Opinions on naming baby boy after Daddy?

danielladxxx · March 2016

So we found out yesterday that we are having a baby boy!

My other half has got his heart set on naming the baby Layne Junior after him. I do like LJ as a nickname.

What are your opinions on naming your child after father?

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SmrBrd2012 · March 2016

I personally don't like it but it's pretty normal. If he would go by LJ and your husband goes by Layne I guess it's not so confusing. I just think a kid should have their own name.

bbiutmcph · March 2016

I'm not a fan of a full on junior. I don't mind using his name for the middle but I prefer a child to have their own identity

MWoodside · March 2016

I'm not a fan.

nurse714 · March 2016

It's pretty common amongst my family and friends. I like it.

keri0426 · March 2016

If you LOVE your husbands name I say go for it. Otherwise, why couldn't you get the experience of choosing a name for YOUR child and not one your in laws chose years ago.

doodleoodle · March 2016

My husband is a second and if we ever have a boy he wants him to be a third. If you like the name then I would use it. Just s couple things to consider: DH is always getting bills etc. that should be going to his dad. I guess it bothers me more than it does him though lol DH also went by a nickname as a child, but when he got older he decided to use his full first name, just something else to consider. You make like LJ, but that doesn't mean your son will.

jenna8984 · March 2016

I personally dislike it and think he should get his own identity. But it's never been a common thing or tradition in my family like it is in others.

Bringmemylongswordho · March 2016

I don't care for it personally. I think it's one thing when it's a tradition that's been going on for a few generations (although even then I'm pretty neutral) but another to just start it.

I mean, if you had a daughter would you give her your first and middle name? If the answer is no, why would you do that for your son?

mamalindsayof3 · March 2016

Eh, could you just use Layne as his middle name?

LizaKate1213 · March 2016

Is he going to be Layne Junior, Jr? Like, are you fully naming the baby after your SO or are you just using his first name then putting Junior as the middle? I feel like you should either middle name Layne or actually name him after his father (full name) and make him a true "junior." Using Junior as a middle name is weird IMO (unless that is your SO's actual middle name).

slradske0626 · March 2016

DH was actually named after his dad, Edward, and it's definitely a hassle. DH has gone by Rusty (his MN is Russel, yes with only one "L"...what the hell, MIL?), which saves confusion when talking to them, but then he has to go through the process of whether or not to use his given name or the name everyone knows him as. Now that he's an adult, he sometimes thinks it's time to start going by his given name, but it's so confusing when everyone his entire life has known him as Rusty. Not even joking, there are several people in our lives who didn't even believe him when he told them is real name. When he still lived at home, they never knew whose mail was whose, and it's generally just confusing and annoying. He suggested we do the same thing if we ever had a son and I gave him a big HELL NO. I would suggest using that name into the MN spot and save your son a lot of hassle later on.

That being said, I think your husband's name is a lot better than Edward. Hope this helps!

Edited because words are hard

AndTS · March 2016

I love to incorporate family names in a child's name. But there all different ways to do so. Personally doing the junior isn't my style. But if you and your husband both love it, go for it!

Other options:
-choose another variation of the same name (ex. My mom is Elly, my son is Elliot)
-use family name for your child's middle name
-my cousins family swaps first and middle male names for the first boy in each generation. One is James Carter and next generation is Carter James
-use same initials, but unique name

But as I said, if you both love the idea of using Layne Junior, LJ, then you should do it!

tayloca1987 · March 2016

I say no. My husband has the same first name as his father, but a different middle name. It's a pain. I always have to clarify which Sean I'm talking about. When he was younger they were 'big Sean' and 'little Sean'. I can't make myself call my FIL 'big Sean' or my husband 'little Sean'. They get each other's mail, or if they have an account at the same place and one closes theirs they'll both get closed. His grandfather and uncle also had the same name and a big check meant for his uncle went to his grandfather. We found out we're having a boy and the first thing we agreed on was NOT Sean. We don't need three of them running around. What would they be then? Big Sean, little Sean and micro Sean?

PugsandKisses · March 2016

Not a can st all. I feel people should have their own name.

emgee27 · March 2016

I think this really depends on how meaningful this is for your husband, and how strongly you feel about liking the name or not. I think this is quite a personal decision and only you will know the dynamic between these 2 things.

As an anecdote, my DH is a junior and actually felt strongly against naming the baby after him (we are team green) so we discarded that quickly. Everyone asks and assumes that if it's a boy, he will be named after my husband to continue the tradition so if you go that route, I feel like people are pretty used to it.

