UO Thursday (3/17/16)

missteacherlady16 · March 2016

St. Patrick's Day style.

Let's hear 'em!

edited to clarify: your UO doesn't have to be St. Patty's Day themed, I just meant that it's UO Thursday and also St. Patty's Day.

Carry on

mrszoess · March 2016

I hate corned beef. I hate cabbage. I am over green beer. I used to love it now I hate this holiday. lol

krzyriver · March 2016

I hate all holidays that are celebrated just so people have an excuse to drink. This probably comes from the fact that I'm Mexican and people are (unintentionally) extremely offensive on Cinco de Mayo.

JamieK1882 · March 2016

@krzyriver in college I used to go hard on St Patrick's Day. Now I think it is so stupid (not the holiday, just the excessive drinking). I have also been hard judging people on my fb who I knew from college who are still out partying their faces off and posting pics (chugging green beer while holding their babies).

Paturkey · March 2016

I think it's okay to have a preference for the sex of your child.

I will be thrilled whether this one is a boy or a girl, but I understand that it's different for different people. With my first, I really wanted a boy because I have a big brother and loved that. Would I have been stoked for a girl? Absolutely. Will I be mad if my son later identifies as female? No. ::shrugs::

missteacherlady16 · March 2016

I hate the term resting bitch face. I think it's a sexist way to describe women who are aging. It's caused by the natural aging of the muscles in your face, and as a result they turn down making you look like you're slightly frowning when you face is relaxed.

It happens to men, too. But when men have "resting bitch face" they look 'mysterious' or 'deep in thought' while it continues to perpetuate that women need to smile in order to be pretty.

krzyriver · March 2016

@JamieK1882 Wow! I haven't seen anyone drinking while holding their baby! Lol. But there's definitely some judgement when the people I went to college with start posting pictures from the bar at noon. Or take 3 days off work to go down to Chicago for St Patty's and party for 24 hours straight. I get that I'm settled down and not everyone is. And it's ok to party now and then.... but come on.

LGW2015 · March 2016

@missteacherlady16 that's a really interesting take on RBF. For me, it actually felt like society was finally recognizing that often times women have to walk around looking pissed off to prevent creepy men from engaging them (especially if you're a commuter ugh). I also never associated it with age at all. But that could all just be my own take on it. However, I do always find use of the term "bitch" problematic on many levels.

krzyriver · March 2016

@missteacherlady16 Really? I've never heard it used to describe older women. Just women who, when expressionless, look mad. People have been saying I have it since I was 15. And the only other person I know who's been described that way is still in her early 20s. Learn something new everyday.

missteacherlady16 · March 2016

krzyriver said:

@missteacherlady16 Really? I've never heard it used to describe older women. Just women who, when expressionless, look mad. People have been saying I have it since I was 15. And the only other person I know who's been described that way is still in her early 20s. Learn something new everyday.

Well, generally RBF is caused by the muscles turning down as they age. I've always had a sour puss expression on my face if it's relaxed, so I've heard it before. But what I mean, is that we don't talk this way about men when they have the same expression on their face. And no one goes around telling men they should smile more, but this is something I hear quite often from random people on the street.

Why do we make a big deal out of women who look angry and not men who look angry?

lilylover27 · March 2016

Apparently I have an UO on announcing my pregnancy. This is our first time being pregnant, and I have had spotting the entire first trimester, I want to wait until the NT scan next week before announcing to everyone. I was going to wait until Easter and announce it on FB then because that gives me some time to talk to my boss and closer friends before doing so. Well apparently my MIL thought if everything checked out next Wednesday with the NT scan that she could start telling people that day! I was like fine as long as they don't post it on FB. Even DH said I was being ridiculous. Some of my co-workers are friends with me on FB and I would like to have the chance to tell my boss privately first instead of him finding out from a co-worker. I get that everyone is excited but ultimately it is our baby not theirs. Even my mother is like a lot of people announce it earlier. Like seriously, I could care less. Sorry this UO turned into a rant but I don't think I am wrong here!

