Just scheduled our hospital tour...shit just got real. And yes we are THOSE parents that are already behind on everything lol. Luckily I remembered we have to fill out our hospital pre-registration form before the next appointment so tour is Monday and appointment is Friday #procrastinator4lyfe
I haven't posted in a few days cause shit has been super negative over here for me but even though I'm scared as hell I feel so much relief... I finally stood up to and was honest about my feelings with my bf. Well I guess technically my ex bf now (the jerk who yelled at me about the aggressive driver who stopped me in the middle of the road). I was hoping to wait until I was more prepared financially but he just kept pushing me and I snapped. I'm scared as shit but I have some family to help. Going to find a job and figure this out one step at a time. Ive never been so scared and happy at the same time. Thank you for everyone that has given me advice over the past few months. I can now really see how abusive my relationship was and even though I know things will be hard I feel so much better already. Much love to you all.
@lunagrl79 amen sister. It takes a strong women to stand up for yourself and an admirable woman who does it to provide a better environment for your child. My favorite quotation for challenging times that has always helped me through was... "One day at a time". God will never give you more than you can handle and we're all here for you
@lunagrl79 I'm so proud of you for getting out of an unhealthy relationship! I know that even if you're hearing from family and friends (or your bumpies) that it isn't a good situation, that doesn't make it easy to see or change for yourself. You should be proud of yourself and continue to remind yourself of what a smart choice you're making (write it down?) buy also be forgiving of yourself if you're missing him too. Just know that even if you do have those mixed feelings it doesn't ever mean you should put yourself back in that situation!
I still remember sharing your story about the aggressive driver to DH and how upset we were on your behalf. You should have a partner there to comfort and support you, whether for a real scary situation (like with that crazy driver!) or the situations that feel scary and a big deal to you personally, even if they aren't always logically scary (like some of our sillier pregnancy worries). I know that you will find that guy someday who is really there for you!
And be until then, keep building that support system for yourself in friends and family. Keep asking for help, and make sure you give them specific ways that they can support you. I know if I was nearby I would jump on any opportunity to support you with this baby and to support you so that you knew you can do this without him!
@lynnernon Hugs. Thanks so much labor buddy. I was actually trying to message you last night but the stupid app wasn't working for me. I don't think missing him will be a problem. I grieved over that part of the relationship a long time ago. Just gotta figure out the financial part and I will be good to go. Which, even though stressful, I would rather have that kind of stress any day over the stress of a manipulative, narcissist hanging over me and my baby girls heads all the time. Deep breaths and I'm just gonna take it one step at a time.
@lunagrl79 You've got this! I know it isn't easy now, but when you look back on this decision you'll know it was the best thing for you & your LO. Sending lots of positive vibes your way!
@lunagrl79 - I admire your strength and can tell that you totally got this! I love your positive attitude and wish you all the luck as you work through the stressors. Hugs!
@lunagrl79 - a book that helped me get through and finally end a relationship with an abusive ex (and it was more verbal as well) was co-dependent no more. It's meant to be part of an AA program, but it has some really strong points that we all can benefit from!
That took an impressive amount of strength to leave @lunagrl79, and for that you should be proud. You've done the right thing for you and your baby. Well done, mama.
Ok so between all your amazing words and good vibes, and catching the last half of "waitress" as I get ready to start my day I'm sitting here in tears. Good tears. Thank you so much everyone. Your support means more than you could ever know. Today already feels better than yesterday. Hoping by April 1 I will be in a new place that I can actually afford without his help and have a new job to help with the bills. Gonna be a tight few months but I've lived very poor before and I can do it again. And even though we won't have a lot at first, I know being able to devote myself 100% to my daughter without all this negative energy is going to be the best thing for her and me. Sending so much love to you all. Thank you so much.
To anyone that is wondering what shoes I got for comfort...
I got Sketchers Memory Foam black flats (heaven) and Sanuk Yoga Flip Flops (comfort TBD soon) to bring on my vacation. Step 2: invest in Tieks.... but before I do, I will wait until closer to baby is born to see if my foot size changes at all. Step 3: Get a pair of Sperrys asap and be on the look out for a good Sperry sale since I know those happen.
PS: Are Tieks only sold online? Or are they sold in department stores?
@lunagrl79 good luck to you! Your little girl is so lucky to have a strong mom who is already looking out for her. Prayers for both of y'all as you make this transition
To anyone that is wondering what shoes I got for comfort...
