For the record, I am not doing CIO. We have no need to do it right now, as my baby is sleeping just fine for his age in his crib, and I have no plans to in the future. So hopefully that helps everybody who currently thinks I am a terrible mother feel better. However, if in the future another mom does feel like it is right for her family, I would never, ever judge them for it.
I don't think your a terrible mom nor was that ever implied. I apologize for jumping/attaching you it wasn't my intention I was defending my style of parenting. I don't judge what others want to do with their babies nor do I have opinions I just felt you were saying attachment style is bad blah blah! Anyways lets make peace and I'll keep my defensive self under control. We are all still hormonal messes. I apologize about the PPD comments. I have some PPA and shouldn't comment on stuff like that!
We sometimes let him cry it out. I will rock Odie until his eyes get heavy then I put him in his crib and most of the time he falls right to sleep. I sit in the rocking chair until I know he is settled and asleep in case he needs me. We have a mat under his mattress that vibrates the bed to help soothe him if he fusses.
We use cry it out if he was asleep then suddenly wakes up. We go in give him his paci pat him and tell him its okey then walk away. If he spits out the paci and starts crying we wait 5 mins before going in and repeat the process. Then we wait ten mins and repeat. Then 15 mins and we pick him up reswaddle and cuddle. Usually if it gets to 15 and we have to reset, he falls to sleep very easily. I have no science or studies or books to back up my method, but we like it and it works for us... and I think that's what's most important.
Sometimes I am disappointed that I don't get the snuggling in that others do because they are only little for such a short time. But it just wouldn't work for us. My husband is staunchly against it, and in order for cosleeping or bed sharing to work properly and safely, both parents (or whoever sleeps in the bed) need to be on board. I also know that my anxiety can go through the roof if I don't get rest, so I know I am a better mother overall with our setup (which may be the opposite for some families). We have to take care of ourselves to properly take care of our children.
And perhaps I should mention that my baby comes to work with me all day everyday, so we are together A LOT of the time otherwise. That is why I don't feel badly taking a couple hours on the weekend to run errands or take a nap by myself. I imagine if he were at daycare during the week it would be very different.
And hooray for all of us resolving differences like adults. See, bump admin, if you give a post time it will work itself out.
I'm pretty terrified that I will have to end up CIO later on because babe can't go to sleep drowsy yet Im trying so hard to help her with it while sleeping in the swing
I'm pretty terrified that I will have to end up CIO later on because babe can't go to sleep drowsy yet Im trying so hard to help her with it while sleeping in the swing
Cole doesn't either. When I put him down he just opens his eyes wide and stares at me like "what are you doin woman?!?"
I'm pretty terrified that I will have to end up CIO later on because babe can't go to sleep drowsy yet Im trying so hard to help her with it while sleeping in the swing
Cole doesn't either. When I put him down he just opens his eyes wide and stares at me like "what are you doin woman?!?"
Same with my son! If I don't wait exactly 20 minutes (I time it haha) after his eyes shut while rocking him or when he finishes nursing and falls asleep in my arms the second I lay him down his eyes will pop open and he starts fussing. I've tried it at 7 minutes nope. 15 minutes. Nope. And when I try it too early it ruins the whole process because then he won't calm back down even in my arms...unless I give him the boob again
Well I'm glad I didn't let him cry it out. He ended up with a cold and ear infection. Hopefully he is not regressing and those issues are the reason he's been sleeping bad
I'm pretty terrified that I will have to end up CIO later on because babe can't go to sleep drowsy yet Im trying so hard to help her with it while sleeping in the swing
Cole doesn't either. When I put him down he just opens his eyes wide and stares at me like "what are you doin woman?!?"
Same with my son! If I don't wait exactly 20 minutes (I time it haha) after his eyes shut while rocking him or when he finishes nursing and falls asleep in my arms the second I lay him down his eyes will pop open and he starts fussing. I've tried it at 7 minutes nope. 15 minutes. Nope. And when I try it too early it ruins the whole process because then he won't calm back down even in my arms...unless I give him the boob again
Same here. @rachel10488My guy does exactly this except replace "fussing" with "screaming his head off."
Re: Crying it out
We use cry it out if he was asleep then suddenly wakes up. We go in give him his paci pat him and tell him its okey then walk away. If he spits out the paci and starts crying we wait 5 mins before going in and repeat the process. Then we wait ten mins and repeat. Then 15 mins and we pick him up reswaddle and cuddle. Usually if it gets to 15 and we have to reset, he falls to sleep very easily. I have no science or studies or books to back up my method, but we like it and it works for us... and I think that's what's most important.
And perhaps I should mention that my baby comes to work with me all day everyday, so we are together A LOT of the time otherwise. That is why I don't feel badly taking a couple hours on the weekend to run errands or take a nap by myself. I imagine if he were at daycare during the week it would be very different.
And hooray for all of us resolving differences like adults. See, bump admin, if you give a post time it will work itself out.