missteacherlady16 · March 2016

lilylover27 said:

Apparently I have an UO on announcing my pregnancy. This is our first time being pregnant, and I have had spotting the entire first trimester, I want to wait until the NT scan next week before announcing to everyone. I was going to wait until Easter and announce it on FB then because that gives me some time to talk to my boss and closer friends before doing so. Well apparently my MIL thought if everything checked out next Wednesday with the NT scan that she could start telling people that day! I was like fine as long as they don't post it on FB. Even DH said I was being ridiculous. Some of my co-workers are friends with me on FB and I would like to have the chance to tell my boss privately first instead of him finding out from a co-worker. I get that everyone is excited but ultimately it is our baby not theirs. Even my mother is like a lot of people announce it earlier. Like seriously, I could care less. Sorry this UO turned into a rant but I don't think I am wrong here!

IMHO, it's your baby, it's your news to share. I get that grandparents are excited, and my mom has already told someone (this someone does not know all the other someones I know) but I have been extremely straightforward that when I want the "world" to know, I'll tell them. I don't think you're being unreasonable. You have to do what you feel most comfortable with.

Paturkey · March 2016

missteacherlady16 said:

Why do we make a big deal out of women who look angry and not men who look angry?

I totally agree and would flippantly answer for society, because men who look angry could hurt us and women who look angry just need to cheer up. For example, "Smile, fella!" ::face punch:: "Smile, lady!" ::eyeroll or reluctant smile:: It's BS.

krzyriver · March 2016

@lilylover27 I feel your frustration. I posted our announcement in our private family group on FB about a week ago. I wanted family to know before the rest of the world. Yesterday I found on my mother spent the better part of this last week trying to figure out how to share it. I told her no, I haven't officially announced yet. She got all upset. "I want to tell my friends. I thought you'd be mad if I didn't tell them." I was so annoyed.

No mother, you don't get to announce it. I do. Many of your friends will see it then and you can tell the rest of them later. I know she's excited, but come on. She would have been furious if my grandmother went around telling people she was pregnant before she did.

mothernorth · March 2016

lilylover27 said:

Apparently I have an UO on announcing my pregnancy. This is our first time being pregnant, and I have had spotting the entire first trimester, I want to wait until the NT scan next week before announcing to everyone. I was going to wait until Easter and announce it on FB then because that gives me some time to talk to my boss and closer friends before doing so. Well apparently my MIL thought if everything checked out next Wednesday with the NT scan that she could start telling people that day! I was like fine as long as they don't post it on FB. Even DH said I was being ridiculous. Some of my co-workers are friends with me on FB and I would like to have the chance to tell my boss privately first instead of him finding out from a co-worker. I get that everyone is excited but ultimately it is our baby not theirs. Even my mother is like a lot of people announce it earlier. Like seriously, I could care less. Sorry this UO turned into a rant but I don't think I am wrong here!

I don't think you're wrong at all. With my first, we only told a few we were pregnant before we announced it to the world, and once my bio-mother and younger sister found out that my twin sister and brothers knew before them, they flipped out like I was a monster, but those ladies, bless their hearts, have the biggest mouths on the planet. So baby #2 happens, I give little sis the benefit of the doubt and include her in the little circle of trust at 8 weeks. What does she do? Posts it on FB before FI and I even told our parents or felt comfortable with announcing! Needless to say, we were livid, and everyone was mad at us for not telling them first. Ugh. Baby #3, lessons learned, NOBODY got to know until we agreed to mass inform everyone at the same time (with the exception of our children who were told first). Who would have thought announcing pregnancy had so many politics?