I got Sketchers Memory Foam black flats (heaven) and Sanuk Yoga Flip Flops (comfort TBD soon) to bring on my vacation. Step 2: invest in Tieks.... but before I do, I will wait until closer to baby is born to see if my foot size changes at all. Step 3: Get a pair of Sperrys asap and be on the look out for a good Sperry sale since I know those happen.
PS: Are Tieks only sold online? Or are they sold in department stores?
Only online but they have awesome return policy. Highly recommend avoiding the ones with fancy prints. They just don't last as the leather stretches.
Want to know what photo makes my pregnancy hormones crazy to the point of where I laugh so hard I can't stop? One night it went on for hours and my DH likes to remind me of the post because he thinks it's so funny.... By the way sorry you failed @alysemciver, hang in there!
I'm so glad to know I'm not the only one that has uncontrollable laughter during pregnancy. It's bad. Full on laughter crying last night because I couldn't stop laughing.
Speaking of things I laugh uncontrollable at, did anyone else hear the story of Boaty McBoatface? Only when an marine environmental group leaves it to the internet to name their new $288 million research vessel, will they get a name like RSS Boaty McBoatface. I can't even type it without laughing like a little girl.
@lunagrl79 I really admire how strong you in moving forward and working towards something better. Much deserved and I've got my FX for great things to come for you!
@alysemciver so sorry about the Dx! I hope that it's easily managed and you have a quick third tri with an easy, healthy birth for both mom and LO!
Speaking of diabetes, Toronto mayor Rob Ford died. I am irrationally annoyed at how many people are all sad about it. He was a crack-smoking drunk-driving a-hole.
Speaking of diabetes, Toronto mayor Rob Ford died. I am irrationally annoyed at how many people are all sad about it. He was a crack-smoking drunk-driving a-hole.
@lunagrl79 good for you for getting out of a bad relationship. Have you tried looking into government programs like WIC and CHIP, and later on, children's Medicaid? Those might help too, with all the upcoming expenses. Good luck!
@alysemciver sorry you didn't pass! At least it should clear up after LO gets here.
Speaking of diabetes, Toronto mayor Rob Ford died. I am irrationally annoyed at how many people are all sad about it. He was a crack-smoking drunk-driving a-hole.
Yeah, I'm so confused by the reactions. Like, really? Sorry, I don't care.
@lunagrl79 Your strength is absolutely admirable, and what a great role model you are for your baby girl! Some days will be harder than others, but you are strong and can do this! Sending prayers your way!
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I still remember sharing your story about the aggressive driver to DH and how upset we were on your behalf. You should have a partner there to comfort and support you, whether for a real scary situation (like with that crazy driver!) or the situations that feel scary and a big deal to you personally, even if they aren't always logically scary (like some of our sillier pregnancy worries). I know that you will find that guy someday who is really there for you!
And be until then, keep building that support system for yourself in friends and family. Keep asking for help, and make sure you give them specific ways that they can support you. I know if I was nearby I would jump on any opportunity to support you with this baby and to support you so that you knew you can do this without him!
Congrats, and creepy internet hugs to you!
@lunagrl79 sending thoughts and prayers your way! Kudos to you. Stay strong.
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I got Sketchers Memory Foam black flats (heaven) and Sanuk Yoga Flip Flops (comfort TBD soon) to bring on my vacation. Step 2: invest in Tieks.... but before I do, I will wait until closer to baby is born to see if my foot size changes at all. Step 3: Get a pair of Sperrys asap and be on the look out for a good Sperry sale since I know those happen.
PS: Are Tieks only sold online? Or are they sold in department stores?
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By the way sorry you failed @alysemciver, hang in there!
I'm so glad to know I'm not the only one that has uncontrollable laughter during pregnancy. It's bad. Full on laughter crying last night because I couldn't stop laughing.
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@alysemciver so sorry about the Dx! I hope that it's easily managed and you have a quick third tri with an easy, healthy birth for both mom and LO!
@alysemciver boo for the diabeetus
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Two people came back to our office area and asked if we had a monkey in the room.
@alysemciver sorry you didn't pass! At least it should clear up after LO gets here.
Yah, I understand that his family is sad. But, the way everyone is talking it's as if he was some great person. He wasn't.