Celebrate here when you reach 24 weeks! (International standard for foetal viability).
Whilst it would be incredibly early and absolutely terrifying to have our babies now, there is some comfort in knowing that medically, there is a chance that baby could survive at this point.
^maybe they're feeling like celebrating viability could "jinx" things and lead to preterm delivery or complications? Not that anyone logically thinks that but I get what they're saying.
still, 24 weeks last Thursday woo! im just marking it as that much closer to third tri and then full term.
Well, no one wants to think anything will go wrong but it's not illogical to have reservations on getting past milestones on a personal level and not on a public forum. It's a little rude to take how someone is handling their first pregnancy and calling it illogical.
I am an incredibly superstitious person. I just took my menstrual cup out of my purse because after my period didn't come I was worried taking it out would jinx things. I only took it out this week because I'm way past the point where a menstrual cup will be helpful if something happens to the baby.
I see celebrating the 24 week milestone as a sign that if things did go so that the baby came early, there is a chance that it could survive with doctors. Not that if things went wrong it definitely would survive. Which is why I'm not worried about jinxing myself by being happy that the baby and I have made it to 24 weeks. And I think it's incredibly normal, if not completely logical/rational, to be superstitious.
@elenabrent I haven't taken my clean menstrual cup out of my purse yet...I keep wanting actually to get rid of it because this is my first baby, so I'm likely to need a new one - but I can't manage to convince myself to get a new cup either. I'm almost never superstitious, but in this case apparently I am. I am going to celebrate 24 weeks for the same reason, but @givemepenguinss& @oneliloaktree13I completely understand why someone wouldn't want to celebrate it either. Whatever makes you feel comfortable and happy is totally the right plan and having concerns and anxieties about all this is totally normal - even though I know I'm being irrational about removing the cup from my purse, lol!
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When I was pregnant with DS, I had PTL issues and bed rest, so I learned to celebrate the little milestones that the OB/GYN had set for us. Fortunately, we passed all of them, and he was born at 38w 1d. Everyone has their own comfort level, though; it's hard to feel like there is ever a "safe" zone, because really, there isn't.
Maybe we should start a superstition thread too. I have a box of pregnancy tests and a box of tampons sitting directly next to my toilet in the master bath -- we have a separate little "toilet closet" with its own pocket door in the bathroom, so I keep a few things I may imminently need right where I can reach them.
I have thought many times about moving them over to the cabinet under the sink but I just can't. And this is my second kid, FWIW.
I see celebrating the 24 week milestone as a sign that if things did go so that the baby came early, there is a chance that it could survive with doctors. Not that if things went wrong it definitely would survive. Which is why I'm not worried about jinxing myself by being happy that the baby and I have made it to 24 weeks. And I think it's incredibly normal, if not completely logical/rational, to be superstitious.
All of this. I think most of us are nervous on some level about our pregnancies, I certainly am. I just recently stopped checking my toilet paper for blood. It's perfectly reasonable to not want to put the cart before the horse so to speak. But like @elenabrent said, I'm stoked about the possibility that if anything went wrong right now my LO at least has a chance. Yay for the possibility of carrying a baby home!
eta thank you @RideNRunMomma for reminding me that I need to purchase a different sized menstrual cup now. I completely forgot that I would need to do this after labor.
I celebrate every single week I'm pregnant, every Friday when my ticker changes. I'm also not going to get nit picky with 37 weeks being full term. I'm going to go off of the 4 apps I have on my phone thank you very much.
@RideNRunMomma@benten24 when I first read that comment I was like "why would I need a new menstrual cup? Mine is fine!" And then I realized that the cup isn't going to be the problem. It'll be my vagina.
I celebrate every single week I'm pregnant, every Friday when my ticker changes. I'm also not going to get nit picky with 37 weeks being full term. I'm going to go off of the 4 apps I have on my phone thank you very much.
That's the funny thing about science...it's always so nit picky!
I celebrate every single week I'm pregnant, every Friday when my ticker changes. I'm also not going to get nit picky with 37 weeks being full term. I'm going to go off of the 4 apps I have on my phone thank you very much.
That's the funny thing about science...it's always so nit picky!
That's the funny thing about me, I don't really care.
My OBGYN considers 37 weeks full term. So, really, it doesn't matter that it was redefined years ago. I go by what my doctor tells me. I had my first child at 38 weeks. Perfectly healthy and full term.
^maybe they're feeling like celebrating viability could "jinx" things and lead to preterm delivery or complications? Not that anyone logically thinks that but I get what they're saying.
Yes, mostly this. I have a (sometimes unhealthy) preoccupation with not jinxing things. But I do understand that recognizing that milestone wouldn't cause anything bad to happen.
The other part for me is that a close friend's nephew was born at 22 weeks, a few years ago. Supporting her through that time gave me a glimpse into what that experience could be like, and to me, celebrating the possibility of that with gifs and such is a bit out of place.
Edited to add: the nephew survived, and though he still has some developmental delays due to his prematurity, is overall healthy.
