I'm starting to hate the "so how are you feeling", "so how is baby" line of questioning too! I also keep getting requests for pictures of me and my bump from MIL and SIL as well as a couple friends. They are always requests like I owe them this, never questions, I even got a text that just said bump pic!!!! I sent them a picture of DH's belly instead. I guess I thought I'd be more excited about my growing bump but when nothing fits and you don't want to run out to spend money one clothes you will wear for just a couple more months it gets to you! I don't know what to tell them anymore. DH has been great at diffuse the situation so far!
Yesterday I had someone tell me I'm wrong and I will want more than the one baby. Maybe because it's been a rough couple weeks and I was really worn down yesterday but I answered with it took us five years to get as far along as we are now, my husband and I are really excited to stop crying from grief and frustration so we are calling it quits after this little guy. She did not say a word in response
@PugsandKissesFor #1 I would say "no we want 4 kids" or you could go the subtle/troll route and say "yea, so many other old people also point out that now we have a boy! It's so funny how old people always say the same thing! I guess when you're old you get used to repeating the same thing"---with a big smile on your face the whole time. Or sub old with: clueless, simple, etc.
@whataboutscience same! Once you have the baby no one gives a crap about you anymore lol.
@xc1148 Yep exactly what I was going to say. I don't really mind the simple but repetitive questions "How are you feeling?" "Is it different from your last pregnancy?" "Do you have a name?" because those people stop bothering to ask you anything caring once baby's here, unless it's someone really close to you or someone who has recently had/will soon have a baby.
Coworkers, acquaintances, strangers, etc. who used to ask you things or hold the door for you or offer to lift something when you were pregnant see you half dead from no sleep, and/or carting around a stroller or heavy car seat or just carrying the baby and I swear to god, just ignore you. And are probably hoping you and that crying baby don't sit next to them at Starbucks.
The only questions you might get after baby from acquaintances or strangers are basically judgments or humblebrags like "Is he sleeping through the night? No? Mine did at 2 weeks..." or "Oh, I breastfed for 70 years" if you're holding a bottle.
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@whataboutscience same! Once you have the baby no one gives a crap about you anymore lol.
Coworkers, acquaintances, strangers, etc. who used to ask you things or hold the door for you or offer to lift something when you were pregnant see you half dead from no sleep, and/or carting around a stroller or heavy car seat or just carrying the baby and I swear to god, just ignore you. And are probably hoping you and that crying baby don't sit next to them at Starbucks.
The only questions you might get after baby from acquaintances or strangers are basically judgments or humblebrags like "Is he sleeping through the night? No? Mine did at 2 weeks..." or "Oh, I breastfed for 70 years" if you're holding a bottle.