It blows my mind and saddens me how many of us have experienced a loss. I have a 5 year old son from a previous marriage. My current husband and I got pregnant really quickly last July but I had a natural miscarriage in September after an empty sac on ultrasound. We have been trying ever since and finally got a positive last week! I just hate that the excitement is overshadowed with fear. It is good to have the support system here though. Good luck and prayers to everyone!
It blows my mind and saddens me how many of us have experienced a loss. I have a 5 year old son from a previous marriage. My current husband and I got pregnant really quickly last July but I had a natural miscarriage in September after an empty sac on ultrasound. We have been trying ever since and finally got a positive last week! I just hate that the excitement is overshadowed with fear. It is good to have the support system here though. Good luck and prayers to everyone!
Sending you lots of luck and good thoughts as well!
I think Monday's sound great for a weekly thread. Not sure if we want to have a few standard questions like upcoming appointments, symptoms, rants/raves, etc and then a GTKY?
Congrats @m6agua!!!!! I'm so glad to see so many TTCAL grads here!
My my office is treating this like any normal pregnancy. No betas at all. However, they do a viability ultrasound at the first appointment (around 8 weeks). If I had to wait until the anatomy scan to know everything was OK, I'd go crazy!
Well I ended up getting my first beta today. The results should be in tomorrow. Depending on what they are, they will go from there on ordering more. The ultrasound thing sucks. I am actually thinking about asking to get one sooner since it's just coinsurance for mine and I will be meeting my out of pocket max so I figure why not ask to make me feel better.
I'm so sorry for everyone's losses and what you've been through. My first pregnancy in 2010 was twin boys. Sadly, I miscarried Casey but was able to carry Gavin to viability. It was scary and overwhelming and so very sad. Since then I've had 4 early miscarriages, the most recent in December.
I usually refuse to go on these boards because there's no sense getting my hopes up but I decided this time I should: my bean deserves to be celebrated and I deserve to be hopeful. I just realize it'll be a long road: I'm burning through pee sticks like a madwoman (every morning and every night) just waiting to suddenly see one that is suddenly stark white. Paranoia is rough.
Wishing all of us our rainbow babies.
Me: 38 l DH: 41 Gavin - 8/27/10 *TW* Gabriel - 2nd tri loss 5/17/16 Trisomy 18 & 21 Hope - 2nd tri loss 12/7/16 complications from pneumonia
Update: had a pretty good ultrasound today! The sac was bigger and the yolk was there today too! I said I didn't want any bad news, but our doctor said he was happy with the progress. Just relieved that I get to continue the journey. Go back next week and we should see the heartbeat. Thanks for all the encouragement, ladies! You are all so supportive and awesome and I appreciate you. ❤️
Hey Im Rita and I'm new here. I did a separate intro like a dummy because I didn't look at the announcements and see there was an intro thread. But Im happy to see this thread is here to support the special kind of crazy that comes with having had a loss. I got my BFP yesterday at 10 DPO. This will be my 6th pregnancy total. I had 1 CP before my DD was born and then last year I had another CP and 2 MC's. One of the MC's was with twins. Im kind of secretly hoping for twins again but I know my husband would flip. And if Im honest with myself I know twins comes with a higher risk pregnancy so Ill be perfectly happy with 1. Anyway I know Im not out of the woods yet. I will do my Betas next week and I have my ultrasound scheduled for April 7th. I look forward getting to know all you lovely ladies!
Welcome to the group! Lots of awesome and supportive gals here to get you through the tough times. Sending positive thoughts for a sticky baby for you @rspalding001
I got my numbers back today and my beta was 16 . They are going to re-test in a week. I am actually not to worried about it because I was only 9 or 10 DPO and I am pretty sure I had just implanted within like a day before.
