but idk for sure. Can I just relax and not be pressured. You were mothers who went through this so you should know! Oh one fun fact they didn't know babies can have the hiccups in there. They looked at me weird and as if I needed to get checked by the doc when I told them.
I don't make friends either. It's so lonely. Now I'm moving to Cleveland too.
I don't really have friends... I have my bestie who lives a couples hours away from me, and two people I hang out with once a month for girls night out (which I usually try to get out of anyway.) Everyone else I kind of keep at a distance. You can probably see that somewhat between how detailed I am about posting stuff going on in my life on the boards, vs what I actually post on my FB.
@imrachellea Yeah, the older we get the harder it gets. We get pickier about who we want to spend our precious time off with and everything has to fit into a schedule. The city DH and I used to live in it was the same scenario for me. In the year and a half he lived there with me he managed to meet some of his closest friends today, always having plans with them and I barely made one friend who ended up moving across the country (I know it's Denmark but still lol).
It suits me fine to be a loner as I can't be around too many people at once. The few close friends I have today are people I've had in my life for many many years and are more like family to me. It just sucks to not have anyone to go out with besides DH. I love my husband but I am pretty sure he too would appreciate the company of other people from time to time.
@emgee27 - I love the disclaimer at the end that it won't affect members of The Knot or The Bump... Except they know it will, and we know it will, and they know we know it will. Otherwise, why post a warning on an unaffected app?
I'm gonna have a little weird rant here so bear with me. Part of what makes me sad about living in Sweden is that I don't have any friends here. Meeting people is hard when you don't have a job here or a social circle. In Denmark the midwives like to take the time to group moms with close due dates so they can follow and support each other (like we do on the Bump but irl) which would be a way for me to make some friends with children the same age as LO. Problem is that Swedish midwives don't do the same. All the moms I've met here have either been too weird or too uninteresting for me to get along with (apart from the fact that their kids are all much older) so it's been kinda lonely.
Until yesterday! One of the Facebook Danish expat groups had another mom join a few weeks ago with a due date 12 days after me and we decided to meet up for a cup of coffee that ended up lasting several hours. And she's hilarious! I haven't had this much fun in a long time and I am so happy about my new mom-friend. She's snarky, funny, smart and non-boring! Someone I can be judgemental with.
So yeah, random rant but it means a lot to me. Now I have someone to go swimming with without looking like the only fat lady!
I have a good friend in Sweden would love to introduce u! Where do U live? I'm pretty sure she lives in gothenberg
Lol that's the same one my DH bought me recently. Now I'm debating on trying it...
I'ts minty. If you're down with that, you may like it. I don't put anything in my hot tea, no sugar or cream. Maybe that would help? I dunno. I'm drinking it but not enjoying it. lol
@shani12345 I have legit never met a person from Gothenburg who was not awesome but sadly it's a little far away, around 4 hours with train. Will definitely be spending a lot of the summer there though, one of DHs best friends got married to a girl from there so we will be staying with them, can't wait!
Does anybody know if the whole dark nipple thing goes back to normal eventually? They went from a light pink to almost burgundy. im not a fan but it is what it is
Does anybody know if the whole dark nipple thing goes back to normal eventually? They went from a light pink to almost burgundy. im not a fan but it is what it is
I've been told they do and I really hope my source wasn't lying. It'd be cool if the linea nigra and stretch marks went away in a hurry, as well...
Re: **The Everything Random Thread for April Mamas**
I was really just curious about what I perceived the general attitude to be...
I missed a few patches so it probably looks even worse now
Until yesterday! One of the Facebook Danish expat groups had another mom join a few weeks ago with a due date 12 days after me and we decided to meet up for a cup of coffee that ended up lasting several hours. And she's hilarious! I haven't had this much fun in a long time and I am so happy about my new mom-friend. She's snarky, funny, smart and non-boring! Someone I can be judgemental with.
So yeah, random rant but it means a lot to me. Now I have someone to go swimming with without looking like the only fat lady!
Ok im done. Happy hump day!
It suits me fine to be a loner as I can't be around too many people at once. The few close friends I have today are people I've had in my life for many many years and are more like family to me. It just sucks to not have anyone to go out with besides DH. I love my husband but I am pretty sure he too would appreciate the company of other people from time to time.
Basically how I feel after my doctor's appointment today.
They went from a light pink to almost burgundy.
im not a fan but it is what it is