this might make me sound like a bad mum to be, and I know growing a human is a miracle and a wondrous thing - but am I the only one struggling with the belly and not feeling comfortable / good in anything ?! I can't seem to get wheel maternity style down and it frustrates me every day
Re: Anyone else struggling with feeling fat?!
I am apparently the exception that proves the rule that FTM's don't "show." It's been BA-BOOM belly. I guess I am lucky I haven't yet really gained anything else, any where else, but to some degree that just emphasizes the beach ball on my front. I'm starting to adjust to it (and grow my maternity wardrobe.) but the suddenness of getting so much belly has been a mental shock. People (perfect strangers!) keep asking me how far along I am, then acting surprised when I tell them August. Thanks.
I started saying "This summer!" instead.
Married May 2014
DD born August 2016
Baby #2 due December 2017
Wait till you get to the cuter stage, you will feel better about yourself.
And if you skip that stage- you are MAKING A HUMAN!! Cut yourself a break. Shit is hard.
We are our own worst critics. The likelihood that we are really being 'sized' up as much as we think we are is slim. As long as your doctor thinks you're healthy and baby is growing, you shouldn't be too hard on yourself. Our bodies are morphing, forever changing. And that's a good thing because it means we are some of the luckiest people on the planet because we're successfully carrying beautiful little babies.
Married: October 23, 2010
DS: 8/7/2013
#2 EDD: 6/29/2016, C Section: 6/22/2016
Met: 2005 | Started Dating: 2009 | Married: 2013
Surprise Pregnancy #3; BFP: 01.11.2020; Due Date: September 19, 2021
I don't feel like i look pregnant at all just bloated.
I can't wait to "pop".
hypermobile and so have to be careful. I don't seem to have put weight on anywhere else yet, and the scales haven't rocketed, however I'm SO hungry all the time and a few comments have made me think maybe I need to start holding back! Oops xx
pregnant. Her comments caused ALOT of crap to go down. Long time coming though)
Im looking forward to looking pregnant, but also not wanting to look pregnant too early.. Still have 20 weeks to go!!
We just talked a lot about this in my BMB too -- I think a lot of us are going through this right now. I had a complete breakdown after taking photos for our announcement, for some reason that's when it really hit me that I just look "different", but not pregnant yet at all. I don't have any great advice since I'm kind of struggling with this myself right now, but I do feel like I'll feel much better about everything once I start to actually have a cute bump!
I think for now I just have to try extra hard at self acceptance each day, doing things for myself that make me feel good (like finally going to get my hair highlighted, nails done, etc), and try to take the best care of myself that I can!
What's been helping me the last couple weeks is wearing tighter shirts and sometimes a cute thin belt above my bump. My regular shirts still fit so that helps. But trying to show off my " bump" has helped me feel more preggo than chub. I also pulled out some of my more summery clothes cause its finally warm enough to wear them and it felt nice to have "new" outfits to wear too!