@xc1148 another funny thing about science.. It changes. Get over it. You know perfectly well what @oneliloaktree13 was talking about when she was saying "full term". Considering that for x amount of years the ACOG recognized full term as 37 weeks and didn't change their definition until a whopping 3 years ago- most people still consider full term as 37 weeks. No need to come on here and cause drama.
I see celebrating the 24 week milestone as a sign that if things did go so that the baby came early, there is a chance that it could survive with doctors. Not that if things went wrong it definitely would survive. Which is why I'm not worried about jinxing myself by being happy that the baby and I have made it to 24 weeks. And I think it's incredibly normal, if not completely logical/rational, to be superstitious.
All of this. I think most of us are nervous on some level about our pregnancies, I certainly am. I just recently stopped checking my toilet paper for blood. It's perfectly reasonable to not want to put the cart before the horse so to speak. But like @elenabrent said, I'm stoked about the possibility that if anything went wrong right now my LO at least has a chance. Yay for the possibility of carrying a baby home!
eta thank you @RideNRunMomma for reminding me that I need to purchase a different sized menstrual cup now. I completely forgot that I would need to do this after labor.
I'll be 24 weeks tomorrow and I'm still checking my toilet paper lol!
As the daughter of someone who was born at 24 weeks, I celebrate. However, I do agree with the others, that here is a different comfort level for everyone. We did gifs for the halfway mark, now the 24 week mark, and I am sure that there will be one for when we hit 3rd Tri. Each week at home, I celebrate a little bit, because that is what I am comfortable with. But I know there will be some mommies who aren't ready to celebrate, until their baby is in their arms...and that is okay too.
as a pediatrician .... we don't really treat 37 weekers any different than 39 in our newborn care or our expectations about when the typical infant is safe for discharge home. I mean we may do more frequent monitoring of bilirubin levels or weight gain if they seem to be higher risk, but they're going to get typical term infant care. So while it's true some extra brain development happens in those final couple weeks and the research says the lowest risk is between 39-40, I think it's appropriate to be excited about 37 weeks, I know I will be. The designations for early term, term etc. are for stratifying risk, but most babies won't have any complications at all.
Overall though, a friend told me "from the moment you're pregnant, just be prepared to be terrified all the time for the rest of your life." Obviously I don't want to be fearful in a toxic way, but I already love this baby so much I get what she's saying ... I'm going to worry about this tiny miracle the rest of my life and pregnancy is no exception.
24w at midnight tonight. After the week I've been having this is super exciting for me. It doesn't negate the worrying of course- just makes it more real I think.
Re: Viability Party!
24 weeks today, woo hoo! Go baby girl, go!
24 weeks yesterday!! Wooooo!!!!!
still, 24 weeks last Thursday woo! im just marking it as that much closer to third tri and then full term.
I see celebrating the 24 week milestone as a sign that if things did go so that the baby came early, there is a chance that it could survive with doctors. Not that if things went wrong it definitely would survive. Which is why I'm not worried about jinxing myself by being happy that the baby and I have made it to 24 weeks. And I think it's incredibly normal, if not completely logical/rational, to be superstitious.
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DH: 32
Married 7/18/15
1st born at 35+4 on 6/6/16
Team green turned BLUE!
2nd born at 38+6 on 8/30/18
Team green turned PINK!
Due with #3 on 6/6/20 Team Green
I have thought many times about moving them over to the cabinet under the sink but I just can't. And this is my second kid, FWIW.
eta thank you @RideNRunMomma for reminding me that I need to purchase a different sized menstrual cup now. I completely forgot that I would need to do this after labor.
Yes, mostly this. I have a (sometimes unhealthy) preoccupation with not jinxing things. But I do understand that recognizing that milestone wouldn't cause anything bad to happen.
The other part for me is that a close friend's nephew was born at 22 weeks, a few years ago. Supporting her through that time gave me a glimpse into what that experience could be like, and to me, celebrating the possibility of that with gifs and such is a bit out of place.
Edited to add: the nephew survived, and though he still has some developmental delays due to his prematurity, is overall healthy.
ETA gif
If she was talking about induction the distinction between early/late term would be relevant but for this thread?! Come on.
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Screen shot of my calendar app. This is what I go off of. Clicked 37w0days and it says term pregnancy begins.
as a pediatrician .... we don't really treat 37 weekers any different than 39 in our newborn care or our expectations about when the typical infant is safe for discharge home. I mean we may do more frequent monitoring of bilirubin levels or weight gain if they seem to be higher risk, but they're going to get typical term infant care. So while it's true some extra brain development happens in those final couple weeks and the research says the lowest risk is between 39-40, I think it's appropriate to be excited about 37 weeks, I know I will be. The designations for early term, term etc. are for stratifying risk, but most babies won't have any complications at all.
Overall though, a friend told me "from the moment you're pregnant, just be prepared to be terrified all the time for the rest of your life." Obviously I don't want to be fearful in a toxic way, but I already love this baby so much I get what she's saying ... I'm going to worry about this tiny miracle the rest of my life and pregnancy is no exception.