lilylover27 · March 2016

@krzyriverexactly!! Thank you!! Someone just announced they are having a baby today and she is due like a week or so after me and my mom was like well she announced it. I was like good for her!! I get that everyone is so excited and I am glad they are but now that even DH is like we aren't waiting till Easter I am like WTF??!!? I mean come on I believe 12 weeks is an acceptable time to wait until! Sigh, just looking forward to next Wednesday and then I can take it from there.

krzyriver · March 2016

@lilylover27 Yeah, 12 weeks is like the rule of thumb. Everyone I know announced then. I just told my husband yesterday that I wanna do it at 11 weeks because I felt weird about doing it on Easter Sunday. And he was like "That's too early!!" Lol. People get so excited, they forget there are reasons why we'd be uncomfortable announcing too early. Or why we'd be pissy you're trying to announce it for us....

MRSCORKER · March 2016

I just had a break down on DH last night about announcing/telling people. He's so excited and I love that he is but he cannot keep his mouth shut and it's stressing me out. He doesn't understand the emotional toll it would take for me to have to go back and un-tell people, especially people who aren't close friends or family. He put me on the spot last night in front of our neighbor and goes " can't we just tell her?" Well, fuck, now we have to. I was LIVID. I finally explained to him the stress he is putting on me by not respecting my feelings about this and I think it has finally sunk in. We told our parents right away because I felt like I needed a little bit of extra support and a BTDT mama to ask questions. We decided to tell siblings and other family members after our scan next week as long as everything goes well. NO ONE ELSE until 2nd tri. He can wait another month.

Paturkey · March 2016

MRSCORKER said:

I just had a break down on DH last night about announcing/telling people. He's so excited and I love that he is but he cannot keep his mouth shut and it's stressing me out. He doesn't understand the emotional toll it would take for me to have to go back and un-tell people, especially people who aren't close friends or family. He put me on the spot last night in front of our neighbor and goes " can't we just tell her?" Well, fuck, now we have to. I was LIVID. I finally explained to him the stress he is putting on me by not respecting my feelings about this and I think it has finally sunk in. We told our parents right away because I felt like I needed a little bit of extra support and a BTDT mama to ask questions. We decided to tell siblings and other family members after our scan next week as long as everything goes well. NO ONE ELSE until 2nd tri. He can wait another month.

I'm glad he's finally getting it, but I'd also tell him if, God forbid, something were to happen and the need to "un-tell" arose, it would be his responsibility to un-tell all the people that he told, not yours.

CopperBoom86 · March 2016

Pulp Fiction is a terrible movie. DH and I have been on a kick of watching older "cult classic" movies lately to see if they live up to the hype. We watched Pulp Fiction last Sunday and we both agreed it was the worst one we've seen so far.

mothernorth · March 2016

I do not think Channing Tatum is attractive.

kmalls · March 2016

AllyTheKid said:

I do not think Channing Tatum is attractive.

His face is not attractive. That bod, tho

mothernorth · March 2016

@kmalls I can agree with that!

lilylover27 · March 2016

On the topic of Channing Tatum...I hate Magic Mike...like seriously I do not think men dancing like that is sexy it is just strange to me!

dam0ne4 · March 2016

CopperBoom86 said:

Pulp Fiction is a terrible movie. DH and I have been on a kick of watching older "cult classic" movies lately to see if they live up to the hype. We watched Pulp Fiction last Sunday and we both agreed it was the worst one we've seen so far.

I don't mind Pulp Fiction, but along those lines, I can't stand Reservoir Dogs!

My UO is I really don't mind the separate intro posts. I know if everyone did them, it would clutter the board, but I don't check that long post very often so I don't normally see them unless it's a separate post

kmalls · March 2016

I think it's horrifying and weird when couples poop in front of/near each other. Like, when one person is pooping and the other is in the same bathroom brushing their teeth or taking a shower. I had no idea this was common until my last BMB, and so many people said it was completely normal.

