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July 2016 Moms
whataboutscience
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STMs not ready?
whataboutscience
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Okay, so this was a planned baby, but I guess in my head I just figured we don't need nearly as much stuff or prep this time since we already had a baby. I am just realizing that I am pretty sure I have literally bought nothing for this baby yet or done anything toward having a room ready. We have plans to move DD to a big girl room by the end of this month that is currently unpainted and without furniture. Painting is planned for this weekend. Furniture to come soon. I want a few things like a new carrier, but I was induced 11 days late with DD and feel overly confident that there's no need to rush this time as I fully expect an August baby (foolish planning, I know). Anyone else feeling way behind?
Re: STMs not ready?
We'll need a whole nursery set for the baby as DD is still in her crib (and we'll convert her crib to a toddler and then full down the road).
I've literally purchased nothing, nor have I painted the new nursery. I've been looking at some second-hand cribs this time around. Funny how things have changed with this second child!!
I'll get there... eventually, haha.
So, the plan is, we're moving our bedroom into my husband's office when the baby needs her own room. Our first daughter slept in our room until she was 4 months old, so we're guessing that's around the time we'll switch rooms. We decided it would be silly to move out of our room now. (The office won't work for us long term—you have to walk through it to get to the bathroom.)
By now last time I had all kinds of lists of what to pack for the hospital, what we needed to buy, do, etc. This time I'm more "I've got boobs, diapers, and a few onsies. I'm ready!" Haha
I think that it is not so much about procrastinating, but knowing that when DD, I felt like I had to have everything ready and perfect when she arrived...and that she needed all kinds of gear and baby stuff. And now I know, that really we used hardly any of it in the first month or so of her life, and I am not worried about it this time around. I feel the same as @SparkySunshine in that I feel like I have the pump, diapers, wipes, a way to get baby home, and some outfits....and I am good. When it comes to feeling prepared, I feel much more relaxed this pregnancy, than I did with DD.
My awesome mom self is debating whether or not to pull out the clothes that are stained. I'm kinda like, eh. Baby won't care.
I was thinking April will be my magical month of getting things done. But probably May. Or maybe June. Who has time for anything with a toddler running around??
Here's some STM guilt for you as a bonus: DH and I both completely forgot our a/s was today until it was too late for DH to make it and I was driving like a maniac to get there on time. We both felt terrible. No way would that have happened last time. Thankfully, the office was super nice and let us reschedule for later this week so we can both be there.
We are finishing up a kitchen renovation, and we are renovating another room to make it our new master, and baby will have our current room. So basically, we can't set up baby's room until the new master is finished. We used a convertible crib for DD (who is 6) who now has a full size bed, so we need a new crib. We haven't decided what we're doing as far as a changing table, but we do have the Pack and Play we can use in the mean time, and I also bought a Rock and Play (I'm thinking one can stay upstairs in our room and the other will stay downstairs). We are trying to decide on carseats (since DD's have expired) - infant seat versus this Graco 4Ever seat. We have gear (like the stroller, highchair, etc) in the basement, and I've bought some clothes, but there is no evidence upstairs in our house of a nursery so far.
I was induced with DD 10 days after her due date, so I was thinking I might be able to have til the end of July with this little guy, but I guess we need to get going on getting our house together. I'm not so pressed to have the nursery together, because DD didn't sleep in her crib until she was 4 months old, I just want the renovations done so we can get our bedroom together, and I'm assuming DS will sleep in our room with us for a few months.
This is what happened to #3 and will be happening with this one too lol.
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And while I'm at it commenting, I'm FTM and can't believe how many stares of bewilderment I get from folks when they ask if the nursery is ready yet (nope - just cleared out a room, that's all) and if we have names picked out (nada) as if they can't believe how much I'm slacking. I mean seriously.. I still have 4 months to go! I've been spending my time researching more urgent stuff like hospitals and different birthing methods so I can be fully prepared to deliver him as safely and as naturally as is within my control.
When I first opened this thread, I thought it was going to be about being mentally unprepared for a second child, hah!
We planned this baby, but I find myself questioning more and more if I am mentally and emotionally prepared for another newborn, especially since DS is already 6. I know that once she's here, I'll be fine, but the anticipation of starting over is a little daunting.
That said, I have the crib and stroller purchased and set up but promised myself I wouldn't do anything else until after the baby shower. I tend to over-plan, so that's a real struggle for me. I already have my finances planned for the remainder of 2016 with several contingency plans in place. God, I love Excel.
Married: October 23, 2010
DS: 8/7/2013
#2 EDD: 6/29/2016, C Section: 6/22/2016
IF, 5 losses, 1 son, 1 on the way.
What I am worried about is getting DD's new room ready, though. It's painted but we still need to clean out a bunch of crap and get her a bed. I'm also worried about the transition to a new room but that's a whole other issue
DD #2: EDD July 2016
@emnoahmomand @kellz14 I also didn't like the armsreach cosleeper. Maybe it depends on your bed but it didn't really fit up against ours snugly and wasn't any easier to get the baby in and out of at night than a pack n play. I bought a Halo Swivel Bassinet on our local buy/sell group that I am super excited about. It adjusts up far enough that you can pull it slightly over the mattress so the baby really is right there and easy to reach.
I'm pretty confident that we're adequately prepared for our 2nd girl. We kept *everything* from DD#1. DH has put together the crib in our room and DD got a big girl bed this past weekend. Other than that, I purchased new bottles/pacifiers and will wash DD's old clothes when I'm closer to my due date. We purchased a double stroller but haven't put it together yet. DD#1 is 3.5 so we really only use a stroller if we have an all-day excursion planned.
the 1st child/2nd child image above was hilarious. I'm not stressing so much with this kid. We've done this before. If I need anything along the way, I know I can either run to Target or have Amazon deliver it.
Since we found out so early (12 weeks) it's a boy, I've had lots of time to decide on the nursery. I sewed the crib set and was so excited to do it, it's been done for months. We also have a 4 bedroom home and his room was a very minimal guest bedroom that we just had to move out a bed. We moved DD2 out of the crib in December since she was already 3 yrs old, it was time.
I was freaking out clothes, but a good friend gave us a bunch of her stuff from having a boy last summer. I just finished washing and folding all that so now I at least have more than a diaper to put him in.
I do keep following the posts here and jotting things I suddenly remember we need as they come up. DH is amazed I can even have any list at this point, but he doesn't remember things like nipple cream and pads.
The only things I need to do are:
-wash DD's old clothes (team green - if this LO is a boy he's just going to wear what we have until I feel up for shopping)
-get new tubing/flange for my pump
-Unpack the baby toys and swing
-set up the playpen with bassinet attachment, but it's at DD's daycare for her naps so I'll do that last minute
-check if I have newborn diapers in my stash of diapers DD outgrew, buy them if not
-install the bucket seat base in our vehicles
I'm debating whether to move DD into the twin bed before the baby comes. She'll be 2.5 when LO is born and she's still in the crib - never shown any sign of trying to crawl out and sleeps awesome at night (not so much naps) so I'm reluctant to mess with that, but I'm also reluctant to add stress/transition to her/my life after the baby comes. So I'm avoiding thinking about it intentionally because I'm in denial.
Can't think of anything else... I'm honestly not feeling like I have a lot to do so it's not stressing me out. I feel like I can get the majority of it done in one productive day, aside from DD's sleeping arrangements which like I said I'm willfully ignoring.