PhoebeJune1984 · March 2016

I would never do it, but that is because I come from a family where there are a lot of people named after each other and it gets annoying. The ONLY way I would let it slide, is if it was a name that had gone through several generations. One of my friends named her son after his dad, because she knew that it was very important to the whole family that the first boy carry on the name (baby is the 6th). The name is not her style at all, but they are going with the same "rule" that the previous spouses had.....first boy is named after father, second child....mom gets to pick the name. To me, I find no reason to name the baby a family name, and then turn around and call them something else. Like my other friends son is Christian Matthew (after his dad), and they have called him Isaac since birth. Just name the dang kid Isaac!

At least using LJ, you are actually using initials in the kids name, and not naming him Layne Lastname Jr, and then calling him something completely different. But like the previous poster mentioned, just because you like LJ, doesn't mean that he will like being called LJ.

emjeve · March 2016

My husband has the same first name as his father and grandfather (all have different middle names) and he hates it. He was given a nickname as a child that he hates and his whole family calls him it because it's too confusing when there are 3 John's in the same room. We both agreed we would never name our son John because of this. We would consider John as a middle name, however.

magsugar13 · March 2016

I dislike this tradition it seems egotistical to me.

jamiesc58 · March 2016

Working in banking has taught me that it is not a wise decision to have a Jr. Your dh and child will forever have problems with financials and getting mixed up. We all hope our children turn into great adults, but in the event that you have a child that is in insane amounts of debt later in life, it is not very hard for him to push that onto your dh and indirectly onto you.

lm45678 · March 2016

I'm personally not a big fan of juniors, but do think it's nice to honor dad in some way.

For example- my LO will share the same mn as his dad, my nephew's mn is his dad's first name

penelope4612 · March 2016

I don't really like the idea of having a kid with the same name has his father. I am in agreement with using the father's name as a middle name to honor the father.

I also think it's odd that this is a tradition for male offspring, because I would guess that people would totally side eye it if it was something a woman did.

YogaSandy · March 2016

My brother is named after my father. When brother was little, he went by his full name and dad always went by the nn shortened version. As brother got older, he started going by shortened version too. Hassle. People would call. You'd think it was for dad (or vice versa) but really it was for brother. Mail mix ups. Brother and dad work at the same company. They have the same middle initial. Often times mix ups there as well.

When brother her was a late teenager, he started going by a nn (could be a legit first name) based off our last name to avoid the confusion. I hate that name. He's in his 30s now, and his friends still call him that.

DB wasn't supposed to be named after my dad. However, dad hated every name mom picked out. He was nameless for days. Finally, mom said, "I'm naming him after you, so you can't say you hate it."

tmk0325 · March 2016

I'm also not a fan of juniors. It's just NMS, but i do like the name Layne.

alyssa0714 · March 2016

SmrBrd2012 said:

I personally don't like it but it's pretty normal. If he would go by LJ and your husband goes by Layne I guess it's not so confusing. I just think a kid should have their own name.

I feel the same way. Luckily my husband agrees, so its not an issue for us.

xxdove · March 2016

I think it's really just a personal choice. I don't see anything wrong with naming your son after his father. I'm not planning on naming my future child after my husband, but I would consider it if it was something that was important to him. If I was a boy, I was to be named after my dad. My parents changed their tune with the next two kids... but we all ended up being girls anyway!

On my fathers side, its traditional to name the first born son with a J name, dating back a few generations after a man just named Jay. I think that's a nice way to carry on a naming tradition without outright using the same name.

Like I said though, ultimately it's a personal choice between you and your husband.

JadaBlue · March 2016

You should do what you like, but because you asked and it's the internet I'll confess I find it egotistical and a bit hick. On the other hand I think family names are great, just not identical names. Congrats and good luck!

Pepper6 · March 2016

It's a totally personal decision. DH is a Jr and it's kind of a pain, like PPs mentioned with financial stuff getting mixed up. We also have a hell of a time when we fly with them because it ALWAYS picks up his dad's itinerary, no matter that there's different confirmation numbers, booked on different cards, etc. Luckily, DH has never wanted to continue the tradition, so if this one is a boy, he won't be a 3rd.

BlueJuice · April 2016

I am not, personally, a fan. My family has done the 'eldest son gets the father's first name as his middle name' thing for a few generations, although my brother broke the trend, but it's more subtle and not likely to lead to the sorts of mail/banking/etc. confusions referenced above, so I like it more.

oneblessedmess · April 2016

Hubby and I had this issue when I was pregnant. I don't like it and would rather give a child his own name (and it doesn't help that I'm not a big fan of hubby's first name lol, although it suits him fine!) Hubby is a junior so he wants a III. I told him I was okay with giving a son hubby's first name as a middle name but he was still strongly hinting at wanting the whole name. Luckily we ended up having a girl so the point was moot but we do plan on having more kids so I'm sure the topic will come up again!

FiancB · April 2016

My husband and his dad are named Richard. He goes by Rick, FIL goes by Dick. You would not think it would be difficult but dealing with things like car insurance is ridiculous. State Farm has mixed up our stuff so many freakin' times! So unless your kid moves far far away and does not utilize any of the same companies or services, I don't recommend it.