No. Just no. I love my husband dearly, but I do not need to see him poop.

kmtz89 · March 2016

This is probably not super unpopular and maybe it's just the hormones but I cannot stand the influx of Sp3cIaL sNoFlAk3 threads

Michi1382 · March 2016

MRSCORKER said:

I just had a break down on DH last night about announcing/telling people. He's so excited and I love that he is but he cannot keep his mouth shut and it's stressing me out. He doesn't understand the emotional toll it would take for me to have to go back and un-tell people, especially people who aren't close friends or family. He put me on the spot last night in front of our neighbor and goes " can't we just tell her?" Well, fuck, now we have to. I was LIVID. I finally explained to him the stress he is putting on me by not respecting my feelings about this and I think it has finally sunk in. We told our parents right away because I felt like I needed a little bit of extra support and a BTDT mama to ask questions. We decided to tell siblings and other family members after our scan next week as long as everything goes well. NO ONE ELSE until 2nd tri. He can wait another month.

This makes me ragey for you. Everyone, DHs included, needs to understand that we will announce when we feel it's the right time. For shit's sake.

Edited for grammar.

lilylover27 · March 2016

@kmallswhile DH and I don't poop while the other is in the bathroom we have peed before lol

CopperBoom86 · March 2016

kmalls said:

I think it's horrifying and weird when couples poop in front of/near each other. Like, when one person is pooping and the other is in the same bathroom brushing their teeth or taking a shower. I had no idea this was common until my last BMB, and so many people said it was completely normal.

No. Just no. I love my husband dearly, but I do not need to see him poop.

We're never in the same room together while one is pooping (not about that stank!), but neither one of us ever close the bathroom door. We also toot in front of each other. When I was on TK boards while planning our wedding, I remember the shock of finding out how uncommon we were. 90% of the women on that board said they'd die before letting their SO hear them toot. So weird!

clb1984 · March 2016

@kmalls whaaaaaat?? That's a thing?? I hope we never get to that level of comfort with each other, some things are better left unseen/unsmelled...

missteacherlady16 · March 2016

CopperBoom86 said:

kmalls said:

I think it's horrifying and weird when couples poop in front of/near each other. Like, when one person is pooping and the other is in the same bathroom brushing their teeth or taking a shower. I had no idea this was common until my last BMB, and so many people said it was completely normal.

No. Just no. I love my husband dearly, but I do not need to see him poop.

We're never in the same room together while one is pooping (not about that stank!), but neither one of us ever close the bathroom door. We also toot in front of each other. When I was on TK boards while planning our wedding, I remember the shock of finding out how uncommon we were. 90% of the women on that board said they'd die before letting their SO hear them toot. So weird!

I can't imagine not farting in front of DH.

However, I do wish he'd stop farting in the car. It's awful.

Michi1382 · March 2016

I dislike the phrase, "I love you to the moon and back". I know many people use it to express love but I can't stand it. Probably because my MIL used it on me after she royally pissed me off when DD was born and now I have a bad association with it. Also, why the moon? Why not a celestial body that is further way so that there is more love, like Mars or Pluto or another fucking Galaxy?

I know, it's stupid

annabenanna · March 2016

missteacherlady16 said:

CopperBoom86 said:

kmalls said:

I think it's horrifying and weird when couples poop in front of/near each other. Like, when one person is pooping and the other is in the same bathroom brushing their teeth or taking a shower. I had no idea this was common until my last BMB, and so many people said it was completely normal.

No. Just no. I love my husband dearly, but I do not need to see him poop.

We're never in the same room together while one is pooping (not about that stank!), but neither one of us ever close the bathroom door. We also toot in front of each other. When I was on TK boards while planning our wedding, I remember the shock of finding out how uncommon we were. 90% of the women on that board said they'd die before letting their SO hear them toot. So weird!

I can't imagine not farting in front of DH.

However, I do wish he'd stop farting in the car. It's awful.

I used to toot in front of my ex-husband. We also were comfortable not closing the bathroom door when pooping. When we split and I eventually got into a serious relationship (with now SO/babydaddy), I decided I wasn't going to get to that level of comfort again.