On another sad note. My husbands BFF just told me his wife is going through a MC at 11 weeks. I knew they were going to be trying soon but I didn't know she was pregnant and he didn't have a lot of details. We are really close with this family and my heart just breaks for her. It's her second pregnancy and first MC. They knew about my MC. I told him to let her know that she can contact me. I didn't want to reach out to her yet because he said that she doesn't know that he told me. H was going to tell him about our pregnancy this week but now I want to wait and tell them in private.
how long do you all think we should wait to tell them and how should we go about it? Obviously I don't really know which way my pregnancy is going to go given my first beta, but for some reason I have a good feeling about this one.
@m6agua So I have a little experience with being told about a pregnancy after my loss. We have really good friends that don't live close to us so obviously physically they could keep it from us for a while. We lost our son the same week they found out they were expecting. They waited until 24 weeks to tell us. If it were me in your situation I would wait till second trimester. I would want to give them both plenty of time to heal and cope. Personally I would want to know after you had passed where I had lost my child. I would feel extra anxious for you to hit that arbitrary threshold and I think it would be emotional for me waiting with you. Its not an easy situation for anyone and I always feel bad for my friends that have to tell me they are pregnant after our lose. I know they want to be happy and excited and they worry how to tell me.
Re: PGAL (Pregnant After Loss) Starter Thread
Son, K, 9 | Daughter, C, 5 | Daughter, M, expected November 7, 2016
Son, K, 9 | Daughter, C, 5 | Daughter, M, expected November 7, 2016
Well I ended up getting my first beta today. The results should be in tomorrow. Depending on what they are, they will go from there on ordering more. The ultrasound thing sucks. I am actually thinking about asking to get one sooner since it's just coinsurance for mine and I will be meeting my out of pocket max so I figure why not ask to make me feel better.
- BFP: 3/10/16 — Baby Girl born 11/20/16
TTC#2 April 2019Awesome Kid #2: Due November 2016!
I usually refuse to go on these boards because there's no sense getting my hopes up but I decided this time I should: my bean deserves to be celebrated and I deserve to be hopeful. I just realize it'll be a long road: I'm burning through pee sticks like a madwoman (every morning and every night) just waiting to suddenly see one that is suddenly stark white. Paranoia is rough.
Wishing all of us our rainbow babies.
Gavin - 8/27/10
*TW*
Gabriel - 2nd tri loss 5/17/16 Trisomy 18 & 21
Hope - 2nd tri loss 12/7/16 complications from pneumonia
Son, K, 9 | Daughter, C, 5 | Daughter, M, expected November 7, 2016
Married: October 2014
Began TTC: April 2015
BFP #1: 9/18/15. EDD 5/18/16. MC 10/26/15. (9w)
BFP #2: 2/27/16. EDD 11/7/16. MC/D&E 4/20/16 (11w)
BFP #3: 9/22/16. EDD 5/29/17. DS born 4/24/17
BFP #4: 5/20/18. EDD 1/23/19.
@jolenef07 glad your ultrasound went well.
@rspalding001 FX for good betas.
I got my numbers back today and my beta was 16
On another sad note. My husbands BFF just told me his wife is going through a MC at 11 weeks. I knew they were going to be trying soon but I didn't know she was pregnant and he didn't have a lot of details. We are really close with this family and my heart just breaks for her. It's her second pregnancy and first MC. They knew about my MC. I told him to let her know that she can contact me. I didn't want to reach out to her yet because he said that she doesn't know that he told me. H was going to tell him about our pregnancy this week but now I want to wait and tell them in private.
how long do you all think we should wait to tell them and how should we go about it? Obviously I don't really know which way my pregnancy is going to go given my first beta, but for some reason I have a good feeling about this one.
- BFP: 3/10/16 — Baby Girl born 11/20/16
TTC#2 April 2019Personally I would want to know after you had passed where I had lost my child. I would feel extra anxious for you to hit that arbitrary threshold and I think it would be emotional for me waiting with you.
Its not an easy situation for anyone and I always feel bad for my friends that have to tell me they are pregnant after our lose. I know they want to be happy and excited and they worry how to tell me.