Also why the hell doesn't anyone do this with mom/daughter? Kid already most likely takes dad's last name, why use the first too?

fghmama6701 · April 2016

If you like it, go for it. I don't personally think there is anything weird about it. Everyone keeps saying, "If you wouldn't name your daughter after yourself, why name your son after your SO?" But I did name my child after myself. So maybe I'm just the weird one here.

LoveLee85 · April 2016

My DH is a his dad's name then Jr. He HATES it. Their medical records, dental records, bills/any mail in general, insurance company...everyone gets it wrong!!!! It's such a pain in the butt. His dad is super active on social media now and everyone gets them mixed up on their because they are the same name. We had a boy and so many people asked if we were doing a 'lll' and we couldn't say HELL NO fast enough. Such a pain to deal with everything. My 30 year old DH gets AARP mail weekly. It does make me giggle. But not when we get his dad's insurance cards in the mail!!! Constantly swapping mail and crap.

LoveLee85 · April 2016

FiancB said:

My husband and his dad are named Richard. He goes by Rick, FIL goes by Dick. You would not think it would be difficult but dealing with things like car insurance is ridiculous. State Farm has mixed up our stuff so many freakin' times! So unless your kid moves far far away and does not utilize any of the same companies or services, I don't recommend it.

Also why the hell doesn't anyone do this with mom/daughter? Kid already most likely takes dad's last name, why use the first too?

What is it with State Farm?! Same issues here. His parents have lived in the same house for 30 years...yet their mail comes to our home and vice versa. So weird. My DH went to the dentist and they pulled his dad's file and made him get X-rays again...and tried telling DH he had a balance past due?! Turns out it was his dad's file, and they didn't charge for the double X-ray and the outstanding balance wasn't his either! Ugh.

penelope4612 · April 2016

fghmama6701 said:

If you like it, go for it. I don't personally think there is anything weird about it. Everyone keeps saying, "If you wouldn't name your daughter after yourself, why name your son after your SO?" But I did name my child after myself. So maybe I'm just the weird one here.

Good for you (honestly). I feel like people are more likely to side eye a woman naming her daughter after herself and it's totally a double standard.

allicat89 · April 2016

My husband's family has had a "Robert" every generation since the Revolutionary War (not an exaggeration; we have gone through the records). When we first started talking about kids, I hated the idea of naming our son Robert too, but now, I've warmed up to the idea. It seems like a nice way to honor the past, and since every Robert gets his own middle name, there is still room for creativity if we end up following the family tradition. His family has never had trouble juggling three or four Roberts at a time, but then again, they have had two centuries of practice, haha!

If you like the idea of naming your son after his father, I'd say go for it! Who knows? Two hundred years later there might still be a Layne running around :-)

Edit: Apparently, I can't spell basic words like "say."

Mrsrundell · April 2016

My DH has the same first, middle and last name as his father and he has never had any mix ups. We are having a boy and will carry on the tradition, making our baby Jo.hn Art.hur run.dell the third. We've started calling him JR as a nn.

Before we even started trying for a baby we talked about it and I wasn't sold but, after thinking about it and seeing how proud/happy it made my husband I agreed. I really like his name so it works for us. I think you should honor your husband if it's important to him. Plus, it took all the stress out of picking a name!

CaboBride2015 · April 2016

I'm confused... are you talking about naming him Layne Junior Yourlastname? Or your husband's fullname Jr?

Alygohome · April 2016

I love dh name, all of it. So I wanted a Jr. he vetoed it saying that we wouldn't name our daughter after me (although we share a middle name) so I guess I see his point..

Eko14 · April 2016

tayloca1987 said:

I say no. My husband has the same first name as his father, but a different middle name. It's a pain. I always have to clarify which Sean I'm talking about. When he was younger they were 'big Sean' and 'little Sean'. I can't make myself call my FIL 'big Sean' or my husband 'little Sean'. They get each other's mail, or if they have an account at the same place and one closes theirs they'll both get closed. His grandfather and uncle also had the same name and a big check meant for his uncle went to his grandfather. We found out we're having a boy and the first thing we agreed on was NOT Sean. We don't need three of them running around. What would they be then? Big Sean, little Sean and micro Sean?

I am so sorry but LMAO at Big Sean for your FIL. I can hear in my head:
Yellin' "Go, Sean, go, go!", so shorty bring it back
Call my dick curiosity ’cause it killed the cat
And satisfaction brought it back
Girl it's your world, I'm just chillin' on the map

beachylex · April 2016

It is totally fine and normal my fiancé is a third and if this baby is a boy he will be the fourth. He really loves his name and wants to continue the tradition. He also doesn't have a popular name which I like.

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