Lately though, I've been tooting in my sleep! Mortified! Hope SO isn't noticing.

MRSCORKER · March 2016

CopperBoom86 said:

kmalls said:

I think it's horrifying and weird when couples poop in front of/near each other. Like, when one person is pooping and the other is in the same bathroom brushing their teeth or taking a shower. I had no idea this was common until my last BMB, and so many people said it was completely normal.

No. Just no. I love my husband dearly, but I do not need to see him poop.

We're never in the same room together while one is pooping (not about that stank!), but neither one of us ever close the bathroom door. We also toot in front of each other. When I was on TK boards while planning our wedding, I remember the shock of finding out how uncommon we were. 90% of the women on that board said they'd die before letting their SO hear them toot. So weird!

This is us. DH will poop with the bathroom door open and so do I. Also, I do not understand how anyone can live with someone and never let them hear you fart. Holding in gas when it needs to come out is the most uncomfortable feeling ever. I refuse to live in pain! Funny story... when we had just started spending the night together shortly after we started dating, I apparently lifted my hip and let a huge one rip in my sleep. I had no memory of it but when I woke up, DH told me all about it through fits of laughter. I was mildly embarrassed for a second but it ended up being an ice breaker and since then, we just let it go.

mothernorth · March 2016

lilylover27 said:

On the topic of Channing Tatum...I hate Magic Mike...like seriously I do not think men dancing like that is sexy it is just strange to me!

Is it weird that I've never seen that?

On a similar coin, I've never read/seen 50 Shades of Grey. When the book(s)? came out, it was the 'older' women in my family recommending it to me, and the thought of reading something that got my aunts all hot and bothered kind of weirded me out.

dam0ne4 · March 2016

AllyTheKid You're not missing anything re: 50 Shades. Maybe this is an UO but I thought those books sucked and the sex scenes were meh.

mothernorth · March 2016

@MRSCORKER Look up 'breaking the barrier' on YouTube, I would put the video up for you can't on mobile.

annabenanna · March 2016

I have a UO.... I think the obsession with Disney is a little strange. I love Disneyland (and Disney World), I really do...I understand the "magic". There will be Disney movies I'll forever treasure in my heart (Little Mermaid, Cinderella, Hook, etc).... but I think it's weird when people make everything in their lives, Disney-themed: proposals, engagement photos, pregnancy announcements.

MRSCORKER · March 2016

For my actual UO today... I side eye people who say their pets know they're KU.

missteacherlady16 · March 2016

annabenanna said:

missteacherlady16 said:

CopperBoom86 said:

kmalls said:

I think it's horrifying and weird when couples poop in front of/near each other. Like, when one person is pooping and the other is in the same bathroom brushing their teeth or taking a shower. I had no idea this was common until my last BMB, and so many people said it was completely normal.

No. Just no. I love my husband dearly, but I do not need to see him poop.

We're never in the same room together while one is pooping (not about that stank!), but neither one of us ever close the bathroom door. We also toot in front of each other. When I was on TK boards while planning our wedding, I remember the shock of finding out how uncommon we were. 90% of the women on that board said they'd die before letting their SO hear them toot. So weird!

I can't imagine not farting in front of DH.

However, I do wish he'd stop farting in the car. It's awful.

I used to toot in front of my ex-husband. We also were comfortable not closing the bathroom door when pooping. When we split and I eventually got into a serious relationship (with now SO/babydaddy), I decided I wasn't going to get to that level of comfort again.

Lately though, I've been tooting in my sleep! Mortified! Hope SO isn't noticing.

No, are you serious?

You have been FARTING in your sleep your entire existence. And I'm sure your husband knows.

Like, gas formed in your colon is a natural byproduct of digestion and is nothing to be ashamed about, especially in front of the one person who has decided to marry you.

Give me a break!

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